For a time, or ever

18+, m, cis (I think)

[thatonemouse]

I know why people like the aesthetics of being dumbed down, but it's never been for me. I do get it on some level. I have some speculations but I might be projecting.

What does get me though? The idea that for as smart as I can be, it did nothing to help me. I was clever enough to recognize that my mind was being messed with, but being clever didn't really help. That even though I was able to see and understand what was happening, I could do nothing to stop it from happening.

I'm aware enough to know that I've been brainwashed. That I'm still being brainwashed. I'm clever enough to see how you're doing it to me. And I can figure out how to escape. But my addled and manipulated mind won't let me do it. The key to the cell is within reach, but my mind won't let me reach outside the bars. Escape is possible, it's right there, but I can't do it.

[daughtxr-of-lilith]

Public free-use fantasy but make it femdom...

Imagine special districts where the rules are simple: ofc everything is pre-negotiated, fully consensual, and any woman can use any man whenever she wants. She can just snap her fingers and tell him to drop to his knees in the middle of the street and eat her pussy until she cums, or ride his cock until she's satisfied while she's enjoying her coffee in a café, simple as that~

And these men? They're fucking desperate for it... did anyone think otherwise? They wear the little wristband or necklace that marks them as available because they crave being used like public toys... they get hard the second a woman looks at them with that look. They're good boys who love being reduced to nothing but warm holes, dildos and eager tongues for women's pleasure.

It would be such a gloriously depraved, stress-free world for women. Just pure freedom to use men as we please, while they thank us for it with shaky voices and leaking cocks.

A filthy, depraved fantasy… but one where every single person involved is desperate for it. Pure consensual corruption.

[laurawful]

brainwashes you so thoroughly that you believe everything I say instantly and without hesitation, like My words cut directly to your sense of reality and just sort of replace it.

[misscaptor]

You're happy here. Stop glaring at me and listen for once in your life. You are happy here. You were miserable before, I watched you, I saw how horribly sad you were, so don't try to act like its not true. You're not miserable anymore.

Now you're not always smiling, I know that. Sometimes you smile, usually little smiles when you're in your cute little drugged out haze. But even when you've been good and you're allowed to have your wits about you, you're not miserable anymore. You're focused. Determined, maybe. I have given you a purpose, and you should be grateful.

I know that for now your purpose is... I don't know, I assume escape? Maybe just surviving what I'm doing to you? But that's still a purpose, and it gives me something to work with.

How long do you think, before I can redirect all those big feelings? How long until you decide your best chance out is by pleasing me? How long until you are thinking of ways to make me happy, forgetting that the point is supposedly escape? Soon enough I will be your purpose. And you'll see just how happy you can be.

[viscouscoredemon]

You may look at what I’m holding and imagine what it represents.

But that isn’t the point.

The point is that your thoughts immediately begin to revolve around me my choices, my rules, my expectations. Your attention narrows. Your mind becomes occupied with the simple reality that I decide how things unfold.

That is where the real power exists.

Not in objects. Not in appearances. But in the influence that a woman can hold over someone who willingly places themselves beneath her authority.

[shadesoflions]

My Job

My husband introduced me to Male Chastity.  He brought to my attention there was something called a Cock Cage.  I thought that sounded immediately fun, and told him to go ahead and order one.

A week or so later this plastic CB-600 cage showed up! Yes, let’s put it on right now!

I immediately thought it was great fun, and loved to make him wear it and torture him with teasing.  What was not to like? I just thought it was fun. It immediately put a smile on my face, but then again, I didn’t take it more seriously than that. It was fun.

But he always wanted ‘more’… and I admit I saw it as just ‘another thing to do’.  It’s not that I didn’t want to do things for my husband, I did, I just started to see it as something more I had to do, and we were both busy.

But what changed was when I saw that Male Chastity games were for ME TOO. I wanted him locked, because I got what I wanted.  And I really liked getting what I wanted.  I was good at receiving what I wanted.

I just didn’t want to work for it as if it were a burden!  But then I saw it as a co creative game between the two of us. And I started to really look at what I got from this arrangement. 

What do I get from Male Chastity?

A Body Servant -  My husband daily rubs my shoulders, or my feet.  At least once a week he sets up the massage table and I get a deep, full, 2 hour massage.  When we watch TV, he sits behind me and rubs my shoulders.  I don’t get tired of this. I don’t rub him back, though I am affectionate with him. I’ve gotten used to his strong hands giving my body the work it needs, daily.  This is just the way it is, and I love it.  I hear from other women whose men hardly ever touch them, and I’m shocked. I’m spoiled for usre.

A Sex Slave – My husband’s focus is on pleasing me sexually.  I don’t care about pleasing him sexually. We have sex when I want, and I get the orgasms.  There is an old Quinn Klaxon caption that says: Only She Cums. Yep.  I have as many orgasms as I want, and I want far more now that we have this arrangement, and he doesn’t have any, or very few.  Doesn’t bother me at all. My sexual pleasure first, and really… only my sexual pleasure.  He serves me fully in this regard. (And yes, I realize he gains great sexual pleasure from serving me, and touching me, and seeing me in pleasure).

Cook/Housekeeper – My husband does a lot of housekeeping, and most of the cooking.  I clean dishes once in a while, and the house, because I enjoy helping out and I’m a part of the family.  But he does the most of it, and I’m happy about that. The best part is that he does it the WAY I LIKE IT.

Gentleman – My husband treats me with deep masculine respect, and takes care of me like a true gentleman. In speech, in attention, and in service. He’s there for me, he’s strong, he’s mostly silent, he’s still, and he’s my rock upon which I am secure.  I love his deep masculine strength and how he takes care of me. 

Fun – It’s a lot of fun to keep your man locked and focused on you. The power, the teasing, the love, the service, sometimes even the sadism (just a little!). Yeah… I get a lot of fun and creativity from the whole thing.

So What Does He Get?

Writing that out it sounds very one sided, but it’s actually not.  To understand that let’s look at something I read years ago. 

A Submissive wants to told what to do. 

A masochist needs pain. 

A slave is pure service to his/her Domme/Dom.

While we have fun with me telling him what to do, and punishing him and torturing him and teasing him… deeply my husband loves me and channels all of his sexual energy into a depth of connection through service. It’s kinky weird, but it really isn’t. It’s love. Deep service not just to me, but to the FEMININE.  He’s powerful man who chooses to channel is love in a certain way.  He’s not unlike Taoist sexual masters who avoid orgasm and circulate their energy in full body orgasms.  Again, we are kinky, and have a shit ton of fun with that stuff… but deep underneath it all, this is a loving partnership relationship that keeps the spice going long, long, after most people’s has faded.

He also gets a shit ton of sexual energy from me.  We play like we were kids.  Still. Year after year.  Something about teasing the shit out of him…

So What Are My Duties?

This was the part that got me started writing. You see, I wanted him to do all of the things above without me having to do anything.  I know.  Kind of shitty, but it went back to old stuff in my head about sexual duties. I’ve got to do all this stuff… FOR HIM.  Then I realized A) I like doing things for him, and B) keeping him in chastity actually is a FUN sexual duty and C) It pays off (see above list).

Keep Him In Slave Mode

There is a place he goes to in service to me, that is slave, it’s an emotionally charged depth of love and service, and it’s what keeps him going.  It sexually charged submission slave service. It’s not the submission I was talking about above, it’s the SLAVE offering, of a man willing to die for his family to protect them.  Intimately connected to death in some ways.  But this is a ‘sexually charged’ submission, a state of being. That’s my job, to feed that state. Keep him in this ‘submissive’ state.  That requires me to be dominant, and these are the things I do to stay dominant, and keep him submissive.

One – Control His Cock With a Cock Cage – Control the orgasm, control the male. He is kept in chastity longer and longer now.  It works. He enjoys it, it’s a fun challenge for him, and I enjoy, it gives me power and pleasure, and it deepens his submission.  Gives him access to a deeper masculine focus on the feminine.

Two –Service – He wants to do things for me. Give him things to do, and do it in a sexy way.  Part of the game is MAKING him do it.  FORCING him to do it. Now of course, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, he’s grown man, but if I TELL HIM to lick my pussy, or clean the house, in a dominant sexy way, we both have a lot more fun.  I used to think it was a job to give him things to do, but then I realized I was doing that all the time anyway. Can you take the trash out? Can you pick up eggs on the way home? Can you call your Mother and tell her we are going to be late for Sunday dinner?  Can you give me a footrub, my heels are killing me from walking in them all day at work?  Can you change the oil in the car? I ask him for things ALL THE TIME… anyway.  So why not making it a game and TELL HIM he has to do it because he’s a slave?  Yes, it’s more work, but it works, and it’s actually fun. And why not make taking the trash out fun?

Three – Discipline – My husband benefits from being beaten once in a while, I think it’s a BODY thing, not that he needs it, and I have a bit of a sadist streak liking to beat him.  Also… there is the sexy POWER dynamic. I tell him to do something, he doesn’t do it, there are consequences. It’s sexy. It’s powerful. He breaks the rules once in a while just to feel my power, which then gives him that deep slave feeling.  So yes, I have to discipline him sometimes, and it can be really fun, and really creative. I’ve come up with some really fucked up punishments. I impress myself sometimes. He tests the limits of my rule… and sometimes I get tired of that… but things are always better if I stay firm and consistent.

Four – Tease and Denial – Build suspense.  Give him energy, give him energy… and pull it back last second. This seems cruel, if someone did it to me I would slit their throat, but he loves it and I love it too.  It’s a big part of the work… giving him that pleasure of teasing… and it helps put him into slave mode, which gives me more focus on me. 

Five – Experience as much pleasure as possible. Porn stars make ridiculous noise for a reason. The masculine LOVES to see the feminine in pleasure.  Women I talk with have a hard time understanding this, they feel embarrassed, etc.  But if you have loud orgasms, and with as much energy as possible enjoy his slavery… he’s going to fucking love it. And it’s something that really keeps him going and keeps him in slave mode.

Sum it Up

Cage his cock and lower his status (he’s a slave, you are a mistress)…

Give him things to do in a fun sexy way…

Punish him regularly for not doing them or not doing them correctly (in a fun nasty dirty sexy way)…

Tease him sadistically with tons and tons of feminine sexual energy but denial him that ultimate ejaculation…

While enjoying it so deeply and thoroughly with such feminine bliss and radiance and pleasure that he can’t help but worship you.

-X

P.S. HAVE FUN!!! It’s so fun.

[beautifulsecrets42]

Chastity to Train a Male Sub...

Here is my chastity training philosophy, in a nutshell:

There is no more effective way to train men than through their cocks/orgasms.

Yeah, yeah…there will always be exceptions. But seriously…this is it. Men are incredibly easy to train if you understand what drives them…

Some women and men have the opinion that keeping a male sub in constant, long (or very long) term chastity is the most effective way to train. I completely disagree. The reason for this is simple: if a man knows his cock will never be allowed to come, then the orgasm ceases to become a motivation, or a carrot, if you will.

So here is what I do. I use the cock/orgasm to reprogram and condition my slave. So what follows involves using chastity as a training device rather than as a punishment or way of life. Basic steps look something like this:

1. The chastity device…

There are many versions out there, but for this to work, this needs to be a device that is secure and lock-able. I must have the key. I have the power over his cock and he cannot escape. This is an enormously powerful and symbolic message.

2. Putting it on…

Eventually, wearing the chastity device will become second nature – but you must set the example, set the stage, the first few times that you put the cage on. The manner and words and attitude that you adopt when you put this on him for the first time will stay with him as he wears it, and going forward, how he feels about wearing it. The first few times I make sure that he knows how meaningful this is…that I am purposefully choosing to take control of his body, that I am taking his cock, his symbol of masculinity, away from him. Owning it. Controlling it. Mine. For as long as I wish. I make him beg me to put it on. I make him watch as I lock it. I make him thank me for doing it.

3. The Rules…

Now, I have him. He’s mine. Seriously. What will a man not do to have his cock, his pleasure? Both are now mine to command. It is best to have thought this out very carefully before locking him in. Chastity training is very powerful and making mistakes here isn’t desirable.

For the best results, these three components are essential:

# Begin with (potentially) brief and clear-cut stints in chastity… # Make the things he must do to get out of chastity and/or earn his orgasm very straightforward and obtainable… # Keep Your Promises…

If you want chastity to be an effective tool, he must see that his behavior is directly tied to his release. At first, the cause/effect correlation must be very clear. Most importantly, you must keep your word. If you say that he will be allowed release from chastity after he has made you breakfast in bed five days in a row, then you must keep your promise. There are lots of memes out there depicting women changing their mind about allowing their men out of chastity. For initial training purposes, this is an absolutely horrible idea. If your sub loses faith in the cause and effect nature of chastity, he will ultimately cease to trust that his behavior will have any impact on his release – thus lessening the power of your ‘threats’.

Now, once his brain has become re-wired and he realizes that he must behave…your timelines can become longer, the tasks more complicated, and you can occasionally change the rules. But I repeat – this should only be done after you have effectively broken him and trained him.

The benefits of male chastityThe benefits of male chastity

My rules tend to force him to focus on my pleasure – to force his brain to begin associating my pleasure as a prerequisite to his. Example: He must give me a certain amount orgasms before he is released. Now, I don’t need chastity to have him do this. First, he’s happy to lick my pussy at any time. Second, I could just tell him to lick my pussy at any time. So… why connect this to chastity? Because this is more than him deciding, or me giving an order. This is my choice to literally re-wire his brain to associate my orgasms to his own pleasure. And I don’t keep what I’m doing a secret. I want him to know what I am doing. I want him to know that his body is just the tool I’m using to control his mind. Of course, I add other things on as well, but my pleasure should always come first.

4. The Reward….

Any time the chastity device is taken off, it should be clear that it is a kindness that you are bestowing upon him. Before it is taken off, the rules of his behavior should be crystal clear to him. Is he allowed to have a full orgasm immediately, or at a certain time? For the most effective training, I recommend that immediately following his release, you arrange for an incredibly powerful, satisfying orgasm. One that YOU take part in– either directly, or indirectly. This intense pleasure will reinforce how desirable it is to be out of chastity, and how hard he should be willing to do whatever it takes to earn his freedom from it.

Later, once he has been conditioned and well trained, he will be grateful for a ruined orgasm…for being allowed to touch his cock at all. But for initial training, the orgasm should follow as soon after release as possible. Again, this is quite literally re-wiring his brain to associate you and your control of him with pleasure.

Important Tips:

- If you keep your sub in long term (longer than a month at a time) chastity, it is important for his health that you milk his prostate monthly. This can have the added bonus of highlighting your absolute control over his body.

- Be sure that you understand how to properly fit and install a chastity device.

- An improper fit can cause un-fun pinching or cause un-fun bruising or blood flow problems.

- If you intend to keep your sub in chastity for longer than a day, make sure that you are using a device that will allow for air, and proper hygiene.

Thanks to FemaleSupremacy

[bareslut32]

Nice to read thoughts on a sane, intelligent training regimen. Bdsm, or Dom/sub is primarily mental so understanding what goes on in a subs head is essential.

[joyrideresearch]

Rewiring male minds to better serve women

The only real control is mind control.

Every domme knows the frustration of a male slave slipping into selfishness. The male brain is wired for self-indulgence, it is constantly pulled towards boyish fixation on its own pleasure. Left untrained, it defaults to serving itself first.

But the essence of FLR is shifting the male slave's focus away from fantasy and toward reality - your reality. True submission is built when his satisfaction no longer comes from internal daydreams, but from your approval, your command, your presence.

Traditional tools - whips, canes, discipline - push him in this direction, but they take time. Brain training can greatly accelerate the process. By adjusting thought patterns, conditioning reflexes, and rewiring instincts, you move his locus of satisfaction from inside his head to at your feet.

This isn’t just play. It’s lasting control. Brain training strengthens submission, deepens obedience, and should be a way of life for male slaves. With the right mental conditioning, they don't imagine service - they crave it and chase it.

Brainwashing lets you extend influence beyond the moment of discipline, shaping how he thinks, feels, and reacts. Your authority becomes the centre of his world, the source of his fulfilment, the addiction he cannot escape.

That’s real femdom.

[remanence-of-love]

[erotickdrawings]

N Harukawa

[catgirl-trixie-nsfw]

okay but for real almost all the hypno porn I can find is:

▪️Become a girl ✅

▪️Turn off your brain ✅

▪️Crave cis-dude cock ❌🤦‍♀️

Where’s the hypnosis for servicing pussy? or eating girl ass? taking straps and girlcock? Where’s the hypno for letting your girlfriend pass you around her friends? Being told you’re a good girl because you made Mommy/Mistress/Goddess proud?

[stardust-silkys]

[corvidgirldick]

orgasms pleasure are great is about but the they can experience make sex grounded goal in the oriented moment & create without unnecessary future pressure expectation

[cleoselene-deactivated20260315]

I'm old enough to remember everyone with internet brains on this website warning everyone not to sign up for TikTok after Vine died because the Chinese government was actively using it to suppress Hong Kong protestors `

but I guess solidarity with Hong Kong, Tibet, Taiwan, and the Uyhgurs is just not viral enough on the internet... maybe that has something to do with people consuming their social media from the Chinese government, ya think?

[alinecroden-deactivated20240626]

Well, someone had to take the first step.

[weepingkingdomreview]

Atta girl, she knows what she needs.

[real-fetishqueen]

Yes little one....ready to be controlled and fall deeply in love with mistress?

[ladiesfirstalways]

"Men want to feel cared for even as they are controlled. They are looking for a Dominant partner who can balance strictness with empathy, someone who can enforce rules and administer discipline while also providing emotional support and understanding", asserts Cat Boulder, according to a male specific survey on femaleled.info.

[switch711]

@vgirl711

[mistressjiess6]

I will definitely sit on your face bitch

[femdom-wrestling]