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"...the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates." - Dr. Thomas Szasz. Probably NSFW. Ellie, 35, Southeastern US.

[thetenderpassion]

[lovelynemesis-deactivated201903]

This has happened to me before when I was in college at a frat party. This girl comes squeezing herself in between me and my friend and throws her arms around me. “Amanda, I am so glad you decided to come!” I was so confused and just figured she was drunk and mistaked me for someone else, until I saw the panic on her face. She leaned close and whispered that a guy was following her, was certain that he had put something in her drink and if I would please play along. I looked behind her and sure enough, some creep was watching her like a hawk. We invited her to hang out with us the rest of the night and even waited until her ride showed up just to make sure she was safe. Always look out for each other!

[phoenixwolf876]

If you ever feel scared like this just come up to me like we have been friends since kindergarten, call me any name u can come up with ill play along.

[17mul]

🗣

[black-hippie-moonchild]

👌🏾

[succubus-is-smol-deactivated201]

Stay together, stay safe

[eclecticstudentwriter]

Perfect advice. I’m reblogging this as a guy, because first of all, if you”re a guy : DON’T DO THAT. Don’t be that creep.

And if you’re a guy and you notice some creep is following or stalking a girl, and that she’s obviously uncomfortable or panicked, go ahead and say hi, long time no see, pretend to be her cousin, and tell her discretly you noticed there was a shady guy. Ask her if something’s wrong, if she feels unsafe, if she wants your help (very important - she may not trust you enough, no one could blame her, don’t take it personally). (and don’t you dare take advantage of the help you offered for a flirt opportunity, that would make you no better than the creep)

We can all stop “witnessing and do nothing”, and set an example.

[hapslock]

Alternative option for a guy: if you feel safe doing so, go up to the creeper who’s following her and be like “hey WHAT’S UP bud do you like SPORTS? My favourite team is the redsox what’s YOURS my man? What you DRINKING dude that looks GOOD.” and be friendly and just loud enough to blow his cover. Draw attention to him and see what he does. He won’t feel as safe creeping if he knows people are looking at him, and maybe he’ll leave. It also means the woman won’t have to worry that you are *another* creeper she has to be wary of, and you may distract the bad dude enough to give her a chance to lose him.

[tumakhunter]

Reblogging for that last comment.

[1-ofthecoolkids2]

NO THIS NEEDS TO BE BOOSTED

[perpetually-tuned-out-deactivat]

so like if we are mutuals and you need to call someone on the phone legit hit me up and i will totally give you my number for situations like this. I don’t give two fucks if I’m at work! Your safety is more important to me! Please call me and laugh obnoxiously. Hell put me on speaker while you talk so my coworkers can help make some noise and keep you company

[sebbbystaaanmoved-deactivated20]

^^^^ this tho

[stuckonjbbarnes]

SAME HERE

[north-peach]

seriously, don’t hesitate 

[thefringeperson]

I am someone who does not get social cues very well.  At all.  But if someone is making you uncomfortable and I am there, I will absolutely be your new best friend and glare pointedly at whatever creeper has you twitchy while I walk with you to wherever you’re going.

[yeah-asbestos]

I will always help you! All these tips are very useful, for guys and for the girls

[ellie490]

As An Old, I will be your aunt in this situation for sure. If you are of similar age, I’ll be whatever. Run on up. Doesn’t matter if I’m out alone or with my friends or my husband. We will do our best for you.

[ellie490]

turn ons: a grown ass man with the same political views as me

major turn ons: a grown ass, nice-looking, fully-employed, book-reading, documentary-watching, funny, kind, animal-loving man with a sexy voice and the same political views as me — somebody come fan me pls because i have fainted

[pr1nceshawn]

Amputees With A Great Sense Of Humor

[bulwarksbrain]

This means a lot to me

[nunyabizni]

That Buzz Lightyear one killed me

[undeadwill]

These are the best.

[reformed-roark]

[darkhairedgirlfromgallifrey-dea]

These kind of people are my favorite bless them

[angrybeardedbastard]

Sense of humor is everything

[calder]

vegans make peace with honey

no shut up do it

[calder]

vegans will pretend not to hear when natives tell them their agave products are unsustainable because they have whimsical feelings about, and i cannot stress this enough, the freedom of hive insects

[awesome-picz]

Wholesome Cat Posts That Will Hopefully Make Your Day.

[thebigpapilio]

Friendly reminder to adopt older pets!!!

[midnightvrose]

[chewbacca]

The Rocky Horror Picture Show (1975)

[whitepeopletwitter]

[birble-bobble]

Yeah so the Big Think is literally owned by big oil. They’re making shit up so people feel too exhausted to fight for any change. Ignore this kind of environmental nihilism, all it does it help the rich avoid change.

[midnight-spectrum-again]

The fuck

[astridfromthenorth-deactivated2]

[hellyeahrihannafenty]

Tom Holland does Rihanna’s “Umbrella” on Lip Sync Battle

[dr0wnedperfectionist]

I’m literally zendaya reacting like he didn’t have to go that hard and yet..

[eroscestlavie]

every time i watch this when the reveal hits and he starts dancing i’m like “oh ok that ain’t a big deal he’s just another celeb doing a gimmick” but somehow by the end of this video without fail i am filled with respect for him and zendaya for being like…a powerful gen z couple who both give off chaotic bisexual vibes 

i think it’s the irreverence with which he splashes the water 

[feistyfrank]

that was a classic that was a classic

[thelovelylights]

It’s a good time to remember that Tom Holland is a trained dancer and that initself is a gift

[professorsparklepants]

He’s trained in ballet, too, which is what makes this even funnier. I saw a video (also with Zendaya in it) of him doing like, fifteen fouettes in someone’s basement. GET A MAN WHO CAN DO BOTH.

[egg690]

I FOUND IT!!

[saintofpride201]

😵😵😵😵😵

[sayakakurara]

September 16th, 2020: Hangman Adam Page def. Frankie Kazarian

[cowboyshit]

[sarahseeandersen]

[pusheen]

[babyanimalgifs]

“Yes! It’s us! The Good Boys!” 

(via)

[whitepeopletwitter]

[mankillercalledbunny]

@gokissthewookie how could you leave this in the tags

[greyhairedgeekgirl]

On Fandoms, Age, and Gender: The Politics of “ Putting Away Childish Things”

Weighing in on yet another round of “fan spaces are youth spaces” (aka “go home and knit, old lady” or “You’re old enough to be my/someone’s mom! gross!” )

Consider these thoughts:

There’s a whole set of interests and behaviors that you might become interested in as you grow from child to adolescent to young adult and take greater interest in the wider world.

You might like horses, or dolls.  Or building models.  You might play soccer, or follow baseball every summer and learn about  box scores.   You might follow the college football draft, or love a pop band.  You might deeply admire a rock band and learn to play the guitar.  You might love superheroes and see all their movies.  You might love space opera and collect paperback books.  Maybe you collect trading cards of your favorite team players – or movie moments.  You probably get t-shirts and posters of teams, or media outlets.  You might get deeply into a social or political cause.

Those are all expressions of interest in the world, all with associated social aspects, many with associated creative actions. 

And then you get older.  And here’s the thing about that list.  The things on that list that are “for boys?”   Are also “for men.”   But the things on that list that are “for girls” or “for nerds?” Are only “for children.”  

Adult men wear brightly colored team clothing and paint their faces without shame.   They join fantasy football leagues and hang out online.   They follow Phish (or continuously talk about how they did when that was a thing).  They spend vast sums on tickets to bowl games.   They get excited all over the internet about Geddy Lee’s greatest hits.  They spend long afternoons on the golf course, playing very bad golf.

No one tells them to grow up 

An adult woman who turns a childhood dollhouse into a beautiful scale model of a real Victorian home is “eccentric.”  An adult man who builds a vast HO train layout in his basement is a “train enthusiast.”   An adult woman who displays her favorite Bryer horses is “odd,” an adult man with a shelf of signed baseballs is “a collector” or even “an investor.” 

Adult women making fanart of attractive movie stars is “creepy,’ while adult men decorating their garages with calendar art of scantily-clad very-young women is “just what guys do.”

Interests and hobbies that were feminine and are taken up by men become acceptable.   When The Beatles were greeted with mobs of fainting teen girls, they were a “boy band.”  When young men discovered them, they became Serious Musicians.  

Over and over, across fields of interest, things that girls like are “toys and games and childish” and should be left behind by adults, while things that boys like are “hobbies and sports” that are lifetime pastimes.  And acceptable “hobbies” for adult women?   Most are things that could be coded as household chores, but generations of women have worked to turn into enjoyable pastimes:  knitting, sewing, quilting.  Home decor.  Baking.   Many adult women (myself included) enjoy doing those things in their free time and have elevated them to art forms.  But that doesn’t change the fact that they’re rooted in utility, while “men’s hobbies” are, by and large, rooted in leisure.

Look around you and follow the pattern.  And then, before you ask “Why are adult women in fan spaces,” maybe ask “why do I feel like adult women don’t get to have fun?” 

[dduane]

This.

(With the addendum; I come of the generation that built fan spaces. I’m not going anywhere. Deal.)

[drst]

Adult women are supposed to “put aside childish things” because we are required to turn most of our time outside of our for-pay jobs into taking care of other people (spouses, children, aging parents, the community via school boards and charities). The idea of adult women choosing to spend our time and money on our own pleasure upends the entire system.

THE UNPAID LABOR OF WOMEN IS WHAT KEEPS THE MODERN ECONOMY GOING. TAKE IT AWAY AND EVERYTHING COLLAPSES.

TELLING ADULT WOMEN THEY ARE BEING SELFISH BY KEEPING INTEREST IN PERSONAL HOBBIES IS SUPPORTING PATRIARCHY.

[ladyoftheteaandblood]

What makes me even madder is that it is the young women that keep this trope going.

Dear Under 25 lass, you will be older one day and when you get put back in your box and told to be that older lady you will feel angry and upset. 

YOU DO NOT STOP WANTING TO LIVE AS YOU GROW OLDER. IN FACT YOU WANT IT ALL THE MORE.

[dangertoozmanykids101]

Preach it !!!! Hell yes!!!

And I’m going to take this even further!

Omg, the image of titty posters covering the walls of the garage…. LMAO, dying!! Lol

Older men, silver foxes are expected to continually trade in for another younger model, having second or third families. I’m not condemning that, just pointing out that society doesn’t look down on that.

(If you ask me, kick him to the curb when he hits a midlife crisis and let some other little thing change his diapers when he’s old if he insists on being a shallow bratty bastard. An ass is an ass. Good riddance.)

BUT god forbid an older woman is sexually active. Society assumes that the man moves on bc women become frigid as they get older. My god, that stereotype couldn’t be more wrong!!!!! I’m almost 50, and my sex drive is stronger than it’s ever been. Much of that is because I’m no longer afraid to talk about it.

Too many women become complacent and except that later in life sex just becomes a memory or just boring. Definitely faster, if not a solitary thing altogether. I mean really… How many men do you know who are adventurous, who don’t get stagnant into routine, or buy into the whole “ball and chain” jokes that paint how a man is supposed to think of his wife.

Maybe you think these views are antiquated. But if you actually look around, it’s still far more prevalent than it should be.

So why shouldn’t I trade in for a younger model who could keep up with me? Why does that idea immediately make everyone think, “Ew! Gross!”????? Why? The term cougar holds the idea of a villain stealing something, of a predator overpowering some young lamb.

How many men can actually keep it up, all the way up? With many men it starts much early than you think, especially if they drink alcohol. Too many women have just given up and accepted status quo. It still takes a LOT of courage for men to admit or even face health issues.

They say the little blue pill gave men another chance at a sex life. Well, they’re not kidding!! It gave women a much larger pool to select from!!!! HALLELUJAH!!!!

You know what I’ve found super interesting? If you look at any senior living community, the population is always more women than men. And the gap gets wider the older you get. I moved my parents into a very large senior community of over 17k people. Mean age is 67 yrs old. There are over 3000 more women than men. Men just don’t live as long. Fact.

Well, I plan to someday be that 80 year old lady still making all my friends uncomfortable because I’m worried that they aren’t putting any effort into maintaining a healthy sex life.

And when the time comes, I’m finding myself a young hottie who can keep up with me.

Now be aware…. What image did that sentence just conjure up in your mind???

This ranting little soap box editorial peace is not focusing on ideal relationships, because the fact of the matter is that even the best of us screw up sometimes in our personal lives.

My advice? Be bold!! Communicate! Be sensitive to your partner’s insecurities or hesitancy to communicate, and fear to face the fact that there are problems that CAN be fixed - fixed together!!! Be creative! Have courage.

BE BOLD!!!!!

I am always up for discussing sex. I’m not a private person. I’m not a therapist or a doctor, but I’m a safe ear that will listen, and I always have unsolicited advice for people. You know why? Because too often people are too scared to give advice, even when asked for it. Too often people feel completely alone.

YOU’RE NOT ALONE! AND I GUARANTEE YOU’RE NOT THE FIRST PERSON TO WORRY ABOUT OR FEEL THESE THINGS.

Tooz, the bearer of unsolicited advice. Lol

@dangertoozmanykids101 @toozmanykids

That’s me!

[tilltheendwilliwrite]

At twenty (when I got married) I put away my “childish endeavors” and focused on all the above bullshit. House, check. Husband, check. Work, check. Kid, check.

By thirty I was living in limbo and though I wasn’t unhappy, I certainly wasn’t happy either.

At thirty-three I said a big old “fuck it” to what society expected, cut my blonde, shoulder length, soccer mom hair into a faux hawk and died it fire engine red, got my tattoos I’ve always wanted, and wandered off to see how my fandom was doing.

This year I turn fourty. I’ve never been happier or better adjusted, and though my family chuckled at my “nerdy” tendencies, they’ve grown used to it. And if anyone challenges my right to be here, I will hand them their ass.

Like what you like, people. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t read comics, like graphic novels, or go to con’s. It’s about what makes you happy.

They can sit on a cactus.

[messy-insomniac-bookgirl]

YAAAASSSSS MY LADIES @ladyoftheteaandblood @dangertoozmanykids101 @tilltheendwilliwrite PREACH!

Couldn’t agree with you more! ♥️

[dangertoozmanykids101]

Kickin’ ass @tilltheendwilliwrite !!!!

[ellie490]

I’ll be 40 very soon and I do what the fuck I want with my non-work time. I don’t need anyone’s approval to hang on the rail at a concert, drive 9 hours to a wrestling show, read a graphic novel, be on Tumblr, or anything else. I’m a fan, too, and I’m not sorry. I wasted some time in my life trying to be “responsible” when all it did was make me miss out on epic shit. Not anymore.

[allelitewrestlings]

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