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Grey, 27, he/they/it. Queer. Too tired for this shit. This is at least 30% a hockey blog. Certified Goalie Guy™️ 18+ only, please and thank you Header GIF by starrynet

[digitalis-obscura]

Hi, hello, welcome to my blog

-Grey

-He/they/it

-late 20s

random assortment of whatever, there's a decent amount of hockey, the occasional wrestling post, and a lot of tv shows

i've got a craft blog now, if you want to follow my descent into cross-stitch madness you can find me at @digitalis-obscura-crafts

i'm closer to thirty than twenty at this point so i do ask that you only follow me if you're 18+. other than that, have fun but don't be a dick

[pitchburgh]

i wish you could laugh react eBay listings. that's not worth $250. you fucking asshole. lmao

[puppyseedmuffins]

shaking my head but shaking my head the whole time to show i dont support negativity

[creekfiend]

there is this really specific thing that very Online women of a certain age (mostly older millennials and younger gen x in my experience) who are married to a man will do where they will refer to their husbands as "Mr. (Part of My Username)"

so like if the username is something like "dancingwithbears" they'll refer to their husband as "Mr. Bears"

i think it is extremely charming

[teaboot]

One of my brothers has this thing where he likes to be included on sibling movie night but he will not sit down or actually join us, he’ll just wander around the house and periodically show up to lurk in the doorway or lean on someone’s seat

And *I* have this thing where I always always know when he’s there, because every time he’s not wandering around like the ghost of bob marley and isn’t immediately visible it’s because he’s stopped moving to watch the film from directly behind me, which makes the back of my neck tingle like a dog sensing an earthquake

Which has on more than one occasion resulted in me interrupting the movie to tell him to just sit the fuck down and stop lurking in the shadows, Jesus Christ, it’s like I’m being haunted by the memory of ancient sins

Which has in turn been shortened to just “ancient sins”, every time I feel him doing it again

So to summarize, sometimes when my siblings and I get together for a movie night, we’ll all be sitting in the dark in complete silence until my ass deadpan announces “ancient sins” and a 90 pound 5’11” Slenderman looking motherfucker emerges from the shadows behind me like a jumpscare incarnate in Batman pajamas pants and informs me that we are out of orange soda

[teaboot]

I fucked up a little bit

[yellow-cat]

this interior decoration shit easy

[qqchurch]

[catasters]

[dilftanger]

it’s just me and the two other people who want kyle to reaquire michael bunting against the world

[pissed-whizard]

[everyday-cutephoto]

[wendou]

ADHD

2016

Zhou Wendou

[kallimakhos]

[video description: a short clip showing a large metal sphere in the center of a shallow pool of dark liquid. the same dark liquid is pouring over the sphere, coating it, while windshield wipers installed onto the sphere attempt to wipe it away, only for more liquid to immediately fall and cover the clean spots. end video description.]

[pandavalkyrie]

[toskarin]

no

[roughribo]

Lot of folks know about safewords. Lot of folks are aware of tapping being a safe signal, or a way to nonverbally alert their dom they need to safeword, usually through touch or hand signals. Not as many know about safe objects. And I've had quite a few folks ask me what they are after I've used the term in conversation.

In situations where a submissive may be doing high risk edgeplay or will be unable to speak and unable to use their body to signal you (such as an all body tie with a gag) their safety can be better monitored with a safe object.

A safe object is simply an object the submissive holds in their hand that is noticeable if they drop it. If they need to safeword for any reason they drop the object. If they pass out during edge play they will lose control of their grip and drop it and play should always immediately stop and the safety of the sub always be immediately tended to when that object is dropped.

Some objects I've always recommended:

Keys: everyone tends to have keys and they make a lot of noise when you drop them and make very little noise when held.

Bouncy balls: specifically ones that make sounds and light up when dropped can be very useful if you can avoid triggering them in your hand.

Beanie baby/bean bag: look I know your beanie baby probably shouldn't see you like this but it makes some noise when dropped and is pretty easy to spot when it's missing from your hand. You can also squeeze it pretty hard without hurting yourself.

Typically you want something that will rattle or clang when dropped but not while held (so no small bottle of pills or a rattle) so it alerts the dom only when dropped. Nothing that will injure the holder, so if you're a sub that's going to squeeze hard from play, opt for something softer. But make sure it has enough weight to it that it just drops immediately when let go of.

And if you are a dom in this scenario you should be constantly scanning to make sure your sub is holding on to it. You always treat a dropped safe object as a full-blown red and get the sub out of whatever they're in the middle of being put through when it's dropped, even if by accident.

The reason for this is because in higher risk play, this object can be one of the only indicators you get before risking injury and is absolutely CRITICAL to even participating in this play (breathplay I'm looking at you).

It's like a gun, even if you know it's unloaded, you always treat it like it's loaded because most accidents happen when people don't treat it like it's loaded. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. No exceptions. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. You always treat a dropped safe object as an emergency. Have I said it enough yet. Is it sticking? Safety before pleasure.

So doms remember: the riskier the play the more frequently you should be scanning for your sub's safe object, no exceptions.

And you may say well that doesn't apply to me, I don't do high risk play. And that's fine, but the amount of people I've met engaging in high-risk edgeplay not taking any precautions whatsoever is way too many, and I'm passing on my safety knowledge in the hope that it helps someone avoid getting themselves seriously hurt or injured.

And now you know too and can help pass this knowledge along. But if you're only ever in lower risk scenarios, sticking to safewords is not only perfectly fine but recommended. But everyone should know what safe objects are even if you don't need to use them.

[importantcatpics]

[solmarillion]

i hate how much people care about their ships being "canon" now. spirk fans didn't publish zines full of fanfics in the 70s only for modern fandom to grovel at the knees of corporations and beg for things to be canon. use your imaginations, don't allow billionaires to think for you.

[bunnygirlonthemoon]

brat tamers are funny wdym you’re turned on by getting ragebaited

[bunnygirlonthemoon]

brats you aren't safe either you get turned on by someone thinking you're annoying