Gray-Asexual Shenanigans

I'll be posting Asexual and GrayGrey-Asexual content as I run across it. Feel free to ask me anything, but please know that the only person who can label you is you. Please let me know if you need me to tag anything. My main blog My cross stitching blog

[mechaniaa]

i had to

[loganthrives]

Yasmin Benoit is a writer and asexual activist, btw. She often gets a lot of shit for dressing 'sexy' and people trying to say she's not valid as an asexual person for it, but she is 1000% valid AF and an ace icon. She's a model and enjoys clothes and outfits that are body affirming for her and feel good to her to be in, it is not sexy or 'trashy' to dress how you like to dress, nor is it her responsibility if other people find her sexually attractive. She's just living her best life and I freaking love that for her.

Also regular reminders that:

Black people can be asexual and are 1000% valid AF (racism + fetishization makes this necessary to point out)

People you find sexually attractive can be asexual and are 1000% valid for it

No one is required to indulge any sexual attraction you have for them regardless of your sexuality or theirs

Asexual people can and do have sex - there are asexual sex workers y'know & ace folks in partnerships with children

Asexual people who are sex repulsed and do not have sex are just as valid as aces who are sex favourable or indifferent

Allosexual people who are sex repulsed are also valid and it doesn't mean they're asexual by default. Attraction and action are two different things

Asexuality is a whole ass spectrum of identities and belongs under the LGBTQ+ umbrella

[molsno]

Is Love the Answer? by Uta Isaki

[drchucktingle]

happy international asexuality day buckaroos. your ace and aro trots are VALID and YOU PROVE LOVE JUST BY BEING YOU

[acewatney]

“As long as people don’t know about asexuality—hell, forget about the label, so long as they don’t know that saying no forever and for any reason and in any context is okay—sex education, sex therapy, and popular depictions of sex are incomplete and people don’t have the relevant information to fully consent. Sexual rights should not be assumed and self-determination must never end upon entering a relationship. You can give a no with zero caveats in each and every situation, full stop. You can say no if someone loves you and you love them back. You can say no for the rest of your life”

—

ACE by Angela Chen

Why you should read Ace by Angela Chen no matter your sexuality

[scarlct-vvitch]

in honor of ace week id like to shoutout every asexual who first thought they were bi/pan because they looked at all the genders and felt no difference and zero is equal to zero so they said "huh. must be bisexual" and then shoved their sexuality back under the rug for 3-5 years

[scarlct-vvitch]

this is the entire ace experience in two sentences

[the-ipre]

[id: a screenshot of tags saying “#listen it’s still under the rug #my sexuality doesn’t seem like any of my business okay” /end id]

[aceadmiral]

Gray-Ace & Gray-Aro Survey

This survey is about gray-asexuality and grayromanticism. Anyone is invited to take it, regardless of identity. The purpose of this survey is to investigate perspectives on these identities and how…

This survey is about gray-asexuality and grayromanticism. Anyone is invited to take it, regardless of identity. The purpose of this survey is to investigate perspectives on these identities and how they are understood.

Click here to take the survey. It will remain open until September 15th.

Questions about the survey can be asked in the comments on wordpress (no account required) or via this contact form.

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

tbh it’s really sad how most people who are questioning their gender/sexuality will say stuff like “well i feel like this label fits me and it describes my experiences really well and i feel happy using this label BUT i don’t 100% fit the definition so am i allowed to call myself that??” 

like yes!! yes yes YES you are ABSOLUTELY allowed to call yourself that!! it’s OKAY if you don’t fit the rigid definition of a label, if it fits you and it makes you happy, you are totally allowed to use it!! 

or people will be like “well i feel like BOTH these labels fit me am i allowed to use both?? do i have to pick just one i don’t want to they both fit me so well” you can use both!! even if a label is “contradictory” or whatever if it makes you happy you can use it!! you don’t have to fit the rigid definition, it’s okay!! do what makes you happy!! 

at the end of the day it all boils down to what makes you happy!! if you feel like an identity fits you, you can use that label even if you don’t 100% fit the definition or you have another label that might “contradict” it!!

be happy!! live your life use whatever labels you want it’s okay!! laugh and live and smile and breathe go outside and look at the sky and feel the wind rush past you and smile and it’s all going to be okay. do what makes you happy!! i love you <3

[deepestfriendgoophero]

Gentle reminder here that there are elder queers out there. Real elders, people in their 80s and 90s who survived, who are here. You can get there, old age does exist for us.

I know an old lesbian couple who have been married since the moment they legalized it. One woman can hardly walk anymore but she loves Hallmark ornaments, so her wife supports her against her walker during Christmas so she can look at them more easily.

I know a transgender man who started transitioning only 10 years ago at 60, and he's brilliant and funny and brings his grandchildren by to get sweets.

I know an asexual woman who, beamed and told me she absolutely loved not having a husband, and that she "never once regretted not getting married. I never felt that way about anybody! Why force it?" She lives with her parrot and loves salsa dancing.

Our elders exist. So many of us have been wiped out and erased on purpose, but we're here. And that means you can get there. When you're old and grey, when you're retired and done, there will be people who will love you and will care for you.

[wheeloffortune-design]

CONTROVERSIAL OPINION ABOUT BISEXUALITY

that purple in the middle is not the right saturation, it doesn't fit with the other two colors and it drives me crazy.

[deus-ex-aquila]

all right, I think I got this, I've got dual citizenship and I have another flag we can borrow from:

step 1

step 2

step 3

[varangianviper]

[wheeloffortune-design]

This is true bi/ace solidarity.

[xthehatchick]

holy shit

[newpathmain]

Subtle pride field of flowers backgrounds (made in WOMBO dream).

Rainbow, Asexual, Aromantic, Aroace, Oriented Aroace, Aplatonic

[rhaegara]

sex-positive asexuals are people who are willing to have sex.

sex-repulsed asexuals are people who want nothing to do with sex.

sex-neutral asexuals are people who are indifferent about sex.

all types of asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, but that does not define their sex life, nor does it mean their sexuality is invalid.

[anjinho-de-cores]

important important important

[beekeepercain]

An asexual’s body is perfectly functional. It reacts to touch just like anyone else’s, meaning, an asexual will experience physical arousal and likely feel appropriate pleasure from sex when touched in a way that feels good to them personally. Asexuality isn’t the lack of sexual functions, it’s the lack of sexual attraction only, and sex can be present without specific attraction. For example, a sex positive asexual might have a what appears to be a quite active sex life for other reasons than attraction solely; emotional bonding, physical pleasure, relaxation and fun are just some reasons to like sex, even with the “kicker” being gone from the act.

The lack of sexual attraction doesn’t automatically mean a partner is undesirable to an ace - it just means they aren’t specifically attractive in that certain way. Other motivations may take over, or they may not.

[wizqevelynart-deactivated201605]

Wow, thank you for this! Posts like these are really helping me to understand asexuality a lot more, and I am super appreciative of that.

[veritinme]

A FRICKING MEN

[thesevenumbrellas]

Supporting bisexuals is ace culture

[missmagooglie]

Supporting aces is bisexual culture

[mythopoeticlicense]

[mrdyketator]

I feel solidarity in this Chili's tonight

[doritosandbluethings]

[ohyoumeanher-deactivated2021062]

@datfearlessfangirl

[flinchyfinch]

Are you saying aces have no heads...?

[get-momoed]

Yes we are headless creatures of the night

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

it's our somewhat equal attraction to genders and shared love of purple

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

[ID: two "shaking hands" memes. both say "bisexuals" on one hand and "aces" on the other. the first meme says "just pick one" in the middle. the second one says "purple."]

[divinity-infinity]

May i also add

[id: two "triple handshake" memes. The hands on both memes are labelled, "bisexuals", "aces", and "enbies" on each hand. The first meme says, "purple" in the middle while the second one says, "just pick one." /end id]

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

excellent addition

[what-even-is-thiss]

Witch: Ah, so you've come to me.

Maiden: Yes. I need your help.

Witch: Unwanted baby?

Maiden: No?

Witch: Want someone dead?

Maiden: What? Of course not.

Witch: That's all I know how to do. What do you need?

Maiden: I'm starting to see why you were shunned from the village.

Witch: Yes, I've killed a lot of people. What do you need?

Maiden: There's a pox in the village.

Witch: It wasn't me this time.

Maiden: I know. Can you fix it or not?

Witch: No. I'm not licensed for that.

Maiden: What do you mean you're not licensed for that?

Witch: I got kicked out of the herbalist's coven.

Maiden: For killing people?

Witch: For killing people.

Maiden: Great, now what do I do? There isn't another witch for at least three towns over.

Witch: And he's an enchanter blacksmith type. Makes protective amulets and beefs up swords. Makes really good horseshoes. Can't fix poxes. Makes a mean rabbit stew though. And...

Maiden: And is very good at sex and hard to kill, yes everyone knows that. You tell us repeatedly. Even though we kicked you out.

Witch: It's important. How are you not dead yet, by the way? You're an adult and you haven't bought anything yet so you should be dead by now.

Maiden: I'm not into people that way. Your weird sex based spells don't work on me. That's why I'm the one that came.

Witch: I would branch out but I'm barred from taking more classes at the guild. Because of the murder.

Maiden: Right, well I'm gonna go before you poison me.

Witch: What about the pox?

Maiden: I do have a mild form of it so you've been exposed too. Someone of your age is much more likely to die from it.

Witch: What?

Maiden: I'd suggest you find an accredited friend that hasn't been convicted of unnecessary murder.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Maiden: I have come a long way to find you.

Enchanter: One second. (throws a sword over his shoulder where it crashes into several metal tools and starts glowing)

Enchanter: Okay, what do you need?

Maiden: There's a pox in my town.

Enchanter: (pulls an amulet out of his pocket and holds it over her head)

Enchanter: You don't seem to have it, but it's touched you.

Maiden: I got better. Can you help?

Enchanter: I enchant swords. Why are you visiting me?

Maiden: Because the only witch in our town is...

Enchanter: Wait, don't tell me. Are you from Ravenfalls?

Maiden: Yeah.

Enchanter: Tabatha. Of course. That quack.

Maiden: She only kills people and does abortions.

Enchanter: Oh no she doesn't do abortions. She just drowns babies. I don't even think she knows what a fetus is.

Maiden: Oh.

Enchanter: Yeah. Terrible cook too. Normally herbalists are pretty good at cooking but she's just...

Maiden: The worst. I know. Do you at least know who can help? All of our elders and babies are dropping off like flies. People are strapping chickens to their arms. It's a mess.

Enchanter: (clicks tongue a few times) The nearest guy that specializes in pox is in the mountains. Not the coast range but the big angry looking pointy ones to the east. What were those called again?

Maiden: The Death Mountains?

Enchanter: Yeah, those. Unfortunate name, really. They're almost tolerable in the spring and summer. Don't know why they live there though.

Maiden: Can you teleport me there?

Enchanter: Why do people always ask that? Look I don't know what you've been hearing from Tabatha or traveling merchants but that's not safe for living creatures.

Maiden: Then what do I do? By the time I get back half the population will either be dead or still have birds strapped to their arms.

Enchanter: I hate to suggest this but you could like... with a shapeshifting dragon? And then ask for a wish?

Maiden: I'm not into people or dragons that way.

Enchanter: Then I guess I'll see if I can do something for your horse's shoes but that won't be nearly as fast.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Maiden: I have...

Herbalist: Come a very long way to see me. I know.

Maiden: How did you...

Herbalist: Everyone says that. Come sit. Do you like tea?

Maiden: I don't have time for tea. My village has a pox.

Herbalist: Which pox?

Maiden: It's mostly affecting older people and it's... purple.

Herbalist: Oh. What shade of purple?

Maiden: Very bright.

Herbalist: Oh, that's not a pox. That's a curse. Or a curse mixed with a usually just annoying pox. Someone in your area has probably pissed someone off.

Maiden: I'm from Ravenfalls.

Herbalist: In that case I think we can both guess who brought forth someone's ire. Who created it though, still remains a mystery. In any case, you can buy this bag of weeds and instruct people to boil them in small batches and inhale the steam. It won't cure anything, but it will most likely help people breathe better, which may help them survive long enough to fight it off.

Maiden: What do I do about Tabatha and the people strapping chickens to their arms?

Herbalist: My dear, some things can't be fixed completely. Plant this all over your town though and Tabatha will most likely avoid you. You can have these for free.

Maiden: I'm not going to bring some magic plant into town unless I know what it is.

Herbalist: Oh, it's not very magic. It's a cedar tree I've enchanted to grow very quickly. She's deathly allergic to cedar wood and pollen.

Maiden: Oh.

Herbalist: I really can't do anything for the chickens though. People will do strange things when they're desperate.

Maiden: Will I ever know who cursed us?

Herbalist: You may or may not. Wile you're here though, would you care to buy a love potion?

Maiden: I'm not into people that way.

Herbalist: You wouldn't fit in at the witches guild then. That's why most of us go in. It's a very good profession for swingers.

Maiden: That's why I went into city government. Well, thank you for all that.

Herbalist: And thank you for visiting. Tell the enchanter that I said hi and tell Tabatha to take a hike for me.

Maiden: I will. You have my word on that.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Enchanter: Hello.

Maiden: Enchanter? What are you doing here?

Enchanter: My name is John.

Maiden: It feels weird to call you that. You're the magic blacksmith I met on my quest.

Enchanter: I understand. So do you know who I'd talk to about renting a lot here?

Maiden: For what purpose? Oh, right. Me. Talk to me about it. I manage Lord Raven's lots and do logging and hunting permits and collect rent and whatnot

Enchanter: I want to set up my shop here. Business is better here for weapons and ever since she moved out, well...

Maiden: Was she after you?

Enchanter: She was under the impression that we were still married.

Maiden: Yes, she definitely was. Well, I think I can set you up. The village will benefit from having a reputable witch nearby. I'll get you in contact with a carpenter and scout out a spot for you.

Enchanter: Wait, I have something for you.

Maiden: An amulet?

Enchanter: For keeping away unwanted romantic advances.

Maiden: (covers her mouth and starts crying just a little bit)

Maiden: Sir, I can't...

Enchanter: You drove away a person that made my life a living hell for years. You saved your town. You drove out a murderer. You went into the Death Mountains in the middle of the winter. Take it.

Maiden: (takes it) John, did I ever tell you when we met that I desperately wanted to become friends with you?

Enchanter: No, but once I'm moved in I think we can give it a try.

Maiden: I'll get the paperwork and meet you at the tavern. Dinner's on me.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

The aromantic fantasy story we've all been waiting for.

[white-throated-packrat]

oh this is lovely

[hues-of-purple]

!!! Ace of Arts !!! (LINK)

It’s March 14th, 2021 and, as promised, my a-spec art book is available today and above are some samples! There are 140 pages with 160 art pieces in total. I’d love some feedback (if possible!)

Thank you again to everyone who has supported this idea and my artwork in general ♥️

I’d really appreciate it if you could reblog this so that the people who liked/reblogged/commented on my 60k post could see it? Thank you!

(Please don’t remove this caption or repost this!)

[catarium]

The duality

This is my personal experience idk if other can relate.

[babblebunny]

I’m calling this segment

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* Just Ace Things *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

[eggastential-biscuits]

I like this art. I agree with it. I am following you.

[violetwolfraven]

“The human equivalent of stepping in a puddle with socks on” that is the greatest insult ever and also great point and wonderful art

[drtanner]

Exclusionists are fucking laughable tbh. Imagine making hatred a core facet of your fucking identity, what a joke. You must be a riot at parties.

[drtanner]

“But they’re taking up all of the LGBT resources!!!” lmao what the fuck is this? Age of Empires? Fucking ARK? I WANT TO BUILD AN AUTO TURRET BUT THE ASEXUALS HAVE BUILT PILLARS OVER ALL THE METAL SPAWNS :((((((