Exploring Gender

It started as a simple game of dress up, but it has changed since we started. Gender definitions are changing, and we are exploring what that means for an individual and a society. Just as gender is so is our understanding of this blog. We want to celebrate gender and what it means. Sure we'll still dress up, but only as a means to an end. With that in mind, feel free to submit pictures of yourself, and send in suggestions for outfits. Please feel free to let us know if you see something you think we are doing wrong. That's how we learn and improve. (Also, if we reblogged one of your pictures and you want it taken down, let us know about that too.)

[mousidy]

if you lose interest in a trans woman when you find out she has a vagina then die

[mousidy]

we're not sex toys we're people 👍

[mousidy]

oh noooo you can't fit her into the "tranny shemale futanari dickgirl" sexual archetype OR the "pure, Natural cis woman crafted by god" sexual archetype? you have to respect her as a person rather than as a sex object? fuuuuck that must be really hard for you I'm sorry

[mousidy]

it's funny that both trans and cis women alike are reduced to our genitals, but with trans women it's especially extreme. transness is thought of as infinitely worse than cisness in every way, so why would you ever desire a trans woman if not to play with her one unique feature? and if she doesn't, or can't, put out, what's the point of her? what value does she even have? she's just a sex toy, you can just throw her out

[barbarajreadytoplay]

Listening to the radio while they report on the SCOTUS ruling yesterday that states can ban specifically trans girls and women from girls/womens sports programs. The people they interview: a trans boy with his cis mother and a trans man. The trans man says one of the things that hampers progress is "no one talks to us." Idk man the radio station didn't talk to any trans women, they talked to you, a trans man. Seems like they are pretty willing to talk to you and not the people this ruling actually directly affects.

[autismking]

feel the need to add: trans men, if you are given these types of opportunities, to speak on trans rights (or losses thereof) over a trans woman who is more affected by them than you, it is your *responsibility* to decline and, if you’re able, suggest a trans woman instead. if you are asked to be in a leadership position in a queer/trans/progressive organization and there are no trans women in leadership positions there, it is your *responsibility* to either decline in favor of a trans woman or decline until they bring in a trans woman.

if yall want trans women to stop accusing you of transmisogyny, stop speaking over them, stop shoving them out of the way, stop accusing them of being predators, stop complaining that you’re more oppressed than they are, stop being fucking transmisogynistic!!!!

[bebsi-cola]

actually pigs shouldn't be at pride even outside of uniform. fuck those guys

[bebsi-cola]

if you decide to become a police officer then that outweighs any other marginalised identity you can rustle up like. not sorry, who asked you to willingly become a pig

[pekkhum]

I have heard of black people warning their kids that the race of a police officer is cop and you should not expect solidarity from them. The same applies to other types of minorities.

The sexuality of a police officer is cop.

The gender of a police officer is cop.

When you become the enforcer and protector of capital, you are making the deal to be slightly favored by the system over others like you, in exchange for being its servant. Your solidarity is with the system that you serve, even if it hates you.

If you want solidarity with those the system hates, you cannot be the system's servant and defender.

[lliveonthesunn]

i get why people don't believe in marriage as a social construct but legally it is the best and easiest way to say "this is who i trust to take care of me when i can't take care of myself" and i'm so glad gay people fought for that right bc when shit gets scary at least i know im in good hands

[genderkoolaid]

hey boy don't kill yourself. green's dictionary of slang is available online and allows you to explore 500 years of english vulgarity. you can search by part of speech, source, time period, etymology, and usage. there's a whole category for gay slang. they even have specific citations listed so you can see the exact context for yourself. boy did you know that in 1927 "to kneel at the altar" was slang for "to sodomize"

[genderkoolaid]

some other hits:

Princess: an effeminate and relatively youthful male homosexual or lesbian (1931-4)

Daffodil: effeminate young man (1925)

To throw a fuck into: to have sex with (1919)

Top sergeant: a masculine lesbian (1939) [‘she takes command of the girls’ privates’]

Lily: penis (1919)

Wolf: sexually aggressive man (1847); a homosexual top (1918)

Soul kiss: a deep kiss, involving putting one’s tongue into one’s partner’s mouth (1907)

Tom: a lesbian (1909); [in 'old tom'] prostitute catering to lesbians (1966)

Church mouse: a male homosexual who frequents crowded churches in order to fondle any potential sex partners. (1941)

Discover one's gender: to accept or acknowledge one’s homosexuality (1941) / Lose one's gender: To return to living as a heterosexual

Minty: a masculine lesbian (1941)

Also a lot of early 20th century vulgarity is recorded in Letter from My Father, which is a collection of letters published by a man who's dad was, in short, a major slut and human disaster who wrote about his sex life for his son. It's insane. You can find copies of it online & it's a wild fucking read (literally!) and I think a really interesting look at the life of a person who goes against our stereotypes of what people in the past were "supposed" to be like.

Anyways feel free to add y'all's favs to this post. & if you use this for gay historical fanfic please share with the class

[genderkoolaid]

#OH THIS IS EXTREMELY EXTREMELY HELPFUL#writing#resources#saving for later#maybe i should move my 1920s story from '25 to '27 because..... bro..........

note for writers: these are dated to the first time they were recorded, not necessarily to their first use. I imagine for many of these, they came about naturally through spoken language before they were written down anywhere. This is especially true of more underground slang because it's probably being recorded (in ways we still have) the least. So if you wanna use a term but it's a little off date-wise, give yourself some wiggle room.

also gonna take this moment to highlight two more i found recently:

Best boy: a sweetheart, a boyfriend, a husband. (1893) [w the obvious equivalent term 'best girl']

Honeydripper or honeydrips: a sexual partner (1917)

Like. Honeydripper?????? That's so horny I can't stop thinking about it. We need to bring THAT back

[the-transgenda-agenda]

updates to miscellaneous page - added link to green's dictionary of slang

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

they killed him for this

[theupturned]

so many characters that are girls but they dont know it. the author doesnt know it.but i know

[scrupulosity-comics]

title of this is just ‘lesbian sex’

[scrupulosity-comics]

lot of terfs have been reblogging this so I may as well publicly state that the woman on the right is modeled with permission after my transfemme friend. if you relate to it as strongly as many of you claim in the tags I urge you to reflect upon that with empathy and compassion about the depth of experiences you truly do share with trans women.

otherwise fuck off I guess. my art is not fuel for your hatred.

[existennialmemes]

The crux of the anti trans movement is a war on bodily autonomy. They don't want you to have any agency over what you look like, how you dress, who you date, whether to have kids, etc.

They want total control over you. Not just trans people. Not just queer people. You. Everyone.

Trans people are just a scapegoat. They want total control over everyone's self expression. They want the right to mold you into their perfect little cog in their dehumanizing machine.

Happy Trans Day of Visibility. Our rights are your rights. Our destruction is your destruction.

[our-trans-punk-experience]

10/10 post bringing it back for 2026

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Transphobes will claim that trans people are snowflakes who want to be the most Special :tm: things in existence but like I would have sold my heart and soul to have just been another girl in the crowd who didn’t stand out in the slightest

[depsidase]

[asteroidtroglodyte]

The fucking. Polynesians knew

[kisnin]

ABOUT BOTH THINGS

[tpwrtrmnky]

Here's a history lesson on trans medicine btw: The guy who coined "gender identity", introduced the concept to psychology and did foundational research on it did so trying to find a way to prevent people from being trans.

Why am I bringing this up? Because the origin fallacy will kill your capacity for understanding literally any concept whatsoever. The guy who coined the term gender identity was anti-trans.

The modern scientific consensus on gender identity is so trans-affirming that anti-trans movements attack the concept constantly.

Theories evolve and change over time, and if you get stuck attacking modern theories by referring to shit that happened half a century ago you will disseminate anti-knowledge.

[tpwrtrmnky]

This is not to be confused with the other guy often wrongly credited as having coined gender identity

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Money

He was on related but different shit relating to the medical abuse of Intersex people (the medical abuse he contributed to), believing that gender identity could be set in stone by early-life socialization. He was, famously, extremely wrong about that.

[tpwrtrmnky]

It's important to know how we got to where we are now because sometimes people have ideas that might sound fresh and innovative, but as it turns out, they're going backwards. They're suggesting shit that was tried by weird creeps in the 60s and went horribly.

[tpwrtrmnky]

AND if you go even further back you'll see a long chain of less descriptively useful terms, used more offensively, until you're in a horrific soup of transphobia, homophobia, misogyny and a hefty dose of ableism. These guys may have worked to popularize a term, but they didn't invent the concept and they certainly didn't discover the situation of their patients.

[chaoticrei]

Like/reblog if you think that you don't need to medically transition to be transgender

[thediscossessed]

That whole post about young trans women needing to learn to communicate, snide as it read, is right. As Imperfect a tool language is, the ability to advocate for yourself is so important. It's painful and incredibly clumsy to be so consistently misunderstood but theres as much you learn from the mundane failures of connection as there is atrophy in one's isolation.

The odd thing is I remember as a freshly cracked egg the FOMO I felt at the girls who could pierce the rosetta stone of animal chirps and coy vernacular. I still get vestiges of the feeling, but at some point I realized the in-group I perceived is simply a mix of consumerism and proximity to whiteness.

If all you do is parrot those around you, you'll never hear yourself. I wish I better at pithy horny improv but alas I'll settle with waxing poetic about fat women

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

[bsaka7]

excerpts from erin in the morning's article on the ioc's ban on transgender women and sex testing policy

[wlwriot]

Today I called a girl homophobic as a joke and she almost started crying

[wlwriot]

She said “my neighbors are a lesbian couple! I’m the least homophobic person you’ll ever meet”

[wlwriot]

I said “Kelsea I’m really sorry I hurt your feelings but I need you to know that homophobic people can have lesbian neighbors” and she just got even more distraught and said “I’ve been inside their house and I wasn’t even afraid or anything”

AFRAID OF WHAT??

[boopednose]

She entered the Home of Phobia and wasn’t even scared