A very boring blog...

[glowcowboy]

grief is so crazy like what if i forget what her laugh sounds like. does she know i loved her. i miss her so much. i catch myself doing things she used to do. i wish i could call her. i miss her so much. i do a crossword puzzle. i cry while washing the dishes. does she know i loved her? my heart feels like a hummingbird. i miss her so much. what if i forget what her laugh sounds like. what if i forget.

[sapphling]

lot of people believe in the existence of the patriarchy so long as it has nothing to do with relationships or sex or employment or the family or social status or abuse or power or

[homunculus-argument]

I don't even do drugs but if someone offered me something that turns everything frutiger aero for like eight hours, I would take it with zero hesitations.

[caspercryptid]

I feel like not enough people realize that people under enormous strain act really really fucking Weird

[pine-branches]

things humans are known to do when stressed:

-hallucinate

-cry over what seems to be small things

-become furiously angry over what seems to be small things

-hit a self destruct button over and over again

-lose all sense of reality

-becoming straight up unable to communicate

-view every situation as life or death

-experience delusions/become vulnerable to irrational worldviews

-perceive hostility where none exists

-become extremely nauseous and/or throw up

-stop engaging in sleeping/eating/basic hygiene

-stop processing sensory input

-process way too much sensory input all at once

-lash out at others/themselves

-and more!

being able to recognize when a human (ie. you or another person) is so stressed out they cannot think clearly is VERY important for conflict resolution and diffusing emotional crisis. highly recommend trying to train yourself at being able to recognize that state of panic- there is a point in which logic and rationality is useless and you have to address the underlying emotional issue first. knowing that saves everyone a lot of pain and struggle.

[cabysoft]

[scooplery]

"it's just growing pains" -> "you're too young for that to hurt that bad" -> "you just need to get in better shape" -> "welcome to being old, everyone is in pain"

[lyraeon]

who taught you that suffering in silence was noble, and how would you shutting up have benefited them?

[lyraeon]

this also counts for all those times you kept your mouth shut and didn't complain because you were being polite, and people would gladly have changed things if you had just asked. your suffering was not noble. you do not get a cookie for it, you do not get a tally mark next to your soul's score for grinning and bearing it. your suffering serves no purpose. break free of it. you deserve comfort.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

i'll always meet someone described as not friendly, and it's just a person who doesn't smile or talk a lot unwarranted. I feel like I have to continuously explain to people that this is not inherently hostile behavior

[ebookporn]

[meatdiaz]

do you ever think about how sometimes it just... takes one random message? and suddenly you find yourself with a best friend or in constant conversation with someone who lives on the other side of the world but is just as much of a freak as you are or maybe you find yourself in love with someone without a last name but with so much kindness and affection in their words and presence. crazy how life and love and friendship just happen

[goon]

[maybebadrforsure-deactivated202]

maximizing share holder's value

[isuggesteatingtherich]

i have a suggestion

[sashayed]

has anyone figured out how to turn off the thing where you love your pet so much it slides inexorably into grief-borrowing

[boomstab-papa]

[your-cosmic-creature]

“For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”

[woodwool]

severely deficient in whatever vitamin makes u a person

[littlemissihaveaquestion]

Reminder that spring will always come back, music will never stop being created, and there are still so many books left to read! You’re alive! You’re alive! You’re alive!

[shithowdy]

"i'm not triggered or upset by or even ideologically opposed to it, i just associate it with something so bad that i can't enjoy it anymore" is such a frustrating relationship to have with a piece of media

[haru-rants]

There’s this weird relief in the pre-greif you get whenever you remember that the kids will be here anyway, and that it’s been over 7 years so that means that the relationships we had are nearing the expiration dates no matter what I want or what I can do. I don’t know how to explain it any clearer.

But that don’t mean that I’m not still so bitterly sad about it. I love these people!!!! With everything that I got in my soul!!! I’ll always be bitterly sad that we aren’t a dedicated ‘found family’ friend group. ALWAYS!

[innerchildabortionclinic]

there are people in your life who will never see any effort you make as good enough and you have to realize this and direct your efforts to people who value you instead. so many people have this problem with family members--endlessly trying to justify their existence to a parent, grandparent, cousin, whoever--but you will literally never win, because a person constantly putting you down and dismissing you has their own unresolved issues and that's not your responsibility to fix