โ โ . โ โ this is a sfw agere sideblog for @xyzcove , for syskids and regressors alike
We used to regress / have littles out much more often , but we decided to make a space for them anyway !
โ โ . โ โ we are 19 , have DID , are in a relationship , and have been in the regression community for 6ish years now . You may have seen us modding agere discord servers in the past !
Some things that help us feel small / comfort us are : cleancore , deco doggy kennels , our respective caregivers , coloring , nests / made up beds , pajamas , forts , bright colors (Lisa Frank/kidcore) , pacifiers , big clothes , and more . . .
โ โ . โ โ This blog is syskid , regressor , fictive , and caregiver run ! This means there are multiple admins with different identities , pronouns , etc . So please be mindful of who you're interacting with !
We'd love to make friends , our asks are always open ! Thanks for taking the time to read !
Looong text post about questioning myself and Perma regression. Help appreciated!
Being back in the agere space has made me question if I'm a permaregressor. Am I a permaregressor? Am I just stunted mentally because I'm autistic? Can I be a permaregressor if my mindset partially comes from a developmental disability?
I always think back to when I was younger, when I was that kid who teachers loved, who was so matureโ who was just quicker and smarter than my peers, but not enough to stay in gt with the really smart kids. They always made me feel so mature so ahead, but I think I stopped there. I thought I was developing at a quicker rate and would keep going, but in actuality I just developed quicker and stopped, I think?
And I don't know if that stunt came from trauma and instability, or just from being autistic. If I truly was done there or if I was stopped because of those things.
Similar experiences and words of encouragement are appreciated. I want nothing more than to understand and love myself the way that I need
Looong text post about questioning myself and Perma regression. Help appreciated!
Being back in the agere space has made me question if I'm a permaregressor. Am I a permaregressor? Am I just stunted mentally because I'm autistic? Can I be a permaregressor if my mindset partially comes from a developmental disability?
I always think back to when I was younger, when I was that kid who teachers loved, who was so matureโ who was just quicker and smarter than my peers, but not enough to stay in gt with the really smart kids. They always made me feel so mature so ahead, but I think I stopped there. I thought I was developing at a quicker rate and would keep going, but in actuality I just developed quicker and stopped, I think?
And I don't know if that stunt came from trauma and instability, or just from being autistic. If I truly was done there or if I was stopped because of those things.
Similar experiences and words of encouragement are appreciated. I want nothing more than to understand and love myself the way that I need
โก Labels are not easy for me to adhere to myself. For some time, I experienced a lot of mental stress, anxiety, and turmoil about whether or not I fit into the "permakid" and "permaregressor" labels. And what I have learned is that, even though it is important to know what labels actually mean, labels are about how they fit me, not the other way around. It's not about how neatly I can fit myself into "permakid" or "permaregressor", it's about if the label fits my experiences and what I feel; if they can adequately get across what I feel, experience, and want to express, and knowing this for myself has really eased things for me immensely ๐ธ
30 days of little space | day 4 | what's your favorite animal ?
We've decided to let each little answer for themselves on this one !
๐ปviolet
Rabbits. (Because she matches with me as a bunny and a fox :) -Minnie)
๐ฆkitty
Kitty's favorite animals are kitties and teddy bears. She loves how soft and fluffy they are!
๐บvox
My favorite animal is a shark because they have big teeth and fins, and they never stop swimming. They just keep going no matter what. They also come in a bunch of different shapes and colors. I like the ones with the flat bellies
i- the little in our system, nugget- have been asked my boundaries a few times, and i decided to make a boundary list for my bio- as "treat me like an adult" and "treat me like a child" can lack a lot of nuance! we've seen a few boundary list templates, but they don't really cover all the things that littles may have different boundaries on, so we're making a guide here! feel free to use it if you want, no credit needed, and use as many of the boundary types as you need or want!
this guide is mostly made to be shared online, less for in-person interactions, which should have boundaries discussed with any caregiver, friend, or anyone else you're out to, though this could also be used as a basis for that.
if anyone else has suggestions for boundary categories, please add them so other people can include them
Boundaries:
General commenting on & treating as age boundaries: [e.g. do not mention age, treat generally as a specific age regardless of age identity, treat entirely as an adult member, etc]
Skill & memory sharing: [e.g. shares all memories with the system, does not share memories, has some skills but not all, can do anything the rest of the system can]
Heavy conversation topic boundaries: [e.g. no sex discussion/mentions, politics, venting, etc]
Language boundaries: [e.g. no swearing]
Nickname boundaries: [e.g. no nicknames, no pet names, only friends can call nicknames, etc]
Flirting/compliment boundaries: [e.g. no compliments, compliments but no flirting, only partner/s can flirt, etc]
Lighter conversation topic boundaries: [e.g. talk about little kids' shows, talk about stuffies, talk about video games, talk about more mature hobbies]
Interaction space boundaries: [e.g. cannot be online, must be supervised online, can only be in dedicated little spaces, cannot be in adult-specific spaces, can go anywhere]
Patronisation/infantilisation boundaries: [e.g. speak in a way one might to a child, be cheery/encouraging, use baby talk]
"Parenting" boundaries: [e.g. don't tell me what to do, cgs can make rules but others can't, ask a system member first]
Been debating making one of those "x protects this blog" boxes of our childhood comfort character but unfortunately I can't break free of the chains of cringe and fear
something i love about regressing is being able to recreate childhood moments without the bad parts. i can enjoy doing a worksheet at my own pace, free from the pressure to impress everyone else with above-average performance. i get to make mistakes, take my time figuring things out, and not know the answers right away. no one's going to say they didn't expect that from a girl like me. i'm not an encyclopedia, after all. โฎ (. โ แด โ.) โญ
30 days of little space | day 3 | do you sleep with a stuffie ?
Yes ! As a matter of fact , we sleep with a stuffie or blanket bunched up regardless of having a regressor or syskid out . We find it difficult to sleep otherwise , because it's simply uncomfortable
