Rachel

I ain't Jasmine Masters but I got something to say

[shineemoon]

Kibum lost at rock paper scissors AND HE LITERALLY RAN OUT OF THE STUDIO TO AVOID DOING THE AEGYO I CAN’T STOP LAUGHING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[itsvvhatever-blog]

He has that sadness in his eyes that you only see in Eastern European gay porn

[irenydraws]

so quite a lot of people expressed interest in a guide to lion dance! and since the lunar new year is coming up in a couple weeks, which means everyone’s exposure to lions is probably going to increase, i figured i’d go ahead and make it! right click + open in new tab to fullview, etc etc, i hope it’s helpful, although if you only take one thing away from this powerpoint, it’s this: lions are not dragons

disclaimer: i learned fut san style at an american university, and the senior members of the troupe were almost all from hong kong and taiwan, so most of my knowledge is drawn from what they taught me. lion dance varies widely depending on the style and the country of origin, and many schools do things differently! this is just an attempt to establish a baseline and give you a really basic intro to one of my favorite art forms. :)

[bigtallbutchstyle]

A New Look with Old and New Pieces

This outfit came together because of the tie, which I bought months ago but hadn’t worn yet.  I really enjoyed how everything came together.  I’m also pretty jazzed that Chubstr recently rebloged from here recently.

Shirt - Gift from a friend at a local clothing swap, purchased at Kohl’s

Vest - thrift, found by partner who enthusiastically suggested I get it

Tie - Chaps, from TJ Maxx  I am sorry, but who can resist a tie with bandana-wearing Frenchies on it?

Jeans - Nautica, from Destination XL

Socks - Gold Toe, from their outlet store

Shoes - Doc Martens, from Ross

[bigtallbutchstyle]

Look at that Face

Recently Ursula and I won a look alike contest.  Of course it helps that we had on similar hats and houndstooth neck accessories.  Ursula is adorable in her cap, which we got at Target.  Her little collar was from PetSmart, and her harness has black-eyed susans on it.

[astrowithkaro]

❥ Language Of Birthdays

A series of each birthday and the significance to each one according to astrology.

The readings apply for both men and women and are quite general so don’t worry about that! Here are the links:

Language Of Birthdays Pt.1 : January 1 - March 17

Language Of Birthdays Pt.2 : March 18 - May 26

Language Of Birthdays Pt.3 : May 27 - August 7

Language Of Birthdays Pt.4 : August 8 - October 19 - FINISHED

Language Of Birthdays Pt.5 October 20 - December 31 - FINISHED

I get this info from a book called Secret Language Of Birthdays written by Gary Goldschneider. All I do is summarize the info of each date for you guys, I also own the book Secret Language Of Relationships so lmk if anyone wants that series as well❣️

PS! I prioritize asks. Before sending an ask, check if your day is already available!

[boutardieu]

Fruits Basket's Chronology/Timeline

It’s explicitly mentioned in the manga that Tohru was born in the year of the dog, on May 6th. Therefore it must have happened between January 25th of 1982 and 12th February of 1983… Same for Yuki and Kyo, naturally. Note that in Japan a school year starts around April ! Given that she’s 16 at the beginning of the manga, in the first of her three high school years, we can deduce the following chronology. I do not have the 23 volumes in my home at the moment so I cannot complete it till the end of the series, but I think it’s a pretty good start. I hope this will be useful to fanfic writers who try to stick as close to the canon as possible !

1970, February 6th/1971, January 26th : Estimation of Shigure Sohma’s birthday (he’s born in the year of the Dog like Tohru). It seems that he finished high school sooner than Hatori and Ayame.

1972 : Estimation of Ayame Sohma’s birthday (he told Tohru there was a ten-years gap between him and Yuki). Seems Hatori was around during Ayame’s high school years, he’s probably the same age.

1974 : Estimation of Kureno Sohma’s birthday (he’s two years younger than the trio)

1976 : Estimation of Ritsu Sohma’s birthday (he’s four years younger than the trio)

1980, June 21st/July 22nd : Estimation of Kagura’s birthday (she’s a Cancer)

1981 : Estimation of Isuzu/Rin Sohma’s birthday

1982 : Estimation of Yuki Sohma’s, Kyo Sohma’s, Arisa Uotani and Hanajima’s birthdays.

1982, May 6th : Tohru Honda is born

1983, June 21st/July 22nd : Estimation of Hatsuharu’s birthday (he’s a Cancer)

1984 : Estimation of Kisa Sohma’s birthday.

1983 : Estimation of Katsuya Sohma’s death (Tohru says she was three years old when it happened)

1985 : Estimation of Hiro Sohma’s birthday.

1989, April : Yuki Sohma’s second year of primary school begins. During this year, his secret was accidentally discovered, forcing Hatori to erase the memories of his classmates.

1998, April : Tohru’s Honda first year of high school begins.

1998, May 1st : Death of Kyoko. After that, Kyo will spend four months in the mountains, training.

1998, September : Approximate starting time of the series. Tohru spends one week in a tent. Kyo had been living in Shigure’s house for three days when he had an argument with Tohru on the school’s roof. Shigure confirms later that it’s “the end of the summer.”

1999, 15th/16th Februray : New Year’s Eve. Momiji, whose year begins, dances with Kisa ; the Zodiac enters a Rabbit Year.

1999, May 1st : Yuki and Kyo escort Tohru, Uo and Hana to Kyoko’s grave.

[thedruidsforest]

Midsummer walks

Kalamazoo Nature Center, Michigan

Summer 2024

(This one was very "GET OFF THE ROAD! *ringwraith screech*)

linktree / instagram

[birthdaylobotomy]

Hey dude. Letting you know someone in the queer platonic group chat (the one you left after Kai’s alter made some acephobic comments, which he apologized for later btw :/) said they found receipts on your twitter of you liking a James Charles tweet which is really,,, yikes. Also Rainbow said you were tweeting on ur Steven universe roleplay account that were gonna rewatch atla which is like a really transphobic and racist and sexist show and you know how Ash feels about even if they won’t say anything about it bc of their anxiety ,,,, idk dude I just wanted to let you know. I know Ash can be biphobic sometimes but they also live in an apartment and their parents are divorced so they have ptsd from it ://// I think Ash might write a callout but me and Rainbow are trying to calm them down just be aware and maybe stop being toxic

[gefdreamsofthesea]

Hot take of the day: a worrying number of leftists are actually just Evangelical Christians with the serial numbers filed off

The world is sinful a capitalist hellscape but we just have to wait until the Second Coming the Revolution happens when everything will be magically fixed. Any attempt to make actual progress makes you a lukewarm Christian liberal anything less than the Apocalypse the Revolution (which we are forever waiting for btw) is completely useless . Also consuming certain media or makin certain lifestyle choices is sinful and unchristian bad praxis.

[uncahier]

[pathetic-at-the-disco]

The time that Ryan Ross was catfished by a fan pretending to be Brendon Urie (Masterpost)

In 2012, an obsessive Panic! at the Disco fan named Chelsey Lynn used the powers of the internet to forcibly insert herself into the lives of her favorite band members—most notably catfishing Ryan Ross for about nine months under the guise of being Brendon Urie. Yes, this really happened.

Chelsey was particularly obsessed with Brendon and Sarah, and she didn’t even like Ryan all that much. She ran several fan blogs about the Uries, which would often release pictures never before seen by the public. All the fans were loving it. After all, who doesn’t love new pictures? What they didn’t know is that Chelsey had gotten the pictures through deception, and it would soon get a lot worse.

She had hacked several accounts of people close to Brendon and Sarah Urie, and even made puppet accounts purporting to be their family members. She made spreadsheets and long documents on her computer listing their relatives, addresses, their relatives’ addresses, and other highly personal information. Many of their private photos ended up on Chelsey’s blogs. And sometime around September 2012, she hacked Shane Valdez’s Facebook account, which kept him locked out of it for over a month.

And through Shane’s account, Chelsey messaged none other than Ryan Ross and got his actual phone number. (For her part, Chelsey claims that she got Ryan’s phone number through one of his friends.)

She pretended to be Brendon, wanting to be rekindle their friendship (which had officially fractured sometime around 2010). Ryan was naively receptive to the idea, and began texting who he thought was his former best friend.

Chelsey was so obsessed with Brendon that she could mimic his speech patterns, to the point that Ryan was completely fooled. Of course, Ryan had no reason to doubt “Brendon’s” authenticity, and either way, he was going through a tough time in his life and needed emotional support wherever he could find it. Chelsey/”Brendon” also made a convincing fake Instagram account, which Ryan followed and regularly left comments on.

After about nine months (Chelsey claims it was six) of catfishing Ryan, which brings us to early August 2013, Chelsey began to regret her decisions and became depressed and suicidal. Several Tumblr users, most notably @dallonsmiles​ (AKA Hannah Bear), figured out what was going on with the Facebook accounts and got her to confess over Skype.

But in addition to owning up to her crimes, Chelsey also admitted to being in contact with Ryan, which no one knew about yet. She bragged about all the information she’d gotten from Ryan. She had fished for details and gotten him to open up about Panic’s split, his family issues, his relationship issues with Z, his broken friendship with Brendon, and more.

The screenshots are highly personal and disturbing, because she’s bragging about information that Ryan shared in confidence. I am not going to post everything (someone has to respect Ryan’s privacy, after all!), but this is a brief taste of the conversations:

Hannah Bear may have played along to get in Chelsey’s good books, but she immediately messaged Ryan’s then-manager Shane Morris about it, and thankfully Shane actually took her seriously. Shane broke the news to Ryan, who was embarrassed and horrified (as you can imagine), and then he got back to the worried fans—thus confirming that this actually happened.

Chelsey was not done, however, and released screenshots of several of her actual text conversations with Ryan. Again, I am not going to post them (or links to them) out of respect for Ryan. If you really want to see them, Google exists.

Chelsey also released an apology letter on Tumblr:

I’d like to apologize to Brendon Urie, for deliberately impersonating him to friends, fans and affiliates, I’d like to apologize to Ryan Ross for impersonating a long time friend and convincing him of consolation with said friend, obtaining information from him about events involving his life, music, and past. Information was shared with a few people online regarding the situation of Ryan’s friendship with Brendon Urie.

I would like to apologize to Sarah Urie for impersonating her, and her husband, and taking up her time regarding the situations involving me.

I’d like to apologize to Hannah Brown, Ronnie Morgan and any other fans I have spoken to as Brendon or about the situations involving Brendon, family members, or Ryan Ross.

I’d like to apologize to Shane Morris for involving him in this situation, and that the situation had to turn out like this.

I would also like to thank Shane Morris for not taking any legal action as long as I am to never contact Ryan Ross or any of the other band members again.

I’d like to apologize to the fanbase, for making a complete falsification of what a true fan really is, I am aware also that I am in need of therapy and medication to continue my life and move on in a healthy manner. I am sorry for lying to all of them about where I obtained certain information and where I obtained private photo’s. All private photo’s and information have been removed from my computer, all accounts have been deleted and all phone numbers or addresses have been removed as well. I severely hope there is never anything like this in the fandom again, and that it continues on healthier and stronger without fabrication and drama.

I am aware that Shane Morris has taken my contact information, and will use it in regards of me ever contacting his artist again.

I am aware that what I did was wrong, immoral, obsessive, compulsive and unhealthy. I am also aware that anyone I have wronged or convinced of my personification as Brendon Urie can take legal action against me, though I severely hope they do not.

Shane has given me a list of therapists in my city, so I can choose and speak to them, Before Shane gave me the link to said therapists I was already looking into admitting myself into a mental ward for 2 weeks. I will be keeping Shane posted on my situation regarding therapy and moving on with my life without my Monomania, Depression and Personality Disorders. I am fully aware now that what I have done is wrong, and everything that I obtained was illegal, private, and immoral. This experience has made me want to be a better person, a person that doesn’t keep up a facade, because they don’t like who they really are. I have learned that people aren’t just toys you can take out of the box and play with and put back in, they are people with feelings, lives, and goals. I am sorry for mistreating every person I’ve spoken to. I am looking forward to changing my future in the best way possible. In a way this was a good thing for me, I finally got the karma I deserved and probably needed.

I’m sorry for being a huge waste of everyone’s time, I will get better. I want to.

-C.K.

As you can imagine, this experience left Ryan worse for wear. His life began to spiral out of control throughout 2013, and he was clearly unwell. Shane Morris even unhelpfully spread rumors that Ryan needed to be checked into rehab.

These are his first two Instagram posts after finding out the truth in late August 2013. And, um, they’re pretty disturbing in context.

His first post-catfish selfie also showed some signs of distress:

As you can imagine, this experience may have ruined whatever chance Ryan and Brendon had of ever rekindling their friendship. It is very telling that Ryan thought he could be friends with Brendon again specifically because the person texting back was not, in fact, Brendon. This horrible betrayal of Ryan’s confidence probably gave him a chance to reevaluate whether he’d want to be friends with Brendon again.

So, when they actually ran into each other in real life at Adam Levine’s Halloween party in 2015, Brendon decided to try to be friends again.

And Ryan did not text the real Brendon back.

~Mod C

SOURCES: (x) (x) (x)

P.S. Basically, this is a large part of why we here at Pathetic! at the Disco are asking everyone to Leave Ryan Alone! He has suffered more than enough already, especially from his fans. Please Leave Ryan Alone!

P.P.S. Chelsey is still VERY ACTIVE in the Panic! fandom and is still up to her old tricks. She has immensely popular accounts on Instagram and YouTube, under the name of brendonurievines. Please spread the word about her misdeeds so everyone won’t accidentally support such a cruel individual.

[pathetic-at-the-disco]

@a-sleepy-human

I agree with this, but I want to say that it’s sick to send death threats to anyone and especially to tell someone to kill themselves. That’s unacceptable despite the circumstances. I don’t support Chelsey Lynn and I never will, her actions make me feel sick. But nobody has the right to tell her to commit suicide.

We agree. We would never, ever excuse or condone that kind of behavior. No one deserves to be told to kill themselves.

~Mods C, M, and B

[carolinaknowswhy]

gen z has to reckon with its radicalization problem. you are not a morally pure and superior generation of youth come to save the world, your men and boys are radicalized at an unprecedented level and you ignore it because it’s too hard to address but you have to. these boys are in your classes, they date your friends, you know them and you cannot continue to pretend this is an “old white guy” problem

[carolinaknowswhy]

girls are contributing, too. the coquette aesthetic, the “i don’t want to girlboss i want a man to pay my bills”, girlmath girljob girlmoney. it’s a joke, it’s clothes, it’s whatever, i get it but it is driving a mentality of traditional gender roles and you know you’re joking but your boyfriend doesn’t. your kid brother doesn’t. you have to stop this shit it is a contributing factor

[carolinaknowswhy]

gen z has to reckon with its radicalization problem. you are not a morally pure and superior generation of youth come to save the world, your men and boys are radicalized at an unprecedented level and you ignore it because it’s too hard to address but you have to. these boys are in your classes, they date your friends, you know them and you cannot continue to pretend this is an “old white guy” problem

[myspace]

Simple Plan recording the What’s New Scooby-Doo? theme song

[ruinedchildhood]

[moncoeurestatoimonamour]

Massif des Écrins

Hauts Alpes / France 🇫🇷

By ©️LM

[jb-blunk]

in this terrifying world you continuously have the power to offer someone else a little relief . why would you withhold that. do you remember what a little relief feels like? it feels like a lot

[testing-stormneko]

excuse me? are you suggesting i frolic directly into someone's emotional space and assume what brings them relief, potentially causing more stress? are you encouraging people to reach past their own boundaries to help, increasing net suffering if it costs more than the other gains? surely not; that would be advocating for emotional self-harm.

[jb-blunk]

this is a post about the woman who waived my late fee at the bank .

[testing-stormneko]

good for you, good for her, the wording on the initial post feels closer to blaming people who don't reach out than celebrating those who do by a large enough margin that i feel the need to hit back

[jb-blunk]

you are a tar pit

[ziseviolet]

Qipao/Cheongsam Taobao Shop Recs

A while ago I received a direct message asking for recs on where to buy qipao/cheongsam, and I figured I’d make a post for others who’d also be interested. 

First of all - I think qipao should be tried on and bought in-person if at all possible, since having the right fit is important - especially if it’s for a formal occasion like a wedding. However, since that’s often not possible, I’ve compiled a list of online shop recs, mainly for more casual occasions.

Since English-language online qipao shops are plentiful and easy to find, I’ll be focusing this list on Taobao shops only. Please note that these are my personal recs, based on my own aesthetic preferences. Thus most of the recs are for shops focused on retro-inspired, minguo-style qipao made using the traditional 平裁/pingcai (flat tailoring) method. Also, I have not actually purchased qipao from any of these shops (all my qipao were bought in person) - this is based mainly on how appealing I find the designs.

1. 嬉姷/Xi You - Elegant qipao modelled closely on historical designs, mainly from the Republican era/minguo. Careful attention paid to historical details. My favorite qipao shop to browse for fun:

2. 海上芳时/Shanghai Fancy - Specializes in chic minguo-style designs of the 1920s-1940s. Recently came out with a neat art deco-inspired collection:

3. 唐之语/Tang Zhi Yu - Retro-style qipao in a variety of bold prints, with a focus on the form-fitting designs of the 1950s-1960s, including those from the film “In the Mood for Love”:

4. 繁莳/Fancy Dream - Dreamy, delicate retro-inspired qipao and modified qipao. Also has a nice selection of winter majia (vests):

5. Top Ulara - A large selection of classic, retro-style qipao with a hint of glamour. Offers lots of long/thick/layered qipao suitable for colder weather:

6. 梦回故里/Menghui Guli - Nostalgic, conservative retro-style qipao for all seasons. Old-fashioned in a good way:

7. 晴山制衣/Qingshan Zhiyi - Retro-style qipao in fresh, vivid colors and an interesting variety of designs and patterns:

8. 限时赏味/Xianshi Shangwei - Streamlined, retro-style qipao in subtle colors and prints that exemplify understated elegance: 

9. 茉茉/Momo - Tons of options for simple, cute, and casual retro-style qipao suitable for daily wear. Designs tend towards monochromes and all-over prints. Another review/rec here:

10. 如及/Yu Gallery - Simple yet elegant retro-style and contemporary qipao. I love the shop’s use of sheer fabrics & layering in its designs:

11. 向南飞FLY - Offers a selection of casually stylish retro-style qipao and modified qipao for daily chic:

12. 川黛/Chuan Dai - Soft, feminine, pastel-infused qipao & modified qipao in retro-inspired and contemporary styles:

13. 四斤自制/Sijin Studio - Creative, avant-garde takes on (modified) qipao & qipao-inspired outfits:

14. 密扇/Mukzin - Colorful, playful, and irreverent modified qipao and qipao-inspired outfits. There’s also an English website here:

If you like the above qipao but still want an English website, there are several Taobao resellers that carry similar designs - for example, Beth and Brian Qipao. The hanfu shop Nuwa Hanfu also offers a carefully curated array of qipao, including plus-size qipao.

Finally, when it comes to in-person shops, I want to highlight Xiangjiang Silk Co., a relatively new boutique in New York City specializing in actual vintage 1950s-1960s qipao. There’s an article here on the boutique and its founder Heather Guo (who was featured in Vogue). Store visits are appointment-only, so you’ll have to reach out to Heather via her social media if you want to drop by.

If anyone has reviews of the above shops and/or more qipao shop recs, please share! ^^

Bonus: I also have online shop recs for hanfu (1, 2), modified hanfu/hanyuansu (1, 2), hanfu accessories, weimao, and hair accessories.