Sweet Memes are made of Dreams

Robyn | 28 | She/Her | Lesbian/Demi | Game Master/Artist/Writer | 💍 | Really into shows like She-Ra and Infinity Train. Ko-Fi: https://ko-fi.com/f1uffyturtle

[mousidy]

Sexual violence against trans women needs to end

I'd like to start a small project raising awareness of sexual assault, coercion, harassment, and other similar behaviors toward trans women and others TMA (transmisogyny affected) by people TME (transmisogyny exempt)

I find that our experiences are far too often ignored, belittled, or even used against us, and I'd like to see a future where we can speak up about what we've been through and actually be met with the support and resources we need to heal from or escape sexually coercive situations

I want to invite trans women and others TMA who feel comfortable doing so to discuss their experiences in my askbox, anonymously or not, and I will post them (unless asked not to in the body of the ask) under the tag "#transfem voices project"

Additional important info:

Risks: There is always the possibility of the tag being used to find transfems to harass, and this is something you may be vulnerable to if you choose to submit non-anonymously

Deletion info: If you submit anonymously, please note that neither you or I have any way of verifying who actually sent the ask once it's up, and as such, I have no way of verifying who you are if you reach out and ask that I delete it. As I want to ensure that no bad faith actors can silence our stories, I err on the side of not deleting them once they're up, so please do keep this in mind! Additionally, please be aware that independent archiving efforts may exist, so it would be difficult to have your submission truly removed from the internet

If you do want to be able to delete later: You can send the text of your ask in my DMs before putting it in my askbox. Then, wait to send it into my askbox until I reply to your DM. This will allow me to verify later that the post is yours if you want to have it deleted. I will not reveal your identity to anyone, but even so, please feel free to use a throwaway sideblog for additional privacy if you like

Reblogging info: I will leave posts rebloggable unless asked not to by the asker, so anyone who wants to spread awareness should feel free to reblog

Those who may find these posts triggering should feel free to block the tag

I will mark all posts mature to adhere to Tumblr's guidelines

I will sometimes add additional content warning tags to some posts where they become relevant

This project has no planned end date. I intend to keep taking submissions as long as I'm physically able, so hopefully no one feels rushed to contribute! You're free to take your time 💖

Some reasons a submission may not be posted:

I cannot post an anonymous submission if it includes some kind of clear identifier attempting to attribute it to a specific person, unless you DM me to verify that it's you. I have had a few submissions with the username of a transfem who has been widely harassed added to the end like this: "-(username)", and I do not post them because they could be an attempt to further harass her

I try to queue roughly half of all submissions, while the other half I post when I see them. This is to space out submissions so that hopefully nobody's gets buried. If I'm posting others but yours isn't up yet, it may just be in the queue!

Thank you 💖

[sreegs]

remembering when the something awful forums made a word filter that changed the word "females" so it was surrounded by Ferengi emoji (we called em 'smilies' not emoji back in the day) so it looked like this:

because someone was sick of incels using the word to refer to women

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

glad that Ranked Competitive Breast Growth has finally decided to tackle the issue of 'what it feels like to try to talk to your friends about Ranked Competitive Breast Growth'

[tpwrtrmnky]

Could be worse. Imagine if it was actually demon viking forcefem planet and you had to explain how that could possibly be good

[sailatina3]

As time goes on the idea of a "transtrender" gets funnier and funnier. At what point in time has there ever been a trend or clout to gain from being trans?

[sailatina3]

Gen z is getting into this new trend which involves losing all your friends and family and being effectively legal to rape and murder.

[circusheart]

I do think the post that's like "when they torture you to insanity and then torture you for being insane 😂🤣" is one of the most succinct and foundational analyses of interpersonal violence and conflict that had ever been written

[tpwrtrmnky]

Think tanks explicitly founded to "abolish transgenderism" will publish a report that's like "there's no evidence that trans healthcare works if you ignore all the evidence" and be taken seriously, meanwhile actual researchers go "there's seriously NO evidence that gatekeeping helps" and get ignored

[tpwrtrmnky]

Like on the one hand there's new papers each year going "So it turns out that there's literally no fucking reason to restrict transition access based on these arbitrary criteria, and in fact, they were explicitly made up by some Danish fuck because he was personally obsessed with the idea that trans people were demons, and as it turns out the only measurable impacts of this policy are to increase risks to the patient" that have no impact on the healthcare systems they're criticizing whatsoever.

And then, on the other hand, you've got "Shockingly, this life-altering treatment that massively impacts how the patient is perceived by others in all facets of life is primarily supported by observational studies, as opposed to the enormous violations of bodily autonomy and human dignity necessary to perform a true randomized control trial. We recommend that treatment ceases immediately because you don't understand how evidence-based medicine works." And that becomes a linchpin of the politics of multiple European countries' trans healthcare politics for the next several years.

It's fucking clown world. Nobody who enabled this should be in a position of any power whatsoever.

[aismallard]

So for those of us who are less familiar with medical studies, what exactly are cissexist institutions like this saying should be done?

Like, I keep hearing "gold standard" thrown around in anti-trans news articles when it comes to double-blind studies. As a layperson I understand it as a way of combatting the placebo effect when studying, say, the effectiveness of some specific pill. (Versus what you said about transition affecting your life so much overall that it's better measured observationally than trying to isolate it down to one specific variable)

Basically, I'm trying to understand what kinds of violations of bodily autonomy and human dignity these think tanks are suggesting we should undertake to "actually prove transgenderism" or whatever. Like, what does a blinded study even mean for HRT? Give someone a placebo for 5 years and gaslight them into thinking it's actually feminizing/masculinizing them when it's not?

[tpwrtrmnky]

Well how do you do a double-blind study, i.e. one where neither patient nor doctor knows who's getting the placebo, of a treatment that visibly changes your body, while remaining within ethical constraints?

You don't.

Not only is it impossible to actually remain unaware of who's getting placebo'd for long, recruitment would be a nightmare. You ask a bunch of trans people to sign up for a 50% chance at committing to x number of years spent not transitioning, you're going to get a lot of people saying "fuck that" and going elsewhere.

The surveillance and violations of bodily autonomy that would be needed to begin to approximate a true double-blind study on this are directly downstream from how ridiculous the idea is.

[enbaluka-tokyo-drift]

[circusheart]

I do think the post that's like "when they torture you to insanity and then torture you for being insane 😂🤣" is one of the most succinct and foundational analyses of interpersonal violence and conflict that had ever been written

[interestingmistakes]

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

[mousidy]

why are you always bitching about cis women having boundaries and not cis men who are the ones who are statistically far more likely to murder you? god forbid women don't spend all their emotional labor on centering you 24/7. go after the transphobic politicians or something, those are the actual fascists who want you dead.

those "boundaries" get us murdered lol. trans women who can't access women's shelters or other forms of housing because of cis women's "boundaries" are left on the streets to be assaulted and murdered

if you want trans women out of women's spaces, and the rationale for those spaces existing is to protect from violence, then you are saying that trans women don't deserve protection from the same violence despite being at an even higher risk of it than you

[mousidy]

terfs have gotten crazy good at framing discrimination through the language of consent. systemic discrimination is not "boundaries"

[mousidy]

the emotional labor of being asked not to discriminate against one of the most vulnerable groups of women

[mousidy]

[mousidy]

insane how many of you will just assume that a trans woman has a penis, and that it wouldn't be something she might have any dysphoria about

[mousidy]

[soup-mother]

probably should have seen it coming I guess but it's pretty fucking annoying everyone saw a conversation about "people don't understand how difficult it is clothes shopping as a trans woman" and proceeded to show just how much they don't understand it by assuming it's only about sizing and not the constant societal surveillance and inability to use the change rooms and fear of being kicked out of the story and unwillingness even for friends to recognise that there's barriers in your way and try and help you.

even people trying to commiserate with me complaining about the dumb responses assumed that it was just about sizing. and phrased it all like "you're so seen and valid". fucking christ.

wow it's almost like people don't understand how challenging it is clothes shopping even years into transition as a trans woman! who could have guessed??????

[soup-mother]

Not the strongest comparison here but

"It's incredibly difficult and challenging using public bathrooms as a transgender woman and it should be obvious why if you have paid attention to anything ever"

"Girl I feel you, welcome to womanhood. sometimes the seats are gross or someone's left something on the floor, we all experience this, you're so valid for this"

(meanwhile I'm lucky if I'm not immediately stopped upon entering)

with clothes it's like ok cool but you might notice that you are wearing womens clothes from the clothes store that you bought and were able to try on before buying and weren't called a pervert and/or pedophile over it. meanwhile I am not. so maybe this is not actually "something all women experience" or just about sizing yes?

[ribstongrowback]

hope this isn't derailing but i think that this is heavily shaped by this condescending attitude people have about trans women's womanhood. they treat us like little girls discovering every aspect of being a woman instead of understanding us as adults who can have fully formed and informed opinions and analysis about our lived experience.

folks assume we have everything to learn about being women, because the idea that they would have anything to learn from us about it or about being a trans woman is simply too ridiculous to even cross their mind.

[glitchy-haha]

INCREDIBLY CONCERNING SPIKE IN ANTI-BLACKNESS IS HAPPENING RN.

Some of yall may have heard some of the shit that has been going on right now. I'm gonna give a quick run down of some of the stuff that has been happening. Note, this is not all, and it may never be all as much as I will try to update this.

(I am going to try and compile and briefly explain these as much as I can. There may be misinformation. Please inform me if I got something wrong.)

(This will also be updated with additional information and new topics added.)

1) Racist Chinese Dolls.

There are these dolls in China that are being called "Natasha" baby dolls. These dolls are not only very obvious caricatures of black people, but they are being advertised as a "stress relief" in which the people who buy these abuse it in various ways.

This links to a video of a compilation of the various "uses" of the doll. There are more in the replies of the tweet. (Another link to the same tweet just incase)

2) The Mocking, Abuse, and Dehumanization of Black Children.

Apart from the aforementioned doll, there are apparently people going around mocking, abusing, and dehumanizing black children.

Some people have compared black children to the doll.

Others have been going into African countries and have found ways to mock, abuse, and dehumanize black children for clout.

(Source 1 + Full Video) (Source 2)

There are more videos surfacing.

3) Black people are going missing.

Black people, especially children and teens have recently been going missing at an alarming rate. Some of these same people are turning up dead, deaths being ruled as "suicides."

While it generally unknown why many of these people are going missing, many suspect that their disappearances, deaths, and even lack of coverage is rooted in anti-blackness.

The following is a list of black people that have been reported missing as of recently. Please note that this is not a complete list (it may never be completed due to the fact that many of these disappearances will still occur as time passes) this may contain inaccurate information. Please inform me if that is the case.

By the time you see this, some of these people may have already been found either alive or deceased. This post will be updated overtime.

It is also heavily encouraged that you reblog this with more links to recent cases of missing black people if you are aware of any that aren’t included on this list.

Alexis Shaver

Payton Diver

Nasir Tacuma

Ka’Laya Cooper

Makaila Monae Adam

Moriah Kerre Smith

Uchechi Chijindum Nkemdirim

Victeria Uriah Spear

Rilen Wade (Found. Is Safe)

Leara Sessoms

[blackjame]

Viral Instagram post highlights disproportionate number of Black children reported missing in Virginia

A viral social media post stating there have been 63 Black children reported missing in Virginia since April 1 underscores a serious issue i

[nuvemzinhacorderosa]

Sheik and Tetra, they would make a great duo, I know it.

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

graffiti discourse is so stupid why the hell would I give a shit if people spraypaint their names or do some cool paintings under a bridge

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

sorry didn't realize the bridge has to be plain beige concrete. that was a load bearing plain beige concrete if anyone tags it the whole bridge collapses

[viralfrog]

[acerby]

hate to see her go but love to watch her leave.

[scalycat]

OC checkpoint because I'm curious... What's the physical trait you like the most on your OC's face? A little detail you love paying attention to when you draw them. Their face just doesn't feel complete until you've added that thing. Tell me