Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs
1) do not call me girl
2) there are options that aren’t “overreact to everything” and “be a doormat”. I do not actually think that having no boundaries makes you less reactive. That’s part of why not being reactive is so hard: it requires you to set reasonable boundaries for yourself














