Fattened by Desire

35yr • 5’5 • He/ Him • Straight • Gainer?/Feedee/Sub SW 165 • CW 214 • GW 250 DM's open Minors not apply 18+

[feedeebyfate]

•About me• *updated 1-5-26*

Chris • 35 • 5’5 • He/ Him • Straight • Gainer?/Feedee/Sub

SW 165 • CW 214 • GW 250

Nerd at heart, I spend way too much time deep diving into the universes that should probably be paying rent in my brain Warhammer 40k and otherwise, Godzilla, Dune, and pretty much any sprawling fictional world with centuries of backstory and a wiki rabbit hole.

I enjoy D&D, board games, and anything that turns friends into rivals for a few hours. During the week you’ll usually find me on my PC, playing many different genres, The standards are HOTS and Battlefield 6 of course.

I've never been big into movies or T.V shows but lately I've been on a physical media kick DVDs, Blu-rays. Looking to build my own plex sever.

When I’m not being a introvert indoors, I’m outdoors being one while camping. Preferably cold weather camping, the kind where you ask yourself why you chose this life. I enjoy a good time outside staying up too late in front of a fire talking and of course eating plenty of smores.

•Kink info•

I’ve been lurking in the feedism community for a long time. I started out convinced I was a feeder I loved the softness, the transformation of the fattened female form. I'm big on contrast. But somewhere along the way, while reading stories and comics, I kept imagining myself in the role of the feedee. I didn’t say it out loud at first… just kept filing the thought away in the back of my mind.

Then the pandemic hit, and like every accidental feedee cliche out there, I put on 30 pounds without really trying. And a part of me wondered what it would be like to lean into it. So I did. I made gainer shakes, overate, door dash, I even tried a funnel. And honestly? I hated it. I wasn't turned on by how i felt. It didn't do it for me at all.

But as you probably know… once the switch flips, it’s hard to turn it off.

Even after I stopped trying, the weight kept creeping up until I found myself hovering around 215. I might not have been a “shovel-it-down” feedee, but a natural grazer

Over the last two years, I’ve explored that part of myself with fresh eyes. I stopped hiding in the back and decided to start over, this time with a clearer understanding of who I am and what I want from all this.

This space is part of that new beginning. Here I will be actively exploring this area of me along with other things that I'm into and some things that I might be trying out.

•Why I'm here•

I'm looking to actively gain. Looking to put on fifty or so pounds.

I don't know if I'll gain 25lbs and hate it or 50 and absolutely love it and gain 100 more. All I know is I'm committed to putting on weight. And what better time of the year to start.

I'll be posting progress photos here along with my thoughts on all of it under the #myfate

•What I'm into•

Feedism, Gaining, BDSM, Femdom, Chastity, Contrast,

Fantasy kinks: blueberry, immobility, death feederism, inflation, transformation, MTF, The Great shift captions used to be a big thing for me.

•What I'm not into•

Vore, Any hygiene related kinks, Age play and anything that goes with that.

I'm sure i could list all my likes and dislikes but i would be here forever so you gonna have to ask.

DMs = always open ~ Keep in mind that Spambots and Scammers are a real thing so please have more in you message beside "Hot Females in you area"

Profiles without age or any description you gotta work to prove you're not a hot female in my area.

[funnier-as-a-feedist]

The survey is here!

How Feedism is Viewed: Non Feedist Survey

A survey to determine how feedism is viewed by those not in the feedist community. A feedist can be defined as: a feedee, feeder, gainer, e

Who is this survey for?

Non feedists. If you are in a feedist relationship but don't identify as a feedist, feel free to answer. (Feedists please don't answer because obviously your answers would all be positive. Reblogging to encourage others to answer is encouraged. If you're in the feedist closet and you want to recommend it to friends, you could try saying "I just learned about this kink through this survey, maybe you would like to take it and learn about it?" If you have the type of relationship for it) There are options for asexuals throughout.

All questions are optional, so if something isn't applicable/you don't want to answer it, you don't have to. There is an "other" option for each question, but please try to use the preselected multiple choice unless you really don't feel like any apply. If I get a ton of responses it will be easier to look at the responses if they're preselected.

When does it close/when will the results be published?

I will keep it open indefinitely. I'll publish the results when I get a big enough response. I'm aiming for 500 but I have no idea if that's realistic (that's why it would be so difficult if people use a custom answer for every question). I'm doing this by myself so I'll have results posted in a tidy manner as soon as I can. I also haven't done anything like this before so it'll be a learning curve for me to present the information in a legible way. I'm not a trained professional in the field of study and research in any way. I tried to phrase the questions in the least biased manner possible, but I'm sure it's not perfect. Your feedback/criticism is welcome, but I most likely won't edit the survey after it's posted to make data collection more accurate.

[evermore-xxl]

@cryptidmothmen?

[bigfatbob4you]

Of course it is...

Why wouldn't I love myself? It's been a struggle, but I'm there now and everyone else can pound sand.

[feedeebyfate]

Haven’t been posting many self updates or photos lately. Been busy securing and moving into a new place, and honestly… life’s expensive right now. Hard to justify excess when every dollar already has somewhere to be. It’s rough out here for a single feedee 😮‍💨

Still, the new place might actually help me finally push toward my New Year’s resolution 250 lbs. My last weigh in was back in january 214lbs. Now I’m back under 200 again. 197 lbs.

It’s not like I suddenly started eating healthier. I just stopped doing the extra stuff. No second dinners. No overstuffing myself before bed. No intentionally pushing past full every night. Between my job and whatever metabolism I was born with my body naturally wants to hover somewhere in the 180s if I leave it alone.

I’ve also been dealing with a medical issue. Nothing serious and nothing related to weight gain or being fat but it’s probably better to get it taken care of now rather than later at a more discriminating weight. We all know how quick doctors can be to blame a few extra pounds for basically anything.

Good news though the new digs are walking distance from a grocery store. Easy food access. Easy shopping. And it's also walking distance to my main job. It took quite a lot of work to make it happen and even more money but in the long run it will be nice. That should help quite a bit with gaining. Realistically though I think 250 is probably the ceiling for me alone. My job’s active and I’ve always taken a lot of pride in what I do. Me and my team are kind of the gold standard in the company. I can probably handle another 50 lbs and still keep up…

Maybe 🤔😈

But past that? Easy to imagine things starting to slip. Already finding myself winded on stairs sometimes. Carrying heavy stuff takes more out of me than it used to. Little breaks when I used to work till you're done then break. And being in leadership, an expanding figure definitely gets noticed. At what point does a wheezing guy waddling between departments stop “looking the part”? At what point does someone higher up quietly decide he no longer fits the role?

That’s probably where my fantasy collides with my reality.

To really go further I’d need a partner in crime. Someone to enjoy the journey with, but also someone there when the practical side starts wobbling too. Bills still exist even when your thighs rub together. I could always try to switch to a more sedentary job… but honestly I don’t think I’m built for that either. I get restless and need movement i need problem solving. I need to feel useful.

Which for me isn’t necessarily a bad thing... Because I love the struggles.

The little moments where my body doesn’t cooperate the way it used to. Getting winded. Having to squeeze past something and still bumping into it anyway. Absent mindedly squeezing little fat parts of my body. That tiny spark of panic mixed with excitement when I realize something that used to be effortless suddenly… isn’t.

It gives me the fizz every single time.🐽

Part of the appeal for me has always been that slow erosion of mobility. Giving something up. Trading ease for the work of indulgence. Everything worth chasing usually asks for something in return. The gradual transformation of movement itself. A quick stride becoming slower. Heavier. More deliberate.

A walk becoming a waddle...

[chunkylilffa]

grow so fat that it's pathetic.

people see you and naturally take pity on you.

you're so big, everything must be such hard work.

everyone knows you'll be panting and out of breath if you have to do things for yourself.

you're really meant to just sit there and look pretty anyway~

[gettingfatterandfatter]

[fattythirst]

So cute, trying to keep active. To move, to walk, to lift weights.

To try to outdo the calories you eat, the way you munch on everything within an arm’s reach at all times of the day.

You’re stronger than you used to. But even the … eventually, the sheer mass of you will win out. Both of us know it, as I help being you your post workout milkshake with a smile.

It’s just a matter of when.

[growinguy]

Love this.

[sapthick]

Because there were "concerns" about me gaining at a slow pace and being active like "oh she wants to be a healthy feedee" I kinda wanna adress something.

I feel its utterly misplaced to bring in terms like "healthy feedee" into the feedism community, because all it does is echoing the fatphobia we all experience in everyday society. It's even worse putting "healthy feedees" at the top of a supposed hierarchy inside feedism.

On top of that Health is immensely subjective and not something you can judge from the outside based on the fetish content we post and its not something you are allowed to have control over.

Being a very active feedee is valid. Being a very lazy feedee is valid. Gaining slow is valid. Gaining rapidly is valid. Gaining a lot is valid. Gaining little is valid. Going for immobility and deathfeedism is valid.

Feedees alone decide how they want to gain, how they want to live, what consequences they endure, what consequences they don't endure.

I for one am not "active" because i want to be a "healthy feedee" or "good fatty". I am active because my work, my hobbies, my partners enable it and I enjoy the things we do. I'll likely be less active at a point because I decided something is more important to me.

Maybe just enjoy the ride with us, wherever it takes us?

[makemewobble]

Which one is hotter?

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[killadelphia]

[ketsudan1-deactivated20260416-d]

When she asks you out and she mentions McDonalds

[encouraginggluttony-deactivated]

Which would you choose..? 🤍

[adiposityacolyte]

Red, orange, and pink. It'd be a lot of fun!

[grossbaddie]

Pink red & brown 💞💞💞💞

[brendakthedonutgirl]

red, purple, pink

[cheshirefat]

green, pink, brown

[feedeebyfate]

Red, black and pink.

[growingellex]

healthy, dense gainer shakes for growing gorging girlssss. got me jiggling all around the house today 😵‍💫💦🐷💓

[fattythirst]

Cock cage via obesity is such a… fuckibg turn on. Oh my god. Too fat to do it yourself? Poor bubba… just too much fat in the way? Need me to get you off?

I’ll consider it.

[feedeebyfate]

I squirmed at the full thought of this. I've done some self chastity in the past and that was a very positive experience that increased my enjoyment from orgasms as well as longevity..edging through a cage helps lol. I could only imagine if a feeder/dom partner was in charge..forced to reach goal weights till freedom or release. Only with each goal reached and every orgasm pushes you closer to a permanent obesity enforced chasity.

[sheepsfluff]

someone left tags on my fairy weight gain pov story about wanting to be so fat that you fill someone's arms and then some and it inspired me to finally turn that story into a sequence. I love tiny fats a lot...

[sheepsfluff]

I realized I forgot to link the story this is based on lol

[feedeebyfate]

The Responsible one.

I can’t wait to blame you for what you’re going to do to me. I’ve never been skinny, but I’ve always been the active one, the outdoorsy one, the one who’d rather be camping or walking all day than sitting still, and I already know that with you that’s going to change. The hikes will turn into days on the couch, date nights will become stuffing sessions. At first everyone will laugh and call it relationship weight, like it’s harmless, like it’ll stop on its own, but we’ll both know it won’t. As time goes on the jokes will turn into concern, and there won’t be any hiding what your attention has done to my body, soon baggy clothes won’t conceal me, the way I’m always the one staying seated while you handle everything, the way you’re the one filling my plate before I even ask. And one day, when you’re dropping me off up front because the walk from the parking lot feels like too much, it’ll be obvious to everyone that this didn’t just happen, that I didn’t just let myself go, that you’re the one who kept encouraging it, the one who made sure I never had to stop, the one who made it so easy to stay full and comfortable that I never wanted to change. After some big meal, when I push myself up from the chair and need your arm to get my balance, my body undulating and settling as I stand while you steady me like it’s routine, that’s when they’ll really see it. They’ll look at me, a massive wheezing ball of a man who used to never sit still, then they’ll look at you, and I won’t be able to defend you at all, because the truth is I want them to know why I ended up like this, That the only person I’d ever trust to take me all the way into what I was always meant to become. I want them to know you're the one Responsible.

[peachy-ffa]

You'll keep gaining.

This is not a promise or wishful thinking, this is a fact.

You're losing control even if you deny it, portions getting bigger, the pounds keep coming and your clothes are only getting tighter by the day. When will it be the day when you acknowledge what I see?

You might think that you have control of this "little" situation, that it'll be so easy to unattach yourself from this overeating frenzy and go back to "normal" portions, but you're terribly wrong. You've gotten your body so used to these very generous portions, you'll feel like starving when you go back to what used to keep you full, you'll feel hunger gnawing at your stomach and you'll just give up, afterall, I know just how much you enjoy filling up that belly and stretching it to it's limit, I know how you strongly desire to cram every little space your belly has to offer just so you can feel more than full.

Come on, at this point you know it's not a secret, you're always eating, whether that be your favorite snacks or a huge meal. It's obvious that you enjoy the food as much as you enjoy the act of eating and by seeing how much your jeans squeeze your poor overfed waistline, you like eating very fiercely.

I know you like the results of this uncontrolled gluttony, you're fattening up quite nicely if I do say so myself, maybe you need a nice feeding hand that can keep feeding you when you're pinned by your stuffed belly, or perhaps someone who can give you belly rubs before you drift into a food coma. Afterall, we could say that I also enjoy the process and results that you love and adore, allow me to make this easier for you 🖤