I prefer the term genderqueer frankly because "binary/nonbinary" is yet another binary I don't fit cleanly into, not because I'm eschewing anything about nonbinariness itself, and I have to go on the record there. I don't want to take sides but if I gotta it's gonna be the nonbinary side even though I don't identify as "nonbinary" because I do not and have never felt fully comfortable being part of The Binary as a reified construct I'm willing to endorse.with my association. man and woman are two fairly particular genders among an infinite plain of other possibilities and just because I happen to fall in the general region called "man" doesn't mean I want to be part of The Binary.
also bc I look like this and no matter how Binary™ I identify I'm going to be treated differently unless I change things about myself and my mode of expression that I frankly don't want to. I'm going to be treated as Too Queer anyway unless I slavishly devote myself to a toxic standard. might as well stick my hands up and say, you got me, I stepped out of line and don't always identify with the little boxes all the time, arrest me. doesn't make me less male to do that either.




















