Hullo dualcom caregiver...
One of my moots recently had an anon ask trying to explain paras to them, because they have certain dnis in their blog
It's always really hard to tell with some people, when they are against the para entirely even if there's no contact, because they think that just having the para means they would be procontact
I have confusing feelings...
I dont want to feel ashamed and like i have to hide my paraphilias just because society sees them as synonymous with "predator"
But i feel forced to, because if i didnt, then there would be very serious repercussions otherwise..
So we hide behind terms that arent so stigmatized, like "paraphilia" and "proship" and "prokink"
But how long until those become stigmatized too?...
I guess, i just should block them and move on... They never "liked" or reblogged any of my content anyway. But also, does that mean i should refrain from following people who dont have any stance publicly available at all?
I feel icky...like im not supposed to exist, and definitely not allowed to exist anywhere near anybody else, or in public, or...anywhere at all. I just want to hide away and never come back out and delete all of my things so i dont make anyone else feel icky ever again...
I'm sorry that people have made you feel like you have to hide certain aspects of yourself, that's never a good feeling. You should never feel forced by your peers to restrict information for your own safety, and I'm very sorry to hear that these people have been making you feel unsafe.
I understand how scary things are. People have been pushing for censorship a lot lately, but I promise you, not all is lost.
There are communities around you that you can step in to, friends to make that will make you feel more comfortable being open about these things, and spaces where you will be accepted with open arms, like this blog.
It's going to be okay sweetheart. I know the world is scary right now, but there are people that will accept you the way you are, without having to hide yourself.
There is nothing wrong with having a paraphilia, and having a paraphilia does not make someone an offender, or predator.
May I offer a suggestion? If you're comfortable with it, I'd look more into following ( sfw or nsft, depending on your comfort levels ) blogs that are more accepting of paraphilias, than following people who are against having them. Personally, It's brought me a lot of peace of mind being among like minded people, without fear of being shamed for things people cannot control.
You are not icky, sweetpea. You are someone who is being stigmatized against for something you're not able to control. Even if the world is scary right now, you're always welcome to come here for comfort. You will never be judged here, and you're very welcome to come back any time you need.
Take care sweetheart, you're going to be okay. I promise there is a space for you in this world.