Eve and Daughters

Welcome to our tiny corner of cyberspace, a stigma-free zone reserved for freedom, support, openness, honesty, comfort and love.

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“But they’re so nice, so talented, so…” NOPE

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a secret code between women: are you safe? in a contact of eyes. i’m here if you need me, the littlest shift of a skirt, of an inclined head, of watching the man who is asking you to smile, bitch. you aren’t alone on the walls of restrooms, i was where you are too. the quiet doling of emergency numbers, the shelters. the space between two women in a largely empty train station. the waiting game of two women strangers who walk, quietly and quickly, to their cars in abandoned parking lots, who watch to be sure the other leaves safely. text me you get home safe. the tally marks of drinks on hidden wrists, carefully disguised as other things ever since men picked up on what it meant and used it to target the “weakest link.” 

my father tells me we have nothing to worry about. last night he sent me one of those email chains that say at the top “Safety Tips For The Women In Your Life!!!! Don’t Let Her Die!!” 

me, and the stranger on the train. she is asleep and the man is asking me who i am going home to. i feel tears pricking the sides of my eyes. i am 13 while he towers over me. he reaches out one hand, and while i don’t know how she knows, she speaks up without opening her eyes: “If you touch my daughter, sir, I will murder you.” Whatever he grumbles is lost in history, because this moment I am so grateful for the existence of other people that I cannot breathe.

I am 19 and on my phone when i become aware of a 13 year old girl is smiling nervously at a man who’s saying disgusting things. I grab her arm. “There you are, cindy,” I say, and then look at the man like he is bile. “Do you need something from my sister?” i ask, and i walk away with her. she cries later.

this is the way of things: a silent, secret web. our promise to each other that despite our differences, when it comes to the wire, we become family, instantly. the unspoken promise. i’m here. i’m watching. i’ll witness.

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Seeking help is not weak but an indication that you want to survive.

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You are not alone

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#Reposting @thesiweproject with @instarepost_app – It’s not always easy to know how to respond. In person, a hug is always the right way to go if the person is open to it. Online: If you would like to show your support for someone who has shared their story, for lack of anything to say send them this: 💚💚💚💚 Green is the color for mental health awareness and a heart is a heart. Thank you for all your stories thus far. 💚 #NoShameDay

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Empathy isn’t just remembering to say that must really be hard—it’s figuring out how to bring difficulty into the light so it can be seen at all. Empathy isn’t just listening, it’s asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to. Empathy requires inquiry as much as imagination. Empathy requires knowing you know nothing. Empathy means acknowledging a horizon of context that extends perpetually beyond what you can see.

The Empathy Exams: Essays by Leslie Jamison  (via internal-acceptance-movement)

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July 11 is #NoShameDay. Share your stories and support; help reduce the stigma surrounding mental health. http://thndr.me/TI75RT

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In honor of World Suicide Prevention Day, here are some encouraging words from 100 Reasons to Recover supporters. Thank you to everyone who called in and made this possible. 

If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, here are some helpful resources:

ImAlive - Online Crisis Network https://www.imalive.org/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 1.800.273.TALK[8255]

The Trevor Project - Suicide Prevention Among LGBTQ Youth http://www.thetrevorproject.org/ http://thetrevorproject.tumblr.com/ 1.866.488.7386

Find a Therapist http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php

SAMHSA Treatment Finder http://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/

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World Suicide Prevention Day is today.

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As the sun surely shines, may hope shine brightly in your life.

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Ifunanya…in support of WSPD

Ifunanya…in support of everyone living with mental illness in Africa

Ifunanya…in support of survivors and conquerors in Africa

Show love everyday <3

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Actual Suicide Prevention

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Not sure if this was posted already, but I thought it’d be useful.

~Alex

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Seeking help is not weak but an indication that you want to survive.

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You are not alone

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You are not alone

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Reblog if you struggle with depression, or an eating disorder, anxiety, bipolar disorder, ADD, OCD, if you self harm, are suicidal or if you have any mental health problem. This is not to seek attention, pity, or judgement. This is to say you are here, and you are not alone. This is to say that no one out there is alone, and we are here to support each other. Reblog.

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I am a Nigerian abused by 5 different Nigerians in Nigeria. How un-African is that to you?

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Child Sexual Abuse is not a western issue, it’s a human issue Catholic priests aren’t paedophiles, people who sexually abuse children are Depression is not a ‘European disease’, my African parents Mental illnesses don’t come from the devil, did the devil give you the flu? Your ‘wicked’ uncle in the village did not flunk your interview, you flunked Your ‘wicked” aunty in the village did not end your engagement, it didn’t work out Igbos aren’t money-mad, lovers of money are My eloquence and carriage surprise you because I’m Nigerian? Nigerians aren’t scam artists, scheming criminals conned you Men don’t cheat, people who cheat do Women don’t lie, people who lie do The girl in the short skirt is not a slut, she just likes to wear short skirts Loc rockers aren’t dirty, people who don’t like to shower are But they like it and choose not to Africa is not a charity case Neither is she a war-torn country Muslims aren’t terrorists, terrorists are Africans don’t live in the wild, wild animals (and Bear Grylls) do They’re not frigid because they won’t have sex with you, leave them be They are not evil for not believing what you believe, to each their own truth She likes to dress up, she’s not stupid I like to dress down, I’m not boring I don’t date, I’m not lesbian He’s a virgin at 25 because he wants to be, nothing is wrong with him I’m no less of a Nigerian because I’m vegetarian They live together doesn’t mean they’re sleeping together She’s not a whore because she slept with you You are not entitled to sex because you are married Your little soldiers, sir, determine the gender of your child Not all boys are boys, not all girls are girls There are many X and Y permutations and combinations Some boys like girls, some boys like boys, some boys like both Some girls like boys, some girls like girls, some girls like both The cap might fit but it just might not be my style or their style No two brushstrokes are the same, get a brush and try You like what YOU like You are who YOU are You do things the way YOU know how You believe what YOUR mind has learned not to fear That applies to everyone else You’re about a minute closer to your death than when you started reading this Live your life and let others

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Because stigma’s ugly face is on my mind. Because it is No Shame Day. Because I live with depression and agoraphobia. Because stigma kills. Because stigma must end.

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Please go to to twitter and search the hashtag #NoShame. The stories are inspiring and heartbreaking and encouraging and beautiful. Thank you all for participating. 

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