My name is Uni (he/him), I'm an ex-radqueer who was active in the community from 2023 to 2024. I went under the name uni-unrestrained, then unifreak, and ran the sideblogs radflagqueer & radq-polls.
I decided to make this sideblog to talk about my experience in and out of the community and provide a space for others to do the same.
Abt me, stances and boundaries:
21, queer, he/him, masc & neutral terms
Ex & anti radqueer
Pro para, strongly anti-contact
TransID critical
No DNI
Interactions are not endorsements. I openly interact with a lot of folk I disagree with.
Does anybody have any actual medical sources on “atypical dysphoria” the way radqueers define it? I looked it up and the first few things I got were pluralpedia and the lgbt wiki T-T
Unfortunately this topic is severely understudied and underdiscussed, but I'd recommend starting with BIID (body integrity identity disorder). Theres also a small study about transracial dysphoria somewhere, which you could probably find on one of the transrace subreddits. Might be worth looking into Rachael Dolezal, too?
This is the study I was talking about, however it is not a very good one. Somebody else smarter than me has already pointed out that it conflates race, ethnicity and nationality. Take it with a grain of salt.
I also found a theory paper about transracialism in the context of transgender identities. I haven't read this yet, so I can't comment on it.
Here's another paper that discusses the results of a questionnaire done by <300 participants identifying as transracial. Again, haven't read this yet, so no comment.
I'm very tired of this narrative antis like to push, where radqueers below the age of 18 are all poor wittle babies incapable of doing anything wrong & adult radqs are grown ass adults running an organized cult.
Adult radqueers, especially teens, are not immune to being groomed, abused and exploited by the community because they're the age of majority. They are not suddenly super mature beings who know better than people a couple years younger than them.
A step further, abusers in the community do not immediately lose their victim status because of their horrible actions. It is very very important to understand that a lot of adults who joined the community as minors are stuck in the cycle of abuse.
Do you need yourself a new term? Well look no further!!
Welcome to my humble blog, anti-rq coining!
This blog entirely is for people who need specifically anti-rq terms. Are you struggling with being radqueer stereotyped? Then feel free to comment or send in a request! I can make anything anti-radqueer.
This blog does not have a DNI. But this blog is and always will be anti harassment, anti censorship, anti radqueer (although people who want to get out of the community but don't know how are welcome!!), pro recovery, anti discrimination towards people in good faith!
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Wanting to have/being an alternate/altered version of your current state.
BornID (CisID atlernative)
Being born with/Already having the identity.
CentraID (TrisID)
Being in the center of BornID and AlterID.
UnID (NullID alternative)
Wanting to rid of/wanting to un-identify yourself with something.
EternID (PermaID alternative)
Wanting to/being eternally an identity.
PleneID (FylolID alternative)
Plene means fully in Esperanto.
Being fully transitioned/Finally reaching the desired state.
MimiID (MutolID/DissilID alternative)
Mimicking AlterID/Calling oneself AlterID when is actually BornID. Or other way around. (Can coin seperate term for DissilID)
AlteragaID/AgaID (IterID alternative)
Feeling like one should identify or want to identify with an AlterID but going against it for no/some reason.
SynthID (FauxID alternative)
One's id is synthetic, one is only using it because it's fun.
EtherID (SpiriID alternative)
Identify with something due to being connected to it in an etheral/spiritual way.
MalID (SpiteID alternative)
Identifying with something out of malice towards another.
EsteID (AisthesID alternative)
Estetika = Aesthetic.
Identifying as something as/for the aesthetic.
SurgeID (SpikeID alternative)
Otherwise not identifying with something but occasionally feeling a surge of said identity.
RootID (SourceID alternative)
Identifying as something because the origin of other identity [fictive/factive, fictionkin/factkin, etc etc] identified with said something. Other identity being the root of this identity.
All listed alternatives are anti-radqueer, anti-harassment and pro-recovery!! Do not use these unless you align with these stances.
They have no other stances otherwise. I want them to be inclusive and used by people who generally want people to get/feel better.
Does anybody have any actual medical sources on “atypical dysphoria” the way radqueers define it? I looked it up and the first few things I got were pluralpedia and the lgbt wiki T-T
Unfortunately this topic is severely understudied and underdiscussed, but I'd recommend starting with BIID (body integrity identity disorder). Theres also a small study about transracial dysphoria somewhere, which you could probably find on one of the transrace subreddits. Might be worth looking into Rachael Dolezal, too?
Radqueer community completely ruined my perception of what's right and what's wrong to the point i now cant tell anymore if an adult is being predatory to me or if they're just friendly. I thought it was the only community that can understand me and treat me like a human being rather than an object but it took me so long to realize i was objectified by so many creepy adults in it
I also hate when people say all radqueers are evil and fucked up when majority of the community is just kids with past trauma idk, im just upset rn i wish i could go back to it but now i know it's dangerous. I think only one adult in the entire community reached out and warned me when i was actively posting abt my groomer at the time and everyone else supported our weird fucked up "relationship". I have to go to therapy for this bullshit now. It ruined everything i like. i hate my life i hate that nobody said a single word and i hate that people encouraged me to get worse, sometimes in the name of "transid transition" Fuck all of those so called responsible adults. I actually need professional help i can't stop thinking about what happened and how it took me months to realize im not doing okay
Ok so way too many scattered thoughts to add at 2am. Pretty good video, though some contextual stuff & info on transIDs isn't correct. I think it's good that more awareness of these communities and their victims are being brought forward; Cloud is incredible for reaching out to her and talking abt what they went through. Their experiences definitely echo my own + stuff I've observed.
Also the rq community freaking out about this is so so so funny to watch. You cannot remotely hurt Cloud & Jessicur to the same degree they just hurt ur cult of a community.
“I didn’t groom you” WHAT IS THISSSWHATISTHAT WHAT IS ALL OF THI PLEASE ENKGIJTENN MEE EVEN IF YOU DIDNT GROOM ME WHICH YOU DID YOUVE GROOMED SEVERAL OTHER PEOPLLEEE GET S FUCKING JOBBBB
There is not enough context in the world to defend this, you asked a minor to send you explicit pictures of yourself as an adult and made explicit comments to minors this is a literal crime, it’s not just some stupid tumblr discourse you deserve to be in jail if you coerced a minor into sending you pictures
The only person I’m defending right now is a minor who you took advantage of. And do you guys really need to bring that up every single time I say something you don’t like?
Ive been wanting to find out what "postradqueer" means for months, because i can't grasp how you can be more "radically 'queer' " than by accepting every attraction ever made including the most irl harmful ones into the community. how the fuck can it get worse than accepting zoos pedos and necros. HOW.
I don’t even KNOW what post-Radqueer (specifically) even means. It’s probably some bullshittttt
Post-radqueer has no real list of beliefs, but its general definition is "a term for when you have somehow moved beyond typical radqueer ideology in some way" - "maybe you’re too pro c for them, or youre even more inclusive".
Given that its coiner is a serial groomer, I think that gives a pretty clear idea of what post-radqueers are like.
Genuinely hate the radqueer community they'll see a depressed person asking "how do i get in a wheelchair/become disabled to recieve attention so that I can finally feel loved" And they'll respond with actual "tips" 🥀🥀
“Yeah, this person is obviously not doing well mentally ndnis asking for tips on how to do this harmful thing……buuuut I’m just gonna give them advice on how to do that harmful thing. Mental health matters, yo!”
Hope you don't mind me adding this on, because I saw (and still see) this happen a lot in the radqueer community & it drives me up the fucking wall.
That place is such a crab bucket where any time somebody mentions even possibly identifying with a transid, or questioning an aspect of their identity, they will be piled on by people who tell them how awesome and cool and special that transid is.
And because of this, for the crabs at the bottom of the bucket dragging their peers down, these labels become a social currency. Hoarding & coining transids, blankqueer stances, MUDs, paraphilias, etc, is a sign of social wealth and familiarity with the community. People listen to you and you can weaponise these labels to silence disbelievers.
I don’t actually have anything to confess but do wanna assure anyone going through this blog that you do not have to be radqueer to find community as a paraphile and/or transID person.
There’s very good reasons to be critical of the community and most importantly it does not represent the entire space despite what some more toxic rq‘s may say. Stick to what you know is right and don’t let anyone try to guilt trip you into believing grooming and sexual abuse is mandatory for deviant liberation. (Not implying that that’s an inherent part of radqueer ideals, but much of the community is accepting of xenosatanists and pro c‘s and turn a blind eye to grooming)
There’s people out there who will love and cherish you no matter what, you just have to find them.
If you're an anti-c paraphile, you do not have to drop your morals and tolerate radqueers to find a community. There are non-rq and anti-rq paraphiles out there who will support you. They will accept and love you for who you are, I promise.
back when i was active in the radqueer community i was a genuine nazi larping as a “transnazi” just so i can post nazi bullshit without any repercussions