i think a lot of people have parsed the idea of a "male loneliness crisis" as being specifically about men struggling to find romantic companionship. i think that's often not what men mean when they say it. and i see people talk past each other because of it
i actually do believe that many men are lonely in a gendered way. i think they have accurately identified an issue. socially approved male behavior kind of requires men to be shitty friends
they have no use for women they don't want to fuck, and female "friends" they can't fuck get dropped pretty fast. so about 50% of the population is written off by default
and then they can't be too emotional or too intimate with their male friends, lest they be perceived as feminine or gay by male peers. so the friendships they do allow themselves to have are rather shallow
it's just that this is a self-inflicted problem. and moreover, it's a problem rooted in the idea that it's better for men to suffer in this way than to be perceived/treated as a woman or a gay man (i.e. inferiors)
the way to end the male loneliness crisis would be for men to choose to be good friends to the people around them. and if they don't want to do that, well.
this is not to say that women and other non-men don't suffer from loneliness – there are broader social factors driving loneliness in general – but i do actually think men are correct when they say that their gender plays a role in their loneliness
it's just that they hate us more than they want to be happy and loved
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