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Some meds mean you can't eat certain types of cheese because chemicals are fun!
dogs-of-peace said:
I am regularly disgusted by what I see in my Facebook feed.
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Ah yes. I had to listen to an “inspirational speaker” whose main message was “exercise and just stop taking pills!!!” a few weeks ago through a work event. Yay. Lovely.
fixed it
fuck you I’m gonna eat a mountain too
self care is washing down your meds with an entire mountain then fistfighting god in a target parking lot
Oh shit. No. Shit. Thank you
Just gonna reblog this out of gratitude because I actually did forget…
Fffffffff let me get right on that.
and then reblog for the next forgetful son of a bitch
I’m so great full for everyone that is reblogging this. I totally forgot to take mine
I think that there is some sort of unspoken fairy godparent thing where you see this, realize that you forgot your meds, and rebagel it because if you forgot someone else must have. And in our turn we all take care of each other, even if we don’t know it.
Aiya Van Kooten everyone
When Aiya Van Kooten stood face-to-face with a burglar in her bedroom, her left eye twitched, then she went into “predator mode”.
“I screamed at him… jumped off my chair, leaped over my bed and sprinted after him down the stairs,” she said.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/8626910/Predator-mode-scares-off-burglars
This is the best story of my life
“Although she was the only one home, Van Kooten said she had no regard for her safety - instead, she said she was just overwhelmed with “rage“….. ummmmm Hero!!!
Haha, badass Muslim woman. Love it!!!
This lady is so awesome. She lives with her grandma and was studying and had a towel on her head and no shoes but she chased them out of her garden, kicked one up the arse as he climbed a fence, they dropped a camera and laptop, she flagged down a passing driver to help her continue the pursuit, and it turned out he was ex-military, and they finally caught one of them in a park and pinned him as the police arrived. Now she’s going to visit the burglar in prison for the next few months to help with his rehabilitation.
So in summary:
This lady doesn’t just defend her home and loved ones, she will hunt you down, team up with other skilled individuals, get you put away, and then teach you the consequences of your actions until you’re a valuable member of society once more.
Seriously she’s a frigging superhero.
literal hero
So I'm not the only person who when confronted with obvious danger goes "WELL EXCUSE YOU"...
Spread this around; remind the world that for every Nazi, there’s an entire train full of sensible people capable of basic moral behaviour.
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How to REALLY Boycott the Inauguration
I’m seeing a ton of people posting this copy-and-paste update about boycotting the inauguration by SWITCHING YOUR TELEVISION TO A DIFFERENT CHANNEL. It’s a nice thought and a nice gesture, but that WON’T WORK.
I’m not putting those things in all caps to yell at you, I just want to make sure you see it.
How TV Ratings Work: Viewership is measured through Nielsen ratings. Unless you’re a “Nielsen family,” you don’t really count. Nielsen Family data is recorded through their Nielsen boxes, and then that data is gathered on a value curve to represent a larger audience.
Basically, no Nielsen box = no count.
Ratings are an estimate. It’s super archaic. But so is cable. That’s why viewer data is ALSO gathered through internet clicks and posts, interaction with online videos and social feeds, and streaming data.
How to REALLY Boycott the Inauguration: Avoid online content. Avoid clicking on videos, avoid linking articles and tweets, avoid social feeds, avoid recaps. Even hate-watching a video or posting a link to add the comment, “An oil spill in the Pacific Ocean is better for humanity than this administration,” still counts toward viewer data. Your hate-click is still an added view, and it doesn’t come with a little asterisk next to it that says, “But this person loathed it and weeps for the future.”
So changing your channel is chill, and I recommend it! There is so much beautiful, amazing television! It’s a Golden Age of scripted content! But for god’s sake, don’t then go and negate your boycott by opening your Facebook and putting angry faces on a bunch of Trump videos.
WE DID IT GUYS ♥
This makes me so fucking happy
ANN ARBOR—An analysis of 50 years of research showed no evidence that spanking does any good for children; instead, it increases their risk of detrimental outcomes. Experts at the University of Mich
thewolfygirl:
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thewolfygirl:
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thewolfygirl:
The research says the more they were spanked the more similar the effects were to abuse….probably be cause spanking your child for every thing they do wrong IS basically abuse. My mother spanked me and my siblings as a child but only when we did something that warranted it. Normally we’d just get grounded but when it came to the time when my brother in middle school tried to steal my grandmothers car in the middle of the night to be cool and well already knew why it was a terrible idea, that was a different story and he did get spanked. Spanking is not a main punishment. It is a last resort.
No no no, it was a last resort with my family and it still had that effect on me. There is NEVER a good reason to hit your child. It is the same motion as smacking a child across the face, and that is counted as abuse.
It. Is. Abuse. Period. End if sentence.
Also if your brother stole a car he should be arrested, because it’s a crime.
Okay since you’re the one who brought it, what effect exactly did it have on you? I know it’s a personal question, but you can’t use yourself as an example if you don’t explain. Also he didn’t steal the car. He tried to. He was being stupid in middle school at a sleepover at my grandmothers and thought it’d be cool to ride around in her car. He didn’t even get out of the driveway. Spanking is ya know no where near as bad as being arrested.
A MIDDLE SCHOOLER?
Middle schoolers are like, already developing complex abstract operational thought. They are fully capable of reasoning and having meaningful material consequences.
And as a punishment, your mother HIT HIM?
Yeah……that does not sound like, ya know, the ideal solution to this problem.
Okay hitting someone is not the same thing as spanking. She didn’t freaking punch him in the face. She sat him down had a conversation with him because they both knew he already knew it was something he shouldn’t have done. Then she spanked him and took him home. He was grounded for a little bit and that was the end of it. He never did it again and now much older defends spanking. There is a difference between hitting someone, abuseing someone, and spanking your child.
So it sounds like your mother had NO REASON to hit him.
Like, why physically strike anyone? Especially a young person who is CLEARLY already being receptive to correction? Like, what purpose does it serve to hit him except to hurt him on top of everything else? Why was the spanking (which, yes, is hitting/striking) needed?
No reason?! she had a conversation with him because she wanted him to know why he was in trouble and why that was a bad idea. That is NOT a punishment and grounding is not a big enough punishment for something like that. My mother cried the few times she ever had to spank us. She didn’t want to hurt us but during the times we weren’t being receptive to other punishments or those punishments didn’t match up to what we had done, she used spanking as a last resort.
I have an idea for you. NO behavior warrants a parent physically striking their child.
If your brother was already receptive and understanding the conversation, getting other punishments as well, then WHY did he need to be PHYSICALLY HURT? (hint: he didn’t)
Okay why does understanding that what he did was wrong mean he shouldn’t get punished?! If you break the law they don’t just tell you what you did was wrong and let you go. Also Grounding doesn’t not measure up to the problems that my brother could have created had he actually managed to get out of the drive way. As an example if he got grounded for breaking a vase or something I don’t know I’m just making something up and then just got grounded for the whole car thing, it’s basically like saying those to things are equal which they are not.
You said he got punished. He got grounded. Take away his phone. Computer time. Whatever.
Again, hitting someone because they messed up isn’t justice. We don’t flog felons in the street for breaking the law.
hi, i have a question about this.
so i behaved fairly well as a child but i liked to go into the woods
my parents were much like @thewolfygirl, from what i know, and used spanking as a last resort and hated the thought of resorting to it
i was spanked (once or twice) for going in to the woods.
but i never went into the woods again, i didnt fear my parents after that, and the physical pain of the spanking didn’t leave any lasting damage to me
what is damning about physical punishment that it can never even be considered?
“We as a society think of spanking and physical abuse as distinct behaviors,” said Gershoff, who previously taught at U-M. “Yet our research shows that spanking is linked with the same negative child outcomes as abuse, just to a slightly lesser degree.”
Look, maybe you, personally, were truly not impacted negatively in anyway by being spanked.
But you know, you do think it’s morally acceptable to hit kids. So maybe you. aren’t as ok as you think.
Here is a thought. When an adult, say your partner does something wrong, not illegal or bad enough to break up over but an offence that you would expect an apology or reparations for. Is it acceptable to strike them? Slap them?
Is it acceptable to strike an employee who makes a serious mistake? No?
Then why is it okay to hit a child? One who you have complete power over, who CANNOT stop you, leave, or in anyway object in an effective manner?
If you were to do so to an adult, it would undoubtably be considered wrong.... To "reinforce" a message with pain...
But because it is a child...???
Limits of the Human Body by Soda Pop Avenue
I am a writer I say as I reblog this
i am an a R TIST
FUCK THIS I’M A MURDERER
Hey, I just like to know my limits.
In the metric system:
BODY HEAT: 42ºC
COLD WATER: 4.4ºC
HOT AIR: 148.9ºC ( […]children soon succumb in a 48ºC car.)
HIGH ALTITUDE: 4572 m
DIVING DEEP: 86 m ([…] below 18.3 m.)
^You just saved me converting all this in my head
...well now I now why the nurses were so worried when my temp hit 41.8.... Huh
my great-grandfather had to leave italy in the 20′s because he hit a fascist with a tuba, so if you think I am going to take this sitting down you are going to have to catch these hands and also this tuba
When my grandmother got married in the Philippines during WWII, she had to do so under her sister’s name. She couldn’t use her own because she was wanted by the occupying Japanese forces for slapping a soldier off a dock when he assaulted her friend. So if you think I’m not going to backhand some pussy-grabbing fascist then meet me on the fucking dock.
My family no longer has a crest because records of my great grandfather’s existence was burned because he knee’d one of Franco’s guards in the dick repeatedly after the bombing of Guernica, where his wife’s family was from. I will knee every fascist I meet in the respective genitalia.
the holy trinity.
One of my ancestors was a prostitute who was transported to Australia, because when a customer failed to pay up for services rendered she stole every article of clothing he had and left him to walk home naked. I will nonviolently but profoundly shame anyone who thinks he can take what he wants without appropriate restitution.
During the German occupation, My great grandfather smuggled Jewish people through his hospice, my great uncle climbed out a skylight in a snow storm to avoid conscription by the nazis & my great aunt carried messaged for the resistance in her socks.
Resistance is in my Blood.
I have no concept of the pain scale, like…I just realized that last week I said I was in especially awful hip pain and when my pt asked to rate it I said “3”. And then this week I said I felt a lot better than last week and when she asked me to rate it I said “3”. I really don’t know what the numbers are supposed to be. I know it’s supposed to be out of ten but like. I think I rate the pain by what time of the day it is. Like “i will rate the pain I’m in at a 5 at the end of the day, so compared to what my pain level will be later, what I’m feeling right now is a 3.” I also think i rate in overall pain rather than specific pain? Like, systemically I’m at a five. Some parts will be worse or better but i just rate it all at five because that’s the average
Here’s a pain scale that actually makes sense.
MUCH better than those stupid smile faces.
This is amazingly helpful.
Please show this to children. I could have used this when I was in the hospital with mastoiditis.
Like your asking a child to tell you what level of pain they are in?? All I know if I want to scream and go to sleep
I really think hospitals and doctors that work with pregnancy and pediatricians need to make more literature available for how to, ya know, work with kids? Because the more conversations we have about spanking (and how it’s ineffective and harmful and does more bad than good), the more I realize that a lot of people don’t know the alternatives. Or like, anything about child development or where misbehavior stems from.
So, as someone who went through childhood development classes in college, works with kids for a living, and knows multiple people who specialized in childhood education, here are some pointers when you are working with kids:
1. Model emotional response for kids. Children are learning how to recognize and respond to their own emotions. All the way up through high school, children’s brains are still developing, and the emotions they are learning to process become more complex. So with really young kids, the easiest way to help them with this is to model emotional self awareness and self care.
“Oh wow, mommy is feeling angry because the cat made a mess. I’m going to clean this mess and then go sit in my room in the quiet for a short break so I feel better.”
“You know, I am feeling very sad about not going to the park because it is raining. I bet some hot chocolate and a book would make me feel better.”
”Huh, I’m feeling kind of cranky and hungry, but daddy won’t be home for dinner for another hour. I bet I’ll feel better if I eat a little piece apple while we wait.”
2. Understand what causes child frustration and work to preempt it.
-Transitions (from one activity to another, getting in the car, etc) can be stressful, especially if the activity or location they are leaving is fun. Give kids a warning when this is going to happen. With young kids, give them about 5-15 minutes of warning (”10 minutes until we are going to leave the park and go home. Do your last thing.”), with older kids, just give them a time frame. (We are can play at McDonalds for 30 minutes, but then we have to go grocery shopping, ok?)
Not being able to communicate what they want to is frustrating. Babies can learn simplified baby sign language months before they are verbal. Kids may not know the words for what they are trying to say. Be patient and help them find the right words. On a similar note, don’t ignore kids. If you really can’t respond to their question right away because of something else, at least tell the “Yes, I heard your question. I’ll answer you as soon as I’m done talking on the phone.”
Not being able to make choices or having too much choice can be overwhelming. Give kids a limited, reasonable selection of choices. “Do you want apple slices or juicy pears on the side for lunch?” is much better than “What do you want with your sandwich?” or just giving them apple slices. “Do you want to give grandpa a hug or a high five?” is better than demanding they hug grandpa right away.
3. Understand that kids are people to. They will get hungry, tired, an annoyed just like adults do. Sometimes you have to be flexible and give them time to self care. Talk to them, explain things to them, let them be people and not just dolls. “Because I said so” is really unhelpful for a growing kid. “We can’t buy Fruit Loops today because we are already getting Frosted Flakes. We only need one cereal at a time.” is going to do you a lot more favors. “Don’t pick up the glass snow globe. It belongs to grandma and can break easy. She would be sad if we broke it on accident.” is better than “don’t touch that.”
And look, no parent is perfect. No baby sitter, no teacher, no care taker is going to be awesome all the time. And no kid is going to be perfect. They will cry and have tantrums, and not be able to tell you what they need, and be stubborn sometimes. Sometimes they need space, or quiet time. Sometimes they need attention and validation.
But kids learn from every interaction they have, so adults who yell and hit and insult children when they misbehave raise kids who yell and hit and insult others when they feel like they’ve been wronged or internalize that anger in unhealthy and dangerous ways.
So something that has come up in the tags a few times.
Most of the things I list here are preemptive measures- things to mitigate or lessen misbehavior before it happens.
However, misbehavior will always happen some of the time. And time out/cool down periods, taking away toys, loosing privileges, these methods DO work, on 2 conditions: 1, that they are appropriate in time/severity (a five year old might lose his favorite toy for 10 minutes, a 9 year old might lose it for the rest of the day.) 2. That they are applied CONSISTENTLY and with fidelity. Don’t make threats you won’t keep. Small, easily enforced consequences are more effective than bold and inconsistent threats.
Parenting is hard & resources are important. Weirdly one of my fav books as a teen was a parenting book on how to raise teens, it helped me realise how hard being my mum must be & what my behaviour looked like from the outside. Made communicating much easier.
If You’re Mad About Fantastic Beast’s Whitewashing of Harlem, Why Not Watch Timeless?
So, it’s a brand new time travel show on NBC; still finding it’s feet but I swear every episode has been better than the last and I’m so excited to see where it ends up.
1. The incredibly gifted Malcolm Barrett plays Rufus. Rufus is a flawless human being. He’s sweet and smart and awkward and scared shitless but keeps trying even though he’s in way over his head. He gets at least one positively epic moment per episode.
2. Race is brought up in every single episode, because Rufus has his own perspective on historical events and the show bothers to treat that as relevant. His white teammates, Wyatt and Lucy, are made aware of their white privilege while time traveling (for example, in the Lincoln assassination episode, Lucy is constantly reminded that the racial issues she can see in abstract terms are personal to Rufus).
3. Frequent encounters with historical POC, from Colored Regiments to Black Panthers to Shawnee chieftainess Nonhelema (god, I was so sure that episode was going to disappoint me with Scary Indians TM. Then they were like, “Nope, gonna teach you about this amazing Native woman who you never heard of and also portray her grievances with the white invaders as totally legitimate.”) The show constantly reminds us that POC were also doing things throughout history and those things were important.
4. In modern time, all of the main cast back at base are POC. Two are WOC.
5. POC in the background. When the background is mostly white except for a few Black servants, at some point it will be pointed out that this isn’t because white people are “normal” but because segregation/discrimination was a thing. When the setting was actually diverse, they show that. Like in the Alamo episode; it had many white American and white immigrant defenders, but also some Mexicans and Blacks. Your average portrayal would completely ignore them. On Timeless, they explicitly talk about the free Blacks in Mexico. Even when Crockett or Bowie is talking, the background still has Black and Hispanic actors.
6. I kept worrying that they’d start out well, but eventually sideline Rufus and focus on just Wyatt and Lucy, especially since they initially bond more with each other while he is very protective of them. But recent episodes have also had them fighting to save him, the whole group bonding more and Rufus consistently getting the most interesting characterization and storylines.
In conclusion, in addition to being a fun sci-fi adventure it’s sci-fi that remembers to treat POC like a normal part of history. Please support it so it stays on air
Sounds like something to check out, thanks!
I was interested when I saw a trailer. I’m even more interested now.
When this show started I looked at my husband and was like “They pick people to travel in time and two of them are a woman and a black guy? And they’re not expecting problems?” because I honestly expected them to kind of gloss over the serious problems that would present. And, BOOM, they actually talk about it! And the main white dude is one I frequently forget is even THERE because, yeah, the other characters are significantly more interesting
This sounds amazing - gonna see if I can find it online! (If it’s currently airing its’ first season then I don’t think it’ll be on Netflix. Maybe Hulu?)
US friends please watch so this Aussie will get to see this!
1 .Let her wear her red lipstick. It makes her feel beautiful and sexy at the same time. Respect it as well, don’t you dare smudge it. But when you get behind closed doors, don’t stop her from painting a masterpiece on your skin with her lips. 2. Don’t let her go to sleep without hearing your voice. 3. Flowers are never ever a bad idea, even when you don’t have a reason for giving them. 4. Wash her hair in the shower. You have no idea how relaxing it is. 5. Reassure her you love her. She’ll always worry about you leaving, you’ll learn why. 6. She’ll talk about her past when she’s ready, don’t push it. 7. Telling her she’s beautiful never hurts. 8. Give in sometimes even when you shouldn’t. She’s fought her whole life, it’s the last thing she wants to do. 9. Get drunk and stay in. She’ll spend most of her time confessing how much she loves you, and the rest of the night showing you. 10. She likes when you rub her back, but don’t touch her feet. 11. When she shaves her legs insist on feeling them. 12. She likes to talk about books, and loves when you write poetry about the color of her hair. 13. She hates to repeat herself, so listen closely. 14. Tell her stories about when you first fell for her, she loves to hear them. 15. Let her know when you’re having a bad day, not only will she appreciate the warning, she’ll do all she can to make it better. 16. When you count your blessings, count her twice. You really are so lucky to have her in your life.
how you keep her (via alunit)
Just a few of the stories my great aunt told me about women in the 60s:
1) A woman she worked with at the hospital who had a baby with one of the ambulance drivers. When work found out they fired her (he kept his job). She tried to self-abort with a knitting needle.
2) The sister of one of her neighbours who wasn’t able to rent a room because she was a ‘fallen woman’.
3) A girl who got sent to a convent house and scrubbed floors until the day she gave birth. Her baby was given up for adoption without her consent.
4) Girls who had babies with priests.
5) Women who were on their fifth, sixth, seventh child, who had been pregnant for the best part of a decade, begging for sterilisation because their husbands wouldn’t wear a condom.
Banning abortion has never ever stopped it from happening. It’s just meant more stigma, more prejudice, more risks and more deaths.
In 1962, my mother was going thru a divorce, got pregnant and knew this fact would be used to deny her divorce (they used to do that, in case you didn’t know).
My mother was given a “shot”; she lived 3 blocks from the doctor. He never told her what it was, likely an “overdose” of progesterone, which is how they used to “induce menstruation” in a hurry (i.e. abortion off the books). She was about 7-8 weeks by her estimation. He said, GO STRAIGHT HOME, go to bed and stay there. She walked fast, but nearly collapsed at the curb and my grandmother went out to guide her into the house. She went to bed, stayed there and bled steadily and heavily for 3-4 days. She said it was like being very very sick, headaches, nausea, vomiting… and then, gone.
She never let me forget this and took me to my first NARAL meeting when I was 15 yrs old. And here I am today, in my 50s–and I still remember my grandmother’s scary account; my mother swaying, literally, at the curb, and nearly falling, under the strength of that one shot.
How did she get the doctor to do it? She told him, “If you don’t, I will do it myself”–and if you knew my mother, you knew she meant it. She would have. After all, lots of women she knew had.
This is what they want to take us all back to, the fucking middle ages. Please remember.
The cost of denying women abortions is women’s lives. Nothing “Pro life” about it.
My mom has done something incredible.
I want to tell you guys a story.
A few years ago, I came out to my mom the morning after my senior prom. She was surprised, then quiet, then asked what my real orientation was. I said, “I have no idea, but I like this one girl.” She was a little confused, but she kissed me and said, “As long as she makes you happy.” For the next few weeks, she asked a lot of questions: when did I realize? What was my new girlfriend’s orientation? What was the word for this or that? I WAS happy, right?
Fast forward about two years. My mom sits me down and tells me that she needs my help with her next book. She’s been writing middle-grade girls’ books (like, 9-14 range) since I was eight, and she says she has an idea that she really, really wants to get right. It follows the plot of Romeo and Juliet, she says, and the main character is a twelve-year-old girl realizing she has a crush on another girl when they put on the play for English class.
Fast forward another year to now. STAR-CROSSED is about to come out, and it is absolutely amazing.
My mom has poured her heart and soul into making sure this is a positive thing for kids to read. I’ve been reading and editing and helping with this book since its first draft and I’ve been, metaphorically and sometimes literally bouncing up and down on my heels, waiting to be able to tell people about it. It’s beyond sweet, and there’s a ton of Shakespeare and humor and goofy preteen drama and twelve-year-old girls flirting and Star Wars jokes and a glossary of Shakespearean insults in the back (yes, really), and it’s just so fun and positive and smart and I want to show it to every kid I know.
This book is for LGBT kids, written by a mom who has asked questions and done her research and tried as hard as she possibly could to make her own queer kid feel safe and loved and valid, and it REALLY shows. Mattie (the cutie on the left) and Gemma (the cutie on the right) are given space to learn about themselves, and ultimately they don’t have to figure themselves out right away or come out to everyone at once or choose a label. They’re kids. It’s okay to still be figuring things out. It’s okay.
Fun facts:
My mom said from the beginning she wanted both girls on the cover to make it clear what the book was about; then when they got the final artwork and Mattie’s hair was short, my mom wrote back and asked the artist to do the hair over to make it as obvious as possible that Mattie is a girl.
When a few people started buzzing about Mattie being the youngest bisexual protagonist they’ve seen, she went back and changed passages to confirm that Mattie likes boys and girls.
When I asked for a happier and less ambiguous ending scene, she set Mattie and Gemma up on a frigging date.
It comes out on March 14, 2017. Please join me in GETTING HYPE FOR STAR-CROSSED <3
SO EXCITED FOR THIS YOU HAVE NO IDEA
The is only ONE other middle grade (ages 8-12) fiction book I know of with a bisexual protagonist and that is Trials of Apollo by Rick Riordan. The field of bi characters in childrens lit will DOUBLE with this book.
- Sarah
So I just pre-ordered this.
Gonna let my mum know about this book :) she's a teacher & im sure her school library could use this addition :)