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there is a post going around telling people that they need to not only include the ace flag, but the aroace flag, the alloace flag and the aroallo flag in their pride post... Like what are we even doing
remember when these people said the lesbian flag was too much effort to include in pride posts
You will never find a term that hasnt been used as a slur. In the 90s and 2000s gay was a slur. People have screamed about lesbians and dykes while murdering women. But "queer" gets special attention from you because ??????????? it's a fashionable discourse topic???? Okay. I've experienced real hate crimes.
do you understand the difference between a word forced upon a group by an oppressor class vs a term chosen by an oppressed class for themselves that is sometimes used as a pejorative by the oppressors after that association is established. do you understand that "you hit like a girl" being an insult does not make girl a slur. because i don't think you do
disturbing how many popular funny joke blogs that get put on my dash all the time are run by people who just. openly and wholeheartedly defend pedophilia and incest and if you say anything about it you're either treated like the one friend that's too woke or like you're trying to literally kill someone
i just don't think we need to be platforming shotaloversistertoucher69 no matter how many posts they spew out making unfunny jokes that use tumblr's favorite keywords of the hour
disturbing how many popular funny joke blogs that get put on my dash all the time are run by people who just. openly and wholeheartedly defend pedophilia and incest and if you say anything about it you're either treated like the one friend that's too woke or like you're trying to literally kill someone
something deeply depressing about the fact that, in english-speaking LGBT spaces, you have to choose between being cut off from your community or being called a slur, either directly or implicitly. even if people individually agree to not call you a queer to your face, you're still forced to allow yourself to be labeled that if you participate in LGBT spaces at all. it's in the names - queer safe space, queer meetup, queer book club, queer community, queer literature, queer event, on and on and on. the best you can hope for is people awkwardly agreeing to not call you that word directly, clearly not understanding at all why you find it uncomfortable. you can't express that discomfort upon hearing the word without warning, or being called that by people who don't know you dislike it, or seeing it plastered all over the place. any kind of negative reaction to the word queer will get you an uncomfortable conversation at best, and at worst you're getting called a conservative TERF exclusionist and kicked out of the space.
some of the most vulnerable LGBT people - those of us from rural communities, or conservative areas, or who have bigoted families - are excluded by default from the spaces they need most, and all in the name of including people who have no business being there.
Every single word for queer people is, has been and will be used as a slur. You can either reclaim some or allow yourself to only refer to your own identity using increasingly academic and technical language.
Plus, queer is more inclusive and more useful than any overlong adjective you can possible try to crowbar into conversation.
No one is going to get used to using LGBTIAGQ++ or whatever, it's just not how language works.
you really read this entire post about how queer is explicitly EXCLUSIVE of people who have trauma with the word or simply choose not to reclaim it and you're still going to tell me it's ~more inclusive~? of who? not of me, that's for sure!
also there's a difference between a word we used for ourselves first that was then used as an insult because of its association with us vs a word that was forced on us by our oppressors. words like gay fall into the former category. words like queer fall into the latter.
queer literally means "strange and unusual" and was originally used against us because being LGBT is seen as unnatural. there is nothing strange or unusual about my gender or my attraction. why should i identify with a word that claims the opposite?
Because you either DONT use fully queer inclusive language at all, or you default to alienating, pathologizing technical terminology that no one is EVER going to use in casual conversation.
Economy of language. "LGBTQIA+" is eight syllables and impossible to slip into any conversation unless you're among people who already know what it means. "Queer" includes everyone, is one syllable, and is actually usable in a sentence.
and yes. I AM different, I AM strange, that is the most wonderful thing anyone could possibly say about me and my sexuality. And I refuse to let other people's bad intentions force me into a corner of either boxing other people out or tlaking about my sexuality like a prion disease.
People have trauma based around EVERY word used for queer people, because they have ALL been used against us. I have trauma around the word "gay" because of how people used it in my youth. What the fuck then?
you're pathologically self-centered lmao i just said i'm not fucking queer and am inherently excluded from anything described as such. i know many many many LGBT people who aren't queer. you don't get to unilaterally decide our experiences don't matter and we have to get over it and label ourselves with a slur we don't reclaim. all you can do is repeat the "it's inclusive" talking point even when directly speaking to someone that word excludes. incredible.
also the entire acronym is LGBT. that's it. even if it wasn't, i would rather say a few extra syllables than call people slurs without their consent, but that's clearly where we differ.
Gay is a word I have trauma with, therefore I have decided that Gay is a slur and therefore do not accept LGBT as applying to me. What now?
Also, no it isn't "LGBT" excludes Agender people, asexual, aromantics, third gender, two spirits, ANY queer person who isn't a member of those 4 most visible and prominent groups.
Gay is more a slur than queer ever was. There were literally PSA commercials in the 2010s telling people not to use it
do you understand that people saying shit like "you hit like a girl" does not make girl a slur, or are you only this dense when it's letting you gleefully tell people they should let you call them words they don't want to be called
something deeply depressing about the fact that, in english-speaking LGBT spaces, you have to choose between being cut off from your community or being called a slur, either directly or implicitly. even if people individually agree to not call you a queer to your face, you're still forced to allow yourself to be labeled that if you participate in LGBT spaces at all. it's in the names - queer safe space, queer meetup, queer book club, queer community, queer literature, queer event, on and on and on. the best you can hope for is people awkwardly agreeing to not call you that word directly, clearly not understanding at all why you find it uncomfortable. you can't express that discomfort upon hearing the word without warning, or being called that by people who don't know you dislike it, or seeing it plastered all over the place. any kind of negative reaction to the word queer will get you an uncomfortable conversation at best, and at worst you're getting called a conservative TERF exclusionist and kicked out of the space.
some of the most vulnerable LGBT people - those of us from rural communities, or conservative areas, or who have bigoted families - are excluded by default from the spaces they need most, and all in the name of including people who have no business being there.
Every single word for queer people is, has been and will be used as a slur. You can either reclaim some or allow yourself to only refer to your own identity using increasingly academic and technical language.
Plus, queer is more inclusive and more useful than any overlong adjective you can possible try to crowbar into conversation.
No one is going to get used to using LGBTIAGQ++ or whatever, it's just not how language works.
you really read this entire post about how queer is explicitly EXCLUSIVE of people who have trauma with the word or simply choose not to reclaim it and you're still going to tell me it's ~more inclusive~? of who? not of me, that's for sure!
also there's a difference between a word we used for ourselves first that was then used as an insult because of its association with us vs a word that was forced on us by our oppressors. words like gay fall into the former category. words like queer fall into the latter.
queer literally means "strange and unusual" and was originally used against us because being LGBT is seen as unnatural. there is nothing strange or unusual about my gender or my attraction. why should i identify with a word that claims the opposite?
Because you either DONT use fully queer inclusive language at all, or you default to alienating, pathologizing technical terminology that no one is EVER going to use in casual conversation.
Economy of language. "LGBTQIA+" is eight syllables and impossible to slip into any conversation unless you're among people who already know what it means. "Queer" includes everyone, is one syllable, and is actually usable in a sentence.
and yes. I AM different, I AM strange, that is the most wonderful thing anyone could possibly say about me and my sexuality. And I refuse to let other people's bad intentions force me into a corner of either boxing other people out or tlaking about my sexuality like a prion disease.
People have trauma based around EVERY word used for queer people, because they have ALL been used against us. I have trauma around the word "gay" because of how people used it in my youth. What the fuck then?
you're pathologically self-centered lmao i just said i'm not fucking queer and am inherently excluded from anything described as such. i know many many many LGBT people who aren't queer. you don't get to unilaterally decide our experiences don't matter and we have to get over it and label ourselves with a slur we don't reclaim. all you can do is repeat the "it's inclusive" talking point even when directly speaking to someone that word excludes. incredible.
also the entire acronym is LGBT. that's it. even if it wasn't, i would rather say a few extra syllables than call people slurs without their consent, but that's clearly where we differ.
Gay is a word I have trauma with, therefore I have decided that Gay is a slur and therefore do not accept LGBT as applying to me. What now?
Also, no it isn't "LGBT" excludes Agender people, asexual, aromantics, third gender, two spirits, ANY queer person who isn't a member of those 4 most visible and prominent groups.
you have no understanding of what makes a word a slur vs a neutral descriptor used pejoratively lmfao
agender, third gender, etc fall under the T. anyone who cannot be described by at least one of the letters L, G, B, or T has no place in the community because they are not attracted to the same gender or trans but thanks for playing
something deeply depressing about the fact that, in english-speaking LGBT spaces, you have to choose between being cut off from your community or being called a slur, either directly or implicitly. even if people individually agree to not call you a queer to your face, you're still forced to allow yourself to be labeled that if you participate in LGBT spaces at all. it's in the names - queer safe space, queer meetup, queer book club, queer community, queer literature, queer event, on and on and on. the best you can hope for is people awkwardly agreeing to not call you that word directly, clearly not understanding at all why you find it uncomfortable. you can't express that discomfort upon hearing the word without warning, or being called that by people who don't know you dislike it, or seeing it plastered all over the place. any kind of negative reaction to the word queer will get you an uncomfortable conversation at best, and at worst you're getting called a conservative TERF exclusionist and kicked out of the space.
some of the most vulnerable LGBT people - those of us from rural communities, or conservative areas, or who have bigoted families - are excluded by default from the spaces they need most, and all in the name of including people who have no business being there.
Every single word for queer people is, has been and will be used as a slur. You can either reclaim some or allow yourself to only refer to your own identity using increasingly academic and technical language.
Plus, queer is more inclusive and more useful than any overlong adjective you can possible try to crowbar into conversation.
No one is going to get used to using LGBTIAGQ++ or whatever, it's just not how language works.
you really read this entire post about how queer is explicitly EXCLUSIVE of people who have trauma with the word or simply choose not to reclaim it and you're still going to tell me it's ~more inclusive~? of who? not of me, that's for sure!
also there's a difference between a word we used for ourselves first that was then used as an insult because of its association with us vs a word that was forced on us by our oppressors. words like gay fall into the former category. words like queer fall into the latter.
queer literally means "strange and unusual" and was originally used against us because being LGBT is seen as unnatural. there is nothing strange or unusual about my gender or my attraction. why should i identify with a word that claims the opposite?
Because you either DONT use fully queer inclusive language at all, or you default to alienating, pathologizing technical terminology that no one is EVER going to use in casual conversation.
Economy of language. "LGBTQIA+" is eight syllables and impossible to slip into any conversation unless you're among people who already know what it means. "Queer" includes everyone, is one syllable, and is actually usable in a sentence.
and yes. I AM different, I AM strange, that is the most wonderful thing anyone could possibly say about me and my sexuality. And I refuse to let other people's bad intentions force me into a corner of either boxing other people out or tlaking about my sexuality like a prion disease.
People have trauma based around EVERY word used for queer people, because they have ALL been used against us. I have trauma around the word "gay" because of how people used it in my youth. What the fuck then?
you're pathologically self-centered lmao i just said i'm not fucking queer and am inherently excluded from anything described as such. i know many many many LGBT people who aren't queer. you don't get to unilaterally decide our experiences don't matter and we have to get over it and label ourselves with a slur we don't reclaim. all you can do is repeat the "it's inclusive" talking point even when directly speaking to someone that word excludes. incredible.
also the entire acronym is LGBT. that's it. even if it wasn't, i would rather say a few extra syllables than call people slurs without their consent, but that's clearly where we differ.
something deeply depressing about the fact that, in english-speaking LGBT spaces, you have to choose between being cut off from your community or being called a slur, either directly or implicitly. even if people individually agree to not call you a queer to your face, you're still forced to allow yourself to be labeled that if you participate in LGBT spaces at all. it's in the names - queer safe space, queer meetup, queer book club, queer community, queer literature, queer event, on and on and on. the best you can hope for is people awkwardly agreeing to not call you that word directly, clearly not understanding at all why you find it uncomfortable. you can't express that discomfort upon hearing the word without warning, or being called that by people who don't know you dislike it, or seeing it plastered all over the place. any kind of negative reaction to the word queer will get you an uncomfortable conversation at best, and at worst you're getting called a conservative TERF exclusionist and kicked out of the space.
some of the most vulnerable LGBT people - those of us from rural communities, or conservative areas, or who have bigoted families - are excluded by default from the spaces they need most, and all in the name of including people who have no business being there.
Every single word for queer people is, has been and will be used as a slur. You can either reclaim some or allow yourself to only refer to your own identity using increasingly academic and technical language.
Plus, queer is more inclusive and more useful than any overlong adjective you can possible try to crowbar into conversation.
No one is going to get used to using LGBTIAGQ++ or whatever, it's just not how language works.
you really read this entire post about how queer is explicitly EXCLUSIVE of people who have trauma with the word or simply choose not to reclaim it and you're still going to tell me it's ~more inclusive~? of who? not of me, that's for sure!
also there's a difference between a word we used for ourselves first that was then used as an insult because of its association with us vs a word that was forced on us by our oppressors. words like gay fall into the former category. words like queer fall into the latter.
queer literally means "strange and unusual" and was originally used against us because being LGBT is seen as unnatural. there is nothing strange or unusual about my gender or my attraction. why should i identify with a word that claims the opposite?
not to harp on about the q slur but another thing that bothers me is how people act like being harmed by the word is a relic of the past, and seem to sincerely believe that no one under the age of 40 could possibly have been called that word in a negative way. i've had "queer" screamed at me THIS YEAR. i grew up being called that in grade school. i'm 24. if you think queer isn't still a slur please interact with one person who is identifiably LGBT, actually goes outside, and doesn't live in the heart of a progressive city. people hurt by this word are not a tiny insignificant minority that doesn't have to be accounted for when you plan your ~ultra inclusive~ events where you've replaced the LGBT acronym with a violent slur.
and if you can see and hear all this and still feel fine replacing the LGBT acronym with the word queer, i can't stop you. but you deserve to know that there are people around you who will silently mark you as unsafe every time you use it as an umbrella term. there are people who will refuse to attend the events you organize because you label them as queer events. there are people who brace themselves around you because they don't know if they're about to hear the slur they heard when they were hate-crimed. there are people who wish they could ask you to stop calling them queer, but won't bring it up because they don't know if you're going to call them a fucking nazi for disliking that word. and if you're fine with that...then you're the kind of person who's fine with that, i guess.
not to harp on about the q slur but another thing that bothers me is how people act like being harmed by the word is a relic of the past, and seem to sincerely believe that no one under the age of 40 could possibly have been called that word in a negative way. i've had "queer" screamed at me THIS YEAR. i grew up being called that in grade school. i'm 24. if you think queer isn't still a slur please interact with one person who is identifiably LGBT, actually goes outside, and doesn't live in the heart of a progressive city. people hurt by this word are not a tiny insignificant minority that doesn't have to be accounted for when you plan your ~ultra inclusive~ events where you've replaced the LGBT acronym with a violent slur.
omfg can I rant. Idk if you've seen project hail mary (amazing movie highly recommend) but #they are calling the protagonist an acey wacey in spacey already. Just because he's neurodivergent coded. When he clearly shows attraction to women. I'm so fucking tired man they're so fucking ableist.
And it's the whole fandom too you can't even escape it. Funny because when it's a gay character you have to write a whole thesis on it to prove it but potentially autistic automatically equals "aroace". I see.
i haven't seen that movie but it doesn't at all surprise me that people are doing that lol they really haven't changed since 2017. For basically as long as I can remember, fandom has expected a 12 page MLA-style essay justifying any interpretation of a character as gay (which they'll still disagree with), but they'll be calling a character canonically aroace if they're a little socially awkward. truly infuriating
im scared to ask but what the hell is “the pedophile manifesto” post y'all r talking about.
edit: i see 🥸
in case y'all were wondering where all these recent discourse posts have been coming from (click thru the link).
do not put pedophile apologia on my dash or I'm blocking u. transfems do not have to stick our necks out for these people.
lost 5 followers for being vocal about not supporting pedophiles ♡ i love when the trash takes itself out 😌 anyone else?
blocking reasons include trying to change the subject and redirect the overall conversation away from pedophiles towards the people who are rightfully fed up with this. y'all ain't slick!!! I'm blocking anyone who's even tangentially defending pedophiles right now, don't rb that shit if u haven't seen what brought on these discussions to begin with, and if you've already seen it and are still reblogging all that then unfollow me or wait for me to block you idc. y'all are going too far
she deleted everything lol AHT! AHT! i ain't letting y'all off that easy, screenshots of the full post below the cut. y'all r not gonna delete everything then act like people are just being crazy over nothing
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Yo, thanks for your posts about why the q slur is harmful. I really hate being called this word without my consent and not being able to escape it. For some reason though, hardly anyone seems to understand why, so I am happy to see someone with similar perspectives to mine. Thanks 👍
of course!! i'm also someone who hates being called that and it's played a huge role in isolating me from my community. i'm outspoken about it on here because i have the same experience of people not really understanding why i dislike the word or ascribing all kinds of harmful ideologies to me because i expressed discomfort with being called slurs lol
I keep seeing people say things like "if a bisexual woman chooses to live as a lesbian and never act on her attraction to men what makes her any different from any other lesbian, why cant she call herself a lesbian?" And I could point out the obvious that the internal experience of lacking attraction to men is a factor that affects a lot of lesbians' lives in a major way, in addition to the fact we date women. But also how is "living as a lesbian" not considered garden variety "pick a side" biphobia? Bi women can prefer women, only date women, marry women, etc. You do not have to be a lesbian to do that.
You don’t have to think you’re hot but other people inevitably are going to so you at least need learn to accept that perception with grace instead of falling back on self deprecation every time someone is brave enough to call you cute
WRONG! ASEXUAL BEAM
I don't think self hating is the correct response, but I will instantaneously think;
If people tell me they find me attractive in any way. I don't hate them, I hate that they make me feel disgusting. I hate thate their first and only thoughts of me is "sex sex sex sex sex sex sex you owe me sex sex sex sex sex sex give me sex sex sex sex"
Oh okay cuz we were all wondering
idk I think it's fucked up that you can write something with zero same-gender attraction depicted and no trans characters and have it be lauded as "important queer representation" because the main character doesn't have a romance arc. why are we letting people get credit for this and crowd out books with actual LGBT characters in favor of promoting this shit. i guess all buddy cop movies are revolutionary aroace representation now and should be classified as gay cinema.
how are people on this site acting like pedophiles are an oppressed minority when the president of the US, one of the most powerful men in the world, is just. openly and notoriously a pedophile and has never suffered a single real consequence for it
