I donât masturbate to Japanese cartoons or bend over backwards to excuse rape either, so I donât know what youâre talking about.Â
I wonât play your game, although I certainly could. Instead maybe if I quote my friend who put this in different words than I did, maybe youâll finally understand whatâs being talked about here because whatever youâre hearing isnât it.
Ignoring the fact that withholding sex can be a manipulation tactic sends off huge red flags to me, especially since itâs just a different version of withholding desires/necessities, and are used to alter behavior
Refusing to fuck your partner because you didnât like something they do/think, until they âcorrectâ that behavior to fit your own views? Very much an abuse tactic. Like I can understand not wanting to have sex, but there is a huge difference between that, and âyou get sex when you learn to behave"Â
Dog behave - dog get treat. Dog donât behave - dog get no treat. Itâs very similar to me at the most base lever at least.  Â
I have no issue with using reward and withhold tactics to train dogs and to teach children good behavior. I implement it in as many of my pracs lessons as I can. But thereâs a difference between wanting to improve good behavior /discourage bad behavior, and forcing your own views onto someone through abuse tactics. Theyâre also overlooking that this tactic never goes alone. Itâs usually part of an already toxic relationshipÂ
Not wanting sex isnât the same as deliberately withholding it from someone with the goal to have them reform their behavior to suit your own abusive views/needs
No one owes anyone sex for any reason, but itâs also healthy to look into the motives behind certain behaviors. Someone in an abusive relationship might not be able to recognize this as an abuse tactic, which is extremely bad
And I mean, as example - someone can give someone candy or a gift, and you can argue that itâs âgoodâ or kind or whatever of them, but if no one knows that their motives behind it are sinister (luring a child for example, attempting to gain trust from someone in order to manipulate them and such), thereâs a huge danger in viewing actions as separate from the person and their intentions.
Does that help or are you gonna be deliberately obtuse here too?