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Preparing for Inktober 2017?
I am too! And to get inspired, I have put together 8x Inktober prompt lists, to help us create something really cohesive and cool this October
Prompt lists:
- Post Apocalyptic Wanderers
- Anthropomorphic People
- A Steampunk Adventure
- Space Travellers
- Super People
- Characters for a fairytale
- Characters for an urban fantasy
- Characters of the Forest
Enjoy and share!
@vanhelm i will if you will
(i know this is funny in regard to my last post. it’s unrelated tho)
i’m leaving.
blog stays up.
i’m not on it anymore.
for info/follow up for another possible blog, my messages are open. mutuals automatically gets a pass.
no need to keep following tho. this is a definite hiatus as i think it now.
why: trauma built, trauma heavy, trauma related. not rejecting my trauma. but too many stuff here in ways that only i know so are annoying and painful to be around.
also, fresh start by social “suicide” > real suicide. pushbacks.
whatever i do next won’t be as impersonal political smtg smtg idk.
oh contact with discord works too.
bye
im still broken but just passing by to say if you liked the twist of su. scumfuck. you need to go. and never come back.
Just like Slughorn, Albus Dumbledore collects people. Only, instead of focusing on those with influence, he looks to the outcasts.
The expelled half-giant. The young werewolf. The repentant Death Eater.
He protects them and gives them a second chance. All he asks in return is their loyalty.
And, if on occasion he requests that they undertake a certain task, invoking their debt of gratitude - well, that is no more than he is owed.
He once thought to add a certain disowned Black to his collection, but quickly realised his mistake.
Sirius is not an outcast, but a rebel. He knowingly chose his path, and chooses what price he is willing to pay for it. He refuses to be used.
So Albus Dumbledore abandons him.
Who gave you the RIGHT?
Dumbledore knows Sirius’s loyalty lies with Harry instead of him, and he has no use for someone who is not willing to follow his orders without question.
Ooooohoo if there’s ever a post that fits my aesthetic…
okay but then where does Harry himself fit into this collection? Is he an outcast because he is “the Boy Who Lived”?
Nooonono, my friend, that’s what makes this post so beautiful. Because it fits the meta I’ve been trying to get people to accept for years.
Harry was an outcast due to a childhood filled with abuse and neglect.
Vernon made him an outcast by dismissing his claims of magic, berating him, locking him in a CLOSET and putting bars on his window, and let’s face it, even though her editor made her cut it out, Jo intended for there to be physical abuse.
Petunia made him an outcast by enabling and contributing to this abuse, as well as making Harry do dozens of chores while doting on Dudley.
Dudley made him an outcast by bullying him and threatening any students at school who wanted to be his friends.
And the rest of the wizarding world made him an outcast when they bullied him for being an outsider.
Harry James Potter became an outcast the moment he was placed with The Dursleys.
And who put him there in the first place?
Harry isn’t an outcast because no one likes him. He’s an outcast because the Dursleys made it so he can’t recognize when they do.
Which is why Dumbledore is so careful to make sure he makes Harry feel listened to and special but only every now and then. Because when you’ve never felt that way the first person who you consider a superior that makes you feel that way gets your blind loyalty. When they dole it out sparingly you’ll do ANYTHING to get it again.
The older and wiser I get, the more Dumbledore seems like the darkest villain in the series.
i wish i was a retard attention seeker liar sadist manipulator comedian moralizer loveless empathyless retard
mostly just a retard. i wish wish wish so bad i was stupid braindead idiot retarded. i wouldnt be who i am and iwouldnt kno anything iwouldnt be anyone i thard be so easy no guilty nothing
i wish i dudnt carz didnt ger abgry didnt love so much didnt knw anything didnt think evrything thru ro fund thd bad thingS i wush i had no soul no conscience and that my hed would explose because it's so full of knowledge that's nonsense to qnybody but mz adn annoying and scary and repulsibe
i wisy i wqs a retard. that'd beso rasy. that i was a beast or a montzr who manipulates and pretbeds. id not havetp taf vents, ofmr read aboutq, or doubleteiple check things before i like them and care and share. i want to be dead all the time. it'd be xool if i wasnt born. i cant have hat but i dn't have a sexure way of suicide that wouldnt fail and Ouldnt mke me vulnerable
noruing helpq. it's alAys just a lie or a disteaction. and i play thz fool along but i know it'q bot ture and it comes baxl nd gawlightinf muself is not jelpful
i want out. if i died it'd destroy my litle babu sister i dont want thatand i.dont want a pubisjment iwant out deletd smtg like that ireally wish so wa ms a ronot computer maxhine uou know that wowuld mean i xan just disppear. erase all files. firgottzn. im not qxared of deth safe for the animalist part wjere u get adrenalineanf kick back but i know when i decide.it tjat.wont stop em.
the world is a.beaurfisul place and humans arent bad i dont want ppl to judgz mu peefs who share traites wuth me to tbe more srigmatized because.of.me.tjis is stupid this is a.stjppud concern to.jave in a a letter like this vent idont know iddk
himns arent bad it's éducation itq just sbad education comzq by a lot easuer because duh being a bad.perqo.n who cares bout nothingind is willfuslly ignorance is easier aaay lurent im thinkig of yuo dddy lol i wish uo'd die forst thp in a lot of pain.
im. frustrated but worse. i really wnt out. there'q no getting better. im always like that. im just running ahed faster by getting angry passionatz about other things cuz this instnct is easyto follow impulsibely vut it tires.me. but im alAys like that. my thoughts ont lusten imve hve no co trol over images nd not oncentration i just deown mysel f in distractio. and either wys im dying. i cant care.but i do uyurg this is stumid stupid bs. nobody carseqs.
but i dont mind. cuz i dont either. bout me seen smh or nother.
oh there's.a.tag limit.ag.thirty i reached.it.yeeey
can’t my serotonin levels just regulate their fucking selves. grow up
“So you’re just gonna cancel and unfollow everyone who supports Trump?”
Me:
If you are a friend to someone who supports trump
May is Mental Health Month, so I’m expecting my shipment of mental health to show up in the mail shortly. Thanks.
destroy the idea that bunk beds are just for kids
especially the sort where the lower bunk is actually a desk or a couch
i mean
come on
tell me you don’t want one of these
i need it
I have always thought about this
When I get my studio apartment I’ll have one for sure
human brain: beds go on the floor
monkey brain: SAFER UP TREE
Have you ever tried to climb down a ladder in the middle of the night or drunk? Also sex in a bunk bed? No thanks. Keep it.
I’m too fat to feel safe all the way up there.
i've got +10 yrs mezzanine experience, i'll be just fine.
it seems like it’s normal to follow several hundred blogs on here?? why do you guys hate yourselves so much i follow 68 blogs and it’s a lot sometimes
y’all out here trying to kill me
reblog this and write in the tags how many blogs you follow to make me cry
last time i checked, it was around 500.
hhhh i love my girlfriend
fat girls are hella pretty reblog if you agree
Brilliant!
This is how you parent. By trusting your kids and being there for them and not turning thier home into a prison
What's wrong with Gandhi?
Where do I begin?
- Criticized the Jews for defending themselves against the Holocaust because he insisted that they should have committed public mass suicide in order to “shame” the Germans instead of fighting back. His exact words were, “But the Jews should have offered themselves to the butcher’s knife. They should have thrown themselves into the sea from the cliffs. As it is, they succumbed anyway in their millions.”
- Wrote an open letter to the British people in 1940 telling them to surrender to the Axis even if it mean accepting genocide.
- Was very anti-black. I hope you can stomach reading how he treated black people in South Africa. It’s fucking disgusting.
- Refused his wife life-saving medication (for religious reasons), but those religious reasons all of a sudden no longer applied to him when he was in a similar position.
- Refused to have sex with his wife for the last 38 years of their marriage. He felt that in order to test his commitment to celibacy, he would have beautiful young women (including his own great niece) lie next to him naked through the night. His wife, whom he described as looking like a “meek cow” was no longer desirable enough to be a solid test.
- Believed that Indian women who were raped lost their value as a human.
- During his time as a dissident in South Africa, he discovered that a young male was harassing two of his female followers. He responded by cutting the girls’ hair off to ensure the “sinner’s eye” was “sterilized.” He later boasted about the incident in his writings, pushing the message to all Indians that women should carry responsibility for sexual attacks upon them.
- Argued that fathers could be justified in killing daughters who had been sexually assaulted for the sake of family and community honor.
- Believed that menstruation was a manifestation of the distortion of a woman’s soul by her sexuality.
- Waged a war against contraceptives, labeling Indian women who used them as whores.
- Held the attitude that women were simply creatures that could bring either pride or shame to the men who own them.
Sources:
Websites: Women Suffer From Gandhi’s Legacy, People who most likely chose Gandhi as a historical figure to do a report on and immediately regretted it, On Mahatma Gandhi, his pathetic racism and advancement of segregation of black people by Sentletse Diakanyo, Not All Peaceful: 13 Racist Quotes Gandhi Said About Black People by Nick Chiles
Books: Sex and Power by Rita Banerji, On Pacifism by Derrick Jensen, The Collected Works of Mahatma Gandhi
Gandhi was a piece of shit and I hate when people site him as this peaceful angelic type of dude..
just seen a twitter thread saying if you call someone a narcissist you’re forcing a PD diagnosis on them. incredible takes this morning
the term predates the name of the disorder… the name is informed by the term used to describe non-pathologized traits forever… like go tell that greek twink who stared at his reflection until he died that he’s problematic
…. do you have a pd ? if not, please shut up. and even if you do, kind of shut up, too. cuz you prolly dont have npd to say shit like that. and if you do im worrying about you.
now, we all know that freud is bs right ? we all know that oedipe’s complex is bs, right. but we also know oedipe isn’t that, right. it’s not about incest and cgl. yet oedipe has become a loaded word, right ? and it’s going to stay as such. you’ll say “oedipus” and ppl will think “freud” and its modern meaning.
anyway, yeah, when you call someone narcissist n you’re implying they’re bad, or abusive by that ? that’s ableist and gross. and hurts ppl with npd; just like calling someone ps*cho is not okay. and thing is, i can’t remember the last time i saw someone call someone else a narcissist meaning someone else than “you’re a bad person”.
works with borderline, too. it has it’s own meaning. but you don’t want to call someone borderline to callout out a flaw.
yes “narcissist” used to mean smtg else. but now it’s loaded. you see ppl calling trump a narcissist ? you want to tell me they’re just using the “loves himself” meaning ? when the next moment they call him crazy ?
like. just don’t use the fucking word. you dont understand why it’s stigmatized ? okay, i guess, too bad. but as someone with pd’s ? i’m telling you you’re hurting me when you’re freaking calling ppl that as an insult or flaw. like it or not, the word have history.
the whole fucking reason we even know so much about narcissus is because of the psychanalytical meaning.
just use another word. say “selfish”, say “egoistical”, “self-centered”, “braggart”, “spoiled”, “self-aggrandizer”. or if you mean something positive by that ? say uuuh idk ??? “self-loving person” ???????
and, that might just be my browser, but when i google “narcissist”
i find this.
There are people in the notes saying “but what about avoidant and obsessive”. But are those words used to label people as monsters? No they’re not…(continued)
And if you have a pd that isn’t npd? Guess what? We don’t get an opinion, because we don’t have npd. Npd is more stigmatized than many of them; yes this includes bpd.
People know they’re doing when they say narcissist. They know it’s a pathological term. They think having symptoms of self-focus and low empathy automatically make someone abusive. Yes this often includes people talking about “narcissistic abuse” too.
Yeah like elitigre said, people are diagnosing trump with npd and saying that’s why he’s so bad, not because he’s a facist. That he’s unfit for presidency because he must have npd. That there can just be no other explanation (privilege) for his shittiness.
When people make articles on “how to spot a narcissist”, they’re saying “how to spot someone with npd”, not “how to spot someone who’s being an asshole”.
Narcissisticabuse is a blog about ending npd stigma that explains things like this.
gorsh thanks you!!
also, you made me realize, with that bit about self focus and low empathy. a lot of ppl, including myself, with npd also are autistic. im thinking it's linked but not inherently so, but it still is an issue to see those traits demonized if only because they touch a lot of ppl that dont have pd, even if that point strays some from this post's. because holy shit the amount of autistic people i saw getting called narcissists despite not having npd, for being autistic. there's rotten intersectionality here.
Have any of your friendships ever ended because you were always the first one to talk to someone and one day you stopped to see if they would talk to you first and they never did so you just stopped talking to each other?
Hey so I see this post a lot on my dash, and so I’m gonna take this moment to say something about it. When you are always the one initiating contact or hangouts with your friends, then it sets up a certain expected dynamic between the two of you. And so when you stop contacting them, they may be so used to you being the one who reaches out that when you don’t, they’ll assume it’s just because you’re busy. Or because you no longer want to hang out with /them/. So instead of just cutting off contact, talk to your friends. Let them know that you feel like you’re the one always making plans. You’ll be surprised at the number of them willing to make a change to help you feel more appreciated and loved. People can’t read minds. If you don’t tell them what you need or how you feel, then they’ll never know.
nah. these people are bad friends for deciding it’s on the other to keep taking initiatives and deresponsibilizes themselves when they’re being parasites. they cant read minds but they dont even try to talk to the other. that’s à toxic relationship reducing the other to a position of carer and textbook emotional neglect. so fuck you lol. this kind of shit is what ppl with dependency issues have to deal with all the time, thinking it’s up to them to do all the emotional labour while the asshole is served easy satisfaction. ever looked at how fuckbois bf treat their girl, or your own mother, waiting for her to initiate contact and say “i love you” without getting one back ? yeah. same shit, only you deem it acceptable in a friendship. that’s disgusting. a relationship between two equals of any nature is and gotta be 50/50 on the regular.
grow up and get over yourselves when someone calls out your lazy asses. and idgaf bout ur anxieties, u can bet ur ass ur friend who’s always the one reaching out gotta deal with it too.
I mean, definitely say /some/thing about it first in case it was just a complacency problem, but after that it’s all on them
true too. there is importance in not worrying the other for nothing if possible. it happens my two most beloved buddies have bpd, and my wondrous gf, anxiety. i got both. not to say they don't, just giving my own perspective.
i know i've scared them with disappearing sometimes, if only cuz anxiety and bpd, with lack of objective memory, have this issue of making u think ppl u dont have contact with often are d e a d. that or they hate u or forgot u. so that can play. we all need to warn each others and all, yknow, but at the same time, it's still an exchange because we talk and ask the other and explain afterwards if needed. and my hiatus got told to happen, when i knew bout the issue. but they also knew to not just. neglect me.
but if they were to, even accidentally, because i'm bound to burn out at times due to my issues, i'd feel used and hhh dont like that. that'd quickly lapse into a viscious circle, from experience. but even a small hey would remedy to that.
not to say balance is easy. but u gotta t r y. intent regardless of results is key.
Have any of your friendships ever ended because you were always the first one to talk to someone and one day you stopped to see if they would talk to you first and they never did so you just stopped talking to each other?
Hey so I see this post a lot on my dash, and so I’m gonna take this moment to say something about it. When you are always the one initiating contact or hangouts with your friends, then it sets up a certain expected dynamic between the two of you. And so when you stop contacting them, they may be so used to you being the one who reaches out that when you don’t, they’ll assume it’s just because you’re busy. Or because you no longer want to hang out with /them/. So instead of just cutting off contact, talk to your friends. Let them know that you feel like you’re the one always making plans. You’ll be surprised at the number of them willing to make a change to help you feel more appreciated and loved. People can’t read minds. If you don’t tell them what you need or how you feel, then they’ll never know.
nah. these people are bad friends for deciding it’s on the other to keep taking initiatives and deresponsibilizes themselves when they’re being parasites. they cant read minds but they dont even try to talk to the other. that’s à toxic relationship reducing the other to a position of carer and textbook emotional neglect. so fuck you lol. this kind of shit is what ppl with dependency issues have to deal with all the time, thinking it’s up to them to do all the emotional labour while the asshole is served easy satisfaction. ever looked at how fuckbois bf treat their girl, or your own mother, waiting for her to initiate contact and say “i love you” without getting one back ? yeah. same shit, only you deem it acceptable in a friendship. that’s disgusting. a relationship between two equals of any nature is and gotta be 50/50 on the regular.
grow up and get over yourselves when someone calls out your lazy asses. and idgaf bout ur anxieties, u can bet ur ass ur friend who’s always the one reaching out gotta deal with it too.
@elitigre thank you for the counter argument cuz I didn’t have the spoons to fully say all of what you said against the second response.
I sort of agree with them but I do think that it minimizes the responsibility on the other side of the relationship between friends and ends up making it seem like the one reaching out always has to do the emotional labor (WHEN THAT PERSON CAN ALREADY BE BUSY DEALING WITH THEIR OWN PROBLEMS EMOTIONALLY). It’s also pretty sad how the second commentator assumes that the person being reached out to apparently doesn’t know their own friend well enough to notice when their friend is exhausted or is hesitant to say something or LITERALLY hasn’t spoken to them.
Like, what kind of good friend completely doesn’t notice when you literally drop off the face of the earth and stop talking to them?
A friend who clearly ain’t that good and EXPECTS you to always give your own time and effort to them without really thinking about giving it back unless they’re asked about it. Which, again, goes back to the main issue of that person needing to grow up and realizing that life is short and if you wanna keep good friends who have ALWAYS been there for you, you need to be able to make the first step too and not always rely on the one reaching out constantly to appease you.
Obviously, every friendship is different, so I don’t think this fits every relationship but I do think it’s important for both people in a friendship to have healthy communication between one another that BOTH put effort into and not just the one friend who’s clearly trying harder than the other based on some vague, unspoken expectation.
oh you're welcome, and absolutely to all of this ! of course a habit can grow in a relationship but that does not legitimizes the entitlement a person would have for the other doing all the work !! this is blaming them for caring too much about someone who's not worth it it seems !!
and im saying this as someone who's often the one to initiate convos and is okay with it because i know my friends have issues reaching out. but they try to anyway and de got deals for when they cant and i appreciate that. not the same confidence and amount of spoons, but still work on both parts. this is b a s i c. there got to be a balance. otherwise i'd just. break.
