Update: June 3rd, 2019
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Hey Babydolls!
Tonight is my last night at the beach with my S/D Cal. It’s been an amazing trip, did a lot of shopping today, and spent quite a bit of time at the beach! The new bags, relaxation and daiquiris were much needed! 🥂
After my first initial postings about traveling to see two of my out of state SDs, I received a lot of messages asking for tips/advice on meeting with POT/SDs that require long distance travel arrangements. So while I’m sitting here on the beach, I’ve decided to compile a list of things I hope offer some answers and insight on the frequent questions I’ve been getting!
BEFORE meeting
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1.) Make sure you REALLY know who you’re traveling to meet.
• Know his real name, a photo form of government issued I.D is a great way to confirm this.
• FaceTime/ Skype/ Snapchat Vid Call him, or oovoo him. (He can fake his pictures, but not likely a video chat.)
• Look him up! Run his name on google, and
a background check platform.
2.) Make sure you guys are on the same page, about EVERYTHING.
• The compensation you are receiving
should be clearly stated, EXACT numbers.
• Form of compensation should be clear as well. (cash, direct deposit, etc.)
• Compensation should always be given up front, make sure he is aware and prepared.
• Has sex been discussed in a respectful and mutual manner? Whether you are comfortable, OR NOT, with intimacy should be clear. (Condoms are a standard ladies and gentlemen, for your own health do no risk it. Bringing your own supply ensures an untampered with option at the ready.)
3.) Making Travel/Lodging Arrangements.
• Always first request an airline voucher/gift card so you can manage your own travel arrangements.
• If the POT insists on taking care of your tickets themself, always call the airport and confirm the legitimacy of the information you are provided.
• If the POT offers their private jet, always request to fly commercial first for the initial meeting. Explain you are not comfortable boarding a private aircraft until after becoming acquainted with them. Private planes are much more comfortable and tend to take off quicker however, definitely utilize this option after you are comfortable you’ve had a successful meeting.
•First meeting trips should only be between 2-3 days.
• Request private appropriate lodging. There is no reason to stay in the POT’s personal home/condo/flat. This is a must for your safety, as well as privacy.
• Research the hotel your POT suggests. Confirm it is up to your standards, and that its location is in a safe neighborhood.
• The hotel room should be in YOUR name. Confirm this by calling the hotel itself, and have them confirm your reservation.
4.) Safety First
• ALWAYS tell someone where you are going, when you are going, and with whom you are meeting.
• If possible, tell a trusted individual you know in real life all of the above information.
• If for privacy and discretion reasons you are unable to alert someone in your real life, ALWAYS alert a sugar sister. We are a loving community of support, and I for one have been blessed with many friendships through the bowl, and I’m sure many of you have as well. There are so many of us who are more then happy to be a friend and confidant to any sugar babes out there looking for a support team. (Most of my layovers and plane transfers I spend talking/facetiming my sugar babe friends, seriously so amazing to be able to talk to someone who is likeminded and knows what experiences you encounter! This can also really help shake any nerves you may have; by talking it out with someone who understands! 🥰) My inbox is always open to you babydolls! ((Sometimes messages get burried due to an overload of spam 🙄))
• Upon arrival after your plane lands, request private transportation arrangements that do not include your POT present. Getting into the car alone with him before checking into the hotel and settling in is not ideal or safe. Your first meeting should be public, not in his vehicle. Suggest he sends you an Uber/lyft gift card, or some taxi fare that will cover the full amount of the trip from the airport to your lodging space. This way you can arrange your own arrival to the hotel, allowing yourself time to freshen up, as well as time to get comfortable- And it’s safer!
• ALWAYS travel with emergency money on your debit/credit card. Should something go wrong, or change last minute, you need to be able to adapt! Whether that be getting yourself a new hotel room or plane ticket, you should be prepared to take care of yourself if necessary.
5.) Packing Guidance
• Discuss what the plans will be for the time you spend down there. Will you be going to the Yacht club? Music theater? Louvre de france? Knowing your plans will help you pack appropriately and efficiently!
• Check out the weather forecast for where you are traveling to, plan accordingly.
• Pack a few back-up outfits! A zipper can break, a dress can snag, but you can be one step ahead of these fashion disasters.
•Review TSA guidelines as to what amounts of liquid and powder can be brought through security. (3.4 ounces) Double check all the cosmetics you are bringing! There’s nothing worse then having an agent rummage through your belongings and confiscating a precious product all because it’s size is an issue!
•Pack travel size cosmetics you are comfortable with! Traveling to meet a POT is not the time to discover you have an allergy, or just overall unsatisfied in a product you purchased just because it was in the travel size section. Buy travel canisters/containers you can transfer the products you’re already using into instead.
• Pepper spray in the the purse is always a nice touch!
• Always leave a little space in your luggage for any shopping scores. However, if your shopping was EXTRA successful, don’t be afraid to let your POT know you need additional luggage space to be purchased. Also note, often times airlines will charge extra for more baggage to be included, remind him of that fee he needs to take care of as well.
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If your POT has any objections to any of the above, trust your gut and tell him goodbye, sugar daddies are replaceable- you are not. Your safety is key, never compromise yourself during this process for any reason, there is no payout worth your life.
But don’t forget to have fun! Breathe! This trip is about meeting a potential man who is going to take care of you the way you deserve to be! Enjoy the journey 😘
xo
lex
