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[flyandfamousblackgirls]

Dawn Richard

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” – Mary Elizabeth Frye

Happy Pride 2019!

[meanplastic]

Me practicing this housewife thing for when I drop out of uni

[twerkcircus]

Hey so I just feel the need to add this. NEVER deep fry in a shallow pot. What happened here is this person put frozen fries in hot oil, and the hot oil will nearly double in size when you drop something cold in it. Then it overflows out of the pot and you have a grease fire. You should never have oil more than about a third of the way up the pot.

[antihelix]

Reblogging because even I didn’t officially know this.

[mainflopgirl]

it’s not “forcing diversity” the world is really like that

[louisironson]

In honor of Bohemian Rhapsody being released in theatres, here’s a compilation of Rami Malek acting his absolute heart out in the mid-2000s sitcom that didn’t deserve him

[glassgospels]

people with uteri are never gonna have a perfectly flat stomach. they’re always gonna have a little pouch, because that’s where we keep our bees.

[livebloggingmydescentintomadness]

once a month the moon angers the bees

[camwyn]

NOT THE BEES

[thedarkperidot]

Can parents stop acting like providing a child’s basic needs is something to be earned? So many kids grow up traumatised because they were made to feel guilty about the existence they never asked for

[offbrandginger]

Me, putting on an ugly outfit: this is okay because i’m gay

[ivori]

i saw the venom movie last sunday and i’m pretty sure this is how their relationship works

[thegaylists]

queer Asian musicians

Hayley Kiyoko - Japanese-American lesbian pop artist. She became a tumblr sensation when her MV “Girls like Girls” went viral on tumblr a few years back. She also coined the term twentygayteen and has been dubbed our lesbian jesus! Her first album “Expectations” was released earlier this year and its gaaaaay.

Sofya Wang - First generation Chinese-American lesbian pop artist. Her single “Boys Aside” was released in 2017, and several other singles were released this year. Her career is just kicking off, but I think we have a lot to look forward to!

Rina Sawayama - Japanese-British pansexual pop/contemporary R&B artist. She was born in Niigata, Japan and raised there until age 5. She came out by releasing the single “Cherry” and has said many of her songs are about women!

Thao Nyugen - Vietnamese-American indie/alt singer. She fronted the band Thao & the get down stay down and also collaborated with fellow lesbian artist Mirah to release music under Thao & Mirah. Give “With a girl like you” a listen.

Holland - First openly gay K-Pop Idol to debut! He’s 22 years old and his first song “Neverland” was released January 2018. He’s released a few more singles since and is huge with international fans.

MRSHLL - While Holland is the first openly gay K-Pop Idol, MRSHLL is the first openly gay Korean musician to ever begin his career in Korea. He’s a R&B artist and just released his first EP this year.

Poppy Ajudha - Queer British-Indian Soul/Jazz/Experimental artist. Her first EP “FEMME” was released this year and I can tell we have lots to look forward to from her.

Leo Kalyan - British-Pakistani dance/electronic singer who is gay & Muslim! He came out in his music video for “fucked up” and has released a few singles this year! He’s also just a very eloquent and inspiring guy.

Japanese Breakfast - The indie/experimental pop solo project of Michelle Zauner, a Jewish Korean-American queer/bi woman. She says she chose her name because she strongly identified with Japanese culture growing up, since it was the closest thing she could find in popular media that resembled Korean culture.

[thegaylists]

Mabel Ye - Queer illustrator & independent music artist. Her drawings are really cool and you can find her instagram here. Listen to her album “Songs for a girl + other things.”

Qiao Qiao - China’s first openly lesbian singer. She released her first (and only, as far as I can tell) single in 2006, titled “Ai Bu Fen” or “Love does not discriminate.” The only photo I could find of her was from a tv show she was a guest on “gay connections.”

Vardaan Arora - Indian born queer pop artist & advocate for more queer South Asian representation! He’s open about his mental health issues and has amazing music. Check out his latest single “What if.”

Secret Guyz - A 3 member J-Pop group comprised entirely of trans men. You can find their music on youtube!

Ki-Yo - Openly gay Japanese pop singer, composer, and lyricist. He came out in 2015 during Tokyo Rainbow Pride and was featured in the photography project “OUT IN JAPAN.”

Harisu - Transgender Korean pop singer, model, and actress. She is the Republic of Korea’s first transgender entertainer and in 2002 became the second person in Korea to legally change their gender. She identified as female from an early age and derived her stage name from the phrase “Hot Issue.”

Doris Muramatsu - Member of queer folk group “Girlyman.” Listen to everything they’ve ever made because it’s all amazing.

[somegaythoughts]

[swordmlm]

reblog if you:

ARE GAY

ARE POWERFUL

LOVE YOUR PARTNER

SUPPORT OUR TRANS BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND OUR AMAZING NONBINARY SIBLINGS

no one will ever know which one

[tiqueer-eye-deactivated20200204]

*psst… it’s all of them*

[zanimez]

this is ridiculously funny

[tomfooleryprime]

Tell someone, “I don’t think I’m cut out to be a trauma surgeon” and most people wouldn’t accuse you of being bad or selfish. Maybe you don’t like high pressure situations or holding someone’s life in your hands. Hell, maybe the sight of blood makes you queasy.

Don’t want to be a professional sports coach? Maybe you’re not good at exerting authority or motivating people. Couldn’t handle being a accountant? Maybe you’re bad at math or would lose your mind riding a desk all day. Think you’d hate free-climbing because you’re terrified of heights? You’re probably right.

For every profession, hobby, or pursuit you could name, there are a lot of people who lack the personalities to enjoy it. And that’s ok. And wouldn’t it be silly to try to convince someone to devote a large portion of their life to something that would clearly make them miserable?

Yet if someone says, “I don’t think I want to be a parent,” there are many out there who insist the speaker must be mistaken or will certainly change their mind. Either that or they’re some kind of defective, selfish deviant.

And the greatest irony is, whenever those people bend to societal pressure and do have kids, even when they never really wanted them, the result is often a resentful, miserable parent and at least one innocent child, a child who never agreed to participate in the experiment titled, “You’ll love kids when they’re you’re own! Just try it!“

[gayknight]

tips for having sex with trans mlm

Okay, since it seems this question pops up a lot from cis mlm who are interested in having a sexual relationship with trans men, I decided to compile a list of tips for approaching safe, enjoyable, non-dysphoria inducing sex. Sorry about the length:

1. Ask about terminology:

This is such an important first step and why I listed it first: if you don’t know what to call a partner’s body part–ask them! Don’t assume they’re totally fine with one thing or the other. Getting it wrong can be awkward at best, incredibly dysphoria inducing at worst (and a relationship ender right off the bat). Some guys like to call a part of themselves their “clit”, while others prefer to call the same part “dick/cock” or just “junk”. The best way to phrase this question is to make it neutral, something like “what terms do you use for your body parts?” rather than something like “what do you call your vagina?” which implies that one term is already more valid/”real” than another. Of course, this is after you’ve already established that sexual stuff is going to ensue–don’t make this your first message to the guy on a hook up app.

2. Ask about boundaries:

Especially if you are dealing with a dysphoric person, but also just in general, knowing which parts are okay to touch, which parts are 100% off limits, and which parts may have certain conditions for interacting with them is a must. Again, communication is very important. Maybe your guy really likes using his front hole, but butt stuff is off-limits. You never know until you ask, and maybe you have boundaries as well you want to go over.

This goes the other way too! Don’t just automatically assume something will make your partner dysphoric–it may very well be something they actually enjoy.

3. Don’t make assumptions about our bodies or preferred positions.

I’ve already said it multiple times already, but open communication rather than making assumptions is really key. I’ve seen many cis guys who have assumed that all trans men want to strictly bottom, and even a few who thought the exact opposite. The reality is that trans men have as much variety in sex preferences as anyone else–some bottom, some top, some are verse, some don’t enjoy penetrative sex at all. And for those of you wondering how a trans man could top, or worrying that it might be less enjoyable for either party than a cis man topping–don’t knock it till you try it. There are plenty of toys, strap-ons and other sex technology wonders that you have yet to explore, not to mention that many trans men do have flesh and blood penises that they are more than happy to use. 

4. If you use toys, strap-ons, and prosthetics:

Don’t assume everything is a “toy”. For some trans men, their prosthetic is a natural part of their anatomy, and it can be upsetting and disorienting to refer to it as a toy.

If shopping for toys or prosthetics, make sure it’s something your partner actually wants (again don’t assume!) and make sure your partner actually likes what you pick. I know it can seem nice or sexy to surprise your partner with a gift, but toys and prosthetics can be extremely personal, so whoever is using the product should have a say what it’ll be like. If you still want to go for the surprise element, think about giving them a gift certificate or an I.O.U. for a sex shop instead. Then you can make it a fun outing together.

5. Don’t ask them about surgeries, hormones, or their life “before”: 

This should be a no-brainer, but unfortunately too many guys make this mistake immediately upon meeting a trans person. Maybe you’re going into a very committed, long-term relationship with the guy. Maybe just a one night grindr hook up. Doesn’t matter. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will. Otherwise it’s none of your business.

6. Don’t bring up passing.

Really, the amount of guys that think they’re being helpful when they tell us how we “look so much more manly than other trans guys!” or how we’d “pass so much better if you just did x”. It’s obnoxious and upsetting. Trans people know a hell of a lot more about the intricacies of passing than whatever you think you do, and we don’t like back-handed compliments that come from comparing us to other trans people. You’re not winning any brownie points from these comments, they just make you seem ignorant and rude.

7. We are not an encyclopedia of trans knowledge.

If we’re on a dating website or app, we’re there for the same reason as you: to meet people for sex, romance, friendship, etc. We’re not there to answer questions that you have about trans people, especially when almost all of them are easy to answer on a cursory google search. We don’t want to be asked to help write your gender studies essay, or asked how we feel about [insert trans celebrity]. Really, just don’t do this. It’s an immediate block for most people.

8. Don’t tell us we’re brave.

Kinda on the same note as the last one, don’t tell us “we’re so brave” for existing or that you’re “proud” or even about the trans sibling cousin roommate friend neighbor teacher etc that you have. We don’t need cringe-y condescension when we’re trying to hook up. And c’mon, you should know this already from when straight people tell you this.

9. We’re not your experiment.

Don’t have sex with us just because you want to “experiment” with having sex with a trans person, and especially not because you see us as some kind of stepping stone to having sex with “real” men.

10. Don’t assume we all think the same.

Again, should be obvious, but it unfortunately isn’t. Just because you dated a trans man in the past that was comfortable with x, doesn’t mean your new partner feels the same way. We aren’t a hivemind. Trans people are individuals with varied experiences, pasts, preferences, and levels of dysphoria. Follow all the above steps again every time you engage with a new partner.

11. You won’t always know you’re having sex with a trans person. And that’s okay.

Yes, you read that right. This is something that actually happens. Some trans men are “stealth”, meaning that they live their lives with little to zero people aware that they are trans. This doesn’t mean they’re trying to “trick” you, and this doesn’t make them a bad person. Many trans people do this for a variety of reasons, such as safety and their own comfort–some guys just think of being trans as part of their medical history, and not worth mentioning. Regardless of reasons, it is an incredibly personal decision. Don’t be offended if a trans man chooses not to come out to you. He has his reasons, and you should respect that.

12. Have fun with it.

Seriously, this may seem like a terribly long list of responsibilities, but almost all of these are things you should be doing with any partner. And once you’ve got them down, they become surprisingly more natural than you’d think. Remember that you’re doing this because you want to share an enjoyable experience with another person. And yeah, you might occasionally slip up, but we know that, and it’s usually pretty obvious when you’re trying. So relax and have fun.

If any other trans mlm have something to add, feel free to contribute.

ok for cis people to reblog! (please do)

[kidrat]

have some fucking tips for androgynous presentation that mixes femme and masc styles and isn’t just ‘be afab and wear trousers from the men’s section’

recently I wore some of those trousers with the wide non form fitting legs   and added small heeled boots. 10/10 would recommend I felt very high fashion. looked masc but was making the femme click clack heel sound.

basic loungy outfits can be made 100% more queer by adding colour. srsly jeans with a nice tshirt is queer as fuck if the jeans are orange.

wearing the femmest outfit possible, long skirt, cute blouse, etc. becomes a power move when you do so without a single shred of makeup. bonus if your hair is short. bonus if it’s not a pixie. bonus if your shoes are stompy

find all your Statement Pieces. wear them together. voila.

we all know about suspenders. now put them where they don’t belong. attach them to skirts. attach them to your trousers but leave them hanging

literally just wear stuff you think looks rad because if you enjoy both masculine and feminine clothing styles it naturally follows the stuff you think looks rad together will end up being genderfuck

embrace alternative fashion/weird charity shop finds/vintage/stuff that breaks fashion rules even if its ‘technically’ femme/masc. part of fitting into gender roles is wearing mainstream and current femme/masc clothes because gender roles and their associated accepted dress are always shifting so anything that differs from that is automatically subversive.

billowy shirts. undo them as much as you’re comfortable with. somewhat obvious but the howl’s moving castle vibes are v strong. am I a femme arts student or a dashing masc pirate type? who knows. 

floral patterns feel a billion times more masc if the colours are bold. 

personally after I stopped wearing makeup I felt I lot more able to just be like huh. that’s my face. and feel kinda triumphant  in the ugly parts of it and just be unabashedly weird. and if that’s not genderfuck idk what is. same w not shaving my legs tbh. I enjoy just existing.

that said if you do like makeup, using just (just. no foundation or shit) eyeshadow or just lipstick? also a power move. 

If you go for the classic dapper style of androgynous presentation but want something closer to androgynous than just weird masc, try adding a soft girly jumper to your manly trousers and etc.

adding an emphasis to your natural waist to a masc outfit (with a belt or something) is a good way to feminise it and vice versa with emphasising a dropped waist in a femme outfit to bring attention away from your smaller natural one (again with a belt or maybe low waisted trousers)

long coats are very good I feel my most formless and inexplicable when my outer layer goes straight past my knees.

obviously all this is gonna be slightly biased to my agab/personal style/body type/etc. but yeah. there’s my tips and hopefully none of them are weirdly unachievable or equate androgyny with masculinity 

[northernwinedregs]

Hi brain, you obstinate fucker. I drank the clear splashy stuff. I ate the green things. I went under that bright fucker up there. I did the thing with the moving and sweating and whatnot. Now make the happy chemical, you lump of fuck.

[hamster-run-faster]

did you do the thing with lying unconscious for 8 hours