Exmormon Rants

A secret Exmormon in a Mormon family. As the name suggests, there will be rants, positive and negative. Feel free to DM or ask questions, I won't bite!

[weirdcultstuff]

[dustycathedral-deactivated20230]

this whole page is a great resource for exvangelicals/exchristians !!

[jackawful]

Really specifically: “all men are disgusting abusive sex-crazed monsters” was a belief used to bolster heteropatriarchy in my old church by positioning women as a necessary gatekeeping & moderating force. Women could aid men in the struggle to keep their Beastly Instincts under control by dressing modestly and eventually entering into a marriage where their love and support and constant sexual availability (and I use that term extremely deliberately here) would help keep that man a productive member of society. This kept men blameless (any abuse or sexual misconduct is just in their nature as men!) while allowing the church to constantly victim-blame women - because if you got hurt, it’s because you obviously weren’t doing Enough to keep whatever man hurt you reigned in.

This system dehumanized everyone in it, but it most specifically used the idea that men are inherently Bad to prop up patriarchy, and that’s why I can’t fucking stand to see the same base ideas crop up in supposedly feminist spaces.

[catboycumgutters]

“Women have more sensitive spirits and are naturally closer to God and need to help men out!” “The man is the head of the family but the woman is the neck and she needs to keep him facing the right direction.” Shut up shut up shut up shut UP I’m SEVEN and NOT responsible for my dad’s shitty behavior! Leave me alone!

[biglawbear]

[stripedsilverfeline]

Yep, this describes most if not all organized religion and the Republican party. 

[mindfulwrath]

This describes Evangelical Christianity and the Republican party. Dare I say it, MOST organized religion doesn't do this.

[averruncusho]

Wow I never thought of it like this

[exmormonthoughts]

This very much reminds me of the LDS church. I think saying this is what the Republican Party does is a bit of a stretch though. It could be argued that the Democratic Party does the same thing.

Luckily this blog isn’t about politics.

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Kids need love.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[mckitterick]

Instagram source: X

[kindnotestoself]

[psst. hey. it wasn’t the trauma that made you stronger, kinder, and more empathetic.] [it’s how you handled it] [that credit is yours.]

[mckitterick]

@thecinnamonkitten put this gem in the notes

[anxietyproblem]

[beegerbucket-blog]

The Mormon church received $54 million from the government care act. What a fucking parasite.

They have over $120 Billion in reserves they are hording. 

This means you and I are subsidizing this cult. 

[beegerbucket-blog]

“Pandemic. Churches should be donating to people in need not begging money from people in need.”

— Seeking government money and tithing on stimulus checks is parasitic, taking resources away from those who truly need it..

[whitepeopletwitter]

[beegerbucket-blog]

[ophidahlia]

[goojabee-deactivated20170313]

The phrase “I know this church is true”, always can be known as a false testimony.

The speaker should be saying “I wish this church were true” or ” I hope this church is true”.  

To know,  is to say you have absolute evidence.

There has never been such evidence.

[ophidahlia]

That is exactly what caused me to deconvert. I remember sitting in a study room in university, bothered by the fact that I was learning to be a critical thinker about everything except my religion. I reasoned that if my religious beliefs were actually true, they should hold up to scrutiny.

I was reading a copy of William James’ Varieties of Religious Experience, and he spoke about a catholic lady’s conversion experience. She described her baptism using a lot of the same imagery and words that I did; it appears she had the same experience. She felt it was God telling her the Catholicism was the true faith.

Kinda left me in a pickle, because I knew I had no actual reason to assume that she was mistaken about her experience, while it was actually God talking to me.

“But I felt the Holy Spirit!”

Well, she’s certain that she did as well.

At least one of us, in my mind, had to be wrong, God would by lying otherwise. That’s what did it, the realization that despite how powerful and remarkable my conversion experience was, I didn’t actually KNOW it was God talking to me and not her, I was just assuming because I had a novel and powerful personal experience and I wanted it to be true. That’s why the missionaries say you need to have faith before God will fulfil Moroni’s promise, because faith is really a desire for it to be true. 

Transcendent human spiritual experiences are actually present in many different faith practices. There’s really no reason to assume it’s God talking to you, rather than simply your own subjective feelings.

So yeah, after 7 years of utter devotion and unquestioning faith, it all came tumbling down. I didn’t even care about questioning church doctrines or Joe Smith being a con man or anything else: once you KNOW YOU DON’T KNOW, and nobody in the church actually knows either, you’re free to disregard the whole lot.  That’s why testimony is regarded as the foundation of mormon faith. You take that as de-facto proof that “God says the church is true, therefore you can never doubt the church leaders.” Then you’re STUCK. That’s why they always come back to testimony, testimony, testimony, over and over and over and over… Here’s a really well-written article about this exact subject. Where do we go from here? Start with Wikipedia’s intro to Epistemology.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“And then it happens… One day you wake up and you’re in this place. You’re in this place where everything feels right. Your heart is calm. Your soul is lit. Your thoughts are positive. Your vision is clear. You’re at peace, at peace with where you’ve been, at peace with what you’ve been through and at peace with where you’re headed.”

— TheMondsJournal

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

— Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

[frottinq]

Do you ever interact with someone and you realize “this person has never had to consider or think about what their place in the world is, and why they believe certain things or act certain ways, this person has never considered society at length” and it’s just terrifying

[jewish-tutter]

“I just vote for who my parents vote for” also, is one of the most bone chilling sentences i’ve ever heard