gothic horror's confidant @etereflexivity - Tumblr Blog

Posts

m | 20s | any pronouns | black lesbian l video editor | if i could log in youtube videos on some app, i would.

just a sideblog. i follow from @radioheadwillbyers

liking it better here mentally currently, so more active on here now than main blog.

current hyperfixations: iwtv (tvl), backrooms film & atla (both og series & netflix)

{🏷} shows. films. music. video games. misc. my edits.

dinindourden

CONTROL (2019) dev. Remedy Entertainment

#one of the coolest games i’ve ever played getting a sequelll 🤗#video game / control #vgs

langouuuuu

You are a worm through time...

#video game / control #jesse faden #control fanart

belmasworld

i'm learning that what's meant for me won't cost me myself

ladyignatius4

It doesn't matter if you wrote 5,000 or 50 words today.

It doesn't matter if all you did was day-dream about your characters while staring at the ceiling.

You are still a writer and your progress is valid.

cheshire-cat-101

Ok I want to say something controversial

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.

kyraneko

Since different people have different needs, one person’s safe space will be another’s Trauma Central.

I don’t know who said it first, but “I need to be able to express my anger without shame” and “I need to be away from yelling and loud noises” are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really aren’t compatible with each other.

So are “I need to process my trauma” and “I need to not meet any trauma.”

Or “I want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to me” and “those stories are distressing to me.”

Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, it’s its own act of violence.

You don’t get to make others homeless to make the universe your personal safe space.

nymphl

I think that besides trauma and so on, fandom is (or should be) a space to find joy and to relax, sometimes to forget things out there.

Maybe a ship/a character doesn’t remind you of your trauma, sometimes it isn’t a big deal, but you just don’t like it. And that’s okay, we’re not all under some sort of obligation to like the same stuff even if it’s not distressing to us. Block it either way.

Blocking someone or some content IS NOT about hating someone or that content. It says NOTHING about that person and about their values, their integrity, and so on. It just helps us curating our space.

Sometimes that person’s blog is not your vibe anymore. You can unfollow or you can block them and then you can unblock if you want to.

I’ve seen people complaining about being blocked, cause whatever they did to deserve it? I mean… sometimes it ISN’T about you. It’s just that whatever you like/post doesn’t call to the other person and that’s okay.

We can’t block people in real life. There, as our outties, we have to deal with the differences, to listen and respect other people even if we don’t agree with them. HERE, as our innies, the best way to show respect to someone whose preferences are so different from ours is to block.

So yeah, if you ask me… I have TONS of people blocked. And it says NOTHING about them. It says that I don’t want to interact with them or their stuff. They can be the most amazing people out there, but I don’t like their content and I don’t want to see it (even if sometimes they post something related to the tags I follow). It doesn’t matter. It’s not about them, it’s about me and the content I want to see here.

So yeah… if you don’t like what I post, or think I’m too monothematic (I know I can be a pain in the ass with my hyperfixations), by all means… block away.

Blocking isn’t disrespectful. If people think it is, it’s says more about them than about the one doing the blocking. What would be really fucking rude is going after them and complain that they’re posting something I don’t like.

So guys… one way to curate our fandom experience and it DOESN’T need to have anything to do with our traumas, is to use the block tool.

#do what you got to for you!#it is okay! Especially with online fandom spaces.#you’re not acting childish for doing what you need for your wellbeing.#curate curate curate. this is sooo important

what did i just read !

#and people just agreeing like huh.#okay actually im not gonna unleash the period-brained rant i just wrote. im on the edge today #anyways people can do whatever they want forever in fandom as long as they they’re not hurting anyone !#life is already hard for so many people. it’s okay that ppl have their curated safe space with whatever they do to have it

jaydenskyle

Hasan Piker blaming gay people—sorry “homofascism”—for his preferred candidates losing in a primary so maybe can the gays stop thirsting over him now?

virginiaisforvampires

There we go.

Sam proudly representing his bae. 😌💕

#there’s just… so much to work with here #sam reid #this is also so funny considering that post i saw the other day

aidashakur

You can always count on me to never talk to you ever again. That’s my area of expertise.

queer-scots-geordie-dyke

Investigate Judge Nicholas Rowland and Introduce a Judicial Accountability Framework Now

This is a particularly egregious case of women and girls being denied justice.

Three teenage boys filmed themselves gang raping two girls at knife point in separate incidents, and they have received exactly zero prison time. The judge decided he didn’t want to “criminalise these boys unnecessarily,” apparently unaware that rape is actually a crime.

After the ruling, one of the girls said it felt “like a rock to my face.” These young girls now have to live with the indescribable trauma of what happened to them as well as the knowledge that the presiding judge cared more about coddling rapists than protecting victims.

Boys convicted of rape get non-custodial sentences as judge says they should not be criminalised unnecessarily https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/may/21/boys-convicted-of-get-non-custodial-sentences-as-judge-says-they-should-not-be-criminalised-unnecessarily?CMP=share_btn_url