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pidgie-core

-🍄Moss rug but now with MUSHROOM PLUSHIES YEAAAAAA (theyre from jellycat heheh)🍄-

1five1two

'The Inspiration'. Xavier Mellery. 1845-1921.

exigencelost

I don’t remember if this was in the book or if I heard her tell a story in an interview, but I learned somewhere years ago that when Allison Bechdel sent her mother a draft copy of Are You My Mother? (Bechdel’s frankly very exposing graphic memoir about her relationship with her mother), asking for, I don’t know? Feedback? Permission? Absolution? her mother’s whole and entire response was “It coheres.” Two words and a period. And it’s absolutely true about that book and the most impressive thing about it, actually. The book collages an enormous amount of time and space and thought into a coherent piece of art. It could so easily have failed to do so, but it succeeded. I think about this all the time both because of the efficiency of Bechdel’s mother’s commentary and the myriad conclusions I find myself itching to leap to about her personality based on that single anecdote, but also because it got me thinking about coherence as an artistic value. As perhaps the final artistic value. So, you had something to say. Did you say it?

loish

Baby donkeys or children from pinocchio? You decide.

kibblesandbitch

Here’s something to chew on.

coldasaslab

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whistlenotes

honestly

poesieplease-deactivated2020061

In case you wanna read the article this quote is from: http://rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/

cygnaut

Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. Troublesome behaviors, such as lying, skipping school, bullying other people, even being socially awkward are often signs that a teenager is dealing with anger that they are unable to name as anger.

Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.

Anger is so successfully sublimated that girls lose the ability to understand what it feels and looks like. Is her heart racing? Does she feel flushed or shaky? Does she clench her jaws at night? Is she breaking out in hives? Does she cry for no reason? Laugh inappropriately during difficult conversations? Fly off the handle over something that seems inconsequential? You can see where I’m going here…those crazy girl hormones, right? Better to just think of it as a phase.

For too many women, however, the phase never ends. It’s lives spent never expressing anger at all and believing that they don’t have the right or ability to do so without great risk.

brihateseverything

Explains a hell of a whole lot about ne

lavenderpoetryx

this called the Ophelia Stage,

bezoarcureforpoison

50 years of this crap and counting.

radscumsylph

and yet women are supposedly allowed to express their emotions :)

fuckyeahilike

kiefbowl

men go so hard for men. the most degenerate, disgusting man could enter the room and you could be like “yo that dude is a creep he asked me for feet pics and I don’t feel comfortable around him” and your friend of ten years will be like “he’s not so bad” because they once had a 10 minute conversation about how awesome a film maker tarantino is or w/e

laundryandtaxes

One important thing to remember in life: Do not coddle men. Do not do their work for them. Do not perform uncredited labor for them, including intellectual labor. Do not bend over backwards to help them. Do not tell them they are good at things they are bad at. Do not smile at them when you don’t want to. Do not laugh at their terrible jokes or stroke their egos or let them think they are better than you when odds are good that they are almost definitely not. Do not even deal with men whose presence bothers you when you can get away from them/when you aren’t regularly forced to be near them for things like work. Do not include men in your life who don’t deserve to be in it any time that you can avoid it at all.