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Your relationship should be your place of peace. It should be the place where all armor comes off, egos are humbled, and transparency reigns supreme.
Friendly reminder: when people say ‘as long as you tried your best’ it doesn’t mean ‘the best you could possibly have done ever’ it means ‘the best you were capable of at the time.’ Sometimes ‘trying your best’ is just getting out of bed in the morning. Just because you weren’t working yourself to the bone doesn’t mean you weren’t trying your best.
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this year:
you will find someone that feels like home
you will learn how to love yourself more
you will heal from things that make you sad or anxious
you will reach goals that seem scary and unrealistic to you right now
you will see life in a much softer or warmer light
you will look back on the last day of 2019 and feel very proud of yourself
The most ridiculous complaints that customers have made to me
“One of your cashiers has a huge zit on her cheek. It was gross looking and I lost my appetite. She should have popped it before she came in this morning.”
“The cashier over there was counting money. As a joke, my ten-year-old started shouting random numbers. The cashier made an angry face and now my son is upset. He has no right to get angry at a little kid who doesn’t know any better.”
“Cashiers shouldn’t be drinking water bottles while on the clock. What if they put vodka in there?”
“One of your employees has way too many tattoos and does her makeup way too dark. I don’t like her funky colored hair either. It’s trashy and unprofessional. I won’t be shopping here anymore.”
“If the pregnant girl wanted to have relations out of wedlock, that’s up to her, but she should be wearing a fake wedding band while she’s working. I don’t want my children to think that premarital sex is okay.”
“Some of your cigarettes are marked as ”$1 off". You shouldn’t sell them. They condone smoking.“
“I was told I couldn’t bring my 15-year-old son into the liquor section. It wasn’t like I was buying booze for him!”
“The cashier farted silently while she was ringing me up. It smelled horrible.”
“You shouldn’t allow people to bring their service dogs in the store. I don’t like dogs. They make me uncomfortable.”
“You really shouldn’t let your employees go home in the middle of a rush.”
“I let my son eat a banana while I was shopping. I told the cashier. She said that bananas go by weight and she can’t ring them up without the actual product. She told me it was fine and just to remember for the next time, but I know she didn’t mean it so I felt obligated to run all the way back to the produce department and grab another one so that she could charge me.”
“There are way too many foreigners working here. You should be more concerned about making sure Americans are employed.”
“You should build a separate bathroom for employees.”
“I pulled into a handicap spot. One of your cart pushers told me I had to move. I may not be handicapped but I have had a very long day and I don’t have the energy to walk across the entire parking lot.”
“Not hiring my son because of his age is discrimination. I got him his working papers on his 14th birthday last week. That should be enough.”
“Cashiers shouldn’t let customers bag their own purchases under any circumstances.”
Here’s another Hot Take™: if doctors are going to default assume anyone who brings up the subject of pain meds or expresses ongoing pain is “drug seeking” or an addict, they are already going into their diagnosis not believing their patient, and specifically not believing that their patient is either as in pain as they say or in pain at all. You can’t deny that, its a reality. This assumption already puts them in a position of seeing the patient as a liar, as antagonistic to their goals, and as someone who needs to have decisions made for them apart from what they feel is correct
When you consider that doctors are willing to prescribe pain medication in abundance to people who have temporary physical issues like surgery aftercare, the dissmissive way people who self-report pain or have ongoing pain are treated becomes glaringly obvious
My dad is a heavily tattooed man. Like, arms, legs, fingers, neck. He’s heavily tattooed because he’s a tattoo artist.
Around late 2010 he realized something was wrong with his shoulder, or at least that’s when I remember him first making mention of it. Nothing serious, it was just sore a lot. Tattooing didn’t help it but it didn’t seem to be hurting it and he had three kids to feed and he loved making art. Fast forward to 2014-15-ish, my dad’s pain is getting to be too much. He’s taking extended days off of work, he’s spending days in bed because it’s the only thing that makes the pain lessen. He’s seen doctors, but they’re skeptical, especially up here where the opioid crisis is hitting hard. They see a man covered in tattoos with a big beard and take a wild guess what they think of him.
My dad’s pain gets so bad he has to stop tattooing all together. He had to close the business he raised from nothing because he couldn’t afford to keep his tattoo shop open anymore.
(Which is a shame all in of itself because it was genuinely the only 100% clean and safe shop WITH decent artists in the area, most others are, owned by people who stole from my dads shop, a pair of awful parents, skinheads, people who’ve attempted to murder their girlfriends twice, etc. but I digress.)
My dad goes back to school, keeps seeing doctors. They send him to physical therapy, the physical therapist actually makes it worse. They tell him to rest, put heat on it, that does nothing. They essentially do everything in their power to avoid giving him any real help to avoid prescribing him any sort of pain medication.
Fast forward 2016, my dad’s family moves downstate. They’re living in a college town with a lot better doctors than we have up here. The doctor he sees immediately send him to a chiropractor. The chiropractor tells my dad his shoulder and neck look worse than any car crash victim he’s ever treated. He had a disk in his neck that was pinching a shoulder nerve because of the way he’d been holding his tattoo gun for years and years and years. He’s had at least three epidurals and is on mild pain meds now and he’s been recovering kind of bumpy and slow, but well. All because a doctor took his pain seriously.
That said though, because of the years of mistreatment, my dad is nowhere the artist he used to be. He used to teach colored pencil drawing seminars at tattoo conventions because he was absolutely amazing at blending Prismacolor pencils in an incredibly smooth way. He cannot do that anymore. He might be healing, but he will never be able to apply that same pressure to the pencil again.
Doctors can be horribly biased people and it’s downright unethical the way they dismiss people with serious pain issues just because they think they might be looking for drugs.
Okay, but this is an excellent method to use when anyone is being inappropriate. Pretend that you don’t get it. Whether the comment is sexist, racist, sexual, misogynistic, inappropriate, off-color… watching them squirm as they try to explain and realize just how awful their comment was it is better than being angry about it.
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His name is Onur Albayrak! Here’s the story.
Hurriyet Daily News reports that Albayrak had been hired to photograph the July 5th wedding at Turgut Özal Nature Park in the eastern Turkish province of Malatya. On the day of, when he noticed that the bride-to-be didn’t look like an adult, he asked the groom her age and learned that she was only 15.
“The groom had come to my studio some two weeks ago and was alone,” Albayrak tells the Daily News. “I saw the bride for the first time at the wedding. She’s a child, and I felt her fear because she was trembling.”
Albayrak then reportedly refused to continue as the wedding photographer and attempted to stop the wedding.
The argument soon turned physical when the groom attacked him as he was attempting to leave, Albayrak says. The photographer ended up breaking the client’s nose in the fight, according to local reports.
Albayrak confirmed the reports in a Facebook post, which has been met with widespread approval, attracting thousands of Likes and hundreds of overwhelmingly positive comments.
“I wish this had never happened, but it did,” Albayrak writes. “And if you were to ask me if I’d do the same thing again, I’d say ‘yes.’ Child brides are [victims] of child abuse and no power on earth can make me photograph a child in a wedding gown.”
The legal minimum age for marriage in Turkey is 18-years-old for both sexes, and child marriage is punishable by imprisonment for men who marry underage girls. Despite being outlawed, however, child marriage is still prevalent in the country and remains a controversial political issue.
[Source] – go read the rest!
this guy is a hero.
btw - let’s remind ourselves, americans, that unlike turkey, in the US the legal minimum age for marriage is only 18 in two states. in alabama, you can be married as young as fourteen years old if you have “parental permission”. in california, you can get married under 18 if you go to counseling, have a parent with you when you apply for the marriage license, and appear before a judge. in some states, there isn’t even a specific minimum age for marriage.
the minimum marriage age for girls in new hampshire is 13 years old.
48 states allow child marriage.
child marriage is not an “over there” problem, it happens right here, legally. any one of us might find ourselves called upon to break somebody’s nose if we encounter something like this occurring. we also have a responsibility to support groups and laws trying to end child marriage in this country.
Millennial culture is having two wildly different conversations with the same person on two different apps at the exact same time
Snapchat: please watch me have a mental breakdown
Tumblr: lmfao check out this funny ass post!!!
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ppl who say they’re “brutally honest” are more interested in the brutality than the honesty
Where is your compassionate honesty?
REMINDER: it only takes one second to say:
- i love you.
- i apologize.
- can we talk?
- you were right.
- i am sorry.
stop letting your pride & ego hold you hostage from the happiness in life.
there is no medical component to a trans kid transitioning
if a little trans boy comes out to his parents & is like 4 all youd do for his transition is cut his hair, buy a new wardrobe, & switch pronouns & possibly change names
no one is gonna put a little 4 year old on testosterone OR puberty blockers until theyre actually about to start puberty & then they give them a few years to really decide if they want to start hormones
a trans kid existing isnt “child abuse.” child abuse is refusing to let your kid live their lives as they truly are & forcing them to present as a gender they arent
radfems who interact with this post will be blocked & your argument will not be read or even considered. i do not care about the opinion of a transphobe & my original post still stands.
Cute Breakfast Cat Facts
Whenever I get out of the shower, Hash Brown jumps onto the counter and waits. I lean down and make a kissy face, and she headbutts my mouth. After she gets her kiss she leaves.
Eggs Benedict stands on his hind legs and kneads my thighs anytime I’m cooking. I wear fishnets and lace tights a lot and he frequently ends up stuck.
Hash Brown is so soft that she’s actually slippery. That’s why every photo of her sitting on the top of the sofa is of her trying not to slide off, like this:
French Toast is so love with my husband that when he’s on business trips she will circle the hallway and meow mournfully for hours. Nothing I do can console her until he returns.
Eggs loves having his tummy rubbed, but only if you use your foot. No hands allowed. He’s very serious about this rule.
Hash Brown likes finding hair ties and dropping them into her water bowl. If her water bowl already has a hair tie in it, she’ll store any additional hair ties under the bathroom scale. One time we found 7 of them under there.
Eggs Benedict and French Toast often synchronize poses.
This has been Breakfast Cat Facts! I hope they made your day a little better.