What's a glob to do

If you feel like a glob, this is your place 👻👻👻👻23, feeling like I'm 68..... almost nice.... but not quite

[gwbldd]

masterlist for palestine

.⁺ ˳*. ༚ 🇵🇸 .*˚⁎⁺ ˳

easy and quick:

• daily click

• demand a ceasfire

donations:

• masterlist of fundraisers 1

• masterlist of fundraisers 2

• masterlist of fundraisers 3

• masterlist of fundraisers 4

• rotating list of fundraisers

• esims

• water

• feminine hygiene kits

learning:

• masterdocument of info and resources (for other countries too)

• website with educational info

little note: even small amounts help, because they add up. don’t be discouraged :•)

[fuckyeahwomenprotesting]

How to tell if you are emotionally abusive

I feel we talk about signs of abuse from the victims standpoint but not from the abusers standpoint. In order to stop emotional abuse and recognize when we engage in unhealthy behaviors I made this list.

Do you react to important people in your life by ignoring them completely and not acknowledging their presence? Especially if they do something you don’t like?

Do you feel that your partner/friends/family members are the cause of your bad moods or frustration?

Does your partner/etc “do things the wrong way”?

Do criticize your partner/etc for being unreliable or a bad person?

Do you feel you have to constantly overlook your partners flaws in order to be around them?

Are you frequently accused of being “moody” or “hard to please”?

Do your partners complain that “nothing they do is good enough?

Do your partners appear to avoid you when you are angry or upset rather then comfort you?

Do you negatively comment on their intelligence or appearence? Either in private or in front of others.

Do you blame them when someone goes wrong?

Do you ever use phrases like “I could just hit you right now” or “I”m so mad I could punch something”?

Do you ever punch walls/throw things in front of your partner/etc?

Do you leave during fights and not inform of where you are going and when you will be back?

Do you behave the same alone with your partner that you do if you were in front of your friends or in public?

Have you frequently accused your partner of being too sensitive?

How often is your partner praised and complimented by yourself?

Do you think your partner spends too much time with friends and family?

Do you feel your partners friends and family are trying to drive you apart?

Do you actively comfort your partner when they are upset or angry even if you don’t really understand why they feel the way they do?

If your partner brings up a behavior that bothers them do you respond by discussing how to change it or do you respond defensively?

Do you have difficulty apologizing?

All of these things are abuse tactics. Obviously even the healthiest of us will do these sometimes but if any one becomes a regular habit that’s when the problem starts.

[annnmoody]

this is super important, i feel like this website makes it easy to put yourself in the role of the victim but never the abuser. It’s also important to note that being a victim does not preclude you from being an abuser.

[lora-mathis]

I find this esp. important. I’ve exhibited some of these behaviors. I know abuse perpetuates abuse and that victims of abuse learn abusive behavior. I also know that having mental illness can make reacting and dealing with feelings even more difficult. That being said: being mentally ill does not mean you cannot be held accountable for your actions. Nor does being a survivor of abuse. I gotta take care of myself & heal and recognize how trauma and mental illness plays a role in how I treat others. Being a victim doesn’t mean you cannot be an abuser too. 

[ihaverabiesbackoff]

Feels like not enough people be thinking about Grace’s further memory recall after the big reveal. Like he didn’t Suddenly know every detail of who he was, and the coma stuff he was given was clearly pretty powerful! Bro! That journey to erid must have been like. Imagine you’re on the longest road trip of your life and starving to death and are every now and then overcome with emotion like “Oh fuck…. i was really good at catan actually…..” or some bullshit like that

[sharpbutsoft]

I was so baffled by how grace would dangle his glasses from his face in project hail mary (as a glasses-wearer) and yeah apparently rg just did that and by the time a real glasses-wearer said “hey man why the fuck are you doing that? no one does that” they’d filmed too many scenes of him doing that to take it out. cinema.

[birbliophile]

made a thing.

[tpwrtrmnky]

researchers: this condition is underdiagnosed advocacy groups: we'll spread knowledge that it's underdiagnosed healthcare workers: some of us will use expanded diagnostic criteria now patients: wow we finally know what's up

tabloids: the condition is mysteriously spreading. this is DANGEROUS.

[tpwrtrmnky]

healthcare workers who don't want to get with the times: as an authority on this subject, i say this is super duper scary. i have been half-assing care for some patients who have this condition for 70 years and so i am the highest authority you should listen to. researchers? more like reprobates.

[tpwrtrmnky]

The tags specifying autism are correct but like there's a reason why I chose to not name-drop a specific condition. Which is that this describes EVERY manufactured moral panic around greater visibility for some medicalized group of people.

[pukicho]

Billionaires think their wealth is a curse because it isolates them from their friends or whatever. No. Billionaires have king Tuts curse because they’re destined for death.

[happyhippoeaters-offical]

wait, don't all mortals have that curse?

[pukicho]

Sorry, *horrific death

[sparrow-olli]

This scene absolutely floored me. So much emotion in this moment. It's so beautiful!

[veeranger]

[bethanydelleman]

I know people are probably mostly making movie fan fiction and I cannot recall if they fixed Rocky's speech at the end of the movie but... I can't read any of the epilogue FF I keep seeing because of Rocky's voice. Grace is fluent in Eridian by the end of the novel and Rocky sounds totally normal. The stilted speech is just early language learning on Grace's side:

Anyway, maybe this is a niche complaint but no, Rocky isn't doing the whole "sentence - question marker" thing anymore.

Also, they made the translation software using Excel as quickly as possible because you know, Earth death. Even if Grace didn't learn their language he would upgrade the software.

Edit: I'm going to make more of a thing out of this. It bothers me because it makes Eridians sound primitive, but it's just the translation software. Their language is fully complex; Grace just doesn't know it well enough. And also, Rocky has a much better memory than humans and he doesn't need translation software. He learns English far more rapidly but cannot speak English back because of biology.

Edit: the adaptations, they give the fan art but they introduce annoying deviations from the source material

[itsnottruuu]

Rocky loaf means so much to me

[kayyasha]

I've seen lots of people describe Rocky's gems as emeralds and I'm here to be a rock nerd and say: they could be, but they look more like chrysoprase in dark matrix to me.

[exlibrisv]

eva stratt the character you are. yes, the way she took away grace's autonomy made me sick to my stomach, but holy fuck is she so well written. they put a woman who cared in front of the trolley lever while her friend was tied to the tracks, and she looked him dead in the eyes and made the choice that would ultimately save humanity.

[pinkilychee]

there’s smth so funny to me abt how stratt made the other government ppl clap for grace every time he did/said smth smartsiful😭

[autism-on-titan]

Currently thinking about the linguistic details of the translation system in PHM. The two speak a sort of pidgin, which I've decided to call Tau-Ceti Pidgin. The cool thing about this is that it has two distinct versions, with completely separate phonology. I'm trying to see what I can infer about standard Eridian based on how Tau-Ceti Pidgin English differs from Standard American English. It's kind of hard to tell anything because there are only two speakers. I'm just gonna put all my observations in a list now

Repetition to indicate emphasis could be a semantic feature of Eridian, or could be a result of a limited shared vocabulary. Ex: "Amaze amaze amaze!"

Rocky refers to himself by name in the first person, and come to think of it, doesn't use many pronouns at all. I can't think of him saying "I," but does use "me" and "my" such as in "fist my bump" and "fist me." (It was in the book istg) It could be that in his language, one refers to themself by name in the nominative case, but with a pronoun in the accusative.

The pidgin doesn't use articles (ex: "Life is reason" as opposed to "life is the reason,"). That could be for simplicity in communicating, or it could just be Eridian syntax. Russian does something similar.

It's cool that Eridian has a semantic/morphological marker for a question, instead of a pragmatic one like most human language. They seem to use the same structure for a yes/no question as with a statement because of this word to indicate questions.

The no articles thing could be supported by Rocky's assumption that "fist bump" is to "fist" a "bump," as opposed to being an action in and of itself.

[mintaikkcorpse]

One thing I love about PHM is Grace trying to set boundaries with a creature who was fully expecting to sit on his chest and watch him sleep.

[bean-spring]

Big fan of this sacrificial lamb to the slaughter