[that-grassbro]

Whenever you drop the trans in trans man you are relying on trans men's extreme levels of erasure, wherein most people do not consider trans men when thinking of the 'man' category to appeal to simplifications that further erase their experience.

Most feminists would agree with:

'if men experienced periods there'd be mandatory education on it' 'no one would ever do this to MEN's genitalia (when talking about FGM' 'if men had to give birth it would be considered equal in sacrifice to war'

Because, the category of trans man is so incredibly erased from people's heads that they dont even register when making these statements. A lot of transphobes (specifically the tmen hating kind) use this against trans men by dropping the trans in 'trans men': 'We've already established in basic feminism that trans men dont have to' 'You want us to consider that trans men might experience misogyny in ways other groups dont?!?' 'Everyone knows the healthcare industry revolves around trans men why would you say that phalloplasty having three times the complication rate of vaginoplasty might be to do with misogyny?!?'

They operate on the basis of plausible deniability, because if you call them out on it they can just say 'but trans men are men. are you denying that?' Most of them know well what they are doing.

[olderthannetfic]

There is a visual quirk I keep seeing in fan art and original art lately where people with are drawing nude people with a hair trail on their stomachs or even their pubes like long animal fur and it is driving me crazy. They all look like partially transformed werewolves or like their lower half is a furry but their upper half is human. I hate it sm.

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[androgynousblackbox]

"This is my rewrite of the entire season that sucked..."

"This is my version of episode X..."

"This is the ideal sequel we all deserved to have..."

Fanfiction. You wrote fanfiction. Just say you wrote fanfiction, because that is what you did. No matter how well though out it is, how many plot holes you covered, how much better than the original you think your work is, you did fanfiction.

There is nothing wrong with that. Just own that you wrote fanfiction and stop with the nonsense of whatever you wrote being on a different, superior category than "just" fanfiction.

[kittydealer]

u/AdministrationDue239

[curiositysavesthecat]

Do you think it's weird and/or predatory for a 13 year-old and a 30 year-old to be best friends if they're not family members or related by blood? Assuming everything is innocent and platonic. Nothing romantic or sexual.

Yes, it's weird and predatory

It's weird. But not predatory

It's predatory. But not weird

No, it's not weird or predatory

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[creelson]

unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about an innocent friendship

[dianxiacantastemolecules]

The question is why the fuck is a thirty year old hanging out with a 13 year old if not in their family?? The only other relation that could have them interact is through teacher/student and bring friends like that would be weird as fuck

[creelson]

found family? the kid not feeling safe in their house? the adult wanting to help? family / teacher / school isn't always a guaranteed safe place. should the kid and adult each have friends that are their own age too? sure. but if their friendship is genuinely innocent then I think the problem isn't them but people who project their weird and predatory thoughts onto them

[the-bar-sinister]

Don't forget shared hobbies?

A 13 year old and a 30 year old could reasonably meet at a tabletop gaming store, a fiber arts group, a book club....

[audacityinblack]

They could literally just be neighbors. This whole isolationist thing of never even talking to the people you live closest to is new and weird.

[olderthannetfic]

When I was 13, an art teacher who worked for my mother (who ran after school programs) got into the X-Files. This was season 1. Neither of us knew anyone else who was into it, and she wasn't very online given that this was 1994, so she had nowhere else to discuss it. I'd call her every Friday night after the episode, and we'd obsessively go over it.

I'd probably have called her my best friend at the time, though I very much doubt she'd have said the same, partly because having One Single Best Friend and being super weird about which of your friends gets this coveted spot is not something middle-aged people care about.

Some of you have very weird ideas about 13-year-olds living in hermetically sealed bubbles. Frankly, many neurodivergent weirdo 13-year-olds who grew up to be Tumblr users were far, far better at talking to adults at that age than at talking to other 13-year-olds. Many of you would have had a way happier year if you'd also had an old-ass "best friend" to talk to back then.

[woomyonstring]

Chrisker Week day 2: Mind Control

I hope the lighting on this looks ok 😖

Anyway I love the re5 swap concept so much so of course I had to draw it for today hehe

[kradeelav]

i know things are hella grim in the nsfw/kink art circles especially in the last year --

but I'm hearing there's a NSFW-friendly ko-fi alternative built on atproto that's actively in the works, and being vetted by lawyers right now. as torrent-princess (OP) says, you should be able to swap out payment processors while keeping your account intact. this matters since even if stripe removes support, you'll still have a shop and all of your links intact. (ATproto is an infrastructure that bsky is built on, but is far bigger than bsky with far more opportunities.)

additionally, the Free Speech Coalition is working on a credit union specifically for adult work (including kink art) - here's the link so you can add your interest & support. Since this will be built by sex workers, there'll be far less risk of being debanked for spurious and puritanical reasons.

on a domain TLD level, there's an initiative here for a .furry domain built from the ground up by seasoned furries; it's unclear whether they'll support NSFW, but it's yet another promising turn of events for a group that's been similarly affected by censorship.

there are friends and allies out there helping to build a working parallel infrastructure. keep being vocal, keep supporting these initiatives when it's possible, and keep supporting your nsfw/kink artists. ♥

[tobiasbones]

The other day i bought this yarn cause that’s obviously the trans flag, and I just saw that this colour is called ‘life’! I’m gonna cry

[northern-punk-lad]

‘The biggest rollback of disability rights in a generation’ – Charities respond to Supreme Court ruling

The uk Supreme Court has just done a major rollback on disability rights and is putting more disabled people in danger

[roboticutie]

Under this new ruling, multiple vulnerable groups will be impacted across social care and healthcare sectors. If an autistic person with high support needs, someone with a serious mental illness, or a person with a severe learning disability is locked in a care setting and sedated, but does not actively protest, they will no longer be considered "confined" by the state. They will lose their automatic right to independent reviews, a legal advocate, and protection from closed care cultures.

This ruling states if someone is sedated and does not instigate a complaint regarding their circumstances while ACTIVELY SEDATED, then they have no right to legal checks and balances to preserve their wellbeing??? Is this correct??? The UK is falling apart.

[datsderbunnyblog]

Meanwhile this is the headline the BBC chose to run with.

[salviasprings]

some of you just need to accept not everyone with a CDD considers themselves to be a "system" or "multiple" or "plural". like genuinely. you need to stop believing these are inherently CDD experiences that everyone can relate to. people with CDDs are not "systems" they are people with CDDs that sometimes identify as systems.

[rosemarymeow]

smelling eggs is my hobby

[bimmyjimmy]

you’re on to something here..

[dovesndecay]

Microaggressions against polyamory in interpersonal interactions are important and should be discussed, but I do wish more of the conversation focused on the ways that systemic amatonormativity impact things like family units, taxes, healthcare, inheritances, housing, childcare, etc.

I'm not dating or married or related to anyone I live with, and our household of four adults can't get any kind of financial or food or housing aid because we count as three separate households despite our semi-blended finances and living together for a decade. There are laws that have been proposed (at least, I don't know if any passed) that limit housing to nuclear families.

Amatonormativity and polyphobia are not just theoretical "people are kinda mean about this sometimes" -- they are real and materially impactful systemic issues, and they affect all of us.

[noelclaiire]

other older danganronpa art. that i forgot about

[starlightreign]

[the-indigo-symphony]

Thinking on it, I'm surprised this website doesn't see much celebration of other queer pride months. That is, other countries have different pride months, and I'm surprised I don't see much out there on Tumblr about those months. Like yeah I get the reason is American centrism but you'd think that "the queerest place on the Internet" would take advantage of any reason to celebrate queerness. Maybe I'm just not tuned into those corners of Tumblr enough.

Anyway. For those who celebrate queer pride month this month, happy pride! Remember to bite the hand that beats you, take care of yourselves, and find little joys where you can <3

[important-cat-pics]

[bk-poetry]

Here are all the relationship types we currently have built-in to fanfiction.lol

Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈