joy is not made to be a crumb

moss (they/them) | 30s | white | accessible multi fandom blog (spoilers are not tagged!). posts without ID are tagged as 'inaccessible'. [icon: art of a shark in trans pride colors on a trans prideflag by kakapoworkshop.] / header: jupiter in trans pride colors]

[longingforrotkehlchen]

The Owl of Athena. Giving me wisdom with that big frown.

Steinkauz (little owl) im Rosensteinpark, Bad Cannstatt.

[quietwingsinthesky]

“this character is too pure/kind/good to be a sadist” i think that guy jerks off to the thought of beating his partner’s ass purple 👍

[quietwingsinthesky]

i mean, if you’d like, he can get super flustered about it and try to pretend he doesn’t, or he can have a huge guilt complex about his desires seemingly being at odds with his own ideal version of himself and how much he loves his partner, but at the end of the day, he’s still got one hand over his mouth to muffle his own whining as he thinks about having them in tears and begging for him to stop. true about all characters who are pure of heart, they told me so themselves

[showings]

“You, God, who live next door— If at times, through the long night, I trouble you with my urgent knocking— this is why: I hear you breathe so seldom. I know you’re all alone in that room. If you should be thirsty, there’s no one to get you a glass of water. I wait listening, always. Just give me a sign! I’m right here. As it happens, the wall between us is very thin. Why couldn’t a cry from one of us break it down? It would crumble easily, it would barely make a sound.”

— Rainer Maria Rilke, tr. Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy, “Du, Nachbar Gott, wenn ich dich manchesmal” |  Rilke’s Book of Hours: Love Poems to God

[telumendils]

hello, average tumblr user. your challenge is to name a canonically lesbian female character in the tags of this post. if you name a male character for any reason, you will be shot in the head. good luck.

[onestellarghost]

revisiting my skyjacks roots, who up drinking their bogwine

[campaignskyjacks]

This is absolutely gorgeous!

[floralprintsharks]

[ID: a digital poster for the fictional festival of Boginalia from Skyjacks. The text in different kinds of handlettering on it reads: "Boginalia Nordia's first three days of Spring with the finest bogwine." At the bottom are vines and three red bottles, at the top is a blue flower, a nautical star and more vines. Symmetrical knots frame the slogan. At the left and right of the poster it reads "...Toast the Axel...". End ID]

[farmgf]

IT’S SPRINGTIME YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. PASS THE INSTRUCTIONS ON NOT GIVING UP BY ADA LIMÓN

[farmgf]

IT’S THE GREENING OF THE TREES THAT REALLY GETS TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!

[i-think-words-can-save-me]

[Image ID:

Instructions on Not Giving Up

Ada Limón, 1976

More than the fuchsia funnels breaking out of the crabapple tree, more than the neighbor's almost obscene display of cherry limbs shoving their cotton candy-colored blossoms to the slate sky of Spring rains, it's the greening of the trees that really gets to me. When all the shock of white and taffy, the world's baubles and trinkets, leave the pavement strewn with the confetti of aftermath, the leaves come. Patient, plodding, a green skin growing over whatever winter did to us, a return to the strange idea of continuous living despite the mess of us, the hurt, the empty. Fine then, I'll take it, the tree seems to say, a new slick leaf unfurling like a fist to an open palm, I'll take it all.

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[brienneferguson]

Kate Mulgrew as Janeway in Star Trek: Voyager (S4E09, 1997)

Janeway: Try it. And I'll shut down your program. Doctor: That threat in itself is evidence of your unstable condition. Janeway: I am sorry, doctor. I've been operating on instinct for so long I did not think before I spoke. I have no intention of deactivating you.

[floralprintsharks]

[ID: ten gifs showing Kathryn Janeway from Star Trek Voyager talking to the Doctor. She's in a tank top and is sweaty and dirty. End ID]

[something-existing-somewhere]

Sorry I Spent all mY spoons this week already and it's fucking Tuesday. We're heading to the knives

[demonprincex]

How Do I Become Less Obedient?

Autistic Advice#12: Noncompliance is a liberating social skill - but it must be developed.

If you’ve never been all that disobedient before, you can and should start really, really small. For example, you can wear the slightly revealing or gloriously trashy-looking garment that makes your mom roll her eyes and sigh despondently every time she sees you put it on. You will feel judged and disapproved of when you put it on, but that is fine. Your goal is to sit with the uncomfortable feelings and continue with your desired behavior anyway.  Saunter down the steps in that highlighter-yellow Garfield crop top with your chest hair flowing over the neckline, and harness as much courage as you can muster. It’s okay if you feel like a beacon of sin. Just keep it moving. Your emotions are not the target here. Your behavior is. You can feel however you are feeling in the moment so long as you keep acting like you’re free.  Do you have a favorite TV show that a partner or roommate vocally hates? Try watching that show around them without apologizing or defensively joining them in mocking the program. At first, you probably won’t be able to enjoy the show while in their presence. You’ll feel self-conscious about everything they find annoying or cringe-inducing about the show, and so focused on their reactions that you can’t relax. That’s okay. Allow those feelings of embarrassment and guilt to exist and pass through you without giving up. In time, you will be able to ignore these reactions more, and enjoy the activity.  You want to see the needle of discomfort moving down just a little, like Link’s body temperature meter in Tears of the Kingdom when he puts on a breathable outfit in a hot climate. You’re not gonna go from roiling hot to frosty cold in an instant. But after a certain point, you won’t be actively in pain anymore. Things are just gonna slowly suck less, bit by bit, until they are finally okay. That’s true of most major life adjustments, I find.  Probably the best way to develop self-advocacy skills while growing in your distress tolerance is simply by telling other people no. Do this without explanation or hedging. Nitpicky aunt wants to hear all about your dating life? “No, I don’t want to talk about that.” Unreliable ex-friend wants you to do them the tiny favor of moving their entire home gymnasium into a new third story walk-up? “No, I’m not available.” Manipulative shift supervisor wants to cajole you into sticking around for another three hours to close? “No.”  As many advice columnists smarter than me have already intoned, “no” is a complete sentence. “No” requires no explanation. “No” is not subject to debate. “No” can be repeated over and over like a broken record if a disrespectful person acts like they can’t hear it. And you can walk away at any time to make your “no” physical and impossible to argue with, when someone has proven they don’t respect your boundaries. 

you can read or listen to the full piece for free here

[demonprincex]

Feeling unsafe is not the same thing as actually being under threat — and if we mask and people-please reflexively, we are likely treating many completely harmless situations of disagreement as if they were mortal threats. It’s important to learn to distinguish between a situation where you have no freedom to speak up, and one where you can live authentically as yourself, and simply get more comfortable with not pleasing everyone. So in any situation where you are free to, try saying “no” and riding out how scary it might feel.  When you first say “no” without explanation or apology, you will feel anxiety. That’s okay. In fact, you should pat yourself on the back for reaching the borders of your comfort zone. It is in this area of unfamiliar, slightly scary, yet possible action that we are able to grow.  You might panic the first time you tell your spouse you’re not cooking dinner every night anymore, and he’ll have to figure out the meal planning himself, or the first time you let a call from a manager go unanswered while you’re off the clock. Great! You are training your body to recognize that nothing bad happens when somebody is a little peeved at you. You’re detaching your sense of safety from another person’s feelings, and tearing apart that enmeshment hurts the way ripping off a band-aid does. 

[demonprincex]

#this article made me finally understand what distress tolerance is and why it would make sense to train it#but i have absolutely no idea how to apply this to my own life#none of the examples would work for me#i don't even mask well anymore i just go on autopilot when asked questions like ''is an 8 am appointment ok'' and say yes 😭

My recommendation for you would be to slow down the process. If your instinct is to automatically say yes, just don't say anything for a second. It's okay if the moment feels awkward. It's not a weird thing to stop for a moment and think. You can even say "I need a moment to think about that." when someone throws you a question or recommends a course of action that you aren't sure how you feel about.

If those options fail, and you still reflexively say yes, you get to change your mind! You can call back and say "I need to change the time for an appointment." You can text your friend and say "Actually, I decided I don't want to see that slasher movie, sorry." You are allowed to speak up after the fact! That is just as legitimate! If you can't access your feelings in the heat of the moment, give yourself some time and space, and then do what you wanna do.

[kemendin]

[floralprintsharks]

[ID: a screenshot of Wyll from Baldur's Gate 3 in his devil form. He's shown from the back with his face turning right, his sword on his back, glowing red. Wyll is modded to have long locs tied into a bun. The background is black. End ID]

[thefaultinourchickennuggets]

the bad thing about having unhealthy habits due to mental illness, is when you DO do something healthy style you can't brag about about it because then people will then know you've been doing it yucky style all along. Like you can't brag you changed your sheets or brushed your teeth because then ppl will be like oh did you not brush your teeth regularly before? Thats yucky disgusting! So you just gotta keep it to yourself. And be proud alone, I suppose.

[mayaminamoto]

And that's why we have the hellsite (affectionate)

I am proud of you. Changing sheets is annoying and hard. I struggle with brushing. Showering requires SO MUCH ENERGY, my god. Bonus kudos if you ate a vegetable today, get those vitamines.

I may be just a random voice on the internet. But from the bottom of my heart, if you accomplished something today despite poor mental health, no matter how "small" - I am proud of you. You are allowed to brag in my inbox. Go you.

[thegreatyin]

big fan of when characters meet another version of themselves and their first instinct is to literally physically kill their doppelganger with their own two hands. which could mean absolutely nothing.

[lovelyscourge]

His pronouns are my/princess actually

[dimetrodone]

Lichen time

[floralprintsharks]

[ID: four photographs of bright orange lichen growing on rocks by the sea. End ID]

[stonesense]

mage warden romancing king alistair is actually such a funny worldstate especially if you asked for freedom for the circle

[stonesense]

“your majesty do you feel like maybe you’re this invested in the mage situation in kirkwall because—”

“no that seems unlikely”

“your majesty please”

“when the mages rebel we should give them a castle”

[strawbunnycakes]

chikorita napping happily in the forest's underbrush 🌲🌱☀️🌳 (comms open)

[spindalike]

[DUMPLINGS: STIMBOARD]

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[floralprintsharks]

[ID: thirty gifs showing different kinds of dumplings as they're held up by chopsticks, dipped into sauce or otherwise presented in an aesthetically pleasing way. End ID]