(Gray) Ace Posi

A positivity/support blog for everyone under the asexual umbrella, especially those under the gray ace umbrella! Please feel free to ask me anything, and I'll answer or help to the best of my abilities. Or just drop me a message to chat! I'm 24, biromantic, gray asexual, and a nonbinary girl. All genders, sexualities, romantic orientations, etc. welcome to follow! (icon by @aceneutrality )

[fuckyeahasexual]

Not to be controversial but if you feel comfortable while using the ace label to describe yourself then thats literally ALL the confirmation you need to call yourself as ace, you dont have to go around asking other “ace elders” or “ lgbtqa elders” or consult with your therapist,psychiatrist or have a full blown introspective examination of your mental health,trauma ,gender etc to confirm weather you are “really ace” or not. As long as you feel comfortable with the ace label for yourself, thats all that matters.

Labelling yourself is about YOU not others.Ive seen and been messaged by alot of ace people talking about how they identify as being ace but are stressed that they really arent one bc of x or y thing and like, even though most of those things dont have to do anything with asexuality or sexual attraction, i just want them to know that it doesnt matter as long as considering themself “asexual” feels right to them. And even if they realize that they arent ace its okay too.Misidentification is a common part of exploring one’s sexuality and they havent missed out on anything.

Dont let anyone other than you decide your sexuality for yourself.

[gray-aceful]

this!! i’m always happy to answer messages and take questions, but at the end of the day it always comes down to “do you want to use this label? does it feel right? then do it”

[sophie-frm-mars]

Tumblr is just CRAZY white so I'm less hopeful about the success of this here but

I'm aware I have a fairly sizeable south american audience, so I'm gonna put this request on several platforms. If you'd be open to talking about community and transphobia in society and you're a south american trans person who follows can you me either DM me or email me at [email protected]

[aspec-quilt-project]

welcome to the ace quilt project!! quilt square submissions are open now. check out the faq if you have any questions, and follow along at @ace-quilt-project to see how this project grows. 🫶

[queenieofaces]

The 2025 Ace Community Survey is now open

It’s that time of year again – we are now recruiting participants for the Ace Community Survey! The Ace Community Survey is run by the Ace C

It's that time of year again!

[sunflowersosa]

Nigerian Pride 🏳️‍🌈🇳🇬

I meant to have this out yesterday. Happy belated pride. :)

[kribye]

Aromantic Study Participants needed!

Aromantic study participants needed! We are looking for anyone who identifies as Aromantic or on the Aromantic Spectrum and is at least 18 years old to participate in a research study. Participants will be asked a series of open ended questions about their Aromantic experiences. This study seeks to examine how these experiences impact AroAllo people in particular, though AroAce participants are more than welcome! Thank you!

https://uwlax.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0PTmYWpt9qPtsCa?Q_CHL=qr

[kyri45]

💜Asexual Stickers for the ACE week!!💜

It's the best week of the year!!! :D (aand also because it's so close to halloween, hehe)Be sure to check the Halloween Pirde collection on my RedBubble store before it's gone!! It will be up until November 30th!

[staff]

Tumblr Tuesday: Ace Art

Happy Asexual Awareness Week to all aces and your allies. Here is a collection of exuberant ace art for your exuberant ace hearts. Keep on breaking those allo assumptions, one artwork at a time 🖤🩶🤍💜

@sandrune-art:

@evocaitart:

@unwashedace:

@tinyflowerclub:

@vuelode-irbis:

@szczurherbacany:

@wafflenati0n:

@dinxie:

@pokimoko:

@werew0lfprincess:

@plutonicbees:

@cowheist:

@lokithefoolishegg:

@yujateaandpi:

@transcendragon:

@starryaves:

@kyri45:

@squishlamb:

@peppermintbits:

@kateammann:

@soni-dragon:

@kynni-purri:

@theartofmadeline:

@icannotgetoverbirds:

@meoskyan:

[thatonefunnycloud]

Acespecs, how old were you when you realized you were on the asexual spectrum?

10 and under

11-14

15-18

19-22

23-26

26-30

30-40

40-50

50+

see results

Voting ended onOct 16, 2024

[im-green-salami]

Aro/ace earrings by EveningAlchemy

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Do any other demisexual or gray-asexual folks struggle with guilt for feeling sexual attraction sometimes? Or being sex-favorable and feeling alienated because you like and want sex? It sometimes feels like I'm betraying my fellow aces by being a sexual person because the gold star standard of asexuality is "no sex ever"

(Ps i dont normally send asks to blogs like this. If this is out of line, go ahead and ignore)

I think a lot of people do feel this way, Anon, but it's because the reality is that a lot of asexuals are still sexual in some way. Not every ace, because it is a spectrum, but more than I think a lot of people realise.

This is one of the reasons why I really like to really hammer the idea that asexual does not mean non-sexual, and asexuality is not anti-sexuality. You are not required to denounce the sexual parts of yourself to use these labels and be part of this community. It's OK to embrace them if that's what you want to do and labels like sex favourable ace, gray-asexual, etc. all exist for a reason. Because these are real experiences that deserve to be acknowledged too.

Followers, if any demisexual or gray-asexual followers want to weigh in and give their thoughts, please do.

All the best, Anon!

[redbeardace]

We ran a little identity poll at our booth, and here were the results.

The main takeaway is that people like frogs and glittery stars, and apparently don't like cupcakes or owls.

(Given the clear tagging, the obvious theme of the flags, and the fact that it's for an Aces & Aros group and posted by an ace and aro themed account, I didn't think I needed to mention this, but apparently I do: This was specifically a survey to better understand the prevalence of specifically ace and aro related identities at a specifically aro and ace group's booth so that we could better serve our group's members. That's why it doesn't have more general flags on it.)

[asexualresearch]

The 2024 Ace Community Survey has been released!

The survey was created by a community-based volunteer organization in collaboration with Northwestern University in order to track the makeup and wellbeing of asexual-spectrum people.  Any participants age 15 or older are welcome.

Опрос сообщества Ace, 2024 г.

Опубликован опрос сообщества Ace 2024! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

Опрос был создан общественной волонтерской организацией в сотрудничестве с Северо-Западным университетом для отслеживания состава и благополучия людей асексуального спектра. Приглашаются любые участники в возрасте 15 лет и старше.

Encuesta de la Comunidad Ase 2024

¡Ya se ha publicado la Encuesta de la Comunidad Ase de 2024! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

La encuesta ha sido creada por una organización de personas voluntarias de la comunidad ase en colaboración con la Universidad Northwestern para estudiar posibles tendencias en la composición y bienestar de las personas en el espectro asexual. Todas las personas de 15 años o más son bienvenidas.

L’Enquête de la Communauté Ace de 2024 est maintenant ouverte

C’est de nouveau ce moment de l’année – nous recrutons maintenant des participant·e·s pour l’Enquête de la Communauté Ace !

L’Enquête de la Communauté Ace est dirigée par l’équipe de l’Enquête de la Communauté Ace – une organisation communautaire de bénévoles – en collaboration avec l’Université Northwestern. Elle recueille des informations importantes sur les profils démographiques et les expériences des membres de la communauté ace, y compris les personnes asexuelles, demisexuelles, a-grises et celles avec des identités apparentées. Les participant·e·s ont également la possibilité de mettre les données à la disposition des équipes de recherche externes ou uniquement de notre équipe.

2024 Ace Community Enquête

De 2024 Ace Community Enquête is uitgekomen! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

De enquête is gemaakt door een community-based vrijwilligersorganisatie in samenwerking met Northwestern University om de samenstelling en het welzijn van mensen op het aseksuele-spectrum te onderzoeken. Mensen van 15 jaar of ouder zijn welkom om deel te nemen aan deze enquête.

Aszex Közösségi Felmérés 2024

Megjelent a 2024-as Aszex Közösségi Felmérés! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

A felmérést önkéntesekből álló közösségi szervezet készítette a Northwestern Egyetem közreműködésében, hogy nyomon kövessék az aszexuális spektrumon elhelyezkedő emberek összetételét és jóllétét. Minden 15 éves vagy annál idősebb kitöltőt örömmel fogadnak.

Sondaggio delle comunità ace 2024

È stato pubblicato il Sondaggio delle comunità ace del 2024! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

Il sondaggio è stato creato da un’organizzazione di volontariз della comunità ace in collaborazione con la Northwestern University, con l’obiettivo di tener traccia della composizione e del benessere delle persone sullo spettro dell’asessualità. Ogni partecipante dai 15 anni in su è benvenutə.

Inquérito da Comunidade Ace 2024

O Inquérito da Comunidade Ace 2024 já está disponível! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

O inquérito foi criado por uma organização voluntária, em colaboração com a Northwestern University, com o objetivo de analisar a composição e o bem-estar das pessoas do espetro assexual. Podem participar todas as pessoas com 15 anos ou mais.

Ace Community Survey 2024 er nu åben

Ace Community Survey [da. Undersøgelse af det Aseksuelle Miljø] bliver foretaget af Ace Community Survey Teamet i samarbejde med Northwestern University. Undersøgelsen samler værdifuld viden om demografien og oplevelser blandt medlemmer i det aseksuelle miljø, hvilket omfatter aseksuelle, demiseksuelle, gray-aseksuelle og relaterede identiteter.

Klik her for at deltage i Ace Community Survey 2024:

https://redcap.nubic.northwestern.edu/redcap/surveys/?s=8HDXK4337TPJ8JHP eller https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

Alle (ace, ikke-ace, eller stadig questioning) kan deltage. Så længe du er 15 år gammel eller ældre vil vi gerne høre fra dig!

Du kan se offentliggjorte resultater fra undersøgelsen på https://acecommunitysurvey.org. Hvis du vil have en automatisk mail opdatering, når der er nye resultater eller meddelelser, kan du abonnere her.

2024 年无性恋社群调查现已开放

无性恋社群调查由无性恋社群调查团队与西北大学合作开展。 它收集有关无性恋或无性恋光谱社群成员的人口统计和经历的宝贵信息，包括无性恋、半无性恋、灰色无性恋和相关身份。

单击此处参加 2024 年无性恋社群调查：

https://redcap.nubic.northwestern.edu/redcap/surveys/?s=8HDXK4337TPJ8JHP 或 https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

Ace Community Umfrage 2024

Die Ace Community Umfrage 2024 wurde veröffentlicht! https://tinyurl.com/AceSurvey2024

Die Umfrage wurde von einer community-basierten Ehrenamtlichen-Organisation in Zusammenarbeit mit der Northwestern University (Evanston, Illinois, USA) erstellt, um die Zusammensetzung und das Wohlergehen von Menschen auf dem asexuellen Spektrum zu verfolgen. Alle Teilnehmende ab einem Alter von 15 Jahren sind willkommen.

[fuckyeahasexual]

Read Full Article Here

[swampgallows]

An important excerpt:

Being a Black asexual woman often feels like living in the shadow of the Mammy, a caricature whose asexuality is conceived of only because she is expected to mother everyone around her. Mammy is allowed to be free of the racialized hypersexualization only because it permits her more time, energy, and space to perform her endless duties. She is not allowed to have desire or desirability, not allowed to seek out sexual pleasures and intimacies, because her entire focus should be on her domestic and emotional labor. 

Mammy’s desexualization serves the world, but it does not serve her. Because we have no other dominant cultural images of Black asexuality, this is the type of existence that many people expect me to have when they learn that I am asexual. This world so often makes me feel like I’m not allowed to be asexual, especially on my own terms. I’m not allowed to be asexual in a way that doesn’t reinforce stereotypes about my body and my desirability that are rooted in historical anti-Blackness, misogynoir, and fatphobia. 

Asexuality is already greatly invisibilized as a queer identity. Black asexuality is even more so. This leaves many Black asexuals with unique barriers to finding our place on the asexuality spectrum and developing community with others like us. This is why it’s not enough to simply talk about asexuality awareness. We must also acknowledge the ways race and (assumed and/or assigned) gender play into our understandings of our sexualities, and how others project sexuality onto us. 

[anistarrose]

[ID: a headline from the Black Youth Project reading: "Black asexuals are not unicorns, there are more of us than we know" by Sherronda J. Brown. End ID.]

[morggo]

I Will Not Apologize

Happy Pride, ya'll.

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Shirts: https://mxmorgan.threadless.com/mens/t-shirt/regular

[morggo]

Additional flags have been added to the downloadable license pack, which also includes several templates to add your own flag. There are also new prints and tees with this design as well. ✌️

[thefrogginbullfish]

"Graysexual" 💜🩶

[bloggingboutburgers]

So uh… Yeah, shooting my shot I guess! The Kickstarter will run for 30 days, and if you pledge within the first 72h, you'll get your book signed for free (see "Early bird" reward!)

If you'd like to back this project, head here !