I know this is a small thing to complain about, but like..
It really gets under my skin, when people with functioning uteruses, go "Oh, you're so lucky you don't have to deal with periods, haha!"
I get it. I get that periods suck, that they're painful and messy and inconvenient and put you in a bad mood. I get, from that perspective, why I'm "lucky" to not have periods.
But it's so immensely isolating and, dare I say, dysphoria inducing, when people bond over their periods in front of you, when they're talked about by cis women as this divine universal feminine aspect, or by (usually perisex lets be honest) people with functioning uteruses generally as at least a bonding experience, a shared struggle to laugh and chat about, something that binds people like them together that you'll never be part of.
Which is petty jealousy, I know, which is why I never say anything, when people discuss their periods around me, because I know that's my problem to handle.
But it's also a matter of safety, isn't it? When the shared struggle or ~divine blessing~ or however it's framed is used to signify an in-group, especially when it comes to, say, terfy pericis women, then admitting you don't have a period, is like admitting you're other, a different kind of woman from them, one outside of their circle.
Even more dangerous is admitting it to doctors. Every time they ask, when was your last period, and every time I have to stammer through, I don't have those. Every time there's that look, that shock, disgust, judgment, horror, they wrinkle their nose, they become snippier afterward, take you less seriously.
Which is best case scenario. Worst case scenario the doc decides you're suicidal and keeps you er boarded for three days surrounded by lights and noise until you're having a sensory overload constantly sobbing and begging anyone to talk to you while getting brushed off by one person after the other until your will is so broken you let them drag you to the mental hospital because you don't know if trying to fight the- blatantly unnecessary- court order will lose you your spot in line for transfer and another three days in the er would ruin you. All because a doctor had a transmisogynistic/intersexist bone to pick with you.
All of which is to say; being a woman who doesn't have periods isn't actually fun or lucky! I get, that a lot of people would rather not have periods, I get that periods are a source of annoyance for most and a source of great suffering for some.
But being a woman without them can be dysphoric at best and dangerous at worst, so when people hear I don't have one and gush about how lucky I am, it can be a liiitttllee bit frustrating!
