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Hey, I'm very confused about your post on RAMCOA. You're a non-survivor non-professional discussing RAMCOA in your post, which is exactly what you're condemning. As a survivor myself, I agree with your stance, and it would have been fine had you stopped after saying non-survivors and non-professionals shouldn't talk about the experience. But then you went on. You said that RAMCOA is a breeding ground for false memories, and that people can and do claim the RAMCOA experience without having it. While there were many other things you said in that post that are harmful, I'll focus on these two for now. For starters, you do not get to tell people whether or not they experienced RAMCOA. That is not for you to decide. Personally, if someone came to me and said they've been through it, I'd choose to believe them. Yes, there are going to be people out there who claim the label. Yes, some people probably are saying they've been through RAMCOA without having been through it. But that is not up to you, as a non-survivor, to decipher. You don't have the ability to look into someone's past, into someone's mind, and say they do or don't have experiences in RAMCOA, especially if you don't have them yourself. The complexities and the differences in each experience are far too vast. Now, to discuss the false memory claims you made- that whole THING in regards to RAMCOA was created during and after the satanic panic. False memory as a claim has been used to discredit survivors for ages. I don't have as much information about it that I could discuss here, but it's incredibly harmful to call memories false in regards to RAMCOA. That rhetoric is used to discredit everyone and prove that RAMCOA doesnt actually exist. I encourage you to read this post on Instagram for a better understanding of that point-
https://www.instagram.com/p/DT15-J7kWqO/?img_index=7&igsh=MThvcmI2c2dnN2xuMQ==
Please, before you post anything about RAMCOA as a non-survivor, think about the harm you're doing to the community you aren't a part of.
Hey, let me clear up some of your confusion here. I am talking about it for the purpose of warning people against educating on it without understanding the risk and without the knowledge, expertise, and maturity to do so safely. I am not saying "do not mention RAMCOA ever in a million years." Of course, I knew that there was a chance that people who came across this post would research it. I'm aware of that possibility, but decided it was worth the risk because when I was younger and trying to spread awareness, I did so incorrectly and dangerously and there are people who are likely making the same mistakes I made. Those people were my target audience. The goal was harm reduction. It is kind of hard to say "don't educate people on RAMCOA" without talking about RAMCOA. Hope that helps.
Edit: I also changed the title to “Do not talk in depth about RAMCOA.”
Onto your second point, which deserves to be taken seriously. This is a nuanced topic and my post may not have reflected that nuance. I will clarify here: I did not say that RAMCOA was not real and that survivors' memories are false. I said that the formation of false memories is a possibility, and it does happen when people try to fill in the gaps in their memories with narratives about RAMCOA ("the absence of memories is actually programming", "having trouble reading about it means you went through it", "these are the signs that you might be programmed", etc). I do not condone telling RAMCOA survivors (or ANY abuse survivor) that their memories are false or that their trauma did not happen. I do not go around putting survivors' stories under a magnifying lens and trying to determine whether the abuse actually occurred. That is not my goal here and I have never done that.
Now regarding what I said here:
"I want to preface this by saying I'm unsure about how much of the RAMCOA narrative is based in reality and how much is misinformation/exaggeration of DID symptoms, real abuse, and trauma-based conditioning - please do not take what I say as an an endorsement of misinformation or conspiracy theories, or as validation of everything people may believe about their trauma."
I meant exactly that. That I, personally, am unsure how much stuff about RAMCOA is real and how much is misinformation or exaggeration that made its way into the stories and communities of RA/OA survivors. Admittedly, I have been more skeptical of some of the things I have learned about RAMCOA (read: SOME) and this snippet probably reflects that, but again, I have never treated that as a license to tell survivors that their trauma isn't real. I am not some ultimate authority that decides what is and isn't real. I said I am unsure, and I do not want to risk encouraging the spread of misinformation or validating beliefs that may or may not be true.
If you have spent any time in online spaces that discuss RAMCOA, you know that many people take any mention of RAMCOA as endorsement of antisemitic conspiracy theories and moral panics. Additionally, I do not know how much of the information about MC in particular is accurate.
BUT, reading over the post again, I can see how my use of the term 'RAMCOA narrative' conveys skepticism about RAMCOA as a whole. That was bad word choice and doesn't reflect my stance on this issue.
I also have heard about the false memory claims being used to discredit survivors. That is why I was EXTREMELY resistant to the whole idea at first. Every mention of false memories, I interpreted as an attack on survivors, until I saw survivors themselves talking about it in 2022. False memories can and do form, although they shouldn't be used to invalidate survivors. However, they remain one of the risks of educating incorrectly about RAMCOA or going too in depth about what it entails. That is why I discouraged young people and non-professionals from venturing too deep into the subject.
I know this was unnecessarily repetitive but people online don't always grasp nuance. Not every mention of false memories is an attack on survivors.
Do not talk in depth about RAMCOA*
*Unless you are a survivor yourself or a professional.
Edit: This post definitely needed more nuance and a survivor raised some valid concerns, so here is my response for further clarification.
And when I say do not talk about it, I mean do not educate or spread awareness about it, because it is extremely likely to backfire. The reason I am excluding survivors from this warning is because how much survivors choose to share is between them and other survivors. As a non-survivor, I do not want to police them, even though the risks of sharing too much about RAMCOA still exist.
I want to preface this by saying I'm unsure about how much of the RAMCOA narrative is based in reality and how much is misinformation/exaggeration of DID symptoms, real abuse, and trauma-based conditioning - please do not take what I say as an an endorsement of misinformation or conspiracy theories, or as validation of everything people may believe about their trauma.
I first learned about when I was 16 and naturally started trying to spread awareness when I saw people calling it a myth. But the thing about RAMCOA is that it is really easy for a traumatized person to convince themselves they went through it when they did not. And when you share detailed information about it, when you share "symptoms" of programming (which are often just DID or trauma symptoms), you run the risk of creating false memories and convincing someone that they went through it when they did not. And I am sure you can imagine how psychologically damaging that is.
Even talking about it without going into detail needs to be done with caution, because people will research it. People will research it and they will go down this hole of information about real child abuse mixed in with dangerous conspiracy theories that have no basis in reality. The danger of misinformation regarding this topic cannot be understated.
I am not against spreading awareness. I am saying that you should refrain from sharing information about it if you are very young, if you are just learning about the topic, if you are not a survivor or professional, etc. because on top of being a breeding ground for false memories, there is so much dangerously false information going around that it could cause someone to question their own perception of reality. People can and do attempt to fill in the gaps in their own memories and end up convincing themselves that they went through it.
In the past, I would post detailed information about types of programming, how they manifest, and signs/symptoms that someone might be programmed, all for awareness. But nobody needed to know those things unless they were mental health professionals treating survivors, and it is extremely risky to examine your own symptoms or dig deeper into your trauma for the purpose of diagnosing yourself as a programmed system. Awareness is not always a good thing. Sharing more is not always a smart move.
Unfortunately, a huge portion of the people researching this topic are kids/teens, many of whom are DID systems or traumatized in some way. They are young and vulnerable and so much more prone to damage caused by misguided awareness efforts. And many are not survivors, but people looking to spread awareness just like I was, and that's my target audience here. Just don't. Even if you think you can handle this topic with the care it requires, even if you're extremely selective about the information you share, just don't. It is better not to touch the topic if you do not have the expertise.
Many RAMCOA survivors started saying this a few years ago. They started asking people to stop educating/sharing detailed information. I disregarded it, wondering why they were against spreading awareness, but it was so much more complicated than that. I didn't understand the risks of what I was doing at the time because I was so preoccupied with making sure everyone in every corner of the world knew about it. And it was a mistake, because it was very, very risky. The formation of false memories isn't a remote possibility. It is something that has happened to a lot of people.
Understand the impact of what you're sharing before you share it, and please, if you're under the age of 20, stay away from it altogether. Kids should not be engaging with this. Please trust me on that.
I went to the beach and saw this vortex repeating the same pattern over and over in the sand.
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“We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don’t, we worry it’s not there.”
— Unknown
Revelation of Angels of Shepherds (circa 1899)
— by Albert Edelfelt
Toxic men be like “Why can’t you be skinny? Why can’t you be pretty?”
Motherfucker, why can’t you be Chizome Akaguro???
“All the bright, precious things fade so fast. And they don’t come back.”
— F. Scott Fitzgerald
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New Jersey just passed a law that doubles the legal involuntary psych hospitalization hold time from 72 hours to 144 hours. They're claiming that there is a psychiatric bed shortage, and saying that this will help link more people to care.
This law is dangerous, harmful to mad/mentally ill/neurodivergent people, and will cause more psychiatric trauma. I'm incredibly worried about the way politicians are weaponizing the concept of "mental health crises" and "bed shortages" to pass laws that increase incarceration. Psych survivors can tell you that any time spent psychiatrically incarcerated is too long, but these extensions from 3 days to 6 days will have dramatic impacts on people's wellbeing. There are people who will now lose their job because they missed 6 days off work, have to arrange childcare for 6 days, miss an entire week of school, who spend days in solitary confinement, go through repeated strip searches, go through withdrawal, and deal with the everyday violence of psychiatric hospitalization for that much longer. It is crucial that we fight against any policies that give more power and authority to the psych system, and build up alternative systems of care based in values of mad liberation/psych abolition, autonomy, and disability justice.
We deserve care, not confinement.
someone added tags pointing out that for most psych holds, weekends do not count. So under the old system, if you came in on a Friday night, you might not get out until Wednesday. Under a new system, you might be held there for 8 days before even getting to court proceedings.
afterlife — by chrisfriel
People need to understand that being a cop automatically means signing up to enforce unjust laws. It means you have the power to hurt people and get away with it, and many of them often do. Denying the issue won’t make it go away. We live under the power of a corrupt government, and the police work for that government. The police system was never good to begin with.
It’s all “don’t trust the government!” until someone is anti-cop, and then it’s “blue lives matter!” Which one is it??