Dyllistan

Aromantic & Straight. Film Director & Video Essayist from southern California. He/Him

[funstyle]

[recommending something i sincerely love] ok so the thing about it is it kinda sucks

[dadrgone]

some personal struggles that claiming label 'aromantic' helped me with

[aro-culture-is]

Aroallo culture is trying to figure out if you want to sleep with all your friends for actual attraction reasons or if you're just horny and touch-starved.

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[tarantula-hawk-wasp]

Trapped in the talkative cycle

[cutecipher]

a cat is a sort of machine that dispenses hair all over you and everything else in the room

[iwasthesouthernpansy]

Kinda obsessed with how many of Ryan Gosling roles are about a man who is a presented as having no worth and identity outside of his role to the narrative/some grand cause. You have the Driver in Drive — you never even find out his name. You have K in Blade Runner 2049, who is a technically a human being but biologically different enough for people to simply treat him like a weapon. Ken — who only sees his worth as an extension of Barbie. And of course my baby Ryland Grace, who is forced onto a suicide mission because he has no family and he has the knowledge to be useful. All of these roles have the characters struggle with their identity, some to tragic ends.

Because as a woman it feels so familiar to be whittled down to roles and have your autonomy stolen. You’re a mother, sister, daughter — before you are a person. You are expected to suffer for others around you, especially if that other is a child. And seeing this Hollywood hunk play these roles is just fascinating to me. You know that meme where Reddit bros look at Ryan Gosling and say — he’s me? No he’s ME. I’m appropriating it.

(I need more book recommendations with this vibe, and yes I know about Murderbot)

[dogpuppy]

Me when my asshole itches and I’m on the moon

[depressedcryptographer]

Asking for touch as an aspec is so weird like “hey, please touch me, but not in a sex/romance way, just in a human contact way. Interact with my body’s touchscreens. Punch me in the face or something. Please. I’ll take anything at this point.”

Edit: of course everyone here has blanket permission to tag this as Blorbo from their Shows. We love seeing representation, implicit or explicit.

[dyllistan]

Nothing like watching discourse going around some video game writers you follow on bsky making fun of someone who said they cringed at sex scenes in movies when of course sex is a critical part of the human experience and even proposing to limit them in some way is puritan culture & immature but you dislike them mainly because they're used as a short-hand for romantic development but you just know if you even dare jump in with an explanation of the split-attraction model for the sake of literally all a-specs you're just painting a massive target on your back

[phenomen0ms]

yearly rewatch

[datura-45]

[the-quasar-hero]

Very generally speaking, when you see a black man in a piece of media, be it tv show, movie, video game, etc. there’s something you often see a lot of writers do. To go against the stereotype of black men (and black people in general) being dumb and lazy, you’ll see this black male character being smart and an achiever. 

The Black Nerd. A common character type, the nerd will always be very interested in all things nerdy: science, video games, mathematics, etc. In an continued effort to combat stereotypes, the Black Nerd will be lack athleticism, probably being asthmatic (the nerdiest of conditions). The Black Nerd will dress smartly, suspenders and bow ties. They’ll always talk smart too, using proper English with complex words.

Now, I don’t have a problem with a black character being a nerd, indeed black people are a people; we aren’t all the same and we all have varying personalities. The problem I have is that too often we see a distinct disconnect between Blackness and the Black Nerd. The Black Nerd doesn’t listen to hip hop or rap, only classical music. The Black Nerd only has white friends, the only other black characters are into not nerdy stuff. The Black Nerd never ever uses AAVE at any time in any context.

And again I must say that Black people, not being a monolith, there are no hard fast rules to being Black. I’m more than sure there are Black people like what I’ve described above, I’m not saying it’s impossible; what I’m getting at is that the only Black Nerd we see. There are Black Nerds that play basketball, that bump Kendrick Lamar, and use AAVE since it’s an ever changing dialect. I’m just saying there’s no one way of being a nerd and no one way of being Black.

[the-quasar-hero]

Well @dumbey, seems we’re in similar boats

[the-quasar-hero]

This ain’t about him, this is about Black/Asian solidarity. Focus.

[sabertoothwalrus]

I love when someone is explaining instructions to a group I’m in and they look at me and it reminds them to say something about using preferred names/pronouns or that there’s vegan food options available. I go by my given name/pronouns and I’m not vegan but I’m proud that I can provide this service

[batbetbitbotbut]

[bloggingboutburgers]

By and large this is definitely the kind of thing where I'm pretty much just an ungrateful asshole, but... Eh, it is how it is sometimes. And documenting things raw-ish can help me cope sometimes. Guess I'm that kind of asshole.

[brawltogethernow]

Trying to tap the comic book tag on the first try like I'm selecting a bomb wire.

[reallyreallyreallytrying]

i have watched and reviewed akira (1988)

[kingcatnine]

we need to instill a new storytelling rule of thumb into people called "show don't tweet" where we encourage them to put all pertinent canon information into the actual story and its official supplemental material instead of using reddit AMAs as lore dlcs