This placement comes with a lot of unusual energy. Disaster strikes unexpectedly for these individuals, leaving them on edge. However, these unexpected events are not a daily occurrence. The energy of this placement is not activated unless the native is undergoing some sort of crisis or is put under immense pressure. These strange occurrences also only affect the natives private life, making it hard for others to understand what's happening. The beauty of this placement is that trauma has a way of evoking a stroke of genius within these individuals. Those with this placement get bored easily, and rely on erratic behaviors to spice up life. They take unnecessary risks that cause more harm than good. They also have many strange interests that they keep secret. Other people can pick up on their unusual energy, leaving them with little to few friends. They also won’t pursue a romantic relationship unless they have formed a deep friendship first. These types have many unusual desires and are pretty unconventional in bed. They like trying out new locations, and they will start to get annoyed if it's just the same thing night after night. People with this aspect have an inventive attitude towards sex, and would like for this to be matched. Sometimes their approach towards sex leans on scientific, they can be matter of fact and arent afraid to go through a trial and error process. They are emotionally detached, they don’t express affection through passion or sensuality. I’ve noticed that people with this placement are the most likely to be in open relationships, or they prefer polyamory over monogamy. I’ve also noticed that this placement indicates long distance relationships, or forming deep connections through the internet. It is important for these individuals to remain financially independent. They have an unusual approach to money and often face sudden losses and gains. Joint finances could put them in a tricky situation. Throughout their lives, sudden realizations will hit these natives, leading them into a transformative process. They have a deep insight into the future and have a general feel for what's about to come next. I’ve noticed that people with this aspect tend to die in sudden and unexpected ways. I do think it's nearly impossible to be able to accurately predict death through one's natal chart, but common themes still persist.
People with this placement are chasing after a daydream when it comes to the pursuit of relationships. Neptune seventh housers are obviously quite idealistic and they’re looking for perfection within their partners. This is not because they’re controlling, they are naive. However, it can be hard to see through this facade because the people they end up in relationships with are surrounded by illusions. I’ve noticed a lot of people with this placement have been in relationships with pathological liars and manipulators. They have been gaslite within partnerships, at times their very sense of reality has been altered by another person. Neptune seventh housers feel a deep need to help people. They have a lot of love to give out, and others can spot this instantly. This is why they are targeted by people looking to take advantage of others. Their naiveté comes from being able to see the best in people, while simultaneously overlooking negative or harmful qualities. Sometimes they themselves are looking to be saved, and are waiting for someone to take them away on their noble steed. These types give so much of themselves within their relationships. They will overlook their needs and will prioritize their partners instead. After some time they will feel frustrated and resentment will build, but they will feel unsure as to why they feel this way. This can lead to guilty feelings, and the neptune seventh houser will begin to not trust their valid frustrations. They are also incredibly sensitive to the feelings of others, and will take on the problems of their partners as if it were their own. They get lost within relationships, and sometimes it can be hard to find a way out. Neptune seventh housers need to take a closer look at their own actions in order for them to understand how they ended up in these situations. Developing better boundaries is a must for people with this placement. Instead of focusing on how they can benefit their partner, they need to focus on how their partner is benefiting them. Neptune seventh housers seek out deep emotional connections. Most of the time this is not going to happen automatically and they need to give people some time in order for these feelings to develop naturally. Sometimes an instant connection isn’t what it seems to be, and Neptune seventh housers need to tread carefully when this happens. These types are looking for magic when they are the magic. They are the ones who make a relationship special and their creativity allows for romance to blossom.
That feeling of loving someone blindly, and hating them at the same time. Being obsessed for one second, and then disgusted the next. The "I know you better than anyone" quickly followed by "I dont know you at all". A confusion that lingers...
Every time I have fallen in love at first glance, I have gone through emotional terror roughly half a year later. In retrospect, of course this all comes down to the massive 12th house synastry I have shared with these people.
It began the same way with each one. I saw them once, and instantly thought "this is the most beautiful person I have ever seen." It´s like they are drawn straight out of my dreams of the ideal partner. They´re angelic, untouchable. I can´t stop thinking about a certain feature of theirs, be it a tooth gap, a quirky smile, a dot in their eyes.
Then I get to know them, and I am certain that this is the one I am going to marry.
But then, out of nowhere, it shatters completely, and it always leaves me wondering for years on end: what the fuck just happened?
I can´t speak for anyone else but myself, but these are the experiences I´ve had with different aspects of 12th house synastry:
My first encounter with 12th house synastry: The prince charming
Sun, mercury, venus (double whammy), mars and jupiter in 12th house synastry (me being the sun, mercury, venus, mars. him being venus and jupiter)
I had just broken up with someone, and in 1 month I was starting school in another city. That´s when my best friend called me from work and said: "I know this is weird, but you have to start working here. The perfect guy for you just started."
I thought, well, might as well make some money before I leave, and sure enough, she didn´t need to point him out. I was struck the instant I saw him.
A week later we got to talking at a party. All I could think was about how beautiful he was, and how awful it was that I was leaving. Right before I left, I told him about the school I was going to, to which he replied: "That´s crazy, me too."
There were just too many things that felt star-crossed and unbelievable. But sure enough, it didn´t take long for the perfect picture to start forming cracks. It was like he had been playing a character, and then the act suddenly dropped. I loved him for who I thought he was, and hated him for this new persona I didn´t recognise. I felt cheated and lied to, and embarrassed for having jumped so openly and wholeheartedly into something I apparently knew nothing about. In the end I didn´t recognise myself either, and it all ended in a hell soup.
As known, 12th house synastry is known for its one-sidedness. So I would like to add that in this case it wasn´t entirely one-sided, but we definetly went back and forth. Either I would be obsessive and he would pull back, or the other way around.
My 2nd encounter with 12th house synastry: The gap tooth
Sun, venus and mars in 12th house synastry (me being the planet person) + Saturn in the 12th composite.
Again, I had just broken up with someone, and then suddenly, while I´m at work, this guy shows up who apparently worked there too. I saw his eyes, his smile, the awkward way he carried himself, and I thought: Fuck, I know this feeling.
I thought he was weird and awkward, but undeniably angelic. I had never experienced anything like it. When he talked to me I couldn´t look him in the eye, I stuttered, my mind went blank. We worked together, which made this quite horrifying.
I tried to stay away from him as much as I could, but in the end I inevitably blurted out the words one drunken night: "You know what? I´m in love with you!"
This started a confusing, heartbreaking and very one-sided situationship that kept on drowning me. There were mixed signals, I never knew where I stood with him, and then one day he came into work with another girl.
It´s been some time, and I still stutter when I see him and can´t look him in the eye.
The worst feeling with 12th house synastry, maybe especially with mars involved, is that even when they hurt you, it´s impossible to be angry with them. Which only creates that much more confusing emotion.
Its like you even if everything in front of you is denying it, you still feel obligated to love them unconditionally.
My 3rd encounter with 12th house synastry: The "dream come true"
Moon and jupiter in 12th house (me being the house person)
I´d like to add here that we also had an immense 7th house stellium, and alot of 8th house influence such as moon, ascendant, saturn and jupiter.
This was one was upright magical, and genuinely disturbing. It all started 3 years prior to officially meeting him when I saw this beautiful person working at the ticket section. And again, as the tale goes, he was the most beautiful person I had even seen to that day. I left the concert and thought about him for weeks trying to find him online, but I couldn´t.
Two years went by, and I was at another concert where he was working as a guard. I was shocked. I went up to him and said "I remember you from the concert two years ago. You are so beautiful," and then I left.
I still thought of him, but I lived in another city and figured that there was no way someone like that could be single.Then, the following summer, he suddenly appeared on a dating app. I was in heaven. We got to talking, and it turned out he was from the same small town as me, even though I had never seen him before. My siblings all knew who he was, and even my parents. We met up one night, and this timeI was absolutely certain: This was the guy I was going to marry.
The kisses, the conversation, the vibe... Everything was unreal. We hung out for two weeks before he had to move to another country, and then we had to decide, just two weeks into knowing each other, whether we were going to start a long-distance relationship or leave it at that. He was more uncertain than I was, so I tried with everything I had to convince him it would work. And we ended up in a long-distance relationship that got very serious, very quickly.
I was walking on pink clouds and rainbows, but at the same time I had an eerie feeling since meeting him that something wasn´t right. I told myself it was just my insecurity flaring up now that I had someone I was so afraid of losing, who was also so far away.
But it didn´t take long before I started to sense that he might not be what he had seemed when I first met him. I tried to suppress the feeling, certain that this was it. I felt unstable, insane and slowly drowning. I couldn´t put my finger on exactly what wasn´t working. In the end, it fell apart because my whole body was rejecting it. But I still loved him, and I couldn´t bring myself to be angry with him either, because I knew how much he loved and had "sacrificed" for me.
In retrospect, the start of our relationship was heavily marked by uncertainty on his side. He was scared and distrustful, something I didn´t realise until it was too late, and my confidence was already in pieces.
Honorable mention: The god fearing one
Mars, saturn and jupiter in 12th house synastry (me being the planet person) + Moon, mars and saturn in 12th house composite.
The 12th house is known for having its spiritual influence, but this is the only time I have actually experienced it hands-on.
This was a close friend of mine who had been secretly in love with me for years. We hooked up one night and, as he was a Christian, he was very intent on us starting a relationship now that he had already committed what he considered a sin. I loved him a lot, but what started as a short fling got way too serious way too quickly, with marriage, conversion and religious shame as defining themes.
The 12th house fog is a wild, rose-tinted blur that can turn toxic very quickly.
Looking back, I have to admit that this synastry created such powerful first impressions that you go in completely naive, which is probably what causes the image to eventually shatter.
A phrase that has come up, spoken either by me or the other person, in all of these connections were: "You´re putting me on a pedestal."
That, I think, is the central theme of this kind of synastry.
Feel free to share your stories of 12th house synastry, I would love to hear it <3
Some connections that we experience in life feel more like a pipe dream, rather than a lived experience. A fantasy, rather than reality. Even a nightmare, rather than a fairy tale. When we look at Venus in 12H synastry, we see a connection that doesn't need to be seen to be felt. We see the underlayer of our primal instincts and the things that we like to hide about ourselves in these relationships. We see a connection that feels like it breaks the universal law, a connection that doesn't follow the rules. These two people come together with a very specific purpose and could be meeting each other again in this lifetime. I will be focusing on Venus 12H synastry in a romantic relationship or with a POI/SP.
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Venus in 12H synastry is a very complex synastry to have with somebody, and in my opinion, it's one of the synastries that sort of embodies a different energy depending on the nature of the relationship. Because of this, I will be making this a two-part series post so that I can go into greater detail about the complexities of this synastry. My following post will cover what this synastry looks like in a non-romantic sense, like with friendships and family members, coworkers, etc. It embodies a bit of a different energy, which deserves its own explanation, so look out for that post! One final disclaimer: This is not going to resonate with everybody, and I will mention both typical things that you could expect and the more extreme side of things that won't be very relatable to everybody. Remember that not everything I post will resonate with you, and try to read it from the perspective of wanting to learn something new rather than wanting to fit a narrative! Other than that, please let me know what you think, and if you enjoy it, please like and reblog or give me a follow. Enjoy!
Venus in 12H synastry
In this article, I will be discussing the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between involving romantic Venus in 12H synastry. Starting with Venus' perspective.
Right off the bat, I would say that the Venus person feels the seriousness of this connection first. Even if you don't really know the person a lot, you might feel an immediate pull to them and a deep desire to get to know them. You might want to be their hero or their savior or their protector, etc. You might be put in a situation (at the time of meeting) where you are these things for this person. Nonetheless, I find that the Venus person is very self-sacrificing for the house person in this synastry.
Venus wants to truly understand the house person, and I think this is where the issues really start, because the house person is usually not open to Venus entering such vulnerable spaces in their life. But that's for later. The connection that Venus feels to the house person is very spiritual, and it's definitely something that they've never experienced before. Of course, if the Venus person has natal 12H placements, I find that Venus here can have an easier time communicating with the house person. If not, I do see that there is a bit of a challenge. Nonetheless, Venus feels like either divine intervention brought the two of them together, or that the two of them serve a bigger purpose together. The Venus person knows this deep in their heart and it's like they're just waiting for the house person to get there and accept that fate lol.
I'll be honest, Venus could become a little delusional for the house person. This is because the house person is on Venus' mind 24/7 and rent free. It's almost like an impulse. There is definitely an obsessive element to this synastry, but that could honestly go both ways and I think a lot would depend on your natal chart, transits, and whether any of the house person's planets fall into Venus' 12th house, etc. both could also be equally obsessed with each other but in the beginning it is more so Venus because again, Venus feels very passionate about the 12th house. Venus wants to love on the 12th house, and in a way, Venus wants to pull the house person out of their shell and out of that dark, elusive, mysterious, and unreachable place that they resort to.
This synastry can make Venus an unconditional lover 100%. And in a lot of situations, Venus is not naturally that way. Venus could have had strong boundaries before meeting the house person but it's like when they finally meet, all Venus wants to do is connect with the house person even if that means abandoning themselves sometimes. This is where the ugly starts. Venus will sacrifice things like their time, effort, money, creativity, fortune, etc., just to please the house person. This is going to be different for everybody, but if you are not over-giving to the house person, like giving them your resources, time, energy, and the things that I mentioned, you are over-forgiving of them. This comes back to the fact that you accept them fully, flaws and all. However, you should also understand that they don't have to feel the same way and I think this is where a lot of miscommunication and illusion starts to happen with the Venus person because they feel like they're mirroring each other's feelings. For instance, if Venus is very self-sacrificing or would literally give the shirt off their back to the house person, they may assume that the house person feels the same way, and that's not always true. When reality hits that the house person has their own mind, their own feelings, and their own perspective, the Venus person really is shocked by the house person. They can definitely betray each other because this is the house of hidden enemies. However, betrayal hits them very differently.
But, more on the subject of unconditional love. Venus loves them quickly and Venus wants to protect them immediately. It's kind of like Venus wants to protect them from the BS and darkness of the world, like it's their karmic duty. This is because they could feel like they are the only ones who truly knows the house person. The Venus person may not even fully understand why they feel so strongly for the house person, but they don't care. They know what the house person needs and they want to be there to mend their broken heart honestly. In my opinion, this would be very sweet and flattering IF it was warranted or asked for. A lot of the time, the house person is not asking for this from Venus, so that causes its own problems. But, there are also situations where the house person IS seeking Venus for that nurturing and that kind love that Venus has to offer the house person. They very much have a runner-chaser dynamic, and the house person isn't always pushing Venus away, but they will if they feel like Venus is pushing too far and trying to get too close when they are not ready.
Alternatively, I see situations where this pair cannot be together in the physical realm, but connect in their dreams, in the 5D, etc. I mentioned that this is a very spiritual connection, and a lot of times it really does not manifest into a solid relationship because there's no solid house to build on. When you deal with the 12th house, you are dealing with elusive energy, you are dealing with your deepest thoughts feelings and desires. But there's nothing that is really grounded enough to anchor in a solid connection, especially when there is Venus in 12H and/or harsh aspects involved. This of course is not always the case, but if there is a shorter relationship between the two, Venus definitely never forgets the house person and even romanticizes the time spent with the house person. This could be like the secret affair that the Venus person never forgot or maybe was not aware they were involved in until very later on when the two of them already split, etc. If the two people never come together in union or form a commitment, they still have a very serious spiritual entanglement and contract with each other. Even if the time that you spend together was one week or one year, that impact is forever ingrained in both people, but more so the Venus person. I have read charts for people who have this synastry, specifically for the Venus person, who would often share that they dream about the house person even though they haven't seen them in years, they haven't found the same level of passion with another person as they did with the house person, etc. I feel that Venus often romanticizes the connection so much to the point where sometimes the details are even skewed and the truth of what actually happened between both of them is often false or tainted. This is, again, is the uglier and definitely negative side of this synastry, but worth mentioning.
12H synastry is also about illusions and seeing past them. Often, this connection brings a level of illusion or deceit, and I feel like Venus tries to hang on to the connection a little bit stronger than the house person and could be more forgiving of any deceit or lies, and ultimately tries to keep that illusion of a soul tie or soulmate connection alive even if that's not what's happening in reality. Again, this synastry will literally make people feel crazy and it's not cute. I don't know why so many astrologers choose to romanticize this synastry, because just as often as it's good, it is a lot of trouble for people.I have talked to enough people who have expressed that they thought, felt, and acted in ways that they never have prior to meeting the 12H synastry person (this is a pattern I have noticed in both the house person and venus).
Venus really needs to be careful with how often they are romanticizing the house person's energy because it can get them in trouble. It could get them making poor choices and ultimately abandoning themselves by choosing to trust and believe the house person, even if the house person is playing in their face. Discernment is key, and I often find that if/ when these connections go wrong, it feels like a survival moment for Venus in a sense. A breakup should never feel like you have survived a long and never-ending marathon, but that's sort of what 12H synastry feels like. What sucks is that for a lot of people, that feeling sort of never fully fades.
For the house person, I think it is important to mention that they may already feel like an outcast as a person or they might already feel like people don't understand them. I've noticed that the house person is usually somebody who gets misunderstood, often. When the house person meets venus, the house person finally feels seen. The house person feels deeply affected by the Venus person, but does not understand why.
To the house person, Venus is like a leopard in the wild: Venus is stunning, no doubt, but also scary, intimidating, and frightening to the house person. It's actually very interesting to me how the house person can be both so attracted to Venus and so afraid of Venus. Of course not in a literal sense (usually), but in a way that they are scared to be fully vulnerable with the Venus person. This is typically because the house person actually does feel very accepted and seen by the Venus person but it's scary because nobody has ever made the attempt to connect with the house person in such a way. This is sort of where miscommunication could happen, because the house person isn't all bad. The house person is not mysterious, but rather overwhelmed and tries to keep things together internally. I think that the Venus person doesn't always understand that not everybody wants to put all of their traumas and their hurt and their pain, or even their love out on display.
Venus sees the parts of the house person that they try to hide, and that can definitely stir up some unsettling feelings in them. It's not a good feeling for them to be so sus and afraid of someone while simultaneously being deeply attracted to them. Venus stirs these feelings up in the house person and it creates like an internal storm. This is because the house person doesn't feel like they can really trust a Venus person for whatever reason, usually it is because of the illusion that this synastry comes with. But nonetheless, I would say that house person wants to love the Venus person, but feels like they just can't trust them, like the carpet will be pull from underneath them, etc.
I feel like the house person can sometimes become anxiously attached to Venus, even if they don't express that anxiety or show that they want to be in close proximity to venus. I'll be honest with you, it sort of gives Joe from You, in the sense that he watches the women that he really wants from afar, rather than just trying to approach them in a normal and respectful way. Not calling the house person a stalker but I'm saying that they feel safer watching the Venus person and enjoying their energy, than diving deep very quickly. In a normal romantic sense, this could look like being very sketchy and randomly ghosting, then popping back up, texting at all hours of the night, giving Venus attention, then suddenly pulling away while still watching their social media, etc. It looks like the house person showing just enough interest to keep the venus person thinking of them, wondering about them, and holding onto them.
Another note on issues with being vulnerable with the Venus person: I have noticed that the house person feels like their guard drops for Venus really quickly, and they could feel like they have no control over their reactions around Venus. This makes the house person so self-aware and yet so unable to stop themselves from reacting ways that make them feel out of control.
Out of the two, I would say that the house person can be more of the secretive one, but that is not to say that Venus can't be, too. Both can be pretty secretive. I feel that the secretive nature of the house person comes from this desire to feel safe in the connection. I don't always feel like the house person is hiding things to be malicious (though that can happen). Usually, it just feels safer for them to do that. Another part of this is that the house person doesn't always know how to label how they feel, so sometimes it's easier for them to just say that they're “fine” rather than diving into their actual feelings. The house person also just tends to think more negatively and might assume that their real feelings or "true self" would be "too much" for venus to actually love.
The house person has a tendency of playing mind games with Venus, especially using push-pull tactics to get Venus’ attention. But sometimes, it's not even for Venus’ attention. Sometimes, the house person gets so comfortable with sharing that they let themselves be too vulnerable with venus, and then pull away because that feeling is too intense for them. Sometimes it's about playing games, but sometimes it's genuinely just that the house person does not know how to accept that energy from the Venus person without questioning it or not trusting it.
I think in a lot of ways, the house person can be seen as very inconsistent and flaky to Venus, and Venus could take it very personally, but the house person just doesn't know what to do with Venus, I guess. They may know that they want to explore this connection with venus, but there's something in them that feels like it's intangible. They could feel like Venus is unavailable because maybe Venus is. Maybe Venus doesn't always wait for the house person and lets themself explore, etc. But I think a lot of the time, the house person just projects a lot of their insecurities onto Venus even if it is unfair or unjust.
The way that I see it is that the house person is afraid of their complex feelings for Venus because they have never felt such complexities before. They have never met somebody who has rattled their brain and yet made their heart race a million times over. They have never met somebody that challenges them and could feel totally different from them, or like an utter fantasy. I feel that the house person, whether they admit it out loud or not, gets totally enamored with the Venus person. Just like Venus feels for the house person. The problem is that the house person doesn't know how to express this without feeling afraid of what will happen if Venus leaves.
I think that is the biggest distinction in terms of who is more impacted by this synastry. They both are. They both carry the karmic weight of the connection, even after it's over. However, Venus is the planet of love and comfort and beauty.. Venus can know when to leave or when it is time to, but the house person? The house person might be stuck. The house person will be lingering on the memories of the Venus person until they could fully release that energy and see the connection for what it was. So while on the surface it might seem like the house person doesn't have much of a reaction to the Venus person, I would argue that the reaction is a lot stronger for the house person, it's just internalized. It's like having your insides set on fire and wanting to explode but unable to. It's like your heart breaking and having nobody to turn to. This is what it feels like for the house person if and when the Venus person leaves, and if there was a deep connection.
Sometimes, the house person can avoid deep and meaningful connections because they want to avoid falling in love with Venus. I find that the house person tends to cling on to words and intellectual conversation and just deep dialogue more than Venus, and they find that Venus naturally stimulates them intellectually and emotionally. Having conversations about the meaning of life, the future, the things that we hide, and love, feel scary for the house person because they don't typically connect in such a way with other people and they feel like if they give the Venus person the “key” to their heart, or to the parts of themselves that they hide, Venus can somehow destroy them.
Now more about this synastry, together. This otherworldly connection is one that will be felt throughout their entire lifetime. If this works out, I find that this couple ends up marrying and being together for their entire lifetime. If this situation doesn't work out, these two will not forget about each other. Nonetheless, things feel fated and like you two had a purpose in this lifetime. Sometimes you complete that purpose and sometimes you don't. This is also a very psychic and intuitive synastry to have with someone so they might feel like they can read each other's minds or just know what each other needs without needing to use words.
This is the kind of relationship where you will love each other at your very worst and still accept each other. Though this is mostly on Venus’ end, this could also be flipped. You have to take it as it resonates.
This relationship is very healing when it is healthy. I find that Venus wants to help soften and heal the house person, and house person creates a feeling of safety for the Venus person. And it is also worth mentioning that because this is the house of the hidden, intimacy can definitely be found in privacy.
Now onto the bad and ugly.
What makes this connection difficult is the utter lack of clarity and direction. If this connection never gets off the ground it always feels like it's floating up in the air, and it always feels like one or both people can't let each other go. I don't think it matters who feels this way in the connection because both tend to feel it at some point but they tend to ask themselves and each other, “what are we?” often. Oftentimes, they both cannot define what they want, or they are not on the same page at the right time. It's annoying because feelings can definitely exist but neither one of them knows how to put them into words.
Emotional projection is really strong and I kind of covered that earlier in this post. Usually, it is the house person that is projecting fantasies onto the Venus person, and the Venus person seeing what they want to see and not necessarily reality. This could definitely lead to things like avoiding the red flags in the person because they feel like the connection is too deep to let go. I think in some situations, they might feel like it is better to accept a false narrative or fantasy than to face reality or be accountable for the partner they chose.
There can be a lot of hidden dynamics and sneaky behavior in this synastry, especially if this is negative synastry. Of course, this placement shows up a lot and hidden or secret affairs, so that in and of itself can have its own issues. Besides that, I feel like there could be a lot of emotional manipulation and guilt tripping with this synastry, because the two people know so much about each other that they know each other's weak spots and how to play on each other's emotions. It gets messy as all heck. In the worst-case scenario, one or both people might realize that the other person is their hidden enemy or hidden “opp” in some way. Betrayal is unfortunately not uncommon with this synastry.
It is very important to have boundaries, especially spiritual boundaries with these connections because this could also indicate a draining connection that you experience as well. Pay attention to the red flags, and pay attention to how you feel when you are with this person. I've noticed that if somebody is draining your energy and you have this synastry, you might feel really lethargic and tired all of a sudden when you're around this person. A person who is right for you should make you feel energized and calm, not like you need a 10-hour nap.
Now to just wrap everything up. This could be a life-changing and deeply impactful connection that helps you both evolve as people, and it can definitely be a long-term, spiritual connection as well. But, you cannot sacrifice yourself for the sake of love and that is something that happens way too much with this synastry.
For the best outcomes for this synastry, I recommend radical acceptance and radical honesty. Don't hold back how you feel, and don't spend too much time waiting to define what the connection is. If it feels like it is something, it is something and you should give it a chance rather than fighting the current. But of course, strengthen your relationship with discernment and put yourself first always.
Do you have this synastry with anyone and can you relate to this post? Thank you for reading!
aries-libra: aries is unconscious of what brings them balance. libra is unconscious of what brings them results.
that’s why they are tense together. aries doesn’t understand libra’s hesitation. libra doesn’t understand aries need for action.
☕️ aries is like move BITCH to libra & libra is too busy telling them why they aren’t moving and why it’s much BETTER!
taurus-scorpio: taurus is unconscious of their deeper emotions and intuition. scorpio is unconscious of what brings them peace and harmony.
that’s why they are tense together. taurus doesn’t understands scorpio’s emotional reactions. scorpio doesn’t understand taurus intent.
☕️ taurus is like can we just chill and enjoy the evening to scorpio and scoripio is looking at taurus like you vain, superficial, materialistic BITCH.
gemini-sagittarius: gemini is unconscious of physical discovery. sagittarius is unconscious of mental pursuit.
that’s why they are tense together. gemini doesn’t understand sagittarius movement. sagittarius doesn’t understand gemini’s mental complexity.
☕️ gemini is like do you even know what your FUCKING talking about to sagittarius and sagittarius is calling them stupid for believing some shit they read.
cancer-capricorn: cancer is unconscious of their long-term plans. capricorn is unconscious of their emotional motivations.
that’s why they are tense together. cancer doesn’t understand capricorns direction. capricorn doesn’t understand cancer’s reactions.
☕️ cancer is like i’m upset right now, do something ABOUT IT to capricorn and capricorn is telling them it won’t matter by tommorow so chill out.
leo-aquarius: leo is unconscious of the impersonal. aquarius is unconscious of the personal.
that’s why they are tense together. leo doesn’t understand aquarius perception of the world. aquarius doesn’t understand leo’s perception of love.
☕️leo is like why haven’t you talked to me all day, you selfish BITCH to aquarius and aquarius is telling them that life exists outside of LEO.
virgo-pisces: virgo is unconscious of their emotional impact. pisces is unconscious of their practical effort.
thats why they are tense together. virgo doesn’t understand pisces perceptive depth. pisces doesn’t understand virgo’s meticulous efficiency.
☕️ virgo is telling pisces how they can improve their writing and PISCES is like this bitch has no idea what they’re talking about…
Here's my post about your looks - Some Astrology Behind Your Looks
Note: These are just my personal observations over the years, so let me know in the comments if anything hits home! This post is based on Western astrology!
Venus in Aries - Cat lady vibe. Might have a pet. Sun-kissed glow. Got that X factor. Loves attention. Wears bold jewelry or accessories. Loves the sun or likes the color Yellow. Cheerleader energy. If afflicted or in Rx, could feel insecured about their looks.
Mercury in Taurus - Calm face, steady gaze. Style leans classic, sometimes vintage. If afflicted, might look tired or underdressed. In retrograde, it's that “I just woke up but it’s 4PM” look.
Jupiter in Taurus - Full cheeks, sturdy build. Belly shows abundance (or snacks). Might’ve been a chubby kid. Sometimes wheezy.
Jupiter in Gemini - Lean frame, animated face, eyes dart like thoughts. If afflicted, features look scattered, like a collage that doesn’t quite blend. If retrograde, eyes seem trapped in their own head, like they’re stuck choosing a lane.
Mars in Gemini - Slim build, fast movements, talkative face.
If afflicted, fidgety, scattered gaze, may look wiry or strained. If retrograde, tired eyes, overworked aura, like they're second-guessing themselves.
Venus in Cancer - Round face, doe eyes, soft or maternal expression.
If afflicted, puffy features or closed-off vibe, like hiding behind sweetness. If retrograde, eyes look nostalgic or mournful, like they miss something unspoken.
Moon in Cancer – Round eyes, soft cheeks, a face that looks like it’s felt everything. If afflicted, moody or puffy features, like they’ve been crying or holding it in. Distant gaze, as if beauty is there but emotionally checked out.
Saturn in Leo - Defined features, serious stare, looks like they’ve had to grow up fast. If afflicted, stiff vibe, like they’re trying too hard to seem confident. If retrograde, tense face, like they’re always lowkey arguing with themselves.
Mars in Leo - Big presence, confident face, might have great hair or bold style. If afflicted, comes off a bit forced, like they need to be seen. If retrograde, looks frustrated or blocked, like they wanna shine but something’s holding them back.
Venus in Virgo - Neat features, clean style, that effortlessly tidy look.
If afflicted, poor hygiene or unkempt vibe, like they gave up on trying.
If retrograde, beauty’s still there just super understated, easy to overlook.
Moon in Libra - Balanced face, pretty smile, always looks composed.
If afflicted, distant eyes, like they’re pretending they’re fine when they’re not. Beauty feels cold or guarded, like they’re stuck between feelings.
Saturn in Libra - Classic beauty, serious stare, looks like someone you'd fall for and regret it. If afflicted, cold charm, like they broke hearts before lunch. If retrograde, heartthrob energy but gentle like the one who won’t break your heart.
Mars in Scorpio - Intense eyes, magnetic presence, looks like they know all your secrets. If afflicted, heavy energy, like they’re carrying old pain on their face or a man-child and overly emotional. If retrograde, still deep but emotionally shut in like they feel everything but won’t show it.
Venus in Scorpio - Sharp eyes, intense stare, features that draw you in without trying. If afflicted, messy vibe, might look seductive but unpolished or emotionally drained or delusional. If retrograde, beauty feels hidden or downplayed, like they’re not ready to be seen.
Moon in Sagittarius - Open face, bright eyes, looks like they laugh even when they’re sad. Weight fluctuations. If afflicted, restless expression, guarded eyes, like they’ve been through too many ups and downs. Smile doesn’t reach the eyes like they’re stuck pretending everything’s fine.
Saturn in Sagittarius - Long limbs, thoughtful face, looks like someone who’s always learning the hard way. If afflicted, chaotic or unkempt vibe, may struggle with addiction, no sense of balance or direction. If retrograde, still carries weight well, but it shows in slouched posture or quiet overwhelm.
Jupiter in Capricorn - Defined jaw, serious expression, looks like success in progress. If afflicted, materialistic vibe, stiff energy, may hoard or overcompensate with status. If retrograde, still polished but toned-down like wealth in quiet mode, juggling too much inside.
Mars in Capricorn - Always looks like they’re grinding, calculated energy, moves with purpose. If afflicted, takes shady shortcuts, fake deals, hustles with no structure. If retrograde, does it all alone, struggles to delegate, trust issues with teamwork.
Venus in Aquarius - Unique style, cool aura, looks like they flirt just by existing. If afflicted, offbeat in a try-hard way, gives “I’m different” or "Am not like other girls" but also distant and detached. If retrograde, still quirky but less bold like they’re keeping the weird under wraps.
Mercury in Aquarius - Sharp eyes, spaced-out look, like their thoughts are ten steps ahead. If afflicted, detached or smug vibe, talks smart but comes off cold or hard to reach. If retrograde, still distant, but softer like they’re deep in thought and forgot to speak.
Saturn in Pisces - Looks spaced out, like they’re always emotionally tired but trying to hold it together. If afflicted, avoids stuff, quits halfway, can’t move on especially from people they shouldn’t miss.
If retrograde, still overwhelmed, but hides it better keeps feelings locked up to survive.
Jupiter in Pisces - Gains weight easy, soft face, looks like they stay in bed too long and cry at movies. If afflicted, manipulates with guilt, brags while playing humble, uses people’s kindness. If retrograde, still wants attention and comfort, just sneakier about it won’t admit it out loud but really warm and kind.
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So when you follow the ruler of the 4th house through the chart, you’re unlocking how and where you seek to feel at home in this life — emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
4th House Ruler in the 1st House
Home is where you are.
Your identity is deeply tied to your family, culture, or early environment. You carry “home” with you — emotionally expressive, protective, sometimes even parental toward others. You’re your own anchor. Strong sense of self rooted in emotional truth. Core need = To feel seen and safe in your own skin. “I am my own foundation.”
4th House Ruler in the 2nd House
Security = stability.
Your emotional well-being depends on feeling financially and physically secure. You may have grown up around themes of scarcity or materialism, or learned to build your own safety net. Loyal, grounded, caretaker energy. Core need: Tangible safety — a cozy space, resources, routine. “I build a home I can count on.”
4th House Ruler in the 3rd House
Home is in the mind.
Your early environment shaped your voice, thoughts, and communication style. Siblings or relatives may play a big role in your home life. Talking, writing, or learning = comfort zone. Able to articulate emotional depth and family stories. Core need: Mental stimulation, open communication “I feel at home when I can express myself freely.”
4th House Ruler in the 4th House
Ancestral echo.
This is a pure, potent placement — you’re deeply connected to your roots, your family line, or even past lives. Home and emotional life are central to your existence. You may return to childhood places or inherit family responsibilities. Psychic memory, deep emotional wisdom, nurturer soul. Core need: Emotional grounding and belonging. “I carry the heart of my lineage.”
4th House Ruler in the 5th House
Home is creative.
You find emotional security through play, self-expression, and joy. You may want to create your own family (biological or chosen) that feels full of love and passion. Your inner child is loud and wants to be seen. Playful parent energy, expressive nurturer. Core need: Fun, romance, a home filled with love and light. “I create a home that celebrates life.”
4th House Ruler in the 6th House
Home is functional.
You need structure and purpose to feel emotionally secure. You may have had to take on responsibility early in life. Work and wellness are connected to your emotional state. Healing comes through routine. Feeling emotionally drained by caregiving or “fixing”? Healing others through nurturing structure. Core need: Order, health, and acts of service. “I make my home a place of healing and order.”
4th House Ruler in the 7th House
Home is relational.
You seek emotional safety through connection and companionship. Your family life may have involved witnessing intense or imbalanced dynamics between caregivers. You recreate balance through partnerships. Prone to projecting family dynamics onto partners. Deeply relational, romantic, peace-seeking. Core need: Emotional intimacy, harmony, and shared life. “Home is found in love and mutual understanding.”
4th House Ruler in the 8th House
Home is transformative.
You may have experienced emotional or family upheaval — intensity, secrecy, or loss may be themes. You need deep emotional bonding and sacred space to feel truly safe. Could inherit land, trauma, or psychic gifts. Can have a fear of emotional vulnerability, control patterns. Soul healer, sacred space holder, generational breaker. Core need: Deep emotional honesty and transformation. “I transform pain into sanctuary.”
4th House Ruler in the 9th House
Home is the horizon.
You may feel most at home abroad, in other cultures, or in spiritual exploration. Your early home may have been restrictive, making you seek emotional freedom through growth, learning, and travel. Escaping emotional depth through philosophy or travel. Visionary nurturer, wise soul, curious seeker. Core need: Meaning, belief, and wide-open spaces. “I build a home in every country and every idea.”
4th House Ruler in the 10th House
Home is legacy.
You may have grown up with a focus on success, image, or duty. You feel safe when you’re achieving or building something lasting. There’s often a karmic connection between family and career. Neglecting personal needs for public image or work. Powerful provider, ancestral leader. Core need: Recognition, structure, and emotional purpose. “I build a home others can look up to.”
4th House Ruler in the 11th House
Home is community.
You feel emotionally safe in friendships, groups, or collective movements. You may create your own chosen family. Your childhood may have felt “different,” and now you build inclusive, visionary homes. Emotionally detached or idealizing community over self. Utopian nurturer, the one who makes others feel seen. Core need: Belonging within a larger whole. “I build homes that include everyone.”
4th House Ruler in the 12th House
Home is the soul.
Your emotional roots are deep, spiritual, and often hidden. There may be ancestral karma, isolation, or mystery around your early home. You need solitude, imagination, and inner peace to feel safe. Emotional avoidance, hidden grief, or self-isolation. Dream weaver, inner sanctuary, spiritual nurturer. Core need: Emotional retreat, spiritual connection. “I carry home within the quiet corners of my soul.”
ruler of the 12th house through the houses, one of the most spiritually potent placements in the chart. The ruler of your 12th house shows where your deepest healing and spiritual evolution wants to unfold. This is the house of your spirit guides, hidden superpowers, and private battles.
12th House Ruler in the 1st House
You carry the unseen with you.
You’re intuitive, psychic, and sensitive AF. You may appear dreamy, ethereal, or mysterious — because you embody 12th house themes. Your subconscious is part of your identity. Gift: Healing presence, spiritual aura, psychic instincts. Identity confusion, absorbing others’ energy. “I walk between worlds.”
12th House Ruler in the 2nd House
You ground the spiritual into the material.
You may channel your intuition into building wealth, creating art, or healing others through touch and presence. You could inherit spiritual gifts or generational patterns around survival. Gift: Sacred sensuality, money magic, value-based intuition. Feeling unsafe to be seen or trust in abundance “I make the invisible, tangible.”
12th House Ruler in the 3rd House
You channel from the divine mind.
You may receive messages through dreams, downloads, or synchronicities. Writing, speaking, or teaching may be spiritually healing — but you may keep much of your voice hidden. Gift: Dreamy writer, intuitive communicator, psychic translator. Mental fog, confusion, or escapist thinking. “I speak what spirit whispers.”
12th House Ruler in the 4th House
Your roots hold your healing.
You may carry ancestral trauma — but also incredible generational gifts. Your inner world is deep, private, and spiritually charged. Home is a sacred temple or a portal for healing. Gift: Ancestral wisdom, deep emotional intuition. Emotional isolation, fear of being known. “My soul remembers where I came from.”
12th House Ruler in the 5th House
You create from the soul.
Your art, love life, and inner child are deeply connected to your spiritual path. You may be a secret romantic, or use creativity to process emotions you can’t express directly. Gift: Healing through art, sacred sexuality, divine play. Self-sabotage in love, fear of being fully seen. “I create to remember who I really am.”
12th House Ruler in the 6th House
You turn the sacred into ritual.
You have the power to channel divine energy into your daily life — whether through healing work, service, or wellness. Your body might reflect your spiritual/emotional state. Gift: Intuitive healer, spiritual discipline, energy worker. Illness linked to suppressed emotions, burnout. “My devotion is my medicine.”
12th House Ruler in the 7th House
Relationships are spiritual contracts.
You attract karmic partners — lovers or friends who help you awaken. You may lose yourself in others, or form soul bonds that force you to confront your subconscious wounds. Gift: Mirror healing, sacred union, emotional depth. Co-dependence, attracting unavailable or confusing partners. “Love teaches me how to heal myself.”
12th House Ruler in the 8th House
You are a shadow weaver.
You feel energy, emotions, and hidden truths deeply. Your spiritual work may involve death, trauma, sex, or psychology. You’re a natural mystic or medium. Gift: Deep psychic ability, power to transmute pain. Fear of your own power, emotional suppression. “I alchemize darkness into light.”
12th House Ruler in the 9th House
Your spirit seeks truth.
You’re drawn to mysticism, philosophy, and spiritual teachings. You may travel far (physically or mentally) to find yourself. Dreams and visions may be tied to past lives or higher knowledge. Gift: Spiritual teacher, cosmic explorer, wisdom-seeker. Escaping into ideas instead of healing emotion. “I remember through seeking.”
12th House Ruler in the 10th House
Your legacy is spiritual.
You may be called to do spiritual work publicly — or bring healing into leadership roles. You could have hidden talents that shape your career. Your reputation might come from what you’ve overcome. Gift: Public healer, creative mystic, compassionate leader. Fear of visibility, hiding your true calling. “My purpose is guided by something higher.”
12th House Ruler in the 11th House
You dream with the collective.
You’re tapped into the collective unconscious. You might manifest your dreams in quiet or indirect ways — or be part of online/spiritual communities that feel like home. Gift: Channel for collective energy, digital mystic, manifestor. Feeling disconnected or like an outsider. “My vision was planted in me for the future.”
12th House Ruler in the 12th House
You are the mystic.
You have strong psychic gifts, access to ancestral memory, and a deep spiritual life. You may crave solitude and need extra rest. Dreams, music, water, and art are sacred portals. Gift: Divine connection, healing presence, intuitive downloads. Isolation, victim mindset, hiding your magic. “I live between realms — and I came to heal.”
Saturn in the Houses: The Love Letter You Never Sent
♄ Saturn in the 1st House
I wanted to let you in, but all I’ve ever known is how to stand alone. It felt safer to build myself into something strong than to risk being seen while still becoming. I’ve always believed love was something I had to earn through effort, through excellence, through holding it all together. So I never showed you the parts I hadn’t perfected. I thought if I let you see the cracks, you’d leave. But I wish I could’ve told you this, that I was never asking you to fix me, only to stay long enough to see the version of me that didn’t know how to be held without apology.
♄ Saturn in the 2nd House
I’ve spent my life gripping what I love, afraid that once I open my hands, everything will fall away. I tied my worth to what I could hold,
to what I could protect, to what felt certain. So I never gave you all of me. Not because I didn’t want to, but because I didn’t know how to trust that love wouldn’t take more than it gave. But if I could write you now, I’d say this: I was never withholding love. I was just afraid
you’d see how much of it I had, and still walk away. I didn’t need someone to be mine, I just needed someone who wouldn’t disappear when I finally unclenched my fists.
♄ Saturn in the 3rd House
I rehearsed every word. Tucked pages of my heart into sentences I never sent. I was terrified that the moment I spoke, you’d misunderstand, or worse, you’d understand completely and not feel the same. So I smiled instead. Changed the subject. Turned my truth into silence. But I wish I could’ve said this: I cared more than I ever let on. There were poems in my pauses, apologies in every overthought message, and love in all the spaces I couldn’t fill with words. My heart was never blank, just written in a language I was too afraid to let you read.
♄ Saturn in the 4th House
I made it look easy to be alone. I made independence seem like peace, but it was armor. It was protection from the ache of needing someone who might leave. I kept my softness under lock and key,
showed you only the rooms I had cleaned. The rest, the grief, the fear, the fragility, I kept buried in the basement of me. But if I could write you now, I’d tell you this: I was afraid of letting you feel how much I longed for safety. Not because I didn’t trust you, but because I didn’t yet believe I was worth being chosen without condition. But maybe I didn’t need to be whole to be worthy, just willing to open the door
before I’d swept the floors.
♄ Saturn in the 5th House
I wanted to laugh louder. To love louder. To show you the unfiltered joy I used to tuck behind control. But I didn’t know how. Love felt like a stage and I was afraid to mess up my lines. I kept my affection measured, my passion quiet, my heart under careful choreography.
I told myself it was maturity. But truthfully, I was scared that if I gave in to joy, I wouldn’t know how to hold it when it inevitably left. If I could write to you now, I’d say: I was never cold. I was never distant.
I was just afraid that if I let myself feel it all, you’d watch me fall apart, and love me less because of it. And maybe the scariest thing
wasn’t feeling everything, but letting you see how badly I wanted to.
♄ Saturn in the 6th House
I turned devotion into duty. Love became a list of things I had to do right, the right words, the right timing, the right version of me. I kept fixing things that weren’t broken because I didn’t know how to let love be easy. I was always one step ahead of your disappointment,
trying to avoid the moment you’d realize I wasn’t enough. But what I never told you is this: I didn’t want to serve love, I wanted to rest in it.
I wanted to stop measuring my worth in how useful I was to you. If I could go back, I’d choose presence over performance. I'd give you my heart, not my checklist. I’d finally believe I was worthy of love
even when I wasn’t holding everything together, just lying still, and letting someone hold me.
♄ Saturn in the 7th House
I crave connection more than I ever said. But I’ve seen what it costs, what it takes to merge your world with someone else’s. So I held myself back even as I moved toward you. Love felt like surrender, and surrender felt like erasure. I was scared that giving you my heart would mean forgetting where I’d left mine. But if I could speak now,
I’d say this: I didn’t push you away because I didn’t care, I pushed you away because I cared too much, and I didn’t know how to stay whole inside something so big. All I needed was a love that felt like a home, one where I could leave the door open and still be invited in.
♄ Saturn in the 8th House
You touched something ancient in me. Something buried. And it scared me, not because you hurt me, but because you could. I wanted to be vulnerable. To let you see the shadows, the softness,
the parts of me even I still don’t understand. But I pulled back, wrapped myself in distance, and called it protection. The truth is:
I didn’t know how to let someone see me where I hadn’t yet survived myself. I feared that if I handed you my depth, you’d drown in it, or worse, you’d leave me to face it alone. But now I know, maybe the fear was never about being seen, but about being transformed by a love that had the courage to open the door while the house was still burning.
♄ Saturn in the 9th House
I wanted to believe. In you. In us. In something greater than logic or circumstance. But hope has let me down before, and I learned not to trust what I couldn’t predict. So I questioned everything, even the parts of me that ached for you. I craved a love that expanded me,
but feared the fall that comes with faith. So I stayed cautious, measured the future in small steps, and held back the part of me that wanted to leap into the unknown just to be close to you. If I could tell you now, I’d say I was never cold. I was just building a belief strong enough to carry us both. All I needed was a love that felt like a sky I didn’t have to map, just one I could lie beneath, trusting that it would still be there in the morning.
♄ Saturn in the 10th House
I thought I had to accomplish everything before I could deserve you.
Love felt like a reward I hadn’t earned yet, so I poured myself into building a life that looked impressive but felt quietly empty without you in it. I confused purpose with pressure, ambition with distance.
I kept choosing the version of me the world would applaud, even when all I wanted was to be held in a place that didn’t ask me to perform. If I could write you now, I’d say this: I wish I had made space for you in the life I was building. Because love was never a distraction, it was the missing piece of the dream I didn’t know how to name.
♄ Saturn in the 11th House
I always felt like the outsider, a step outside the circle, watching connection happen around me but never fully in it. So I kept my heart behind ideals, hid my longing beneath independence, and told myself I was fine on my own. But the truth is, I wanted someone to see through the distance. To recognize that I was never unreachable,
just scared that if I showed who I truly was, no one would stay. If I could speak now, I’d tell you this: I wasn’t pushing you away. I was waiting to feel safe enough to belong. And I wish I had realized sooner that love doesn’t require you to fit in, only to let yourself be seen, by someone who saw my edges and stayed for the shape they made.
♄ Saturn in the 12th House
I loved you from behind the veil, quietly, invisibly, carrying a tenderness I never knew how to speak. My heart was full, but so were my shadows. There were parts of me even I hadn’t faced yet. And so I drifted, half-present, half-lost in the depth of everything I didn’t know how to name. You thought I was distant. But I was drowning in the fear that if I let you too close, you’d see how much of me was still unfinished. If I could tell you now, I wish I’d let you in. Even just a little. Because love doesn’t require you to be whole. It only asks you to be honest about where it hurts.
Mars and the type of men you might be attracted to
Mars in your chart shows the type of energy you're drawn to when it comes to passion, desire, and attraction especially toward masculine traits (regardless of gender).
This is a general interpretation, so it might or might not resonate.
Mars in Aries/1st house
You're attracted to bold, take-charge types. Confident, competitive, and a bit impulsive. The "I see it, I want it, I get it" kind of guy. Alpha energy? Yes please.
Mars in Taurus/2nd house
Slow burn attraction. You like someone grounded, dependable, sensual. A man who’s stable, loyal, and maybe a little possessive in a hot way. Bonus if he smells amazing.
Mars in Gemini/3rd house
Sapiosexual vibes. You're into witty, talkative, mentally stimulating men. Give you banter, debates, and late-night convos over someone with just good looks any day.
Mars in Cancer/4th house
You're drawn to emotionally intelligent, nurturing men. Protective and soft-hearted, but with a quiet strength. He might cook for you and remember all the little things.
Mars in Leo/5th house
You want someone who shines. Proud, bold, and a little dramatic. You're into men who are confident, expressive, and aren’t afraid to show you off or make big gestures. sassy men.
Mars in Virgo/6th house
The quiet fixer. You’re attracted to men who are helpful, attentive, detail-oriented — maybe even a little anxious. He shows love by doing, not just saying. You might have a thing for men in suits or formals.
Mars in Libra/7th house
You're drawn to charming, classy men. Someone who’s balanced, graceful, and knows how to flirt. A lover, not a fighter but with strong opinions under that pretty smile.
Mars in Scorpio/8th house
Intensity is your love language. You’re into deep, mysterious, magnetic men. You want someone who makes eye contact and suddenly you’re spiraling into obsession.
Mars in Sagittarius/9th house
You love a wild soul. The type who’s adventurous, funny, spontaneous, and never afraid to speak their mind. Big 3AM road trip energy. Give you the thrill. Something who can teach you and help you learn new things.
Mars in Capricorn/10th house
You're into powerful, responsible men. The strong, silent type. Driven, ambitious, and lowkey intimidating. Daddy energy. You want a man with a plan. You like men who have their life together.
Mars in Aquarius/11th house
You’re attracted to the unconventional ones. Detached but intriguing. You like someone who’s intellectually stimulating, unique, and doesn’t follow the crowd. You might love some rebellion.
Mars in Pisces/12th house
Hopeless romantic alert. You like dreamers, artists, soft souls. Men who feel deeply, love spiritually, and may be a little mysterious or poetic.
2. Personal Synastry and Composite Experiences and Observations
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Venus in 1H synastry: This one is full of compliments. You both love staring at each other, and telling the other how attractive they are. The house person can be the perfect example of what aesthetic the Venus person’s dream person would follow. The Venus person can try to embody that aesthetic more than they did before so they can show they are a good physical match for the house person. “You would look good with me.” Bonding over shared music taste(s). I think the Venus person will want to romance the house person even if that isn’t something they normally do. Venus could love how the 1H person displays their feminine side. Venus likes to ask for pictures and selfies from the house person, and can create a dynamic where you send one another photos regularly. The house person likes to look at photos from the Venus person to gush about what they look like, because they are also supremely attracted to Venus (I think Venus just has a more natural way of expressing that desire). Also as the house person who identifies as a woman, venus’ compliments and pursuit of me has made me feel more feminine than I ever have in a romantic dynamic. Even my mannerisms are coincidentally more feminine and gentle in Venus’ presence. Venus definitely increased my self esteem.
Mars in 1H synastry: I think you two could make very good gym partners together because you love each other’s bodies. Some people say this is a “s*x on the first date placement,” and I concur. You find each other sexy! You compliment each other’s physical appearance and bodies often, and very much so during the act. The Mars person is very very direct with the house person that it’s almost overwhelming or intimidating. Being the house person, I did often feel like they had just wanted me for my body or that’s what they found to be the most interesting part about me until the interaction progressed. If there aren’t other good “soft and sweet” placements in the synastry chart or in the composite, this could be a pretty annoying placement. The Mars person did admit to me that they would bring up sex or something that would irritate me just to get a reaction because they didn’t know if they stimulate me outside of those vibes. If you’re in a relationship with someone else, or show interest in other people, the Mars person can want to fight your partner so they can be the one next to you LOL. This placement also involves a lot of staring. Being touched, even regularly, by Mars turned me on more than other people ever touching me the same way even if I liked them. Mars can love to grab the house person’s face a lot during sex. Maybe for some people who are into it, Mars can want to consensually slap the house person during sex. The Mars will like to be publicly “disrespectful” about you, because they want to mark you as theirs or will for real fight for you. They can see you as someone they want to protect, or you trigger some protective instinct. They might be a lot more physically stronger than you. Sending each other pictures of your body’s changes. You both like how the other defends themselves or bond over your argumentative or aggressive sides. As the house person with the Mars person being a man, I find his masculinity so attractive it hurts. He has slowly changed my perception on what I want a man to look like 😩
Sun in 11H synastry/composite: You guys get along almost immediately. This is a low maintenance friendship, because the vibes make up for all the times you don’t see each other. You just like how the other one approaches friendship. Very open-minded. Probably met through mutual friends, and these friends probably didn’t immediately notice certain similarities you have to one another. Once they see you guys link though, they can be surprised they never noticed it before. You guys may have automatically assumed, even if flirting was involved, that this interaction would remain generally platonic more than anything. People who are not in your friend group can also notice you two becoming friends immediately, because for some reason it stood out. As the sun person, I really liked listening to the house person’s dreams. Hearing the house person speak about how they handle their interpersonal relationships made me value my boundaries more and reminded me to focus more on myself than giving too much of my energy to other people. Essentially you can help each other dismiss certain people pleasing tendencies in one another. You don’t have to try to please one another either, your authentic self is enough to give each other pleasure. A natural sense of familiarity between you two. It’s funny hearing about each other’s quirks. You are encouraged to show your eccentricities around one another. Instant bestie vibes! You can feel like evil twins together in some cases LOL
Venus in 11H synastry: Honestly, in some cases, I feel like you may have met this person because they were previously involved with a friend or ex-friend. The friend you’re attracted to, but don’t need to pursue because you also get the same joys and benefits from your friendship. Friends with benefits. Friends to lovers. You may have started dating or flirting online for a while before meeting. I think this is another sign of shared music taste and interests. As the Venus person, I first grew some sort of interest because the house person posted a video of themselves online playing guitar and I found that super attractive. Maybe the Venus person can be an online supporter or promoter of the house person’s creative outlets. Never meeting in person but having a lot of the same mutuals you both know in real life, and then meeting in person later on by yourselves, maybe in a “date” setting.
Moon in 9H synastry: Here, the house person can introduce the moon person to different religions, or likes to talk about religion with the moon person. The house person can held guide the moon person on the importance of higher education or on the acquisition of knowledge. Long distance relationship. Wanting to be together but you somehow met once you two no longer lived in the same city. The moon person can feel like the house person is one of the smartest people they have met, and can feel somewhat intimidated by the house person because of it. You two can feel really free in one another’s presence. You can talk about anything. You two can turn casual conversation into something philosophical together. Sharing your personal philosophies with one another. Having drastically different life circumstances that have shaped you, but also having some foundational similarities. The moon person might be contradictory to the house person’s beliefs, but this can just stretch curiosity. It can also make the house person analyze different gaps in their previous opinions on certain organizations or institutions. Disagreements on certain topics doesn’t seem to escalate into arguments, but rather into informed discussions. Feeling out of reach to one another. I have seen a post referencing how the moon person can feel like the house person is out of their league, and I think this can stem from, in some cases, not being intelligent or well-rounded enough to stimulate the house person long term. This can just be a feeling and not at all be the case, because the house person learns a lot more from the moon than the moon realizes. You guys can spark the other’s adventurous side. You guys maybe only get to meet while the other is vacationing in your area. The Moon person can unconsciously inspire the house person to teach others about their speciality, such as getting you into blogging about an interest you talked to them about.
Composite Virgo Mars: Having to schedule when you two can have sex (maybe it’s long distance for a period of time). Arguments aren’t aggressive, but rather a hyper-analytical discussion that can be equally as irritating. Cleaning each other after sex. Being attracted to the other person abdominal area. When you guys start taking action towards advancing your connection, you stop eating out of nervousness. Maybe your fights stem from making one another nervous rather than a real issue itself. Bickering when you’re not with one another more so than when you’re in person. Having high expectations of one another once you become intimate partners. Wanting to come off as perfect for the other. Being extremely attentive with one another and immediately responding to any shift in energy because it can make you nervous. Really wanting to know what the other person is thinking and feeling in times of silence or during sex. Different sources have made this placement out to seem “sexually repressed,” but that is not always the case. Maybe circumstances can suppress the frequency they get to go at it, but if time permitted it could be on sight all the time. Not wanting to do anything that upsets the other or makes them uncomfortable, so lots of checking in on each other during the act to see if it’s mutually enjoyable and adapt accordingly. After sex with this person you might get extremely productive in your own personal life! Their presence in your life encourages you to get your life together and not be “messy.”
The placement of Venus in the composite chart can reveal much about how the partners met/will meet and how they connect romantically and socially.
• Composite Venus in the Houses
1st House:
Meeting Context: The relationship likely began with a strong immediate attraction. You may have met in a setting where appearances and first impressions were important, such as a social event, a public place, or through activities involving beauty or aesthetics.
2nd House:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a setting related to finances, possessions, or personal values. This could include a workplace, a financial institution, or even while shopping. The relationship likely has a strong foundation in shared values and a desire for security.
3rd House:
Meeting Context: The connection likely began through communication. You might have met in an educational setting, through writing, social media, or mutual acquaintances. Intellectual compatibility and shared ideas are significant in your relationship.
4th House:
Meeting Context: The relationship may have started in a homey, familial, or private setting. You could have met through family, at a family gathering, or within a close-knit community. The relationship has a strong emphasis on emotional security and home life.
5th House:
Meeting Context: You likely met in a fun, playful, or creative environment. This could include parties, creative workshops, or recreational activities. The relationship is characterized by romance, creativity, and joy.
6th House:
Meeting Context: The connection may have started in a practical or work-related setting. You could have met at work, through a health-related activity, or while performing daily routines. The relationship emphasizes service, health, and mutual support.
7th House:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a setting focused on relationships and partnerships. This could include a social gathering, a matchmaking event, or through a mutual desire for partnership. The relationship has a strong focus on balance, harmony, and cooperation.
8th House:
Meeting Context: The relationship may have started in an intense, transformative setting. You might have met through shared experiences of change, at a place dealing with joint finances, or through a significant life event. The relationship is deep, transformative, and possibly mysterious.
9th House:
Meeting Context: You likely met in a setting related to travel, education, or philosophy. This could include a university, during travel, or at a cultural event. The relationship is characterized by a shared love for adventure, learning, and exploration.
10th House:
Meeting Context: The connection may have started in a professional or public setting. You might have met at work, through a career event, or in a place where status and reputation are important. The relationship has a strong focus on ambition, goals, and public image.
11th House:
Meeting Context: You likely met through social networks, groups, or community activities. This could include clubs, organizations, or through friends. The relationship emphasizes friendship, shared ideals, and social connections.
12th House:
Meeting Context: The relationship may have started in a secluded, spiritual, or hidden setting. You might have met through a spiritual retreat, a place of solitude, or while dealing with hidden aspects of your lives. The relationship is characterized by a deep, spiritual connection and possibly hidden or secretive elements.
•Composite Venus in the Signs
Aries:
Meeting Context: The relationship likely began with a bold and energetic encounter. You may have met in a dynamic, action-oriented environment, such as a sports event, an adventure, or during an assertive pursuit of interests.
Taurus:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a setting related to nature, beauty, or comfort. This could include a garden, a restaurant, or a place where you could enjoy sensual pleasures. The relationship is grounded, stable, and sensuous.
Gemini:
Meeting Context: The connection likely started through conversation and intellectual exchange. You may have met at an event focused on communication, such as a seminar, a party, or through mutual friends. The relationship is lively, curious, and mentally stimulating.
Cancer:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a nurturing, home-like environment. This could include a family gathering, a cozy café, or a community event. The relationship is emotionally sensitive, nurturing, and home-focused.
Leo:
Meeting Context: The relationship likely began in a vibrant, creative, or dramatic setting. You may have met at a party, a theater, or a place where you could express yourselves freely. The relationship is passionate, expressive, and filled with joy.
Virgo:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a practical, service-oriented environment. This could include work, a health-related event, or a situation where you were helping others. The relationship is detail-oriented, supportive, and focused on improvement.
Libra:
Meeting Context: The connection likely started in a social, harmonious setting. You may have met at a social event, through mutual friends, or in a setting focused on beauty and balance. The relationship is balanced, harmonious, and partnership-focused.
Scorpio:
Meeting Context: You might have met in an intense, transformative environment. This could include a place dealing with change, deep emotions, or shared resources. The relationship is deep, passionate, and transformative.
Sagittarius:
Meeting Context: The relationship likely began in an adventurous, expansive setting. You may have met during travel, at a cultural event, or in an educational environment. The relationship is adventurous, optimistic, and filled with exploration.
Capricorn:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a professional or goal-oriented setting. This could include work, a career event, or a place where ambition is key. The relationship is structured, ambitious, and focused on long-term goals.
Aquarius:
Meeting Context: The connection likely started in a unique, unconventional setting. You may have met through a social group, an online platform, or a community event. The relationship is innovative, free-spirited, and based on shared ideals.
Pisces:
Meeting Context: You might have met in a spiritual, artistic, or dreamy environment. This could include a place focused on creativity, spirituality, or healing. The relationship is compassionate, dreamy, and deeply emotional.
Did you know that your Mars sign can tell you how you respond to someone you’re attracted to? It can essentially build a picture of how you interact with people you’re drawn to. Let’s dive into it.
Fire Mars
When Fire Mars is attracted to you, they have to tell you. They cannot hold back; they need to either give you a compliment or ask you out directly. These people need to know what you’re doing and whether you’re single. They come on strong. When they find you attractive, they want to seize the moment. They do not like waiting and are incredibly impatient, so they’re quick to dive in, ask you questions, ask you out on a date, and even take things to the bedroom quickly. These people don’t play. They can’t hold back once they feel attraction. Fire Mars is definitely not the type to follow the “60-day rule”—they need it now. When they find you attractive, they are touchy-feely, often without even realizing it. This comes naturally to them. Because of this, Fire Mars is often ready to jump into the bedroom quickly, even without a strong emotional connection. They might even ask you to be in a relationship with them very fast, as they don’t understand how to slow things down. Fire Mars is hot and ready, and you can’t turn them down easily. Even if you reject them, their persistence is strong, and they know how to charm you into saying yes. They might even play a role just to get you to agree. This is Fire Mars.
Earth Mars
When Earth Mars is attracted to you, they are slow and methodical. They spend a lot of time in their head, constantly thinking about what they want to do and how they want to approach you. They need to know exactly what they like about you before they even feel attracted. Earth Mars can’t simply like you; they need to identify the specific traits they like, whether it’s your hands, your height, or your muscles. They take a long time to make a move, being very slow, steady, and careful. They will vet you out, observing and evaluating you, sometimes making a mental list of pros and cons. They might even decide that you don’t fit into their life, which is why some Earth Mars individuals may only pursue a physical connection without a deeper commitment. They are notorious for acting like they’re courting you when, in reality, they’re just interested in a hookup. Once they get what they want, they retreat back into their heads, often not making any further moves. Earth Mars can take a long time to make the first move, and if they do act quickly, it may be due to influences from other fiery placements in their chart.
Air Mars
When Air Mars likes you, they often don’t know where things are going. They like to live in the moment, pacing things out and seeing where it leads. A simple conversation can be enough to spark attraction. Mental connection is everything to them, and if you can intrigue them mentally, they’re hooked. They are picky about who they talk to, as they need mental stimulation to feel attracted. Air Mars is interested in people who can keep up with their conversations, but they can also be unsure about commitment. They get intrigued and curious about you, and that’s what draws them in. When Air Mars comes up to talk to you, it doesn’t always mean they’re in love with you—they’re often just being charming or flirtatious. However, if they really like you, they’ll likely try to connect with you more intimately, and they’re very persuasive in this area. They don’t care much for rules and will often throw them aside to get what they want. Air Mars is good at charming people into the bedroom and will happily explore new and exciting things there. Their ability to mentally stimulate you and push boundaries can make them very captivating in intimate settings.
Water Mars
Water Mars can be a bit mysterious. When they’re attracted to you, they tend to act in subtle and sometimes contradictory ways. They can be bold one moment, then retreat into subtlety the next. You might not know where you stand with them because they’re often hard to read. Water Mars likes to be in your orbit—they enjoy being around you, observing you, and interacting with you at random times. They may not always openly express their feelings but will drop hints and wait for you to pick up on them. They prefer to be chased, and although they’re attracted to you, they often want you to make the first move. Their boldness only comes out when they’ve had enough of the games or when they really want to move things to the bedroom. Water Mars is often shy or timid when it comes to showing their attraction in person, but online or over text, they might be more open. They are receptive in nature and prefer others to pursue them. Water Mars enjoys being pursued and doesn’t always take the initiative, even when they’re interested. They like to feel comfortable around you before expressing their feelings, and they often want others to take the lead in the relationship.
☆ scorpio in the 7th house- usually get cheated on by their partners. Go through Toxic/ narcissistic partners at some point in their lives. 3rd party situations. Partners lying and deceiving you.
☆ scorpio mars- usually center of attention (attention grabber not seeker). Females with this placement tend to attract jealously from their so called friends or just other people in general. Men tends to sexualize them alot, May have spread rumors about them at some point.
Men with this placement, if underdeveloped, tends to be toxic af. The need to control everyone and everything around them is just awful. Fuck around a lot. Sleeping with different different people.
If developed, good achievers. Very strategic mindset. Usually get what they want in life. Bulletproof mindset. Very good at talking to people but still maintaining boundaries. Loyal.
☆scorpio suns- idk why and how, but when people get to know that someone is a scorpio, they get weirdly attracted to them??? Like staring at them, wanting to know them. Intimidated by them.
☆scorpio sun/moons- have a good sense of humour. They can make anyone laugh. And with this, they tend to attract alot of people who wants to be in a relationship with them.
☆scorpio venus- won't say a loyal lover HOWEVER when they love love, they are loyal 100%. Underdeveloped can lie about being in love.
☆retrograde scorpio venus- feels unlovable. Extreme trust issues. Highly sensitive. Very very very high on trust. You know how they say scorpios take tests? With this placement? Tests x 100. Don't give 2nd chances. It's very very difficult for them to be vulnerable. People have rejected them alot. May have been body shamed or criticised for looks. They feel like they don't deserve to be loved.
☆scorpio stellium in the natal chart- highly intuitive. Usually sees things beforehand. POWER. THE DARKNESS. THE EYES!!! Very beautiful people inside out. However they don't trust easily but if they do, for the love of lord, don't break it cuz you'll be coming back again and again to win them over.
☆scorpio moon- been through some serious shit. Been through hell and back with themselves. They understand people very well. However, they don't get the same understanding in return. They can see right through you so don't f with them. Hate mind games.
☆scorpio rising- very very intimidating. Females with this placement tends to attract jealousy in any form. People want to dominate you so bad. People telling them to tone it down. Basically people don't like your mindset, it triggers them cuz they can't have power over you. Hates 2 faced people. And the irony is, they usually deal with 2 faced people.
☆scorpio lilith- highly seductive. Very attractive. Sex appeal. Feelings run deep for them. Had people who wanted them only for sexual pleasures, wanted to touch them in any way. High vibration scorpio lilith is THE HEALER. also I've seen yall had some near death experiences?? Or witnessed someone dying in front of you.
☆ scorpio mercury- moves in silence. Very strategic and careful. Committed to anything they put their mind into. Always ready to be one on one while fighting. Their way of talking is very intense and mysterious which makes people wanna know how do you think like that. When they say something they really mean it. They take their time. Expects the worst. They figure things out so fast so don't even think of gaslighting them.
☆Scorpio in the 10th house- achievers. From a young age they had an insight of what they will become. Hold power in their work environment. If your a student, your classmates want to steal your notes, they feel envious that you make pretty good notes of whatever you're studying cuz yall go in depth and make pretty good observations of the topics. Authority figures.
☆scorpio in the 5th- gets extreme reactions from people. Ofcourse with any other placements, attracts jealousy. (Bruh I don't get it, what's with the scorpios dealing with alot of jealousy???? Like that's tiring) Grabs attention in parties, get togethers or any form of social gatherings. May have dealt with people wanting to take your partners. May have overly strict parents or very fucked up family issues.
