"RAMCOA & OEA isn't real; it's fake or exaggerated for attention online. We'd see a lot more cases if it was."
Except you do see us.
We're on the front page of your favorite porn site. We're the tweaking homeless person you pretend not to look at on the street. We're your favorite political talking point. We're the infant in the emergency room screaming from a pain they can't comprehend. We're the black lines in classified files you make jokes about. We're buried in the backyards of farmhouses that have long since returned to nature. We're the ones who sold you drugs in high school. We're the classmate you bullied for growling and barking like an animal. We're the product of a $200 billion industry. We're the blood on your favorite politician's hands. We're alive and dead and existing as fragmented states in between.
You just refuse to look too closely because it makes you uncomfortable.
made a meme for anyone else out there who gets stuck in the "it wasnt that bad!" or "maybe im not traumatized!" loops because trauma denial sucks ass!!! you all are valid!!!
It is okay to mourn the child that you were, or the child that you could have been. It is okay to be sad or angry that no one protected you like you should have been protected. It is okay to grieve.
YOU CANNOT CLAIM TO BE "NON-DISORDERED" AND THEN BUILD YOUR WHOLE IDENTIY AROUND TERMINOLOGY, FRAMEWORKS, AND EXPERIENCES THAT COME DIRECTLY FROM PWCDDS!
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If you say you have no connection to traumagenic systems, then stop using their language. "Alters," "systems," "switching"—they are not your silly little roleplay labels. They come from documented psychiatric conditions with specific diagnostic criteria. you do NOT get to strip the disorder out of a cdd and keep the vocabulary like its some sort of.. costume.
And your stupid fucking contradictions don't stop there. You say, no, INSIST, you're non-disordered, not disabled whatsoever. Cool. Whatever. Then why are you trying to occupy space in medical discussions, diagnostic manuals, and/or even clinical conversations at all? The DSM and ICD exist solely to classify medical problems. If you are, by your OWN DEFINITION, not disordered, then you do not belong there. You cannot reject the medical basis and then demand to be there.
You're hypocrites. Throwing around words like "ableist" and "sysmeds" while participating in a movement that actively blurs and undermines the reality of pwcdds is backwards. Ableism, by definition, is discrimination against DISABLED PEOPLE. If you are claiming to be non-disordered, then you are also claiming to not be apart of that disabled group. Using an accusation against people who are rightfully upset about you wearing their disability like a costume, it comes off less like advocacy and more so deflection. you KNOW you’re being ableist towards pwcdds, but sure, I'll let you cover your ears and go "lalalalala I cant hear you!"
Everyone has parts. That's basic psychology. Things like internal family systems, or even code-switching explain it just fine. It is a normal range of a human experience, but it doesn't immediately mean you have alters. It is not the same as a dissociative identity states formed through trauma. You don't wake up one day and decide to have alters because you learned about cdds through tiktok. That's not how dissociation works, and its not something you can will into existence. You are applying names to you code-switching in different areas of your life.
If there's are no dissociative barrier, there are no alters.
I guarantee you, that if you go to a psychologist, ask them to test you.. they will tell you that you're experiencing psychotic symptoms. They can tell through those tests if you're lying or not. No, psychotic symptoms don't mean you're 'plural', it means you need the proper medication to not go crazy from identity.
At the end of the day, it spreads harmful misinformation and makes it so much harder for pwcdds to be taken seriously.
"You don't smell good" Thanks our programming that causes severe depression and rapid splitting/switching got triggered and we can hardly do anything but I'm glad you noticed how we smell ! (asshole) -Husker
for people saying RAMCOA/OEA isn't real because "It's all conspiracy", there are actual records of places that use those abuse methods, and no not all of them are some big scary cults (while they very much are real, and you can simply look up famous cults and get a butt load)
these things can be schools like the troubled teen industry, most known to me are Ivory Ridge and School of Élan. both abused the kids enrolled there, gaslit and manipulated them and their parents to convince them they committed bad things to get the parents to spend more money on tuition, and that they were bad kids who deserved to be there, Élan literally had a "bully" ritual where they'd pick a kid to be a "bully", and students surround them and one other student and force them to fight until one gets knocked out or until a staff member calls it off (which these were always started by staff members, sometimes for no reason). Students were forced to carry around degrading signs on themselves, some were forced to live in a dumpster for around 30 days i believe?
Ivory Ridge has a whole documentary you can watch on Netflix called The Program, where they even show a whole shed filled with files from the school.
In both of these schools, students behaviors were heavily monitored and their access to the outside world were extremely limited, if they wanted to write a letter, it'd be screened before sending out to make sure they were trying to tell parents what was happening inside the school, and when it came to phone calls, they were heavily monitored and the line would be cut off if you tried to call for help and your calling privileges would be taken (which were very difficult to even get)
these same schools also had hierarchies to climb, and rules that were impossible to follow (things like no smiling, no singing, no making eye contact, no talking to someone on the same level as you, no looking at the opposite sex, no pretending to sleep, 5 minutes showers, etc) Not to mention the staff here had lack of qualifications to be saying they were offering therapeutic care for these "troubled teens"
this abuse is also in underground trafficking rings, which i feel like i don't even have to explain how those can be organized abuse.
no RAMCOA/OEA isn't with the intention of "making a system", but it definitely can be a cause of it if a child were to endure these things, or someone who already has DID/OSDD were to be enrolled into the troubled teen industry and worsen their mental state.
if you look into these things and proceed to say RAMCOA/OEA isn't real, then you're being willfully ignorant.
Welp. My life has gone to shit so here's a notes game with me if you want to help out or not. I've been busy with work and therapy, and I don't do any self care or my hobbies and more, so here's bow many notes to do something for self care.
Update: Since you guys have actually been blowing this up, I decided if you guys can get this post to 1000, I'll deep clean my depression room. See new post for proof of teeth brushing and picture of depression room. Thank you guys so much for the help
Update 2: I actually ended up deep cleaning my depression room because I was very motivated one day, so feel free to leave suggestions for what I should do for 1000 notes
10 notes: I'll brush my teeth with toothpaste and floss
25 notes: take a shower
50 notes: Finish reading my book
100 notes: Process big trauma with our therapist (will happen on July 7th, 2025)
150 notes: eat three meals
200 notes: draw a full 2 page in my sketch book
250 notes: start and end chapter two in my memoir
300 notes: write and post a new poem
350 notes: make a doctor's appointment for my doctor to approve my top surgery and send it to my insurance
400: bleach and redye my hair (guys I really need to do this help)
500: fill out 20 profiles simply plural programmed alters
600: do my laundry
700: fill out 30 of our simply plural profiles of programmed alters
