Internet Lady

22, she/her, silly little trans lady | idk how to make these teehee I liek moster trucks | minors please do not interact thank you | dm's are free to mutuals and other trans people

[breelandwalker]

"But what can I DO?"

Do one thing.

Start there, do ONE thing to help. Take an active role in bettering your little corner of the world by solving One Small Problem, whatever it might be.

It may not fix Everything, but it fixes Something. One less thing is broken. One less task needs doing. One less place is uncared for. One less heart is heavy. One less stomach is empty. One less voice is silent.

And that is not nothing.

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[void-of-nothing]

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/transgender-community-murder-rates-everytown-for-gun-safety-report/ no longer fucking asking. murders of transgender people have doubled in the past year, and black trans women are 63% of transgender gun homicide victims, despite only 13% of the trans population being black.

stop killing transgender people. stop killing black transfems.

[curiooftheheart]

Politics is actually like…one of the top reasons to cut someone out of your life? Where the fuck did we get this idea it’s an invalid reason to abandon people? It’s literally your statement on how you think society should exist and what rights you think people should have and how. It ain’t fucking “My uncle Craig’s dead to me because he takes his sandwiches with the crust on” it’s “My uncle Craig has consistently stated a hatred of minorities and poor people for longer than I’ve been alive, of course I’m gonna call him a piece of shit”

[clytemnestraaa]

hi this drives me crazy

canon is what happens in the text. e.g. merlin tries to poison morgana

a headcanon is a fact that you have personally made up as an elaboration of canon. it is your invention. e.g. i think morgana and gwen had a teenage lesbian situationship before the events of canon. or, i think modern morgana would love evanesence.

an interpretation is how one reads the existing text. it is not an invented fact nor is it a headcanon, it is a reading. e.g. i think merlin tries to poison morgana out of misplaced self-hatred. or, i think that one line was delivered with suppressed malice and shows a nuanced relationship.

fanon is the general fandom’s accepted headcanons and interpretations that elaborate or recontextualize canon. e.g. merlin is a badass waif and morgana is a bitch.

these are all different words with different meanings.

[katrafiy]

Having a bigot "mistake you for a trans woman/fem" is fundamentally not the same experience as if you had actually been a transfem (or analogous/adjacent) person in that situation. This should be obvious, but the key difference is in the word 'mistake'.

Your experience with transmisogyny began and ended when someone mistook you for one of us.

Ours began the day we were born into a world convinced that girls like us are monsters to be destroyed.

I'm sorry that people hate us so much that you got caught up in it. It sucks.

(TW: SA) Me, I've stared into the eyes of a man who put his hand down my panties and then said to me "but I thought you were a girl" and if you can please just try to imagine how afraid I was for my life in that moment, and why I was so afraid.

The why is because I know what the world thinks of girls like me.

The why is because transmisogyny has been an ever present force throughout my life.

The why is because every single day of my life I've been told that I'm a monster that needs to he destroyed.

That's what being transmisogyny affected means. It's more than just that run-in you had with your local bigot, it's living in a society that tells you every day, every hour, every minute that you're too loud,

That you take up too much space,

That you're a monster,

You're a predator,

You're disgusting,

You're scum.

Could it be that living in a society that drills that into your head every day fucks up a lot of girl's ability to form relationships and makes those of us who survive long enough feel a bit prickly towards people who only have an ankle-deep understanding of our oppression but think they can define it for us instead of listening to us?

Nah, that's probably our fault too...

[machinot]

I would take a job pushing the Sisyphus rock if it paid 20 an hour and I could wear my headphones

[jadeharleyinc]

oooooh i got plany of disk space

[kidmograph]

Midnight (for Odesza 2022)

[kumkaniudaku]

And then you can’t even say shit about bc people start trying to put you in a jacket and shit. Like omg it’s so strict???

[junglejim4322]

I live a very balanced life of noticing things nobody else does and not noticing the things that literally everybody notices

[yellow-cat]

(voice of a person spiralling) its embarrassing but i still havent figured out if its ok for me to be alive

[sawed-on-shotgun]

i am of the sincere belief that if ur on ur computer a lot you should visually customize it to high hell and back not just for funsies but also because it has literally made me less depressed before. its kind of like how rearranging your bedroom is good for your brain, yknow. i do stuff like this every few months

[whyenn-reader]

you are not immune to inventing an arbitrary set of rules that only you have to adhere to

[garr-von-glongulus]

I'm probably gonna make a new blog at some point for reasons and I may make more personal posts on there and such things. Whenever that happens I would like to have my mutuals follow me over there so idk maybe I'll dm you all whenever I get around to it

[tankie-transfeminist]

I do appreciate all the support on my post about Marlow Trottie, but yall need to do that kind of thing for Black trans women while they're still alive too. That's actually more important in a lot of ways.

[rinsedrice]

please help my friend move to safer housing, shes a black trans woman who i love so dearly and who deserves every good opportunity that comes her way

Donate to Survival Funds for Healing and Stability, organized by Tori Peck

EMERGENCY SURVIVAL FUNDS NEEDED We are a Black trans disabled couple with a cat… Tori Peck needs your support for Survival Funds for Hea

the gfm is not yet updated to reflect this but we do need to reach $2,500 as soon as possible so she can move. her partner has a post fundraising for them with more payment info if ppl need ❤️

[rinsedrice]

really grateful for how much traction this has gotten however we need $2k before the month ends and have raised only $223 of that! putting other pay info here:

cshapp/vnmo: torkz428

paypl: torkz

thank you all sm ❣️

[beaft]

the phrase "but i didn't mean to!" in the context of causing harm is kind of redundant to me, because almost nobody means to cause harm. most of us just want to do the right thing. and i don't mean that in a wishy-washy "oh, we're all good deep down" way, i mean that even people who regularly do the most heinous shit imaginable will have a way of justifying it to themselves. the world is not populated by hollywood sadists and psychopaths.

[beaft]

actually i have been thinking about this some more and i want to add on to it:

abuse in caregiving professions (like teaching or nursing) is not solely a result of power dynamics. it's also because people who go into those professions often have a idea of themselves as Good People, and are consequently incapable of recognising or acknowledging when they've hurt someone else. instead, they mentally put 'people who have inconvenienced me' into the Bad People box so they can freely abuse them while maintaining their moral high ground.

i read ross greene a lot when i was working with "difficult" or "behaviourally challenged" children. his refrain is "kids do well if they can" - meaning, in short, that most kids act out only when the demands of a situation exceed their capabilities. punishing them for this is not only cruel but also completely pointless, because they also don't want to be doing what they are doing.

a teacher who believes that there are two categories of people - Good People who Mean Well, and Bad People who Cause Problems on Purpose - is not going to see it that way. they're gonna put themselves in the first category, and the misbehaving kid in the second category. and once they have effectively depersoned the child and placed themselves on a pedestal, the world becomes simple again. because abuse is something that only Bad People do.