Terrorizing Villages with Intelligent Remarks

35, panromantic asexual, no pronoun preference. This blog may contain discussion of adult content.

[goldenmeme]

Fanart for @chaoticquibit's Gaze into the Abyss series, which shamelessly mashed together all my favorite tropes and was a delight start to finish.

[jaubaius]

Creative & DIY

[femur-theif]

SO THAT’S HOW THEY FUCKING DO IT

[stagemanagerssaygo]

[verysorrytobother]

Reblogging this because my entire life, all of my bows have looked like my shoelaces. Wrapping presents is going to be so much more aesthetically pleasing now

[chilewithcarnage]

there is no discourse between gen z and millenials. we are siblings. come on lil bro, ill take you to amc. yeah we can go there early and play the arcade games before the movie starts.

[midlifecrisis2021]

Can we get popcorn and a drink to share :)

[chilewithcarnage]

we sure can buddy, we sure can

[arirna]

Oh my god so true bestie

[allsonargent]

favorite comedies that ended too soon ≡ Better Off Ted

“God, you people are paranoid. No wonder the company has to secretly manipulate you.”

[thelawfulchaotic]

Shows that continue to age well and continue to be fucking hilarious

[fuckyeahgoodomens]

[madenthusiasms]

#gnu Terry Pratchett

[copperbadge]

GNU Terry Pratchett

[omghotmemes]

He makes a valid point

[blind-seeing-deactivated2024042]

I explained to some absolute idiot on discord that as a blind person I hate when people make their blog titles or their usernames a bunch of letters compiled from different languages. If you use the letter that looks like an A but in Greek is actually an s, the screen reader is going to read it with an s sound. So a blind person cannot tell what you have typed because it reads as garbled nonsense.

And they thought it was just the funniest joke to intentionally type like that to poke fun. Please reblog and spread awareness that typing like this is inaccessible

[goldenmeme]

Broke: Using other alphabets to cobble together words that look like English but can’t be read with screen readers.

Woke: Using other alphabets to cobble together words that look like gibberish but turn into English words only when read aloud by screen readers.

[studentlifeproblems]

[lgbt-tiktoks]

[neil-gaiman]

I recall you making the comparison (at least once) that Twitter is to blogging like crack cocaine is to a nice glass of wine (or something to that effect). I was wondering what comparison your Tumblr experience would elicit, or would Tumblr kind of fall under the generic "blogging" umbrella?

Tumblr is junk food. It’s mostly really nice junk food, though. Like the kind of chocolate that comes packaged in wrapping that points out that nobody was enslaved or murdered to bring you this chocolate, and that trees were planted and anyway, cocoa is an antioxidant. So you can absolutely almost forget that, at the end of the day, you’re still scoffing chocolate.

[thebuffyfiles]

[dormouseking]

This is what being over 25 on this website feels like

[another-sandersidesblog]

So I did a thing or two…

BIG thank you to @owletry for making the fantastic art that made these boys in the first place!! And thank you again for letting me use your art in a different medium!

[arya-skywalker]

These are amazing!

[dragon-in-a-fez]

people are like "if you put crabs in a bucket they can't escape because they keep pulling each other back in, this is called crab bucket mentality and describes why people don't help each other" and never acknowledge that crabs do not naturally occur in buckets, a human with more power had to put them there

[kedreeva]

The notes are hilariously full of people that don't understand the point OP is making, which is not that they don't understand what a metaphor is, but rather that this particular one is used to describe a situation without regard for the extra layers. I shouldn't have to explain this but I'm going to.

The metaphor is often used to speak about how crabs will pull each other down and none of them will make it out, and the parallel it is supposed to mirror is that humans will do the same and not help one another. The layer OP is pointing out is that, like crabs, humans are often being placed in bad, unnatural situations by those with more power; for example, capitalism (and those who foster it) in the USA has made a concentrated effort to cause humans under its influence to act against one another instead of focusing on the actual problem (which is, ironically, exactly what people using the metaphor do, by focusing on the crabs instead of the bucket/person who put the crabs there). Capitalist ideals tell people look at those other crabs in the bucket that one makes more money than you do, that one wants to steal your job, that one is going to escape and that's unfair. It wants you to believe that the other crabs are the problem when they're not, or at least that's not a complete picture.

When the metaphor is used to describe human behavior with no recognition of the context for why the crabs are in the bucket, it loses a great deal of potency specifially because the crabs are not behaving naturally, because they've been put into an unnatural situation by a force more powerful than themselves, and one which causes a great deal of stress and even panic. At the end of the day though, in most situations, humans don't suffer crab bucket mentality. If we did, we wouldn't form communities. We wouldn't care for our sick, our injured, our elderly. We wouldn't rush to the sites of natural disasters to offer help. We wouldn't have team sports, or activity clubs, or have worked out daycare and group schooling, or made unions a thing. Gofundme and kickstarter wouldn't have gotten off the ground. As often as we are able to do, we help each other... but those more powerful than us can still place us into situations where we are so stressed about just trying to survive that we cannot think beyond ourselves. We are not immune to propaganda, I believe the saying goes.

So, it's not really the other crabs in the bucket that are the problem. It's the human in power that put them there. That's point OP was making. And that's what crab bucket mentality should refer to: that humans in power place those without the power to stop them into circumstances out of their control, in order to pit them against each other, until such time as they can be used for the benefit of their captor.

[copperbadge]

Just woke up from a dream about a tv show called Eve Angelical, which was about a devout right wing evangelical who one day finds that when she prays legit actual God talks to her and he’s both pissed and amused and either way she begins to suspect he’s fucking with her.

In the pilot, for example, she hears about a family of five kids whose single mother was a victim of gun violence and she thinks “I’d better pray for them to find a safe and loving home” and God is like “Cool. Their plane lands at 2:30. Go pick them up.”

And she’s like What and God tells her he’s super over her praying about shit and AT BEST doing nothing and at worst actively harming people by her behavior, so now she gets five kids to raise as a lesson in compassion. God assures her she’ll be fine. And it’s not like she can say no because it’s GOD.

(Don’t worry about the kids, I’m pretty sure they’re in on the whole thing and might actually be angels in an end-of-season reveal.)

[pinkdiamondprince]

Trying to figure out if you’re ace or aro can be so goddamn hard because it’s like, trying to find the absence of something. Imagine you’re at a pond and you want to know if there are any turtles, or fish. Say you find a turtle and you’re like “great! Now I know there are turtles.” Or a fish, now you know for sure there are fish. Or you find both, and now you know for a fact there are both turtles and fish in the pond.

But like, if you don’t find any turtles it might be that there are no turtles or maybe you’re just really shitty at looking for turtles and maybe you THINK you saw a turtle over there or maybe it was just a stick. Maybe there are only a few turtles. Maybe you need to do something special to find the turtles. Maybe a bunch of these rocks are actually turtles but you couldn’t tell them apart. Maybe there are no turtles. You have no idea. Meanwhile some people are saying “Oh there have to be turtles! You’ll find them eventually ;)” or “How many turtles have you found in your pond?” or “Try planting some vegetables at the shore to attract the turtles.” Or “Oh no! What disaster happened to your pond that there are no turtles?” And you’re just standing there wet with an empty net and a tired expression.

But whatever because whether there are turtles or fish or not your pond’s ecology works just fine without them because that’s what eco-communities do they form a system around what they have. You aren’t missing anything if you don’t have turtles you just have a pond system without turtles. If someone tried to change you by pouring a bunch of turtles into your pond it would probably fuck something up.

So you don’t have to be entirely sure. You don’t have to search every inch of the damn pond before you can decide there are probably no turtles. If you want to take the aro or ace label because you think it fits go for it. And if you do find your turtles you can rename the pond. That’s fine.

[ficsex]

Hi! Thank you for doing what you’re doing, it’s a lifesaver and highly educational!

I have a non-fic related question triggered by an ask you answered earlier (the one about the demi/ace character who doesn’t like to receive sexual stimulation and how to convey that in fiction).

Is that a thing? Liking to give pleasure but being entirely uninterested in receiving it (regardless of the emotional connection formed with a partner)?

I am like that and I never met anyone who understood what I meant when I tried to explain it. I always assumed I wasn’t ace because I like giving pleasure, and I enjoy sex under that aspect. I excluded being demisexual because I feel like this regardless of the depth of the emotional bond with my partner. I never found a name or a label for it, and I was wondering if there’s one. I’d love to feel part of a community if it exists.

it’s absolutely a thing! I personally know at least three people for whom that applies to various degrees. 

I did a bit of poking around, and it looks like the term for that is “placiosexual”. It’s 100% under the asexual umbrella, and there are lots of people who share that experience!

[goldenmeme]

The lesbian community even has a name for it! Stone is a way to identify a person only interested in giving and not receiving, IE: stone butch, stone femme.

I guess you could ID as a stone ace? It even has the added benefit of sounding badass!