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“The best gift you are ever going to give someone - the permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough.”

— Hannah Brechner

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I pride myself in my ability to make space for people to just be. It’s the greates gift I possess.

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There’s a reason lots of good parents say to babies stuff like

“You’re excited to go to the park!”

“Oh, it makes you mad that we can’t go outside.”

And then when the babies get a little bit older the parents can say

“You seem upset. Are you sad?”

“Are you excited that gramma is coming over today?”

Which lets the kid (who is learning to utilize speech) respond with yes or no, which may prompt more questions, like

“So you aren’t sad, are you angry?”

“Yes, does it make you happy when gramma is here?”

And then, finally, when the child is learning to use language in a more complex way, the parents can say,

“How does it make you feel?”

“Why are you feeling like that?”

And it’s all about teaching emotional awareness. I really reccomend using the process on yourself. Learn to ask, “am I happy?” “Am I sad?” “Am I anxious?”

Then practice identifying, out loud or on paper if you can, “I’m happy.” “I’m upset.” “I’m sad.” “I’m anxious.”

Final step: “Why am I feeling anxious? I’m still thinking about that awkward conversation earlier.” “Why am I happy? It’s such a beautiful day outside.” “Why am I sad? None of my friends are responding to my messages.”

It really helps you notice patterns (“I’m more likely to be happy when I’m around this person.” “When I haven’t eaten, I often feel angry.” “If I don’t plan ahead, I get anxious.”) which is the first step in avoiding things and people that are bad for you and encouraging things and people that are good.

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Basically don’t forget that you’re just a baby who got more complicated.

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Not sure how to articulate what you are feeling? Try starting at the middle and working your way out to the more specific feelings!

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A lot of therapy I’ve been to has just been teaching me how to do exactly this

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Stop and smell the roses.

Often times, we’re so caught up in the tasks we need to complete that we’re missing the every day magic happening in our lives. Revel in the minor inconveniences. Ask yourself what the universe is slowing you down to see. What lesson is being presented. Don’t miss out on the signs life is presenting you with because you’re annoyed or because you’re in a rush.

You’re EXACTLY where you’re meant to be, don’t miss the moment.

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See, what you need to understand is that “Not all guys like that” is never going to work. Because you’re answering an entirely different conversation than what women are actually saying.

You think women are saying “Every man is a predator and a danger to me.” And you’re replying, “But I’m not like that.”

But women aren’t saying that. They’re saying “There are too many situations where women have to worry about their safety,” and you’re saying “That’s not important.” They’re saying “Women are constantly told it’s their fault if something bad happens,” and you’re saying “Don’t worry about it.” They’re saying “Too often, women find their trust violated by men,” and you’re saying “But you should trust me!”

They’re saying “So many men have decided that what they want is more important than anything about a woman.” And you’re replying “I’m exactly like that.”

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may you get a sign this week that shows you that you’re on the right path and that things are flowing and moving in your favor. may the sign be evident, clear, and direct

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neverrrr let your loneliness drive you back to toxic people

There’s a price to pay, none of us know the total. Here’s to taking it a day at a time. Understanding there are lives on the line. Shouldering my part of the burden. Clocking in and showing up for exhausted souls and broken spirits and nursing my own with the familiarity of the chaos that has consumed us all.

#covid19 #black women #exhausted #respiratorytherapy #perserverance

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Make time to do things that spark joy. Not only things that stand to make a profit. I have this mindset that, if something doesn’t make you money, what’s the point? And I’ve really been trying to overcome this and dig deep to discover what makes me happy. Things that are not tied directly into pleasing those around me or serving a dual purpose. Hobbies are foreign to me, always have been. Hmm.