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So beautiful.
I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.
Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.
Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.
"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.
You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.
(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)
I give my students a LOT of techniques for starting writing when it feels overwhelming or daunting, but one of them is exactly this: dopamine load BEFOREHAND. It may sound weird to people on tumblr dot com, but a lot of people seriously struggle with executive dysfunction when it comes to writing literally anything, to the extent that it can cause such symptoms as panic, depression, and AI chatbot use.
I usually suggest this technique as a "Reverse Pomodoro." In the original Pomodoro, you work for 25 minutes and then take a break for 5 minutes (the times vary, but that's the essential ratio). People with executive dysfunction often find this insurmountable, and they get even more frustrated, and then the task seems even more difficult. So instead, flip those times.
FIRST, spend 25 minutes doing something energizing and engaging that you like to do. Not scrolling social media passively, not watching tv, not napping. Try something like colouring, doing yoga, running/walking around the block, talking about your favourite tv show with someone in real time, playing with the dog or cat, making and eating a lovely sandwich, hula hooping, something active. Having a little treat absolutely falls in this category!
(on the subject of little treats: refusing yourself food until you do work is for fucking Puritans and you can be kinder to yourself)
Then, after 25 minutes (or however long it takes to eat the sandwich or finish the yoga routine, it doesn't have to be exact), spend 5 minutes writing (or doing whatever you're struggling to start). Most people can coax themselves into doing something they find difficult for five minutes, if they have already filled up the joy/energy/engagement bucket. You can put a timer on for the 5 minutes if you want, or if you find that annoying, just work for as long as you like.
The other key is: don't push yourself to keep going when you're frustrated or tired—that will just reinforce the negative belief that you already have, which tells you that this task is painful to do, and needs to be avoided. If you've commonly had to force yourself to do this kind of task, that's likely part of why you think of it as painful and have trouble starting it now. Also, you should just, at a basic level, try not to put yourself in pain for the sake of productivity. So just do it till the good feelings run out. Then start hula hooping or colouring again for another 25 minutes. When the tank's refilled, try another 5 minutes of work, if you can. Adjust times to taste.
Not every technique works for everyone, but I've seen this one work for many students who are genuinely and seriously disabled by executive dysfunction. And many people find themselves getting more and more excited and engaged in the "difficult" task—because the good feelings from the hula hooping carry over, and because they're suddenly able to do the task without feeling pain, and feel accomplishment without feeling pain.
actually fucking disgusting that glasses cost any money like if you actually think about it for more than a few seconds it is so unconscionably inhumane. this goes for things like insulin and mobility aids and hearing aids too ofc but fuck man, fucking glasses? the thing you need to fucking see? its genuinely sickening and inhumanly evil that those cost ANYTHING.
When my hearing aid broke, I just couldn't hear anymore. It was only covered by insurance the first time due to the acute onset of my hearing loss being deemed a medical emergency (because all at once I had compromised environmental awareness). A one time health insurance exception.
Hearing aids had to be paid for out of pocket through your audiologist. The law making them more available and thus lowering the cost wouldn't be passed for another decade, so I was looking at needing $2000-$4500 to have it replaced. As a disabled person, I am not allowed to have more than $2000 in my bank account (or in physical assets), ever. If I do I lose both my income and my health insurance. 🙃
The veins in Sun's neck while Jay fingers him is living rent free in my brain right now
But also the way he was grabbing onto Jay instead of pushing him away...Sun has spent so much time pushing him away and now he's holding on for dear life because he finally accepts THIS is exactly where he wants to be
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What's your average number of sexual partners per year? Divide [the total number of people you've had sex with] by [the number of years since your first time]. (Defining "sex" here as "any consensual sexual contact with another person".)
Never had sex
Less than 0.5 partners a year
0.5 to .99 partners a year
1 to 1.49 partners a year
1.5 to 1.99 partners a year
2 to 4.9 partners a year
5 to 9.9 partners a year
10 to 14.9 partners a year
15 to 19.9 partners a year
20 partners a year or more
Too many partners to make even a rough guess
What's your average number of sexual partners per year? Divide [the total number of people you've had sex with] by [the number of years since your first time]. (Defining "sex" here as "any consensual sexual contact with another person".)
Never had sex
Less than 0.5 partners a year
0.5 to .99 partners a year
1 to 1.49 partners a year
1.5 to 1.99 partners a year
2 to 4.9 partners a year
5 to 9.9 partners a year
10 to 14.9 partners a year
15 to 19.9 partners a year
20 partners a year or more
Too many partners to make even a rough guess
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