mental is hocus health not pocus

she/her bi aro tgirl 20s If they can't digest you, let them choke.

[gengario]

need a friend like this

[dustsculptures]

“no one’s ever mad at me unless they tell me so” is the best assumption i’ve ever made

[dustsculptures]

sorry for tagwatching but you still have to act like they aren’t mad at you imo! bc it’s the mad person’s duty to make it known if they want anything changed. it is never anyone’s duty to be a mind reader.

[nooblord9001]

If I am mad at someone and am remaining Quiet about it, it is because I Do Not Want them to know that I’m mad.

Please respect my boundaries and assume that I am Not mad.

If you’re worried that I am mad, consider the possibility that I am mad for reasons I know are stupid and do not want to make it your problem.

[blazing-butterfly-inactive]

Ohhh that last addition opens my eyes in a big way, thank you.

[mortalityplays]

I Sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter was one of the best works of sci-fi of our generation and one of the best works of transgender fiction ever written, and there are world renowned authors who still have successful careers after they publicly assassinated the nascent woman who wrote it. I don't think they should ever know peace.

[mortalityplays]

Isabel Fall is the patron saint of works unwritten and art unmade by a culture that cannot tolerate trans women

[mortalityplays]

I think this constantly and then I get angry for thinking it, because trans women should not have to be martyrs or saints to animate our politics and our art. that work should have been her debut, not her epitaph. I should be moved by her career, not her absence. I could spit.

[mortalityplays]

read it again

[artsekey]

[artsekey]

Thanks for sharing your stories. 💜

[artsekey]

[artsekey]

[irreparableinnocence]

I still remember how everybody mocked the queerplatonic label because it was 'just being friends'. Even if you treat them as overlapping categories, considering that the umbrella of friendship goes from 'we are classmates and had coffee once' to 'I cannot imagine my life without this person in it', I cannot in good faith object to someone needing the specificity of a new term.

[fuck-man-idk]

To be fair the same thing happened with the word love but I’m not gonna smoosh two words together to differentiate my feelings for a cheeseburger and my soulmate

[irreparableinnocence]

And what, pray tell, is that last word you used then?

[nikonikonek000]

everything is grim but i refuse to give in to despair or fear. i admire everyone who is harnessing their anger. i can't do that because it's unhealthy for me specifically on a personal level due to the architecture of my brain, but i can be positive & i will. soul fights in the shapes that suits it

"a hero will win only when outnumbered" (pratchett) . your beliefs shape the world. your beliefs mean something. i believe in you + us. and i believe we can make a beautiful world. , if something is believed strongly enough, or by enough people, it will become true. let's believe in eachother, okay?

personally, i am to become a lot more zen. that's my goal. going to be reading books and stuff. going to make art. going to learn important things. ill make a website soon. high priority now, you should too. i love you.

[mercuryfountain-deactivated2024]

The thing about depression is that motivation is rare, so when it comes around you gotta ride it reverse cowgirl, bouncing up and down moaning and howling until it shoots a two weeks pent up load right up your stretched out hole and finally you have a clean room but it's 2 am on a weeknight.

[thesunnahthebetter]

asking "wait so what do you think I'm saying" mid-disagreement will replenish years of your life actually

[bigtasty]

PLEASE do this ohmygod. it's saved so many days of the silent treatment for me on both ends. yes there is the chance that the person is immature as fuck, and refuses to believe you when you explain what you're actually trying to say, but most of the time just hearing that explanation from both parties will make things instantly calm down.

[darkshrimpemotions]

Yes!! You can also say "okay hang on...this is what I'm hearing...is that what you mean?" from the other end. Especially if the message you're hearing is hurtful and coming from a person who generally does not try to hurt you. Words have so many connotations, and everyone brings their own perspective and baggage to conversations. Checking in that you're sending the message you mean or receiving the message they mean can stop so many fights before they even start.

[sitronsangbody]

If you're on instagram or other visually oriented social platforms, follow fat people!! I mean everyone should, but especially other fat people. It's so easy to underestimate the effect it has on your mind, simply seeing people who look like you thriving and expressing themselves in the spaces you frequent. Take any opportunity to remind yourself and anyone else who needs to hear it that the type of body you have belongs in the world.

[greekwords]

There was a while in grad school (which I did in one of the whitest states) where I started having pretty severe “race dysphoria” ie seeing my skin as too dark too ugly etc because I was just constantly surrounded by white people and didn’t have anyone else in my life or in my media. My (white) therapist’s recommendation was the same as the above: follow more black and brown youtubers and instagram accounts, reach out to my family and grade school / college poc friends for video calls, and generally try to pull more people who looked like me into my line of sight. It did work wonders, and now I’m totally recovered from this extremely weird bout of internalized racism.

I imagine being other types of marginalized can be solved (or at least helped) the same way.

[ink-the-artist]

[ink-the-artist]

the long awaited sequel

[ink-the-artist]

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.

[demonprincex]

u got any tips for being "skillfully disobedient"? or any writings on it? that sounds like the sort of specific phrase that is an Established Concept but i have not heard of this.

How Do I Become Less Obedient?

Autistic Advice#12: Noncompliance is a liberating social skill - but it must be developed.

[problemnyatic]

"I would kill for you. I would die for you" would you take a break for me? Would you sit down and rest? For a day, a week, a year? Would you let others take care of your needs for me? Would you let yourself be held for me? By me?

[beeezah]

OP i hope its okay to reblog with your additions bc they are good

[problemnyatic]

not only is it okay, I think i'd like that very much, thank you.

[hybridsheart]

hi i just want everyone to know that i will never ever EVER be angry with anyone for not replying to my texts even though you’re visibly online and reblogging/posting. i understand that holding a conversation takes a lot more energy and effort than scrolling and posting and that’s 100% okay. take care of yourself first. the whole idea that you HAVE to reply to someone when you’re online is toxic and makes mentally ill people feel as though they are bad friends just because they can’t always reply within minutes. 

[louisegluckpdf]

“well. plays the cards i’m given” has profoundly changed something in me. litany against wallowing in an unsatisfactory situation

[louisegluckpdf]

jpgs that radically altered my worldview

[rna-world]

oh my god I’ve had the evil version of this image for like 3 years I was wondering where the original was

[weirdtranssexual]

i mean this in the nicest way possible but some of you need to learn how to be annoyed

[weirdtranssexual]

people are going to annoy you and that’s not a reason to burn bridges or blow up relationships

some people will even annoy you often! some people aren’t good at social cues and will therefore be frequently annoying! still not a reason to blow everything up!

[weirdtranssexual]

part of developing your sense of community is learning how to tolerate people being annoying to you

it’s no great hardship to include even the people you find a bit irritating in your community

[weirdtranssexual]

this post is about everyone who’s kind of annoying (which. everyone is annoying sometimes) but it’s also specifically about neurodivergent people who are just trying to exist in their communities without being ostracized for not doing every social interaction perfectly