Just Normal Relatable Cis Girl Things

All women feel that way. Am I right, dudes--I mean, ladies?

[afriendtokilltime]

Trans Twitter was just as salty in the 2nd century

“What then? They are handed out to the angels who accompany Saviour. As sons, do you suppose? No. As valets perhaps? Not even this. As ghosts? I wish even this were the case! What, then, if you are not ashamed to say? As wives! For marriages they will play “Rape the Sabines” among themselves. This is the reward for being “spirit-like”; this is the prize for believing. These are proper little stories; for example, you, Marcus, or you, Gaius, at present bearded in this body and in this soul a stern husband, father, grandfather, or great-grandfather–certainly masculine enough–then, in this harem of a Pleroma, by some angel you might be… ; by my silence I have already said it. […] But why worry? I am the Demiurge’s man. It will be my fate to return after death to a place where there is no giving in marriage, where we are to be further clothed rather than unclothed; where even if I were unclothed of my sex, I would be classified as an angel, neither male nor female. No one will do anything to me since he will not find me as male then.”

[rob-pattinson]

Many of the political attacks on trans people—whether it is a mandate that bathroom use be determined by birth sex, a blanket ban on medical interventions for trans kids or the suggestion that trans men are simply wayward women beguiled by male privilege—carry the same subtext: that trans people are mistaken about who they are. “We know who we are,” Page says. “People cling to these firm ideas [about gender] because it makes people feel safe. But if we could just celebrate all the wonderful complexities of people, the world would be such a better place.”

Page was attracted to the role of Vanya in The Umbrella Academy because—in the first season, released in 2019—Vanya is crushed by self-loathing, believing herself to be the only ordinary sibling in an extraordinary family. The character can barely summon the courage to move through the world. “I related to how much Vanya was closed off,” Page says. Now on set filming the third season, co-workers have seen a change in the actor. “It seems like there’s a tremendous weight off his shoulders, a feeling of comfort,” says showrunner Steve Blackman. “There’s a lightness, a lot more smiling.” For Page, returning to set has been validating, if awkward at times. Yes, people accidentally use the wrong pronouns—“It’s going to be an adjustment,” Page says—but co-workers also see and acknowledge him.

Whatever challenges might lie ahead, Page seems exuberant about playing a new spectrum of roles. “I’m really excited to act, now that I’m fully who I am, in this body,” Page says. “No matter the challenges and difficult moments of this, nothing amounts to getting to feel how I feel now.” This includes having short hair again. During the interview, Page keeps rearranging strands on his forehead. It took a long time for him to return to the barber’s chair and ask to cut it short, but he got there. And how did that haircut feel?

Page tears up again, then smiles. “I just could not have enjoyed it more,” he says.

ELLIOT PAGE for TIME Magazine › 2021 interview by Katy Steinmetz, photography by Wynne Neilly

[janekfan]

I love him so much!!! <3 <3 <3 

[dysphoric-cersei]

Y’know, some people would be really interested in using a Belt of Gender Change on purpose, and wouldn’t that have interesting implications on the D&D economy? I am so curious about this for normal worldbuilding reasons let’s talk about it for hours.

[protestantcrona]

[bassiter]

sorry but i have one (1) more bttf post

marty mcfly is trans

very short

social outcast

wears layers upon layers, like it’s literally SUCH a transmasc outfit

his mom doesn’t approve of his girlfriend for no discernible reason other than that it seems she doesn’t want him to have a girlfriend at all

he hangs out almost exclusively with a disgraced scientist with no origin story for how they met………….. maybe doc brown gives him hormones?

[thequantumqueer]

#nobody calls him marty the bullies just call him mcfly

[portentous-offerings]

[punkrorschach]

love the concept that a disgraced nuclear scientist just has spare testosterone that he’ll give to a 17 year old

[aerialsquid]

I mean it fits his MO.

[shermanator32]

Y’all he can figure out time travel he prolly can whip up testosterone

Also if one person says that he gets kids he can’t be trans:

1) trans people can have kids

2) there are flying cars and hoverboards and energy composters I think biotech will have caught up with silly little human biology.

[glumshoe]

also his kids appear to be clones of himself anyway

[dysphoric-cersei]

@dicecast

[dysphoric-cersei]

Hey did you guys know testosterone’s a controlled substance?

[dysphoric-cersei]

Downside: you spent so long blocking out dysphoria you no longer feel like a real person, are unable to understand body signals such as hunger, and find basic self-care maintenance grueling Upside: ability to ignore unpleasant physical sensations handy when cleaning the fridge

[dysphoric-cersei]

"Most trans men pass after a few months on hormones” is a sentence I just had the honor of reading with my own eyeballs.

[dysphoric-cersei]

In the other room, both my partners being asked to introduce themselves in a Zoom class by saying their name, pronouns, where they are, and (for the cute “extra” question these intros always have) their height.

I feel like if the pronoun question is meant to be more welcoming to trans students, drawing lots of attention to their height in the one setting where it would not be prominently displayed, and ensuring it’s the first thing their new classmates know about them, might maybe not be so welcoming.

I don’t know I find it a little confusing.

[dysphoric-cersei]

Dear designers on ravelry,

I super appreciate that you’re open to men expressing themselves with a variety of fashion choices, but when I go to the patterns tab and specifically click “male,” I am probably not looking for your cropped bralette.

Like the majority of patterns are written with women in mind, if I want a cropped bralette I can find that.

[dysphoric-cersei]

Similarly, if your pattern is titled “[Whatever] for women” consider not tagging it “male.” Clearly, even you don’t think it belongs there.

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

[smokeytoastyghosty]

Me: yep

Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress

Me : nope!

You didn’t have to draw a trans man with boobs sis, thanks for the dysphoria babeey

[trainwreckbisexual]

if u get dysphoric when u see a boob that’s understandable but its also your problem to deal with n u don’t get to shame other trans dudes for drawing people like them with visible breasts. as much as it sucks, most trans men do have non flat chests and it’s not a bad thing to draw trans men with breasts (unless ur sexualising them, or ur drawing a real life trans man who’s dysphoric about his chest).

also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.

anyways good post op

[maraeffect]

some trans men can’t bind for medical reasons. some don’t prefer to bind bc it’s uncomfortable, and hot, and sweaty!!! some trans men arent that bothered by chest dysphoria!

trans people are not required to attempt conformity to be valid in their identity. no one is required to try and “look cis”. that’s your own shit to deal with.

[eroticcannibal]

Thank you for drawing trans men who aren’t binding and who wear feminine clothes, OP, seeing trans people like myself really helps with my dysphoria

[transmxnfenris]

I can’t bind because of my severe asthma and pain in my ribs from fibromyalgia. So seeing trans men who aren’t binding really helps my crippling dysphoria. Thanks op (also disabled trans men aaaaaah! 💖)

[bleepblopbugs]

Also some trans men cant afford a binder, or are closeted, or itt isnt safe where they live to bind, binding isnt a necessity v

[xaira-gabvi]

Also trans men, just like cis men, are allowed to wear dresses.

[evilelitest2]

one of the things that I find remarkable about the trans community is that it is one of the most marginalized and mistreated communities in the world, and so many of the people within are like “You know what I want to focus my time and energy on?  Making other trans people feel shitty about them selves.”  

[dysphoric-cersei]

Oh, absolutely. There’s a strangely competitive edge to a lot of trans interactions. It happens with cis queer people too…sometimes? But with trans stuff, it’s hard, cause literally being around each other can cause feelings of secondhand dysphoria.

And yeah, that’s real, but you want to know what causes me secondhand dysphoria?

Yes. A cis man from a cartoon for 7 year old girls makes me cringe.

(Sidenote while I was getting an image for this post I found this gif of him dramatically removing a cumberbund and his formal shirt was also a bellyshirt like his casual/armor look? That was funny.)

I want to make it clear that it’s actually fine I feel this way. And it’s fine if i don’t want to watch She-Ra because for whatever reason Bow’s design pushes my buttons. But when it comes to She-Ra I think the whole internet got together and agreed that the animators should not alter their style in order to avoid making men in their late 20s uncomfortable.

Something can make you uncomfortable without it being something wrong.

Here, have another thing that makes my soul want to die!

“I’m cutting my hair short but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I’d like to wear a suit but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I want to transition but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.”

I think the amount of secondhand dysphoria/internalized shame/competition and latent aggression has to do with how there’s almost no popular image of us to…”aspire” to I guess? Especially trans men, which is the topic of this post (and which seems to have an incredibly nasty strain of infighting at least on tumblr but I know this is a whole community problem). So you know what you don’t wanna be, but what do you want to look like, and be perceived as? Your only model for that is a cis guy.

But I know what I don’t want to look like. I very, very definitely do not want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.

I think a lot of trans people are afraid of looking freakish and silly cause that’s the only image that exists.

And…the thing most likely to remind you of what you don’t want to look like is other trans people who don’t pass. I mean, that just makes sense. But it seems like a lot of people get this weird idea in their head of like…I’m the only “real trans tm”? I’m the way I see myself in my head (cis or cis-passing, etc), and these other trans people I see around me not passing, they’re clearly looking that way on purpose.

So yeah we individually and as a community need better strategies for dealing with secondhand dysphoria.

[dicecast]

I think just a universal goods rule regarding any art “Just because something makes you uncomfortable doesn’t mean its bad”.   Both in the original trans context, but also in art context, a work might upset you but that doesn’t necessarily mean its bad

[afriendtokilltime]

Yes! But I think it’s also important to emphasize that you’re not wrong for feeling uncomfortable. And it’s okay if the fact you’re uncomfortable means you need to leave. The art isn’t bad just because it’s upsetting to you, but also you are not bad for being unwilling to engage with upsetting art.

There’s art that’s upsetting because it’s making you rethink important things, or because it’s super sad and cathartic, but there’s also art that just happens to have hit your mental pressure points, and you’re allowed to simply turn it off.

I feel like part of the reason we fall into “BOW FROM SHE-RA MAKES ME FEEL BAD SO THEREFORE SHE-RA IS TRANSPHOBIC” is cause it feels like if there’s nothing wrong with Bow’s design then I’m the crazy one, and I’m obligated to figure that out and engage with it. But no, you are allowed to leave.

I also think there’s a certain level of discomfort a piece of art can cause that can make it maybe a little…bad. Like Boys Don’t Cry actively discouraged people from considering transition, and we can talk about that. But the art in the OP makes some people uncomfortable, while actively making others feel more comfortable and normalizing their experience–so it’s not about “the art’s not bad for making you uncomfortable” but also “it exists to make others more comfortable”.

[dysphoric-cersei]

sideblogs are hard

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

[smokeytoastyghosty]

Me: yep

Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress

Me : nope!

You didn’t have to draw a trans man with boobs sis, thanks for the dysphoria babeey

[trainwreckbisexual]

if u get dysphoric when u see a boob that’s understandable but its also your problem to deal with n u don’t get to shame other trans dudes for drawing people like them with visible breasts. as much as it sucks, most trans men do have non flat chests and it’s not a bad thing to draw trans men with breasts (unless ur sexualising them, or ur drawing a real life trans man who’s dysphoric about his chest).

also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.

anyways good post op

[maraeffect]

some trans men can’t bind for medical reasons. some don’t prefer to bind bc it’s uncomfortable, and hot, and sweaty!!! some trans men arent that bothered by chest dysphoria!

trans people are not required to attempt conformity to be valid in their identity. no one is required to try and “look cis”. that’s your own shit to deal with.

[eroticcannibal]

Thank you for drawing trans men who aren’t binding and who wear feminine clothes, OP, seeing trans people like myself really helps with my dysphoria

[transmxnfenris]

I can’t bind because of my severe asthma and pain in my ribs from fibromyalgia. So seeing trans men who aren’t binding really helps my crippling dysphoria. Thanks op (also disabled trans men aaaaaah! 💖)

[bleepblopbugs]

Also some trans men cant afford a binder, or are closeted, or itt isnt safe where they live to bind, binding isnt a necessity v

[xaira-gabvi]

Also trans men, just like cis men, are allowed to wear dresses.

[evilelitest2]

one of the things that I find remarkable about the trans community is that it is one of the most marginalized and mistreated communities in the world, and so many of the people within are like “You know what I want to focus my time and energy on?  Making other trans people feel shitty about them selves.”  

[dysphoric-cersei]

Oh, absolutely. There’s a strangely competitive edge to a lot of trans interactions. It happens with cis queer people too...sometimes? But with trans stuff, it’s hard, cause literally being around each other can cause feelings of secondhand dysphoria.

And yeah, that’s real, but you want to know what causes me secondhand dysphoria?

Yes. A cis man from a cartoon for 7 year old girls makes me cringe.

(Sidenote while I was getting an image for this post I found this gif of him dramatically removing a cumberbund and his formal shirt was also a bellyshirt like his casual/armor look? That was funny.)

I want to make it clear that it’s actually fine I feel this way. And it’s fine if i don’t want to watch She-Ra because for whatever reason Bow’s design pushes my buttons. But when it comes to She-Ra I think the whole internet got together and agreed that the animators should not alter their style in order to avoid making men in their late 20s uncomfortable.

Something can make you uncomfortable without it being something wrong.

Here, have another thing that makes my soul want to die!

"I’m cutting my hair short but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I’d like to wear a suit but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I want to transition but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.”

I think the amount of secondhand dysphoria/internalized shame/competition and latent aggression has to do with how there’s almost no popular image of us to...”aspire” to I guess? Especially trans men, which is the topic of this post (and which seems to have an incredibly nasty strain of infighting at least on tumblr but I know this is a whole community problem). So you know what you don’t wanna be, but what do you want to look like, and be perceived as? Your only model for that is a cis guy.

But I know what I don’t want to look like. I very, very definitely do not want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.

I think a lot of trans people are afraid of looking freakish and silly cause that’s the only image that exists.

And...the thing most likely to remind you of what you don’t want to look like is other trans people who don’t pass. I mean, that just makes sense. But it seems like a lot of people get this weird idea in their head of like...I’m the only “real trans tm”? I’m the way I see myself in my head (cis or cis-passing, etc), and these other trans people I see around me not passing, they’re clearly looking that way on purpose.

So yeah we individually and as a community need better strategies for dealing with secondhand dysphoria.

[dysphoric-cersei]

Dear designers on ravelry,

I super appreciate that you’re open to men expressing themselves with a variety of fashion choices, but when I go to the patterns tab and specifically click “male,” I am probably not looking for your cropped bralette.

Like the majority of patterns are written with women in mind, if I want a cropped bralette I can find that.

[dysphoric-cersei]

Tumblr: You know what you want to see? Really explicit trans headcanon smut from a blog you don’t follow.

Me: Um, actually, Tumblr, I’m not sure if...

Tumblr: Well here it is on your dash enjoy.

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

i love that i have to go to menswear to find a shirt a human being in the world would wear and then when i do it takes me .5 seconds to find it. I love that

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

me: i need a plain black t shirt

target women’s section: would you like to have a giant scoop neck that would definitely like completely show at least one of your boobs. would you, an adult woman, like to wear a crop top? would you like to look like a human piñata. BLACK? I think you mean jewel tones babey!

target men’s section: yeah sure. it’s the first thing you see as you walk into the shirt aisle. have a good one

[themadcapmathematician]

Women’s section: would you like a shirt made out of tissue paper that costs $34.99??

Men’s section: here’s 25 normal tshirts for a quarter

[dare-to-dm]

Women’s Section: Would you like to play fucking guessing games with our arbitrary sizing systems and style names?  Also, we added a bunch of fake pockets for your personal inconvenience!

Men’s Section: Here’s a bunch of pants organized by the exact inch length of your waist and legs.  With pockets that can hold more than just a credit card.

[sammit-janet]

Women’s Section:  Oh you want a plain tee-shirt?  Here you go, it’s completely see through so you either have to a) wear something else over it or b) let everyone see your bra!

Men’s Section:  Here’s an amazingly comfortable shirt that no one can see your undergarments through.  Have a nice day!

[gutter-adonis]

Women’s section: if you’re a nerd? I guess you wanna show titties and have glitter huh???

Men’s section: Here this has the hogwarts crest on it and it’s like five bucks

[ladylike-foxes]

I…I think the most universally loved, male-gendered human thing…is actually the clothes made+marketed+sold for them.

[evilelitest2]

@afriendtokilltime @randomshoes

[randomshoes]

But women don’t want pockets! Micheal Kors told us so!

[dysphoric-cersei]

Carrying things is for chumps right fellow women?

[dysphoric-cersei]

Me: There’s something so intriguing about his expression...

@dicecast: You mean, gay?

[ratatoskryggdrasil]

Elisabeth Ohlson Wallin

[plavoptice]

omg this is awesome

after Caravaggio’s The Incredulity of Saint Thomas