Exclusively mentioned in the abortion debate

A blog dedicated to exposing how pro-choicers exclusively mention foster kids in the abortion debate.

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This post is 2 years old and it's still accurate. You still don't see woke people arguing for foster kids and former foster youth. You only see them using us as pawns in the abortion debate. Why is that?

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Checking to see if this pro-choicer exclusively mentioned foster kids in the abortion debate and sure enough they did.

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While it's true that pro-lifers can be overly idealistic about adoption, I feel that's a far less offense than how pro-choicers typically handle the topic of foster care (saying foster kids are "unloved", "unwanted", "better off aborted" and bombarding anyone who criticizes this harmful discourse with abusive messages).

[colombinaa]

“i love women!” y’all can’t even handle:

lesbians

autistic women being sarcastic

black and brown women who are loud and assertive

feminists

teenage girls

10 year old tomboys

discussions and appreciation of female biology

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8. Women from foster care who don't wanna be your pawns in the abortion debate

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I'm not sure why the premise of this blog is so difficult for pro-choicers to comprehend.

It's called "exclusively mentioned" because pro-choicers EXCLUSIVELY mention foster kids in the abortion debate.

I'm not trying to have a debate about abortion. I'm trying to talk about the stigma foster kids face and how the conversation on foster care is ALWAYS redirected to abortion.

For example, some former foster kids want care leavers to be protected under the Equality Act where experience in foster care would be recognized as a protected characteristic like race or sex. However if the conversation around foster care always redirects back to abortion then nothing progresses.

And no matter how many times I explain this - it does not compute. Pro-choicers just don't seem to understand it. They act like former foster kids not wanting to be tokenized in the abortion debate is some kind of crusade against women's rights (like lol at people calling me a "forced birther" for talking about how foster kids are stereotyped by pro-choicers as "unloved", "unwanted" or "better off aborted").

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That Freudian slip is hilarious because this pro-choicer's true intention is to make pro-lifers look horrible and ignoring the purpose of this blog - how pro-choicers EXCLUSIVELY MENTION FOSTER KIDS IN THE ABORTION DEBATE.

It really doesn't compute in their heads that there can be a conversation about foster kids without making them an argument for abortion.

You guys just don't get how offensive you are being. It's like when you argue that disabled people are better off dead/aborted. When you make an argument that a group of people are better off aborted, they can hear you. And it's not just about being offended in some one off time. When you EXCLUSIVELY bring up foster kids or disabled people in the abortion debate you are saying they SHOULDN'T be alive. You aren't interested in helping people. So don't you dare mutter some half baked argument to me like "pro-lifers don't care about foster kids" because it's obvious you don't.

If you cared about foster kids, you'd be arguing that experience in foster care should be a protected characteristic. You'd be arguing for better support for aged out foster kids. You wouldn't be using us as a political tool for abortion! You wouldn't be saying dumb shit like "my friend was in foster care and they were abused and wished they were aborted". You're not a good friend if you encourage suicidal ideation or use your friend's moment of weakness for political arguments. If you care about foster kids at least humour literally ONE conversation without us being an argument for abortion! Literally one. Is that so hard?

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Me to pro-choicers: Can you guys stop exclusively bringing up foster kids in the abortion debate?

Pro-choicers: *instantly wants to start arguing about why they tokenize foster kids in the abortion debate*

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Pro-choicers: Pro-lifers don't care about foster kids

Pro-choicers: *bullies and dogpiles former foster kids who don't want to be arguments in the abortion debate*

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I've seen pro-choicers argue for abortion by citing the low college graduation rates of former foster kids (around 1-3%). And my thoughts on that are:

- why argue that foster kids are better off dead than supported?

You could easily advocate for colleges to be better prepared for former foster youth students. They could offer tailored guidance similar to the support tailored towards first generation college students. They could have genuine interest in helping former foster youth students but instead pro-choicers seem to stigmatize us so bad that they treat us as complete lost causes. We are completely beyond help according to them.

There are programs across the world that offer support for former foster youth to obtain college degrees including tuition waivers and rent assistance but you barely hear about these from pro-choicers. They are so doom and gloom.

It's crazy to me that pro-choicers seem genuinely surprised when a former foster kid leans towards pro-life. It's as if they can't empathize at all with former foster youth and how it demoralizing and pessimistic their arguments are.

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Pro-choicers: Pro-lifers don't care about foster kids!!

A former foster kid: I'm a former foster kid and I'm happy to be alive and I think it's really stigmatizing for foster kids to constantly be used in the abortion debate.

Pro-choicers: wow I DON'T care!

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Pro-abortion woman physically assaults a Pro-life woman because she feels that foster kids should have been aborted

Pro-choicers in the comments defend the violent woman's actions.

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A Tiktok video on the topic of the foster care to sex trafficking pipeline and random pro-choicer shows up to makes it about abortion.

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They’re right though. Amy Coney Barret said as much.

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@virgoanmaenad there are exactly 3 posts on your blog with the "foster care" tag and all of them related to your pro-abortion stance.

Such as this post, a reply to it and this current post.

Why is it that pro-choicers never bring up foster kids outside the abortion debate, such as trying to get experience in foster care becoming a protected characteristic?

'Being in care should be protected by law like race and sex'

Rebecca and Fay say they've faced discrimination because of being in the care system.

Do you think calling us "sex slaves", saying we are better off dead and calling it a day is feminism or something? Why do self proclaimed feminists exclude girls from foster care?

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A Tiktok video on the topic of the foster care to sex trafficking pipeline and random pro-choicer shows up to makes it about abortion.

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"Send children into homes that don't want them"

Calling foster kids unwanted. Here we go again. Pro-choicers adding stigma to foster kids. Must be a day that ends in "y". 🙄

"You want children to go into foster care"

Foster kids are generally NOT relinquished children. They are typically involuntarily removed by the state because there is a child welfare concern at home (like domestic violence, neglect, substance use, child endangerment, physical abuse, sexual abuse).

Foster care is constantly being confused with private infant adoption by pro-choicers and I am literally begging you as a former foster kid for you guys to do your research. You sound so ignorant.

Also the absolute obsession of you guys using us in the abortion debate needs addressing.

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Pro-choicer doesn't realize they are speaking to a former foster kid. By "you guys" she means "pro-lifers".

Once again another perfect demonstration of a former foster kid calling out pro-choicers for exclusively seeing them as rhetoric in the abortion debate and the pro-choicer wants to respond with an abortion debate.

A one track mind.