I’ve been seeing lots of dudes lately talking about how they have friends with really conservative views and being like “you know what, i don’t agree with him politically but he’s a great guy! we’re great friends! he can vote how he wants, we can still get beers together!”
and i just. i feel like that’s such a…. privileged way to exist?
I dunno man. But if you’re actively conservative i literally don’t feel safe around you so. Like. it’s not just ideology! Votes don’t go into the void! If some dude shits on women and survivors and LGBT+ people then three strikes ur out! I feel like I’m gonna die! see you never! bye!
So I honestly can’t imagine feeling like you can put aside all these core beliefs and just hang with whoever. Like, if you can look at people like that and feel totally safe and defend how “great” they are… I’m wary, that’s all.
Like, yeah, I’ve known plenty of conservative people who are nice to me. But I’m really, deeply uncomfortable with people who are only being nice to me because I fit their arbitrary mental checklist for who deserves kindness. I don’t want your kindness if it would cancel out the moment you learned anything about me. Fuck off.
I just feel like “agree to disagree and get along anyway” is only an accessible viewpoint to those who don’t have very much at risk. It reminds me of people who stay friends with abusers because they “don’t know the whole story” and “maybe everything’s okay”. Like, there is no neutral when you’re talking about human rights. There just isn’t. I don’t care if you smile at me and want to discuss a shared interest in marketing psychology and equine sports. If you hate fundamental aspects of who I am, I’m not going to get along with you, and I’m not going to trust the people who do. Simple.
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