Glitter Goddess

HSV2+ I Feminist I Rambling about sexual health I Previously stds-4-mes

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I got genital herpes about a year ago & I found out because I accidentally gave it to one of my best friends who I slept with while we were really, really drunk. He's completely fine about it & it's seriously awesome that we're still really good friends. But I fucking hate myself, I've done all the research, talked to doctors & people with it but I still can't get over it. It's getting worse & I don't know what to do.

DO NOT HATE YOURSELF.

I know, easier said then done.

Let’s take a moment about how fucking bad ass you are, you accidentally gave someone something, and then fucking came clean like a mother fucking hero. 

Very few people do that.

Now.. to what brings you distress.

Hate is like a disease that grows and festers inside of you. It will boil over and consume you if you let it….

You need to practice loving yourself, but before you can do that you need to just practice loving.

My homework for you: is to do something nice for someone else for two weeks. Be it help someone carry their grocery’s, hug the crying girl in the bathroom… whatever. But EVERY SINGLE DAY YOU WILL SHOW KINDNESS AND COMPASSION TO SOMEONE ELSE.

I promise it will make you feel better. 

And that big swelling feeling you get in your heart when you do that, that’s called pride.

That is being proud of who you are.

Having pride in yourself, is a excellent step in loving who you are. And the more you love the less you hate.

You see where I’m getting at?

I know it sounds stupid, but just do it, and hit me up in two weeks!

xoxo,

      g.s.

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The worst part about herpes part II

I suffer from stigma, not a disease.

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this blog hates donald trump

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And his supporters.

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Real Talk: Yep, Herpes Is Still Happening (And One in Every Six People Has It!)

Your sexual health is a majorly big deal. Read on to get schooled.

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I have herpes, but I am still a beautiful, strong person that deserves to be valued. 

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Herpes Reflections

I was thinking about my positive singles account and what it would be like to actually meet someone from the site. While I was thinking about it, I had this thought that really made me stop and think.

But I would feel grossed out to be intimate with someone who has an STI. 

That really got to me. Here I am, someone with herpes, someone who has become so educated on the topic of STIs, and I even hold these stigmatizing, wrong beliefs. 

But then the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this is a reflection of what other people will think about me when I tell them that I have herpes; that I’m dirty, unclean, and gross. How can I expect someone to want me if all they will be thinking about is my disease?

But even worse than that, I think that I also realized that this is how I view myself. That crushes me. I see myself as gross, as much as I say I don’t. I feel like I betrayed my body, so now my body is punishing me. 

I’m not really sure where to go with this realization, but I think I’m going to have a lot of thinking to do. 

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Using cute-ness and friendly-ness to get the point across!

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westerners are obsessed with the idea of happiness as if it’s a constant state of being. happiness comes in moments. you dont “achieve” happiness. you experience it along with every other emotion on the spectrum. if you spend your life chasing this constructed idea of happiness you will never even be remotely content. work on being whole and feeling everything while increasing the happy moments. stop trying to be a “happy person.” just be a person.

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I saw this on Buzzfeed. This is probably one of the first times I’ve seen Herpes mentioned online without it being made fun of. 

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Useful links

Here are a few of my favorite links pertaining to living with HSV2 that I recommend:

http://theherpesblog.com/ - Nanci Elliot has been living with herpes for over 20 years. She has a husband, two children she birthed naturally, and a seemingly great life. Her positive outlook and constant reassurance that everything will be wonderful is really helpful, hopeful and motivating. She has gone through everything already and gives really great advice.

http://www.herpesonline.org/articles/living_with_herpes.html - The guide to living with HSV. Find out more about forums, support groups, testing, FAQs, articles, real stories from regular people, the works. Anything you need is here, seriously.

http://www.herpes.org/herpesinfo/smartliving.shtml - Written by a medical director,  this site gives a nice, concise breakdown of the virus, symptoms and treatments. It’s very easy to navigate and is really helpful if you need to find something quick without having to look under rocks.

http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/ - The CDC’s genital herpes page, which includes all of the medical information one would need.

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/ This is my favorite HSV+ forum/independent community on the internet. It has great advice, information (including remedies, information on vitamins and supplements, etc). It also has a free chat room with really cool people who are going through the same thing.

http://www.positivesingles.com/ The only STD dating site I have any experience with. It’s free to join and to make a profile but you can’t send messages or chat online. You can respond to messages but you can’t really do much besides that unless you pay the monthly fee. Pro-tip: The fee is recurring so make sure to cancel before the monthly recurring date if you don’t want to keep getting billed!

TheSexUnEducated Laura is one my favorite people in our little STD+ community here on Tumblr. She’s compassionate, kind and incredibly knowledgeable about sexual education/STDs. Her blog has a plethora of really interesting stuff and it’s definitely worth a look. She has been living with HSV2 for quite a while and always gives great advice and words of comfort. Whenever I mention her, I feel like I’m gushing but let my internet girl-crush be, okay?!

If you would like to be on my list of Tumblrs who speak solely or mostly about STDs/sexual health/etc, please let me know. I don’t want to invade anyone’s privacy.

Other links compiled by MeandTheHerpes.

http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca (Health Canada) Sort of like the Canadian version of the CDC.

http://www.iwannaknow.org Iwannaknow is designed to help you learn about your sexual health in order to make good decisions, since you will be a sexual being for a long time. Whether your 18 or 80, you going to have a desire to fulfill your sexual needs. Taking precautions now will not only help you live long, you will have a healthier sex life to show for it.

http://www.ashastd.org The site for the American Social Health Association. For almost 100 years ASHA has been talking to you about sexually transmitted diseases/infections (STD/STIs). We’ve helped millions learn how to protect themselves, talk to their partners and parents, know what to do if they have an STD/STI, and much more.

http://www.stdresource.com STDresource.com is British Columbia’s information resource for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). These diseases are also sometimes called sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or venereal disease (VD). 

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Regarding suicide:

Suicide is never the best option. Even if things are shitty right now, they will get better. No matter how dark the night is, the sun always shows up in the morning. If you’re thinking about ending things, please contact someone. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 if in the US and surround yourself by people who love you and care about you. This page is really great to read if you’re considering hurting yourself. From the site:

If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain. -x-

I’ve been living with HSV2 for more than a year now and my life is pretty damn awesome. This will only affect you negatively if you let it. I’m always around so if you ever need me, don’t be afraid to drop me a line. :)

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They say with each outbreak your body gets stronger Hang in there hunny You are slowly becoming super woman And if a man ever turns you down due to your HSV Let him go, he doesn’t deserve you, wonder woman

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THANK YOU

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For anyone who actually cares I find that this works really well to prevent/soothe a vag glitter party.

At first tingle or itch, 4 Lysine (2000mg) pills at breakfast, lunch and dinner and 2 vitamin C capsules, one in the morning and one at night (2000mg vitamin C). I also take two table spoons of olive leaf extract a day (liquid form). If the itching causes a stinging or slight pain, I apply paw paw ointment before bed and the lesions or tiny cuts usually heal before morning. 

This is just my personal experience, however. I am aware that I have fairly mild symptoms compared to some. 

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