genuine question: you previously said that gender is something that happens to you. so what do you mean when you say trans men chose to be men? i go back and forth over if i chose to be a woman bc ive always felt like one (but obviously made the decision to transition)
i also ask because my boyfriend (we started dating when i thought i was a gay guy) has been a better transfeminist than i have. but i agree with you on the arguing thing. obviously class traitors exist but we can’t rely on them
I will admit that I was trying to be legible to the mainstream understandings of gender given the context of Tumblr Dotcom but if we are to delve into Gender Ternary talk for a minute -- I think Power Gender Inclusion requires enlistment in it and endorsement of it as it violently ejects people who do not do so. And so the tacit understanding of "man-gender" if we are to call it that is the reality that being a man requires periodic checks, usually by other men, but not always, that this person is "correctly" compliant with man. Said another way, inclusion in the gender of Power requires being complicit in the hierarchy which maintains that Power. It does Happen to you, in that it is a social process which is done to you by society -- but it's a process which one engages with and can interfere with, and the process of Gendering As Man* requires being enlisted in the maintenance of Man Gender if that makes sense.
As you say, class traitors exist. Also per the original title of the first Gender Ternary article, I'd argue that certain kinds of people commonly understood as "men" are not correctly categorized under Power Gender but under the other genders based on context.
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