Unapologetically Human

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You don't have to be perfect to be deserving of love. I know that you question how anyone could want to be with someone like you. Someone who isn't easy. Someone who carries so much darkness and hasn't found their way. But here's the truth - no one is easy one hundred percent of the time. Everyone is difficult in some capacity. Everyone hurts and struggles. Everyone feels lost and has baggage. Those hard pieces might be part of who you are, but they aren't the only part, and they aren't the part that matters most. You're more than the pain you're carrying. You have so much more to offer than your wounds. And the right people know this. The hard pieces of your story don't make you undesirable or inadequate. They make you human. You don't have to be the epitome of mental and physical health to be deserving of a relationship. You just have to be a person. To show up and be vulnerable. To be dedicated to learning and growing and becoming a more full version of yourself. To be open to practicing patience and letting go. To be willing to put in the time and the work. So when your mind gets loud and you find yourself drowning in your thoughts, tell yourself, again and again: I can be struggling and still be worthy of connection. I can be difficult to handle and still be deserving of love. I can feel lost and not have it together and still be someone of value. I'm choosing to show up. I'm choosing vulnerability over fear. I'm choosing to believe, even when it feels fake, that I'm enough.

Daniell Koepke

[wheresmybubble]

Doing your best.

Books - http://debbietung.com/books

[unapologetically-human]

It's okay if you can't access your light. If you can't find it in you to be hopeful or brave. You don't have be positive when you're hurting. You just have to stay curious. Curious about what tomorrow might bring. Curious about who it might bring to you. About what you might learn and which opportunities might arise and how things in the universe might align so that there's a shift. Maybe things will continue to feel painful and heavy forever. But maybe they wont. Maybe you'll never be able to climb out of the hole and move towards what's important to you. But maybe you will. Maybe something different is coming. Something that will change everything. Something that will change you. It might not happen in the way you wanted or imagined. And it might not happen in the time frame you were hoping. But you'll never know unless you keep showing up. Unless you keep trying. So stay curious. Even when you feel incapacitated by the hurt and the heaviness. Even when you feel convinced that nothing will change. You don't know what tomorrow will bring. You don't know what your life will look like in a month or a year or three years. The only way to find out is to stay. So please stay. Please keep being curious. Maybe the best days of your life haven't happened yet. Maybe your most profound moments are coming.

Daniell Koepke

[unapologetically-human]

My book comes out in 2 weeks! If you like the quotes I share on here, this might be something you’d enjoy too :) Maybe it can be a belated valentines gift for yourself or someone you love. For the people who have been following me here from the beginning, thank you for your continued support. I appreciate you all so much. I’m not very active on this space anymore, so if you’d like more updates and posts, I’d definitely recommend following me on my instagram!

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[unapologetically-human]

Forgive yourself for what happened. For the mistakes you made. For not showing up the way up the way you needed to. For not being the person you wanted to be. You’re human. You did the best you could in the moment given what you knew and what you had, and that’s all you can ask of yourself. You’re still learning. You’re still finding your way. And that takes time. You’re allowed to give yourself that time. And you’re allowed to show up in the world imperfectly. You’re allowed to fail at things you tried hard for. You’re allowed to realize you made the wrong decision. You’re allowed to be someone who’s still figuring out their path and their purpose. And you’re allowed to forgive yourself.  You can’t go back and change the decisions you’ve made, but you can choose what you do today. You can keep choosing, again and again. You can start over. And that’s where your power is. In today. So no more beating yourself up. No more going over and over it again in your head and torturing yourself with the past. What happened, happened, and all the shame and self-hatred in the world won’t undo that. Today, you’re starting over. Today, you’re moving forward with the new knowledge and experiences you have. Today, you can be the person you want to be and live the life you want to live. You’re not a bad person. You’re not a disappointment or a failure. You’re just human. You’re still learning and growing and finding your way. And it’s okay. You’ll be okay.

Daniell Koepke 

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“It shouldn’t matter what you’re into, how you look — you can achieve whatever you aspire to” Yalitza Aparicio for The New York Times / January 2019

[unapologetically-human]

Other people's reactions don't discount the importance and validity of your experiences. If you reach out to someone and they say something that makes you feel rejected, invalidated, or unheard, it doesn't mean that what you struggle with is wrong or that your feelings are misplaced. It doesn't mean you shouldn't have opened up or that it's all in your head. All it means is that this one person didn't have the capacity or emotional intelligence to sit with you in your struggle. It might mean they don't have personal experience or practice to be able to know what to say. It might mean they felt helpless or overwhelmed. Or it may mean they just aren't one of your people. And that's okay. Not everyone is going to be able to hold your pain with you. Most don't know because they can't even hold their own. And that isn't your weight to carry. You deserve to take up space and voice your experience. You deserve to process the pain inside your head and reach out. Even if other people don't get it.  Even if someone thinks it's silly or wrong.Even if you don't know anyone else who feels the way you do. You feel what you feel and the things that are hard for you are the things that are hard for you. And no matter what that looks like for anyone else, your experience is valid. Other people don't get dictate the legitimacy of your struggle. You don't have to shrink or stay silent. You don't have to be yourself up.You just have to find your people. You have to trust the validity of your own experience, and even when it feels untrue, you have to trust that no one can take away what's real for you. You know your truth. You live it and breathe it everyday, and that's powerful. And sometimes, that's enough.

Daniell Koepke

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you know what’s wild is that all these crazy standards we hold ourselves to are things that we don’t even value in another person? like i’ve never been like “wow I love that this friend of mine is too proud to ask for help and never complains about their feelings” or “my favorite quality about this friend is that they get straight A’s and never get overwhelmed and has never told me about a problem” or “i love that this friend has never been wrong about anything or slipped up and said something embarrassing once in their life” and yet here we are, pushing ourselves past our limits for and beating ourselves up over slipups of things that our friends probably wouldn’t even rank in the top 50 reasons they like us

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[unapologetically-human]

There will always be someone "better" than you in some capacity. There will always be someone smarter. There will always be someone more creative and articulate and well-liked. Someone thinner and more conventionally attractive. Someone more knowledgable and skilled and better able to execute what you're striving towards. But that doesn't invalidate the strengths you bring to the table. It doesn't mean you're inadequate or that you'll never be the version of yourself you want to be. That's just part of what it means to be human. And it's okay. We're all at different places on our journey. We're all a product of different histories. We all have different struggles and limitations. Different resources and barriers. And so, what we're able to give and create is going to look different. You may not be like other people. You may not be as "good" or as "skilled". And there will always be someone objectively "better" - but there will never be another you. There's no one else with your unique perspective and lived experience. No one else with your unique combination of strengths and talents and triumphs. No one else with your exact story or insight. And all those specific pieces mean something. They allow you to bring gifts to the table no one else can give. To share things no one else can share. Just by showing up in the world as your authentic self. Just by waking up and honoring who you are. And that's magic. You are magic. There's no one else on the planet quite like you, and that's your strength. Other people have strengths too, but they don't discount your own. No matter what anyone else can give, what you have to offer is still important and meaningful. No matter how you compare, who you are is incredible and enough.

Daniell Koepke

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‪Its important to remind yourself that this is not a race. Do what you can do today. You will get to where you are going. Progress happens in layers. ‬

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By Kelly Bastow

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a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.

[unapologetically-human]

During the holidays, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that family is supposed to look a certain way. It's easy to look at everyone else's lives and assume that what they have is "right" or "better". And it's difficult not to internalize those comparisons and feel like there's something wrong with you if your family and the way you spend the holidays doesn't match up. But the truth is that no family is perfect. Every person has painful pieces of their family story or dynamics that are unhealthy. Every family has conflicts and ugly moments and circumstances that leave us feeling alone or overwhelmed or unloved. You just don't see those realities because no one talks about it.  So if the holidays are painful for you, know that it's okay. You aren't a failure for not being able to "pull it together" and feel happy. You aren't pathetic if you don't have loved one's to go to or if you've had to create distance with family to practice self-care. Your life isn't inadequate if your family gatherings don't feel "the way they're supposed to", and there's nothing wrong with you if any of these things make you feel heartbroken or anxious or sad.

Daniell Koepke

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