do not harass anyone.

CW for discussions of emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, z00philia, & transphobia

[flagellant-receipts]

note: the user in question is now flagellant

Threatening legal action is a common tactic abusers use, especially when the person they abused comes forward about the abuse. This is a silencing tactic. I'm not surprised, I guess, but it is disappointing, and frankly fucked up;

I don't have a cent to my name at the moment, and rely on social services to stay alive because I am disabled and can't hold a job because of my disabilities. Fighting with bureaucracy in order to get disability payments and the other accommodations I need is currently my full-time job. Innes is aware of this, because not much has changed since we were together in terms of my finances and overall situation. He would be suing a disabled & impoverished queer trans man.

I am trying to be real about my experiences and what happened to me-- that's a major reason that I've been posting screenshots. They remind me that what happened to me was real, even if it was just online. It's grounding, not to "air dirty laundry", but to have backing proof for what I have been saying. I am not lying.

I was gaslit for so long into believing that it was mutually toxic, no good guys or bad guys but when I looked back at what had been said, there's just... No way that is the case. I literally don't have anything to gain from this except seeing someone be held accountable & experiencing some sense of closure! I am not the one posting my fundraiser link every time I am confronted.

I thought for a long, long time before posting the screenshots regarding Innes' own trauma. I did not want to initially, but I also do not feel it is my responsibility to protect him anymore, and it gives further context and evidence of the zoophilia. I agree, what he went through is fucked up and traumatizing. There's really no other way to put it. But that isn't an excuse to engage in zoophilia, to make zoophilic comments about real life animals, and to talk about committing zoophilia in real life.

The context in which he brought it up was because he had sent me a Gore Magala monsterfucking fic. The discussion was pretty unprompted to be honest, and I was uncomfortable at the time he sent those messages but didn't really know what to say, except that I wanted to be a supporting partner. Again, this was the first time zoophilia was brought up. Not about my own paraphilias or kinks, but about Innes'.

I have not been bringing up the zoophilia in order to hide my necrophilia. I'm not ashamed about having necrophilic fantasies, because I know that they will remain only fantasies-- particularly because the brunt of my fantasies involve me being the corpse.

Despite being kinky and weird, I don't want to hurt anyone in real life just to get off! I think mentioned prior, but there are different classes of necrophilia, some of which are solely fantasies. I'd like to be the more... passionate cathy to someone's heathcliff, you know? & If something does not cause you to harm yourself or others, or does not cause you distress to experience, it's not a disorder or a problem. If it does cause you harm, or cause you to harm other things, then something is wrong and you need to get help.

To reiterate: I don't care what fiction or fantasies someone has. That's not real. I don't care about words on a screen or lines on a page. I care about real harm done.

I do not trust Innes enough to speak with them privately. When I initially came out about the abuse, I told my therapist about the situation, and how Innes had said things would be better "if I had just spoken with him privately". My therapist disagreed: The only thing that would happen if I spoke to Innes privately is that I would be gaslit and yelled at for having the guts to talk about this publicly at all.

Their initial response to this was for them to DARVO me (shoutout to the random person who messaged me about that, I hadn't heard of the term before) and then at every turn they've tried to bring up things about me in order to hide their own flaws and misdeeds.

Our relationship was not mutually toxic. I will admit I probably was not prepared to be in a relationship again; We had started dating when I was still living in a house with my abuser who terrified me so badly I would barricade my door when I slept, and then had few chances to recover from this as I moved back across the country to escape, and immediately began the battle with bureaucracy to secure public housing for both of us. I was constantly trying to find ways to hustle and save money to move him out, while he spent his money on fibercrafts and video games.

He would do things that I found off, but when I'd bring them up, there was always some sort of excuse. The longer we were together the more I felt like I had to form myself into a mold to be what he wanted me to be. I'd be the cat, the bottom, the submissive, as long as it pleased him. The abuse and manipulation was very, very quiet, very subtle. I didn't notice it until years after the fact. There are things he said about or to me that still haunt me, years after. "I would have to be bisexual in order to be with you (intimately)" being one of them.

Also as an aside, just because abuse happened some years ago doesn't mean that the person who was abused should "just get over it" like him, his friends, & his audience seem to want me to do. I do not think for a second that Innes has actually grown or changed as a person but even if they had, that does not negate the harm done to me in the past, nor does it mean I shouldn't talk about it to avoid hurting someone's reputation. How someone responds matters, too.

As I have said many times, I do not think that Innes is an irreparable monster. I think that Innes terminally lacks the ability to take criticism, the ability to introspect, the ability to tell the goddamn truth, and the ability to acknowledge that the people around him are real living human beings and not building blocks for them to get what they want out of them.

These are all things that can be worked on! They're not permanent, unchangeable character flaws! But if Innes continues to have a platform that supports and endorses them being their worst, I don't think that any of that's going to change, and they're still going to be the toxic person I met 4 years ago, but older.

I have found it concerning enough to talk about publicly, because in those years and through my doubts his audience has grown, and though I've had him blocked and his username blacklisted, somehow I would still see posts by him. I saw the entirety of the train derailment saga go down. I saw how he responded, and it was much, much too like what I'd go through whenever I would catch him in a lie.

He positions himself in a seat of authority on here over a variety of subjects that I do not think he has much of a real claim in whatsoever. It is all too convenient, and knowing the details that I do about their personal life I can't help but call all of these alleged credentials into doubt.

Their ego is fed by engagement. I've known this since the start, but in the beginning I really did want to believe that maybe they were a better person and would just be honest. Even bad engagement is still engagement, like how they always respond to hate. They genuinely crave the attention. They were like this when we were together, too.

Their relationship to their online notoriety is inherently an unhealthy one, and I realize now that I've been feeding into it. I have been feeding into my own continued gaslighting. Whenever I struggle, or say what happened to me, there is always a convenient, twisted excuse as to why it was okay to do to me, or how it didn't really happen "like that", or something.

I have realized that there is no "winning" against someone like this, there is no way for me to convince anyone to believe me. I can give all the evidence in the world for what happened to me, but at the end of the day some people will remain unconvinced, even with the most damning screenshots. I have said my piece, I have spoken extensively about my side of things, and I know what is true. The best thing anyone who reads this and believes me can do is report inneskeeper, report their fundraiser, & then block them without engaging. Any engagement towards him is exactly what he wants. I refuse to feed further into Innes' ego.

prev. pin about the author & situation here

list:

zoophilia & linking a 17-year-old his nudes

abuse

manipulation

misappropriation of donated money

transphobia

blaming mental health for poor behavior to avoid accountability

lies

how innes affected my own housing stability

archive of this blog (inneskeeper-receipts)

coercive suicide/ideation

[flagellant-receipts]

note: the user in question is now flagellant

Threatening legal action is a common tactic abusers use, especially when the person they abused comes forward about the abuse. This is a silencing tactic. I'm not surprised, I guess, but it is disappointing, and frankly fucked up;

I don't have a cent to my name at the moment, and rely on social services to stay alive because I am disabled and can't hold a job because of my disabilities. Fighting with bureaucracy in order to get disability payments and the other accommodations I need is currently my full-time job. Innes is aware of this, because not much has changed since we were together in terms of my finances and overall situation. He would be suing a disabled & impoverished queer trans man.

I am trying to be real about my experiences and what happened to me-- that's a major reason that I've been posting screenshots. They remind me that what happened to me was real, even if it was just online. It's grounding, not to "air dirty laundry", but to have backing proof for what I have been saying. I am not lying.

I was gaslit for so long into believing that it was mutually toxic, no good guys or bad guys but when I looked back at what had been said, there's just... No way that is the case. I literally don't have anything to gain from this except seeing someone be held accountable & experiencing some sense of closure! I am not the one posting my fundraiser link every time I am confronted.

I thought for a long, long time before posting the screenshots regarding Innes' own trauma. I did not want to initially, but I also do not feel it is my responsibility to protect him anymore, and it gives further context and evidence of the zoophilia. I agree, what he went through is fucked up and traumatizing. There's really no other way to put it. But that isn't an excuse to engage in zoophilia, to make zoophilic comments about real life animals, and to talk about committing zoophilia in real life.

The context in which he brought it up was because he had sent me a Gore Magala monsterfucking fic. The discussion was pretty unprompted to be honest, and I was uncomfortable at the time he sent those messages but didn't really know what to say, except that I wanted to be a supporting partner. Again, this was the first time zoophilia was brought up. Not about my own paraphilias or kinks, but about Innes'.

I have not been bringing up the zoophilia in order to hide my necrophilia. I'm not ashamed about having necrophilic fantasies, because I know that they will remain only fantasies-- particularly because the brunt of my fantasies involve me being the corpse.

Despite being kinky and weird, I don't want to hurt anyone in real life just to get off! I think mentioned prior, but there are different classes of necrophilia, some of which are solely fantasies. I'd like to be the more... passionate cathy to someone's heathcliff, you know? & If something does not cause you to harm yourself or others, or does not cause you distress to experience, it's not a disorder or a problem. If it does cause you harm, or cause you to harm other things, then something is wrong and you need to get help.

To reiterate: I don't care what fiction or fantasies someone has. That's not real. I don't care about words on a screen or lines on a page. I care about real harm done.

I do not trust Innes enough to speak with them privately. When I initially came out about the abuse, I told my therapist about the situation, and how Innes had said things would be better "if I had just spoken with him privately". My therapist disagreed: The only thing that would happen if I spoke to Innes privately is that I would be gaslit and yelled at for having the guts to talk about this publicly at all.

Their initial response to this was for them to DARVO me (shoutout to the random person who messaged me about that, I hadn't heard of the term before) and then at every turn they've tried to bring up things about me in order to hide their own flaws and misdeeds.

Our relationship was not mutually toxic. I will admit I probably was not prepared to be in a relationship again; We had started dating when I was still living in a house with my abuser who terrified me so badly I would barricade my door when I slept, and then had few chances to recover from this as I moved back across the country to escape, and immediately began the battle with bureaucracy to secure public housing for both of us. I was constantly trying to find ways to hustle and save money to move him out, while he spent his money on fibercrafts and video games.

He would do things that I found off, but when I'd bring them up, there was always some sort of excuse. The longer we were together the more I felt like I had to form myself into a mold to be what he wanted me to be. I'd be the cat, the bottom, the submissive, as long as it pleased him. The abuse and manipulation was very, very quiet, very subtle. I didn't notice it until years after the fact. There are things he said about or to me that still haunt me, years after. "I would have to be bisexual in order to be with you (intimately)" being one of them.

Also as an aside, just because abuse happened some years ago doesn't mean that the person who was abused should "just get over it" like him, his friends, & his audience seem to want me to do. I do not think for a second that Innes has actually grown or changed as a person but even if they had, that does not negate the harm done to me in the past, nor does it mean I shouldn't talk about it to avoid hurting someone's reputation. How someone responds matters, too.

As I have said many times, I do not think that Innes is an irreparable monster. I think that Innes terminally lacks the ability to take criticism, the ability to introspect, the ability to tell the goddamn truth, and the ability to acknowledge that the people around him are real living human beings and not building blocks for them to get what they want out of them.

These are all things that can be worked on! They're not permanent, unchangeable character flaws! But if Innes continues to have a platform that supports and endorses them being their worst, I don't think that any of that's going to change, and they're still going to be the toxic person I met 4 years ago, but older.

I have found it concerning enough to talk about publicly, because in those years and through my doubts his audience has grown, and though I've had him blocked and his username blacklisted, somehow I would still see posts by him. I saw the entirety of the train derailment saga go down. I saw how he responded, and it was much, much too like what I'd go through whenever I would catch him in a lie.

He positions himself in a seat of authority on here over a variety of subjects that I do not think he has much of a real claim in whatsoever. It is all too convenient, and knowing the details that I do about their personal life I can't help but call all of these alleged credentials into doubt.

Their ego is fed by engagement. I've known this since the start, but in the beginning I really did want to believe that maybe they were a better person and would just be honest. Even bad engagement is still engagement, like how they always respond to hate. They genuinely crave the attention. They were like this when we were together, too.

Their relationship to their online notoriety is inherently an unhealthy one, and I realize now that I've been feeding into it. I have been feeding into my own continued gaslighting. Whenever I struggle, or say what happened to me, there is always a convenient, twisted excuse as to why it was okay to do to me, or how it didn't really happen "like that", or something.

I have realized that there is no "winning" against someone like this, there is no way for me to convince anyone to believe me. I can give all the evidence in the world for what happened to me, but at the end of the day some people will remain unconvinced, even with the most damning screenshots. I have said my piece, I have spoken extensively about my side of things, and I know what is true. The best thing anyone who reads this and believes me can do is report inneskeeper, report their fundraiser, & then block them without engaging. Any engagement towards him is exactly what he wants. I refuse to feed further into Innes' ego.

prev. pin about the author & situation here

list:

zoophilia & linking a 17-year-old his nudes

abuse

manipulation

misappropriation of donated money

transphobia

blaming mental health for poor behavior to avoid accountability

lies

how innes affected my own housing stability

archive of this blog (inneskeeper-receipts)

coercive suicide/ideation

[tlirsgender]

One of my controversial takes is that I kind of hate the term "rejection sensitive dysphoria" wrt adhd because it's so clearly the same thing as being anxious and insecure in relationships w trauma based disorders but people talk about it like it's just an intrinsic part of your brain that you're simply Too Sensitive & not, like, a consequence of every neurodivergent person alive being bullied as a child. Like that thing of how there aren't any non-traumatized autistic people to study

[tlirsgender]

Like if you have Struggles Socially Disorder you're going to be disliked by most of your peers growing up & you'll be affected by this. Maybe you'll get nervous about people not liking you. & then people will try and tell you your problem is that you have Sensitive Bitch Disorder because you're paranoid

[xnackery027]

I call it “my fyp when a popular transfem blogger turns out to be a bigot”. Impressionistic.

[learn-how-to-love]

Prefacing this with the fact that I believe victims, I 100% believe she is being genuine about her abuse, and that if you screenshot this post to dunk on it without including this section it’s extremely obvious what you’re doing.

Something I’ve noticed about the whole twitter blue lady fiasco is that everyone has been (rightfully!) completely willing to believe she was abused by her ex, and then go on to use this as a cudgel against people hurt by her words. Meanwhile, when the reverse happens- when transmascs are abused by transfems, I often see people completely unwilling to even entertain the thought that it might be true, or that even if it is, it doesn’t matter (???) and they should just be quiet about that. And that double standard is just so horrifically damaging and yet so incredibly clear that it exists in this situation. That people, especially TRFs, are willing to believe victims when the perpetrator is transmasc and the victim is transfem and go so far as to defend bigoted statements on the latter’s behalf because of it, yet fling vile abuse at transmascs who experience the reverse and speak up about it despite making it clear they hold no ill will towards transfems, is just disturbing. If you only believe victims when they belong to a specific demographic, you don’t believe victims, you’re an abuse apologist. We shouldn’t tolerate this for a single moment.

[flagellant-receipts]

A small post-mortem:

The part where he swore up and down he was terrified of me for being an evil evil necrophile is the funniest part of this entire thing btw. buddy, I only mentioned that AFTER you started talking about how much you wanted to fuck dogs and how you check to see if male dogs have been fixed or not and how bad you want to be knotted.

I am a freak, I do not give a flying fuck to shame you for your kinks fetishes or paraphilias, but you repeatedly admitted to engaging in bestiality with real-life dogs. Contact is where I fully draw the line.

I have never touched a corpse sexually, or even thought about how I'd go about getting into that situation, because I understand the consequences of my actions. And I mean fuck dude, at least a corpse is dead, you know? At least even if I had acted on my thoughts and feelings I wouldn't be causing direct harm by raping another living, breathing creature and then arguing it can consent. Innes did that.

Ah, also, a solid year after no-contact I woke up to this:

in my ko-fi along with $100. So that was really something.

[that-grassbro]

Not to re-ignite some pretty shitty discourse on here but it was really weird when a couple of transmascs from south + central asia and the middle east banded together to talk very vaguely about our experiences with trafficking and/or exploitation within the trans community and ask for it to be spread to OTHER POTENTIAL VICTIMS, because we were creating a support group and the reaction was an extreme amount of harassment and misrepresentation of the situation.

Like two of the things that struck me as extemely odd was

a) the immediate pivot to saying we were 'accusing transfems of sex trafficking/being sexual predators'.

None of the victims who made posts had sexual abuse be the primary part of their trauma, and the main post by @happy-ajris, only mentioned it in passing. In fact the main thing listed was domestic work.

But there was this sudden and immense shift to saying this was about sex trafficking and sex slaves and sexsexsex. I think this was to aid in the way they were trying to portray us as terfs just trying to stereotype trans women, when that was never the damn conversation.

b) People completely (and I believe deliberately) misrepresented what we were getting upset about. Neither I, Iris, Rahman, Hamza or the two others who will remain unnamed, said people should just believe this unconditionally? We, and particularly I, because im the most online+largest following (low bar, i am a very small blogger), got painted as these crazy rumor-spreading terfs who wanted unconditional belief and just wanted to ruin the lives of people we were claiming were hurting us. Dare I say, painted as hysterical. All we, and I, asked for was to

Not make posts mocking the (potential) victims

don't spread lies about it being a terf rumor mill

don't call the (potential) victims sex-slaves

don't harass the people talking about this

don't laugh at the idea of this shit (potentially) happening

and don't frame the concept of speaking up about it as inherently terfy.

And yet every time I hear it get brought up its this mythical hysterical terf sock-puppets demanding everyone believe in a conspiracy theory of transfem sex-predators.

THATS NOT WHAT FUCKING HAPPENED.

[razortouched]

Its deeply apparent that the people accusing you of creating conspiracy theories about transfem sex predators are wholly unaware of how trafficking functions.

People's entire concept of trafficking are influenced by movies with pimps wearing colorful, audacious clothes and forcing poor, helpless girls into ritzy brothels.

The reality of it is much less glamorous, and far messier. The truth is that its not always evil rich white men trafficking people for nefarious perverse sex crimes. In reality, it is often marginalized people partaking in the trafficking of other marginalized people, for the survival of both parties.

Statistically, most people are trafficked by their own family members. Often, the parents who allow their children to be trafficked are themselves victims of trafficking, and see no other option to ensure their children's survival.

Often, the people involved are doing so because in their own perspective, being forced into domestic labor is better than being homeless. People are often given the choice between trafficking people in their own community, or simply being killed.

I'm obviously not justifying any form of trafficking here. What I'm saying is that the circumstances that create these sort of trafficking circles are far more nuanced than "evil sex pests want to keep people enslaved for nefarious perverse reasons".

But people want their black and white world view, where there are evil people and victims, and nothing in between.

[razortouched]

Accountability in the Trans Community

There is a very apparent problem in the trans community with accountability. Specifically, there is a heavy bias towards protecting some individuals at all costs, while others can be attacked and harassed with no evidence.

Its very clear which demographic is being protected. Notice the escalation here.

First, its the claim that one should never believe accusations against transfems, period.

Then its the claim that even if there's a victim (notice how victim is in quotation marks), and even if there's evidence, you should always default to believing that the accuser is lying, for the specific purpose of harassment.

Then, it comes to - even if the accusations are true, its more harmful to hold someone publicly accountable than it is to take action to protect a victim.

Even if you're not holding someone publicly accountable, even if its only a private discord call, that's still a form of social violence that's unacceptable to commit against transfems.

However, the same standard is absolutely not held for other trans people, or for cis women.

For example, claiming that transmascs have a tendency to rape transfems, without any evidence, should be believed at face value.

Claiming that transmascs use threats to rape transfems

Publicly naming people to accuse them of transmisogyny is perfectly fine too

Calling people transphobes for blocking them on social media, and saying that if you refuse to acknowledge them as transphobes, you are too!

And wait, let's not forget that transfems who step out of line aren't safe either.

Publicly naming and accusing transfems is ok, if they dare to support transmascs!

There is a strong double standard present here, that is a growing concern. People advocating for one group to be protected at all costs - even if there's victims, even if there's evidence. But other groups can be thrown under the bus with little to no evidence.

This follows along a similar trend, where someone trans people are allowed to name and discuss their oppression, but others are not. There will be further posts on this account to expand upon this.

[starrysky1537-deactivated202510]

I don't understand why literally anyone would believe that transfems and trans women are incapable of doing harm. Every human has the capacity to do harm. People have different experiences with other people. Personally, I have never even once been remotely sexually harassed by a transmasculine person or trans men, but I know a cis woman who was preyed upon by a trans man who was a pedophile. I also know of two pedophile trans women who preyed upon two people I care about deeply, a transfem enby who raped a friend of mine, and I was abused and sexually harassed by a trans woman for around a year and only finally got away recently (and ironically enough, she broke up with me and told a bunch people that supposedly I am transphobic. Smear campaigns, huh?)

The moment I came out as transmasc she admitted to liking me less and gave me a whole "Well make sure you don't become transphobic" spiel, which I didn't. She was transphobic though is the even funnier part. Treated trans men and mascs pretty shit, and I should know, cause I was one of them. In no way are trans women or transfems any more exempt from causing harm than any other group of people, and if they do something fucked up, they should be called out just like anyone else. As soon as my trans woman ex banned me from her discord server over "transphobia", a bunch of my friends in that server left too in support of me and we made our own server, which is still healthy and active. And like a week later, her intersexist and highly cringe girlfriend who was an asshole to me (and also a trans woman, because again, no group of people is exempt from doing wrong) broke up with her.

Trans men and transmascs are, of course, also capable of doing similarly bad harm. Nobody is incapable of being a bad person or doing bad things. I just have personally not experienced any harassment or sexual harassment by them in my life, and I only know one person who had (as I mentioned earlier), and she is transphobic and misgender and deadnames him just because he abused her. You should never do that to any trans person for any reason.

Believe the victim. You don't need to harass and berate the perpetrator in all circumstances. In fact, I would encourage you not to make the lives of trans women and transfems any harder than they need to be. But by all means, you are allowed to teach them a lesson by cutting them out of a community if they do something really fucked up, the same as you would with any other person. Don't pursue them after that only to make their lives hell, but you can and should make yourself safe by removing them from your life and your friends' lives. Protect your friends by letting them know who is and isn't a predator.

[flagellant-receipts]

his new url is @/flagellant

[flagellant-receipts]

[heterorealism]

Truck comes first and if there is any money left over the kids may eat. - Modern Consumer Patriarchy

[varginhamonologues]

she got her degree and started removing the parasite 🙏

[earths-roots-grow-up]

Tinfoil hat moment but I don't think he was dumb, I think he was strategic. He put her in a situation in which she had to either: sell her car (so the only means of transportation is now in his name), or maybe even to drop out (to have time for the second job) if she wants to feed the kids. He did it right when she was aaaaaalmost done with her degree. Either way, it's sabotage.

Sometimes when an action makes NO sense to us ("he's like a stupid alien"), it's bc we are not understanding its true motivation/purpouse. If his goal was control, financial pressure and limiting her options due to lack of funds, it makes perfect sensie to buy the truck.

Tinfoil hat moment over!

[blue-happy-octopus]

I wanna add that a lot of times people look at abusers like they are Moriarty, and assume that their actions are planned ahead of time. But I think most abusers are actually really impulsive and really bad at planning more than a few moves ahead.

Therefore, here is an alternative explanation based entirely on his impulsive feelings:

She's getting near the end of her degree, she's going to be making a lot more than him when she finishes. This makes him angry and jealous. The closer she gets to finishing, the stronger his anger and jealousy gets.

Well, if she's gonna be making so much more than me, the least she can do is pay for my truck. And maybe if she had to pay for this truck she wouldn't even be able to finish school. Then I'd still be man of the house. That would really show her whose boss. Now I feel more in control and less jealous.

"Honey, I bought a truck."

I think we often talk about abusers like we talk about evolution. We say polar bears evolved to have white coats for camouflage. We talk about evolution like it has a plan and is doing things on purpose. But evolution doesn't care about camouflage. Birth rates are all that matter, but evolution doesn't even "care" about them.

I think the majority of abusers don't actually plan things out. They just act impulsively on malicious feelings. It makes them feel good to have lots of power, so they take whatever power they can find. It makes them feel good to make their victims uncomfortable so they do that.

Most abuse tactics can be explained (and should be defended against) as if they are strategic. Just like evolution, it's just easier to talk about that way. But I think most abuser tactics are really just the consequence of impulsively acting on malicious feelings.

Basically: I don't think you need a tinfoil hat. Abusers like gaining power. And they don't need conspiracy or long term planning to get that power.

[greelin]

people when trauma victims act traumatized especially in a way that is unpalatable to them because it involves lashing out and unpredictable moods and having boundary issues rather than just being demure, sad, and consumable

[flagellant-receipts]

I recently had some people message me letting me know that innes had changed their blog's title and bio to something concerning. I think this happened on the 12th of September? this is what it was changed to:

obviously, the intent was to imply that innes was suicidal & blame me for it, with an implication that they were going to actually do something to hurt themselves. this is an example of coercive suicide. innes has gone through multiple tactics trying to silence me, ranging from lies to legal threats, this is just the most extreme example. sorry for my flat tone but I'm frankly just disgusted, as when we were together they made a very big deal about how using threats of suicide to manipulate someone was a deal-breaker for them, which I remember because I really related to them saying that, since I've had past abusers threaten suicide when I tried to leave or hold them accountable. I guess we really weren't playing with the same deck of cards.

anyway, as of the 30th of september, innes is has changed their title, bio, and icon again:

some folks were concerned about their well-being but I had a sense from the phrasing of the first bio change that something was up. As it would turn out, Innes has been active in the Lake Mojave Historical Preservation Society discord server regularly throughout their absence on tumblr, is working on setting up their own server after the dissolution of their blogger/streamer collective, & has also apparently been streaming on twitch. in other words it's a manipulation tactic, always has been.

as well, they have deleted their original discord account & remade:

(trying to use messages I've screenshotted prior on here, just to show that it is a deleted account now)

& proof of the new account being their's.

report & block as usual

[hail-dondus]

Interesting that when it’s only one person who comes forwards with a rape or abuse allegation against a famous male celebrity, it’s “oh it’s only one person, if it were true there’d be a pattern!”, yet when MULTIPLE people come forward with these allegations it’s suddenly “a coordinated attack to silence someone speaking the truth/for money/for attention” - it’s almost as if people don’t give a fuck about victims and just want to defend their faves as well as excuse their own shitty behaviour.

[only-knives]

no but being told to use your communication coping skills when talking to abusive people is bullshit. abusers do not listen to their victims no matter how reasonable we are.

like. anything that shows we're an individual with thoughts and feelings is going to make an abuser double down. using "i feel" statements isn't going to help if your abuser lashes out at you for showing feelings. speaking calmly isn't going to help if your abuser is threatening you. gently stating what you need isn't going to help if your abuser neglects even your simplest needs.

also so many of us hide our anger and rage. we dont speak our mind, because it's dangerous. it's the most threatening thing to an abuser... but it's also the most empowering for us. anger is the feeling that tells us something is wrong, and we need to embrace it. because our anger is not the danger - our abuser's reaction to it is, and that reaction is not our fault.

[flagellant-receipts]

‘Do not harass anyone.’

Yeah how’d that work out

if innes is not responsible for the abuse he dealt to me, if innes is not responsible for the death threats I have received for talking about what they put me through, then I struggle to believe that this is my fault for talking about my experiences, frankly. why do you people only give a fuck about this when it's abuse survivors talking about their experiences? why do you always want us to shut up? why do you always want to protect the people that fucked us up? it is disgusting.

I have years of severe psychological damage from him I'm only just starting to unravel, have had to deal with the stress of trying to come forward about a largely popular blogger being an abusive and frankly dangerous person, on top of dealing with harassment from his fans.

Innes gets anon hate sometimes.

I think there is maybe an incongruence in the level of harm being done here?

+ innes could easily have stopped responding to any messages or comments about this, delete those comments, not link to this blog, ultimately could've just logged off. I can't log off from my PTSD. he didn't do those things because he feeds off of the attention.

[flagellant-receipts]

theyre now implying that you faked the screenshots but without actually saying you did.

Did you? The fact they were going to sue you and then changed their mind makes me think you didn't fake them, but it's dead easy to fake a discord screenshot so I don't know what to think.

No, these are all real. It would have taken a lot of time and creativity on my part to fake the sheer amount on here, and I really haven't had that sort of time to spare.