rhymes with valkyrie

Anna or "GP," she/they, 30s, gayyy, I run the @jjeessuuss blog and I'm not sorry.

[istillwishforyouateleveneleven]

web weave finds that made me want to claw my eyes out

[fivetrench]

Shit just happens to you when you're a tuna crab

[egberts]

i deleted my blog and tumblr immediately asked me if i want to sign up again

[theauthoryperson]

and here you are

[claypigeonpottery]

a rainbow of jackalopes

[sxpxrmxrgxr]

[lawbutch]

you don't have to be scared of your suicidal friends. you don't have to be scared of your psychotic or delusional friends. you don't have to call the police every time someone says they feel like they want to die. you can say things like, "that sounds really hard" and "I'm going to bring you some food and you can tell me more about it"

[lawbutch]

Important addition thank you! You can absolutely have boundaries about substance use but your friends who use substances know themselves and their needs better than you, and they do not need policing or threats of incarceration. If you want to help your friends who deal with addiction, be patient and demonstrate that you're a safe person to talk to.

[souplover13]

image: tags. #OR YOUR DRUG ADDICT FRIENDS!!!! you don't have to try to get them to stop using you can just be normal about drugs. end ID.

[cosmicanger]

Petoskey stones ~ fossilized coral that lived 350 million years ago - the rocks rounded in the surf along the shore of Lake Michigan near Petosky, Michigan

[mayahart]

THE GOOD PLACE (2016—2020) cr. Michael Schur

[innerchildabortionclinic]

interesting kink assortment on the dash

[obsidian-svn]

me flirting:

[ndnbutch]

I get in theory why people complain about het ships or whatever, I get wanting to watch queer media I really do, but I guess where y’all lose me is like. I saw some asshole on a post about Sinners complaining it was “hetslop”—this person was specifically doing so while also claiming Remmick was a queer character and thus they were justified in caring more about him than the Black protagonists. which is a whole other disgusting can of worms that has been well addressed by others at this point. but even in the absence of that part of the argument, like, no, i actually don’t think that a hunger for queer stories is an especially good excuse to deride and dismiss a piece of landmark Black filmmaking, especially as a non-Black person. I have a post that’s been going around encouraging folks to engage with more Native stories and characters, and I had someone come onto that post saying in the tags that they’d need these stories to be queer in order to care. and I just think that, you know, sucks! like obviously as a queer Native I also want to see more of those stories too. but idk how else to put it other than to say that Black people and people of color shouldn’t have to be like you in order for you to care about our narratives and experiences. and I think some of y’all are using this disdain for heterosexuality as a cover for your unexamined racial biases. it’s not okay to be racist to people just because those people happen to be straight, and you continue to be white before you are queer.

[ndnbutch]

on an even more basic level than that, also, I simply just think some of y’all NEED to learn how to interact with media and storytelling without ships and fandom in mind. like if not being able to write fic about two men kissing is genuinely going to be a dealbreaker for you I think that’s actually something you need to work on within yourself because at that point I think you’re no longer really interacting with art and themes and narrative so much as just kind of playing with toys. which is, like, fine I guess. have fun. but it wouldn’t kill you to disengage from that from time to time. especially if would allow you to actually appreciate rich and deeply moving cultural stories from communities of color that you desperately need to learn how to see as human

[ganondilf]

I don’t watch Once Upon A Time but every clip I’ve seen is like

Quasimodo: “And where is the amulet?” Edgar from Aristocats: “Safe and sound I assure you. Isn’t that right, Lightning McQueen?” *the sounds of revving comes out of the shadows*

Commercial break

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[megamindsupremacy]

Beautiful dash pull

[ohgodnopleasenonono]

What really fucks me up about people calling trans men who talk about transandrophobia MRAs and gamergaters is that the main feature of those hate movements was blaming women for all their issues and building hate campaigns around that, I-

Genuinely genuinely - with all the love in my heart - none of the big initial posts that started all this (from nothorses, st-dionysus, doberbutts etc) claim anything about transmisogyny! Literally all they were saying was hey, I have experienced x, y and z and I would like to talk about a, b and c because I don't see it discussed a lot

Like, nobody claimed they were "more oppressed" than transfems or that transfems are in any way involved with the issues they face, like, literally that is a whole new sentence help

I know it sounds like an insult, but, like, it's not about you

"But the term implies-" SHUT THE FUCK UP! That's a bullshit semantic argument and you know it. Do you go around saying "bi means two!" at bisexuals? Grow up.

[miinobobeano]

It bothers me so much that the healthcare system relies so much on the patient's ability to advocate for themselves, organize their history, and be so persistent against every medical “professional” who says there’s nothing wrong/they can do. But so many struggle with fatigue, brain fog, and face such ingrained systemic barriers, that the people who need and deserve help and support can’t access it.

I saw something recently that resonated with me: “Access shouldn't depend on who has the energy to fight for it.” And I’ve never agreed with anything more.

[requiem-on-water]

Sulfur combusts on contact with air to create stunning blue lava-like rivers of light in the Kawah Ijen crater on the island of Java | Ph: Olivier Grunewald

[eroticcannibal]

The act of simply watching people have sex is itself morally neutral. That's all porn is.

[kiss-of-light]

it isn’t, though. sorry if I’m missing a joke here but… it really, really isn’t.

[eroticcannibal]

It is. There is nothing wrong with watching people have sex. The morality of it depends on the context (buying porn from sex workers to watch is good, revenge porn is bad, for example), but watching people fuck? That's morally neutral. It's just watching some activities.

[kiss-of-light]

Almost all porn is abuse, you know that right? Most women in porn are drugged and then raped.

Even if she were paid, it would still be coercive, similarly to prostitution. You cannot buy women, or their consent. That immediately creates a coercive force that makes the consent invalid.

[eroticcannibal]

Ok so first of all you're lying. That is not how most porn works at all.

Regarding economic coercion, that's called having a job. But also I promise you there is a world of difference between trying to buy a person (for the love of fuck will you people ever aknowledge its not only women in porn and work conditions are a concern for EVERYONE involved) and someone making a career in porn.

Also re read what I said because you have said nothing that argues against what im saying AT ALL.

[queerautism]

The way these people talk about sex workers genuinely makes me sick. Sex workers are not being bought, they are not owned by people paying them. They are compensated for their services or performance, like every other worker. They own themselves no matter what. They deserve dignity and respect and their work not being described in such horrible fucking ways.

And it's genuinely fucked up to tell people what they can and cannot consent to tbh? You don't get to choose that for others and then try to say you genuinely care about consent. You just want to control people.

[eroticcannibal]

Absolutely right. We are people, we own ourselves, we decide what we do and don't want to do. Honestly if I attach the criteria of pay and a camera to my consent, denying me that is no less fucked up than forcing that on me.

Puritanical christians/radfems and rapists/traffickers are two sides of the same coin and all ultimately working towards the goal of ruining people's lives for their own benefit.

[autistichalsin]

Also, it needs to be repeated again that stigmatization of sex work leaves trafficking victims trapped. They are now in an even more socioeconomically disadvantaged position than before because no one will want to help an "icky porn star" who is being exploited.

To help trafficked and coerced sex workers we necessarily must end the demonization of sex work or else you are giving traffickers the literal tools to force unwilling people into it!

One of my family members was sex trafficked. Her case became a part of state legal precedent because her trafficker's conviction resulted in an expanded definition of one of the terms used to define trafficking (kept vague for the sake of my family's anonymity.) You know what one of the biggest barriers was to her getting help?

The fact that everyone she reached out to saw her as a stupid meth head "whore" and not a person who was fucking afraid for her life.

If society had shown sex workers some basic amount of decency, she might have had the social standing to get help sooner.

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

remember: a big part of what "sex work is work" means is "let sex workers have workers' protections"

[vlad-theimplier]

I got to see a change in the criminal law, in real time, that shifted the window on how sex workers are treated in my state. Agencies that tended to treat them as perpetrators, even when they were victims, had their behavior changed the most. But even the more progressive police departments, and of course any number of labor- and benefit-related agencies, also got a few notches more understanding and accepting.

TL;DR: sex workers are people, sex work is work, and the road to utopia is paved with extremely boring legislation and administrative decisions.