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Here's another kandi bag! This is my crayon box bag that I've been working on for about a month- I'm very proud of it
I found the front panel online, but i made my own patterns for the sides, back, and straps. If anyone's interested I might post the patterns:))
Wow, this is madness.
Is he "female socialized" or is he just a standard flamboyant sensitive artsy gay dude who would honestly be indiscernible from any other fem gay guy if you didn't see him as a walking vagina first and foremost.
Is she "male socialized" or is she just a tomboy with a fucking spine who doesn't let anyone talk to her any old kind of way who would honestly be indiscernible from any feminist cis woman y'all gas up on here if you didn't see her as a walking penis first and foremost.
They called her Brownie Mary, and she called the young gay men she helped her kids...
In photographs, she looks like a scout leader about to ask if you’ve had anything to eat today. It takes a moment to see that often, just out of focus, her fingers are holding a joint and her vest is covered in risque pins, including an embroidered cannabis leaf.
Mary Jane Rathbun, jailed thrice and the reason for California’s groundbreaking action on medical cannabis, was better known as Brownie Mary, the patron saint of AIDS patients. More than twenty years after her death, it’s not hard to understand why this grandmotherly figure remains one of San Francisco’s most beloved activists.
She’s been called the Florence Nightingale of HIV/AIDS. She was famous for bringing her magic brownies to gay men and others suffering from wasting syndrome, a name for the deleterious effects on appetite caused by the stigmatized retrovirus.
Much like Nightingale’s work on hygiene and compassionate care, Brownie Mary’s legacy lives on in the recipes and procedures still used today in medicinal edible production.
Rathbun’s illicit distribution began in the early 1970s, when she was in her early 50s, while she worked at an IHOP in the Castro, 37 years before government-approved research finally proved that her hypothesis about distributing ingestible cannabis to AIDS patients was worth investigating. (Read more at link)
Brownie Mary helped save my life from AIDS wasting in 1996. She was adorable! We met at Dennis Peron's Cannabis Cultivators' Club on Market Street in San Francisco, and when she came around you knew you were in for a blessing. [Image: Brownie Mary Rathbun and Dennis Peron]
Her baked goods were freaking atmospheric. Because of her and Dennis and John Taylor's Flower Market and a lot of good folks, I got enough weight back to get on the brand-new HIV drugs just under the wire, and 25 years later I'm still here to write about it and say thanks.
In 1998, the Cannabis Cultivators' Club asked me to play Brownie Mary on stage to open her birthday celebration at the Club - as it turned out, her final birthday. I worked up a solo flute take to The Association's "Along Comes Mary" and ripped TF out of it. She lit up the stage like she lit up our hearts.
From High Times: "An insight into her indomitable character can be glimpsed in this vignette from August 25, 1992. The Sonoma County district attorney tried to charge the then 69-year-old with two marijuana possession felonies. Her response was concise: 'If the narcs think I’m gonna stop baking brownies for my kids with AIDS, they can go fuck themselves in Macy’s window.'"
"If the narcs think I'm gonna stop baking brownies for my kids with AIDS, they can go fuck themselves in Macy's window."
An absolute true treasure of a person. Never, ever forget that even when the government didn't care, when the churches didn't care, when the families didn't care, there were people who looked at all these queer people in a terrible situation and said, "Well, your my family now. I'll take care of you."
Bless you Mary Jane Rathbun. Bless your life and your legacy.
His songs are absolute bops, here's this one on spotify
My friend Dylan is such a profound person, and yet so simple at the same time. Do you know what I mean
Is this the guy you accidentally trained with food?
No. That was Matthew, who is in my frat. Dylan is my ecology major friend who is too wholesome for his own good. He talks to plants reassuringly when he’s moving them. He says stuff like “You’re so strong. You’re going to grow so well. You’re doing so good” while he’s putting them in the ground. He giggles in the shower. He goes birdwatching and will talk about birds for hours if prompted. I’m talking about a 21 year old cishet male by the way.
Other Dylan anecdotes:
One time I (lesbian) pointed out a girl I thought was really hot. Dylan looked at her, smiled, and said “Aww, yeah. She is cute. You just wanna give her a hug!” and that is how he talks about women
He walked into his roommate having gay sex on the floor of their dorm and not only failed to realize they were having sex, he STEPPED OVER THEM TO GRAB HIS LAPTOP BEFORE LEAVING AGAIN!! After this his roommate was like “well I guess you know I’m gay” and Dylan said “YOU ARE?!!” because he did not realize they were having sex and thus did not realize his roommate was gay.
He started feeling really stupid about cussing for some reason and unironically said non swears like “what the cluck!!” for a while
One time we were in the pit of a punk concert and he leaned over to say to me: “heeheeheeh… I love how there’s a milk chocolate AND a chocolate milk!!”
You guys seem to really love him so here’s some more bonus Dylan facts/moments:
I recorded this video of him laughing because his laugh is so giddy that it can literally cure depression
He does the opposite of mansplaining?? Dylan usually assumes that women are smarter than him, and asks them questions as if they’re experts on things, even they’re not???
Lesbians LOVE him. I mean, I’m literally a lesbian myself and Dylan knows more lesbians than me. The vast majority of his friends are queer women.
Men love him too. There’s been several times where Dylan and I went out partying or clubbing, and men hit on Dylan instead of me. There’s been nights where Dylan got hit on by several men and I got hit on by NONE!
He comes with me to do everything, even if the task requires zero Dylans. He walks me to physical therapy even though it’s a completely safe 10 min walk through campus… at 3pm. If I’m going to grab lunch, he’ll come with me even if he already ate. He’s literally a dog in human form
One time I got a haircut and Dylan still came with me even though he wasn’t getting anything done. He just sat in the corner of the salon the whole time!! He came with me because it was raining and I didn’t have an umbrella with me, but he did. He came with me so I didn’t have to walk in the rain.
We went on a roadtrip together and one night I left him in the motel room to take a shower. I could hear him laughing the whole time I was showering. When I walked back out of the bathroom I found him watching Spongebob.
i am sorry if i missed it but i have not seen any posts about transandrophobia and wanted to know your stance.
Hey there. I have seen the term transandrophobia, and I'll be honest, I don't quite fully understand it yet.
Like, I get the concept of the word, a type of bigotry experienced as part of a trans-mans experience (i think). But the concept proper is a lot more convoluted. I am reading every thread I come by that mentions it, trying to understand all the sides of an argument when I see them so I can try and understand the greater conversations going on around it.
I'm a cis woman, so a trans experience is not something I have, and a man's experience is not something I have. Put them both together, and I definitely don't have it.
While a trans man and I may have some overlap in experiences in being assigned the same gender at birth, their experiences will also wildly differ to mine.
A lot of the things I have seen are post critical of the concept in a specific way and arguments below, or ....posts very much in favour of the concept in a specific way with arguments below.
When I do not have enough experience to know who is even seen as condescending by some, exclusionary by some and struggle to understand the nuances that people are saying...I just don't currently feel comfortable reblogging anything about it.
It isn't because the conversations aren't important, they are. But I have seen trans men and trans women hurt by these conversations and I am really not willing to rush in to reblog something just for the sake of being involved. Not that I am saying you are suggesting that, Anon, I am just explaining my own thought process.
It is not that allies have NO role. Boosting voices is important. But if I don't understand what is going on, then I am kind of just putting a mic up to a fight in a language I don't speak. The chances of accidentally boosting something I don't agree with or something that is actively harmful go waaay up. And no one needs my take THAT bad.
Better that I just listen for now, keep reading, ask questions when I get a bit more well versed. Besides, there are lots of people kind of also...hashing out parts of it all, I think. Like trying to figure out what exactly it encompasses, when and how to talk about it in a way that is not accidentally undermining some experiences. Like, I think I have seen people on the same relative side of the debate having wildly different interpretations of the parameters.
No one needs my opinion on the view when they haven't even built the walls and windows yet.
Transandrophobia is simply the concept that trans men and transmascs have some experiences with the interaction of transphobia, misogyny, and patriarchy, which are either unique to our experience as transmascs (hereafter used as an umbrella term for anyone whose trans experience is one of moving towards masculinity or manhood) or which are primarily experienced by transmascs. It is probably the fifth or sixth such term created, because it doesn't really matter what term we use, the same people complain about it, to the point where it seems pretty obvious that the problem is that we're trying to talk at all. It is a sibling term to the concept of transmisogyny since that term covers a similar concept for transfem folx (hereafter used as a simplifying umbrella term for anyone whose trans experience is towards femininity or womanhood).
Transandrophobia experiences include:
Erasure: this stands in contrast to transmisogyny, where the primary form of attack is overexposure. Transmascs tend to be erased in discussion of trans issues, even within the community, whereas transfems tend to receive an undue amount of attention from bigots. Erasure is not a privilege. A child who is beaten and a child who is neglected are both abused.
Specific intracommunity abuse which posits transmascs as "traitors to womanhood," "transitioning into the enemy," "betraying lesbianism," etc.
This also comes from outside the community - see "Irreversible Damage," for example - but part of the reason for the creation of the term was a need to discuss the lateral abuse we receive within the queer community.
Specific medical difficulties and abuse: our inability to receive appropriate gynecological care, which kills transmascs every year; the abuse that pregnant and lactating transmascs receive from doctors; our inability to receive support as victims of domestic abuse unless we consent to misgendering or detransition.
The specific intersection of misogyny, patriarchy, and transphobia which positions us as "failed women," which is different to transmisogyny's "wanna-be women."
Where transfems are seen as predators, we are subjected to infantilization, seen as incapable of making our own decisions and preyed upon by a medical establishment that wants to steal our precious babymaking ability.
There are a lot more facets of transandrophobia, but what's imperative for people to understand is that nobody I'm aware of who earnestly talks about transandrophobia thinks that it is more or less, worse or better, than transmisogyny. It is simply a different experience. If I'm locked outside in the snow and a trans woman is thrown into a bonfire fire, neither one of us is less about to die. We're both suffering, but we're suffering differently.
We used to use transmisandry, but then we were told, "You can't do that bc then people will think misandry is a valid form of systemic oppression!" And of course, that doesn't make much sense bc that's not how compound words work, but sure. So we tried transandromisia and transandrophobia and anti-transmasc bigotry and and and and but gee golly gosh there was just something wrong with every single term!
And at a certain point, it became very clear that it wasn't that there was really a problem with the word.
The problem is that some people really don't want to acknowledge that transmascs face unique oppressive experiences and have unique problems and that we might just want to be able to talk about those and receive support from our community and be able to start changing the ways in which our community sometime does us real fucking dirty.
And honestly? It is truly baffling to me that someone would think it's okay to just say, "Well, I should ignore the voices of people in my community who say they're being hurt because the concept of them being hurt makes other people feel bad."
Transmascs deserve to have our voices centered when it comes to what we're going through. Centering other people's voices over ours and other people's needs over ours when it comes to our need to have time and space to talk about what we're going through... well. That's a great example of how transmasc voices and transmasc needs and transmasc pain gets erased.
The concept of transandrophobia shouldn't be controversial. The fact that some people keep trying to shout us down for wanting to talk about how we get hurt so we stop getting hurt is a great example of why the discussion remains vital, and why it's vital that people who call themselves our allies don't sit on the sidelines.
Beating The Heat While Fat: Torso Skin Folds
Being fat in summer is hard for a lot of reasons, and one of them is skin folds. This is because skin folds love to trap moisture, and moisture+heat=bad. And moisture+heat+friction=worse.
When you have skin folds, summer can really suck. I'm not going to touch on any of the mental and emotional issues that come from the way fat bodies are treated- I'm talking about the physical issues that come from heat. Fat people sweat more! Our body fat acts as an insulator, meaning that we have to put out more sweat for evaporative cooling to be effective- and trust me, it's not always that effective.
There are lots of places skin folds develop, but the two I'm going to focus on today are abdominal and chest skin folds, and give you some specific information and recommendations for what you can do about them.
The abdominal skin fold, also known as apron belly, is tissue that hangs down over your abdomen and upper pubic area. The more technical term for this is a pannus. This tends to be a skin fold with a lot of surface area, since it usually goes from hip to hip, the whole length of your front. Pannus can also develop after a pregnancy, or after weight loss (and weight loss surgery). The principle is the same- the area under it needs to be cared for no matter how it develops!
Chest skin folds are probably the most common type of skin fold because most people with breasts has them. But you don't need mammary tissue to develop this skin fold! Anybody, regardless of sex, can develop overlapping skin on their chest. There's many more protective products available for people with breasts, due to the cultural expectation of bra wearing. But for folks with gynecomastia or pseudogynecomastia, there's less information and resources out there.
By the way: gynecomastia is excess breast gland tissue that develops in men/AMAB people. Pseudogynecomastia is when the glands don't develop but the fat deposits do. Externally and visually, they're very similar, but there are some physiological differences that... don't matter for this piece honestly. Whether it's glands or fat, the tissue is still there, and still needs to be taken care of!
Skin Fold Skin Care
Nobody teaches you this stuff, so don't feel bad if you don't know it. When you're fat, nobody ever tells you how to take care of your skin, unless they're shaming you for it. Usually the only people who care about fat people's comfort are other fat people. So let's talk about how to take care of your skin folds in the summer.
The key elements to skin fold care and comfort are keeping the skin dry, but also keeping it hydrated. Sounds a little paradoxical, I know, but when I say "dry" I'm referring to the surface of the skin. You have sweat glands all over your body, and when you sweat on the surface of your skin, it evaporates or it's wicked away by your clothes. But when air can't get to it because it's under a skin fold, the moisture just stays there. And that's not good!
Moisture trapped between skin folds can lead to a few things that aren't a lot of fun. It can promote skin yeast infections and bacterial infections. It can lead to intertrigo, a red bumpy friction rash. Heat rash is more likely in the summer... because, well, it's hot.
One of the best things you can do is introduce a barrier between the sides of the skin fold. This can be barrier cream (my least favorite, it's messy), body powder, friction gel (like the kind of thing you use for chub rub on your thighs- think Gold Bond or Bodyglide sticks, or Monistat anti-chafing gel), or a physical barrier made from soft cloth.
For a pannus, you can get these things called tummy liners that are a crescent-shaped band of cloth. You lift up the pannus, lay the band against your upper pubic area, and let the skin fold hold it in place. Some people will tuck the front of their underwear under the skin fold, but for others this is less comfortable. And this whole thing is about keeping you comfortable, so do what feels right.
If you have breasts, a bra with cups is a great way to help keep them dry. A bra without cups will often squish them together, and while it can still keep the area under your breasts dry, it can promote moisture between the breasts. For some people, this isn't a problem- it all depends on the size and shape of your body. The cups don't have to be wired- they just need to keep your breasts separated so that they're not rubbing against each other.
If you don't want to wear a bra with cups, or if you don't like the feeling of wearing a bra at all, or if you want extra sweat protection, you can get cotton bra liners, just like the tummy liners. They work the same way- lift your breasts or chest tissue and put the liner in the fold beneath. If you have a small skin fold that doesn't come down very far, this might not work so well, but if you have a larger skin fold that's got more than half an inch or so of overlap, this should stay in place just fine.
You can also of course wear bra liners with with bras. The band will hold it the liner in place, adding an extra layer of padding and sweat protection. But if you don't wear a bra, if your breasts or chest tissue is substantial enough, it will stay in place.
Bra liners are flat. If you wear one, unless you're shirtless, nobody will know. They can help keep you dry, even if you don't have developed breast tissue- like think about the skin folds that fat people without breasts get.
Even if you're not getting a shower before bed, it's a good idea to take a gentle wipe and swipe in between the skin folds. It'll help soothe the skin and prevent bacteria or yeast from colonizing the surface. Be sure to wash the folds with a gentle, ph balanced soap or cleanser. And when you get out of the water, whether that's a shower, bath, pool, lake, whatever, take some time to dry your skin folds. Don't rub- pat them dry. Rubbing can irritate them. It's easy to forget, but you'll be glad you did. This kind of hygiene practice makes the skin feel nicer, calmer, and less irritated, and you deserve to be comfortable!
Hydrate or Die-Drate
When you're fat, you need to drink more water than smaller-bodied people. We sweat more and we have more surface area to our skin, which means more sweat glands, which means we lose more water. The best way to do this is simply to drink more. Drinking will help keep you cool and replenish the water lost to sweat anyways, so it's really important to keep that up in the summer, when it's hot!
If you don't like plain water, no worries! All liquid counts! I drink a lot of iced tea- even though it has caffeine and caffeine is a diuretic, the net effect is not dehydrating. And everything with water content counts, including the food you eat. Watermelon is 92% water. Cucumbers are 90% water. Popsicles are almost entirely water with some sugar in there. Get them at the store, or make some ice pops in the freezer with your favorite fruits. Freeze grapes, they're super delicious when frozen, and grapes are like 82% water. Try to think about your daily snacks and meals in terms of water, and see where you can add a little more hydration!
Now, you may want to know, how much is enough? The old 8 glasses a day adage isn't really accurate. The current science suggests 3,000 ml for men and 2,200 ml for women, but where do these numbers come from? The fact that there's a sex difference suggests that this is based on average body size- and it turns out these numbers come from European population studies that did not include a lot of fat people. So I did some more hunting and some reliable, but not peer-reviewed sources, suggest that you should drink about half an ounce of water per your weight in pounds. That's an easy enough metric to understand! And you can always drink a little more. While you may have heard of people becoming sick from water intoxication, that's extremely rare.
So in conclusion: drink lots of water and keep the area underneath your skin folds dry. Allow yourself to prioritize your comfort and don't feel bad about the skin you're in. Eat a popsicle.
Feel free to add on with any additions and other helpful tips, but remember: fatphobic commentary is not welcome here, and mean comments will be removed. Advice to lose weight is not helpful- even if someone is losing weight, they still have to live in the body they have now. And that body deserves to be cared for.
Skeleton & Diaphonized fishies! 🎐🐟
this made me cry so now i need everyone to see it
Yarn holder
The slurperrr...
Made the head mod so I could string it onto the body properly instead of just propping it on there.
cut the head back in half horizontally, screwed the bottom half back on tight
layer round wooden bead, saran wrap, dish soap, neck hole
fill inside head with hot glue, LET IT COOL
drill channel for elastic
string it onto the top bar for max mobility
screw on top half of the head back
I like this mod, it is tight and works really well.
Yes I am procrastinating digging out the airbrush.
there's a weird misconception amongst some people that the problem with our society is that it's hedonistic and materialist. it's the opposite... nobody is having any fun and almost nobody owns anything
The problem with society is that a very small percentage of people are hedonistic and materialistic and buddy they view the rest of us as materials.
My tank top is dry and the ends have been woven in🫡 I finally got to try it on and it fits great :) I'm so excited to wear it as the weather warms up. Everyone at the farmers market will Want me carnally....
are u ever sick w longing. and i don't just mean romantic longing. i mean longing for a place you barely get to see, longing for friends you no longer have, longing for feelings you might have left behind in your childhood, longing for creativity, longing for a rich and more expansive life, longing for less inhibition. longing for more passion. longing for ur life to be so incandescent w something it thaws all the frost in ur bones. are u ever so consumed w it it rends ur heart in two. do u understand me
this is not just "look out the window and sigh" longing. i'm talking you're at the grocery store and you're suddenly hit w a wave of grief bc you don't have it. you don't have whatever it is you ache so badly to have. you go about your everyday life and yet it throbs under your skin moment by moment, almost as though it has a life of its own. that's the kind of longing i mean.
I am looking at the new patterns on the Simplicity site and
Simplicity Sewing Pattern S3054 Simplicity Sewing Pattern Plush Bugs
Available in paper or PDF, currently (08/30/24) on sale for $3.99
