' mar’s notebook '

a place where i mostly talk about playing god and being gay, very in love with my fiancée ( mar, she / they ) ; femme lesbian 🪻 adult

[dubiousculturalartifact]

"the Hadestown proshot exceeds box office expectations" truly, who could have predicted fans going repeated times, to see the musical whose entire concept is about the musical repeating

[itastelikesand]

[emortal-l-deactivated20250308]

[ID: a screenshot of a comic speech bubble. The black text in it reads "No matter how open-minded, socially conscious, anti-racist I think I am, I still have old learned hidden biases that I need to examine. It is my responsibility to check myself daily for my stereotypes, prejudices and, ultimately, discrimination." /ID end]

[anarchistmemedistro]

[pupucino]

antiracism is a constant process. i was raised in a racist village and it's not easy to get rid of it. i moved away over 10 years ago but those ideas are still haunting me.

[genderkoolaid]

also keep in mind that shame + guilt are not conducive to growing as a person. when it comes to "checking yourself" it should be a non-judgemental process. it's not about flagellating yourself for every bad thought or trying to purify your mind of all corruption. it's only when acknowledging your own racist thoughts doesn't fill you with dread that you can really progress past the white guilt of it all.

radical self-acceptance & genuine self-critique are not opposites. they need each other. do not let obsessive-compulsive behaviors colonize your desire to grow as a person.

[eros-legacy]

i’m worried about the hate sex scenes have been getting. don’t get me wrong i too was tired of the game of thrones sexposition and how it’s most often than not women that are put on display but the fact that a lot of ppl are saying that THE LACK OF SEX SCENES was what they truly loved about the new odyssey movie to me is crazy. me and my butch were watching chicago and the opening had a sex scene ( non explicit) but that was so amazingly brief at providing us info on the main character

[ringospuppy]

TW/rant

anyone else tired of yaoi? Like I haven't even watched heated rivalry the scenes are fire but damn..I like me some yaoi don't get me wrong but where the hoes at?

i might not even watch ts cause it's literally a carbon copy of any mlm show out there. Ain't nobody give Yuri this amount of hype and I fully support people getting on tumblrs twt post (if you don't know they were pretty much saying yaoi good Yuri bad). I feel like people don't realize that even in queer AND ANY LEFT LEANING communities woman still get oppressed and looked over, especially poc wlw and nmlnm, no one talks about how racist gay white men can get.

Y'all love to worship anything male dominated but when you see any lesbian relationship you think "booriing" or "ugh it's all sexual" Like stfu. LESBIANS ARE VALID, WOMN LOVING WOMAN AS VALID!! IM TIRED OF MEN!!! EVEN AS SOMEONE WHOSE CONFUSED ABOUT THEMSELVES AND IS MAINLY MEN LEANING I WLL NOT FALL FOR THIS YAOI PROPAGANDA

[bambibonnieboo]

"Stop hyping up ugly mascs/butches/studs just cus they're mascs/butches/studs!!" As if people (both queer and not) are not constantly criticising, harrassing, harming and blatantly dehumising mascs, butches and studs because they don't live up to your idea of what a woman should be like. FUCK YALL!!!

This idea of superiority other queer people have over each other is honestly disgusting, and I'm over it. We're a community. You aren't into butches? I can assure you they do not care. But stop bullying your own community and ignoring all of the beautiful and brave queer people who came before us and fought for you and me.

Lesbians wouldn't be where we are if it weren't for butches and dont forget that.

Butches make the world spin around!❤️

[redstonedust]

i understand (on paper) why companies are anti-piracy but its funny when random individuals are also strongly anti-piracy. like how does it negatively affect your life if someone you know downloads a cracked torrent of sims 4. you dont work for EA. EA isnt gonna pay you for this. you lose nothing. its fine. chill out.

[tepkunset]

I feel like simply calling JK Rowling a transphobe isn't strong enough anymore. Like. This is not your grandpa calling you by your deadname at a restaurant kind of transphobic. This is her wanting to eradicate all trans people (with an extra special hatred towards trans women specifically). This is her trying just that by personally funding transphobic hate groups with millions to push around laws in the UK. It is not hyperbolic to call her a dangerous, genocidal maniac.

It's not about cancelling a problematic writer. It's about literally trying to save lives by denying her as much money and power as possible.

[psychotic-gerard]

i have understood so many things about online leftist culture by the fact that when i said "your local community has people you will morally and politically disagree with but you cannot lock them out of accessing any tangible service you’re organising" one of the tags responding said "this isn’t about proshippers in here you’re not welcome" like. folks. focus with me. some of us are homeless here.

[orchidvioletindigo]

There's a disconnect happening here because the primary function of social media for most casual users is to form a circle of friends around the usual things that friendships are built on: shared interests and lifestyles and ideas of what is important and what is unacceptable. When people are mainly doing leftism on social media, this encourages thinking of leftism as centered around establishing high-minded social clubs.

For anyone who still isn't getting it from someone who helps people IRL: There's a difference between whom you're helping to feed at the mealshare and whom you're choosing to hang out with for fun after the mealshare. You don't have to invite a hungry person with opinions you don't like to play board games with you, but you do have to help keep them from starving if you're serious about leftist organizing.

[trials-era-sam]

[can-i-make-image-descriptions]

[Image ID: Tumblr reply with username blocked out reading: *volunteering at the soup kitchen, holding a bowl hesitantly to my chest* what do you think about age gaps in ships /End ID]

[eros-legacy]

this forbidden magic shit is tempting as fuck !!!

[femme-aphrodite]

I love being a LESBIAN I love being a DYKE I love being horny for BUTCHES

[depsidase]

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

Children are born into a state of implicit debt.

Good parents forgive this debt. Bad parents expect it to be repaid, one way or another. The accepted currencies are varied and cryptic and might be mostly innocuous or they might be horrifically criminal.

Many families don’t realize that there is a debt until the child defaults on it somehow. That could be for any reason—the child simply fails to deliver on the parental investment by not adequately being the child they paid for.

“Inspiration porn” is a disability term, but I’m using it here because it’s appropriately provocative, and because the state of being a child is functionally a disability. A child who fails to be life-affirming and inspirational and to perform heartwarming innocence is breaking a contract, and adults are no longer obligated to uphold their own end and nurture the child. A child is a resource from which inspiration porn can be mined, or it is a kind of brood parasite.

[bevsi]

I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with relating to characters, “they’re literally me” etc but if that’s the only way you engage with stories you’re kinda missing the whole point of Characters being vehicles through which we can see perspectives outside of our own. and also you’re going to get upset when the Character acts in a way that is not Personally Relatable to You

[dogeuphoria]

i need to be fawned over. told how pretty and perfect i am. kissed and praised for my body, for just existing. hands exploring my hips, my thighs, my stomach.

[angelsaxis]

[wilderdiaries]

yeah we live under theocratic authoritarian rule and being gay is punishable by extreme torture and/or death and i myself was punished harshly for smiling at a boy but i’m going to kiss you, my friend that i only have platonic feelings for, on the mouth because i want you to know that i know you’re gay and i support you ✊

[bitingdyke]

picture it, a butch with a bush and a happy trail. mama mia...